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Q: I am 9 years old can I have sex

ok first id like to say why think about sex at 9 years old when you still are a child and could basically have more fun with many other things in life then sex. honestly i feel sorry for you because your brain is all damaged with that thought in your head especially if an adult told you about it. talk to someone that could help you or see a therapist...

hope i helped (:

Q: Hi, I'm a teenage girl. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 10 months. I really like him and I have so much I'd like to share with him but I'm really shy around him. I really want to loosen up and be myself around him and his friends. How can I stop being so shy around my him and his friends?

i used to be really shy too but it was because i felt like everyone was thinking things about me, its all about learning to trick your head and ignore those negative thoughts. maybe just tell your boyfriend you wanna talk to him and tell him what you feel trust me once you do that its a big relief honestly but you should tell him when you feel its the right time not just tell him at a random time. tell him when you and him are alone.at time when he shares secrets about him..

hope i helped (:

Q: Hi there, my friend said you gave them good advice so I wondered if you could help me?

Basically, there is the guy I really like, we get on really well - I consider him to be my best friend - but I'm afraid to tell him how I really feel as I dont want to ruin our friendship. Yet, I feel he might like me back. But then again, he might just see me as a friend. I'm not sure what to do, should I risk it and tell him how I feel, or just leave it so I dont make things awkward?

hey there! well i think you should totally go for it! You never know he might like you,just tell him how you feel or if you really don't want to just show him that you like him by being there for him as friend and make sure you hangout with him a lot but trust me this takes time i mean you could basically either wait for him to come to you or you tell hime how you feel. i went through the same thing and i was the kind of person that waited until the guy came to me and he eventually did. although wished i didn't wait all those months because they felt like years to me..

hope i helped (:

Q: Hi, I'm a teenage girl. My parents have let my boyfriend come over before but this time they won't and I'd really like to spend some quality time with my boyfriend. How can I convince my parents to let him come over?

it all depends on how your parents are, i mean you can tell your parents good things about him. maybe asking them why they wont let you have him over sense teen couples invite their boyfriends or girlfriends over all the time and i don't see why they don't let you unless their worried about you being with him alone without your parents being there.if that's the case just earn their trust show them you can be with him without doing anything bad. i know because my parents were annoying to me too! if that doesn't help then just hangout with him somewhere else..

hope i helped (:

Q: ok so today a boy asked me out but he just got dumped by my best friend last week and I only like him as a friend but I have NO idea how to tell him no but still be friends I would appreciate if you gave me advice ASAP I promised I tell before I go to sleep Thank You I am a girl 13 years old
~RaeleneAndZayn

well sense you said your friend just dumped him he might just wanna go out with you for feeling upset about the break up.if you know your friend might get mad just say no cause she might still have feelings for him. if you really like him you should talk to your friend and tell how you feel.

hope i helped (:

Q: I like 2 girls: Susan and Victoria. i asked Susan out last year but she rejected me but i still like her, so I just like her and we're only friends. But at the same time i like another girl, Victoria, we are also just friends but she hugs me sometimes. I joined the play and both of them are there. i dont know what to do, how to make them notice me and more interested in me. I cant just stat here and look at victoria,shes the one i really want. I know there still might be hope, but i cant find it. PLEASE HELP!

i think you should go ask Victoria out because it sounds like shes nice and you said she gives you hugs so what are you waiting, for ask her! (:

Q: how to stop being over protective when they do not want it..i am a female in the 20's

hey i think its all mental with learning to think about ways to stop.

hope i helped not much i could advice with the info you gave well good luck..

Q: I'm a 19 year old girl. I've been talking to this guy for almost a year now, but it didn't really start to become serious "talking" until about July. I really care a lot about him, and he cares a lot for me. The problem is, though, that he had a horrible girlfriend before we started talking. I don't know all the details of their relationship, but she treated him terribly. Unfortunately, her actions have made him feel inadequate. He feels that he's not good enough for me. I try to show him that he's more than good enough for me, but I don't want to push it too far and push him away. Lately, he's been opening up to me more, but he's still afraid to commit again because he's afraid he'll get hurt again. How can I show him how much he means to me without flat out telling him I love him and that I want to be with him. I would never hurt him. He knows that, but is still gun shy for lack of a better term.

