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Q: I am 12 years old. I have a crush on my babysitter. She is 16 years old