Show him you love him with your actions and the way you act like being there for him and listening to him talk about his problems and help him feel comfortble with you. Also be willing to to do anything to be there for him hope I helped wish you luck (:

Q: ok so im 16 and statrted cutting at 12 years old and now that im in highschool its worse and ive paused- but i want to stop. can you give me tips? yes i have a therpist.

I don't have experience with this but some of my close friends did and I know how hard it could be. I think you should find activities that help you stop thinking or distract you from cuting. I know it could be really hard to tell people you cut without them feeling bad for you. Remember your not alone wish you luck and hope you find a way to stop (:

Q: 14/f
So I posted a question awhile back asking if what my uncle was doing was weird or not normal. Here's a link to the question so I don't have to repeat stuff:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=606498

Anyways, since then, I've visited them 2 more times for thanksgiving and for new years. My uncle has been bugging me if I have a boyfriend too. He takes me phone and looks at all my contacts and the people I text. Personally, I think he's just trying to bug me, but I don't want to leave anything out.

2 more things happened during those trips besides what I talked about in my previous question. First, I was at a different cousin's birthday party and he stuck some trash in my back pocket. And so I was in this mind set that he was just being a normal uncle messing around, so I put it back in his pocket. He chased me around to try to give it back to me and shoved it down the front of my shirt. Of course, both times he touched my butt and my boobs, but I tried to ignore it. The last night I was there, I went down to the basement of the house I was staying in so I could spend some time with my cousins. They were down there with all my uncles watching a movie and the only open spot was by that uncle. I sat down and tried to relax. Later, most of my cousins left and eventually it ended up being that uncle's sons and my brother playing and my uncle on the couch by me. He slipped his arm around my waist while we were sitting there. and as I tried to move away a little, his hand ended up in the back of my sweatshirt. He just left it there, as my aunt came down and sat on his other side and kissed him. And he even told her that he hadn't been drinking. And the next thing I know, his hand was in my underwear. He didn't touch any where near down there, but he kind of just left his hand on my butt cheek. I felt really weird, and he tried asking me something about being curious (I don't really remember). I felt so violated that I got up and left. He followed me upstairs but I ran and hid in a bedroom for the rest of the night and avoided him.

I've been trying to rationalize how this isn't weird, but I know it was enough to make me feel uncomfortable. I was shaking for the rest of the night and I get these moments where I remember it and I feel like crap. It just made me feel so low and disgusting. I just don't know what's going on. I hope I'm not making something out of nothing, but this really bothered me and it still does. I'm not a very emotionally stable person. I used to have problems with depression and an eating disorder and I got over it by myself. But now I'm starting to slip back into a depressive state when I remember that night. I want to talk to somebody about it, but I can't bring myself to tell my parents what happened. It's just not fair to anybody. I'm just torn.

Ok Im gonna make this as short as I can but I just wanna let you know that your not alone I went through sorta the same thing with friend of my dads and moms and honestly you have to stand up for yourself remember that whatever you feel is uncomfortable alway trust in what you think is right all I say is tell your parents hope I help (:

Q: How do you make your feet smaller?

Ok I'm gonna be honest with you can't make your feet smaller but maybe you just dont like the way your feet look like with the shoes you have. Just know theres different styles of shoes the fit and look just as good or ever better then having smaller feet.

Q: hi, you answered my question before about going into a relationship with someone with depression.
i like this guy so much it hurts me that he doesnt want to go into a relationship because of his depression. as some one with depression - how do you think i should approach it? any tips for me? - things i should be weary of? anything will help :)

Hey there! I think you should understand depression more because its probably hard for him to let u know how he feels. He sounds like a good guy to me because hes aware he cant be in a relationship if he feels depressed. I know it could be hard for and like you said hurt you but let him know that you'll be there for him as friend but if doesnt seems to want relationship then might have to move on.. (:

Q: I'm 16 and female. The guy I like is 17 and my brother's friend and he's always staring at me and sometime's I hear him tell my brother that I'm 'really hot' or something like that. He also talks to me a lot when he's over and we flirt occasionally. The only reason I think he might not like me is because a few days ago was our homecoming and he went with someone else. He did come up to me during the dance though while his date was in the bathroom and we hugged :). Does it seem like he likes me? And if it does, should I make a move?

I think he really likes you but doesn't wanna show it, even though he sorta does he might think its weird because hes friends with your brother and thinks your brother might get mad,maybe asking your brother to help you out with him could work if your brother is cool with it. If not wait to get to know him more so maybe he could tell you how he feels!
Hope I helped(:

Q: I've been feeling so down and so lonely for a while. I'm not the kind of girl that likes to express my feelings with people only cause I really don't want to worry them. I'd rather keep everything to myself. I don't think it's working cause it only makes me
feel more and more down each day. at first I started off with feel down, then i started to stay up late thinking, now I just wanna cry at random times of the day but I hold everything in cause I don't want to worry anyone and I cry myself to sleep a lot of the times. it's only gotten worse. I honestly think I should talk to someone but I just can't /.\ whenever I'm around people I always act like I'm alright but when I'm by myself I just cry a little , any advice would be great ? thanks /.\

I agree with you about not expressing your feelings with people I use to do it too, actually im pretty quiet myself in school an stuff but, trust me it only makes you feel worse. You remind me of me when I use to cry myself to bed it was horrible. The best way I fixed it was by getting use to whatever is bothering you cause Im pretty sure your going through something that upsets you and keeps you up at night. maybe stop staying up late it may cause you to be in a weird. I know you said you dont wanna worry anyone but your going to someday(:

Hope I helped(:
Email me if you still can't talk to anyone(:

Q: Hi
I am thinking about to kill myself.
My life is not going well.I fill hopeless and everyone hates me.
I am totally dumn and arrogant person and I am s fsilure in USA.

Iv thought of killing my self too,but never really couldnt and I asked my self that if I was going to really let all this drag me to killing myself. Like feeling dumb and giving up on life cause I always felt like that to or feeling hopeless. Maybe talking to someone about those feeling will help because I remember I never told anyone how I felt which caused me to have depression. if everyone hates u think of the reasons and maybe fix them, Im not saying change so that people like you just simply be more positive. I know its hard but just remember your not the only one that feels like that(:

Hope I helped(:

Q: Hello, this is going to be silly because I am 18 and a freshmen is college but there's this cute boy that I see everywhere and I want to get to know him and talk to him but I am so socially akward that I just can't. There are these cool guys who tight rope, he ties his rope between two trees, gets up on and does tricks on it; flips and balancing on his palms. I usually get dinner and then go out and watch because they usually set up around 6:30. Two nights ago, I was sitting on the curb watching these guys, the cute boy walks past me to go to the dining hall and looks at me while he passes. He then turns back around to go back to his dorm, I think he forgot something, looks at me again as he passes. The third time, he passes he walks by, looks at me, says hey and smiles, I say hello back but he kept walking making the start of conversing impossible. I saw him the next day walking back from class, I'm not sure he noticed I was right next to him or not but he was on his phone so I wasn't going to try to talk to him anyway. I just don't know what to do, I'm fine talking to girls about random things and just chiming in on conversations but with him it's different. Please don't answer and say "it's okay, just talk to him, it'll be fine" because that's the whole reason I am writing this because I can't just walk right up to him and be like "hey cutie what's your name?" Haha, so please, any advice from guys on how they feel or girls that are like me in these situations, any help would be much appreciated.

Well sense you don't want go up to him I guess the only thing you could do is wait for him to talk to you! Him saying hey was a good thing if only you said hey to him when you see him like he saw you then maybe if he looks at you to see if you say somthing else you could start a conversation! If he doesnt its fine! If you really like to watch him them tight rope and think its cool maybe complement him on tight rope or something always seem interested he might like you but he might think your not interested. He might slowly come to talk to you more! I know it's hard to talk to someone you like I experienced it myself but it's always good to start as friends maybe he'll start to like you later on it all takes time! Just try your best to start a conversation maybe friends can help you talk to him! All you need is to feel confident! Trust me if he never comes up to you he might be shy some guys get shy you never know! If you choose not to go up to him then wait for a good opportunity!
Good luck!
Hope I helped(:

Q: Is it stupid for me to be irritated with myself that i still haven't lost my virginity at 18? I've only had one boyfriend, 2 years ago..And I'm slightly ashamed of that..not about not having sex yet, but It's irritating to me because I want to lose my virginity. Not just to some random guy, I want to find a guy and be in a relationship with him and have sex with him..I know it's not something you're just suppose to give away, but I've been wanting to have sex for suchhh a long time. It's like i'm sexually frustrated even though i've never done it before. I feel like masturbation is definitely not cutting it, or not getting the job done i should say. thats probably tmi but yeah...idk what im asking really. just want some advice.
-18 female

You should not be ashamed I feel it's a good thing especially now in days! Sounds like you don't like waiting trust me I don't either I think now one does but your time will come and when it does it will probly be something you won't regret. I hope so. There's a lot of people out there! Your not the only one! Including me!

Hope I help(:

Q: heya, well im female im 18 and im currently studying ... basically im so tired of being single i wanna be in love , want someone to love me truly..
im sick of waiting :/
maybe i sound too desperate but its how i feel , feel as if i aint happy that someone is mossing in my life.
dunna what to do :/

Hey i get you I felt the same too! that somthing was missing. I stoped thinking of waiting for love and started making more friends and felt confident! Trust me when you focus of friends and being out going someone might notice you! You should join Activites that you like and maybe find someone that you think is intresting just let love come to you and trust me it worth it! If you feel you should ask someone out do it you never know what happens its worth the try! Love comes unexpectedly!

Hope I helped(:

Q: ok im a 13yr old female and have been a cutter for 2 years.i know its a terrible thing,im getting some treament but stin ill kinda confused:im covered with cuts and scars,shoulder to ankle.i think there soooo ugly but hate when they fade.i want them to stay fresh and bleeding forever it seems,and dont know why.i do NOT want to stop cutting becousse it helps a ton becouse i m bullied and all that shit.i get sad when i take a shawer becouse all the blood washes away and it helps me so much and i dont want them to go.some day i may want them to go but not any time soon.im also triggered by bare wrists.in a way im just ashamed of what ive done to myself and want to be free of it.but i dont want to have scar free wrists and i cut more if i notice if they have perfect skin becouse im jelous in a way i geuss ..its become an everyday thing were i cut a ton pleases help im scared ill kill myself even though iv tried before.have i gone crazy????

Your not crazy? All u need is to maybe start to feel more positive, and maybe stop cuting I know you say you do it cause your getting bullied, but that's really never going to solve anything I know you say it makes you feel a whole lot better when you cut but really your not feeling better! You might be going though depression! All you need to feel good about youself and start to find help sense you said your bullied

Hope I helped in some way! :)

Q: Me and guy A were best friends, we liked each other very much. But two years ago, guy B wrote a love letter to me, I was immature and curious so I started hanging out with him, we became very close and everyone thought we were dating. I never liked guy B. I didn't response to what people were saying, but I forgot to care about how guy A is feeling. Guy A started to ignore me, he believed that I was dating guy B. I thought he was just angry and didn't know until now that he was very jealous then. Last year, I moved to America to study there, I didn't contact them both until this summer when I came back for vacation. I invited some of my old friends for dinner, and they invited guy A. Guy A treated me like he didn't know me before, he must have thought that I wasn't the girl who he think I was. He must have been very disappointed. I really love guy A, I didn't stop loving him at all, but he didn't knew. I really regret what I did to him. It's been a year, so I know that he has already decided to move on. I am going back to America next week, and I want nothing more than a forgiveness. What should I do? Should I invite him out and tell him everything? Or should I just move on?

Well if you still love guy A then u should go for it! Even if says he doesn't feel the same, at least u tryed and then for sure you'll know if you whould have moved on or not! It's better if you talk to him insted of moving on because you'll always have in mind that feeling you have for him!

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I'm here to give advice and maybe get some back too.Iv been through a lot of issues with family and even trouble making friends but i always made it through hope this helped understand that i'm just a person always happy to help out.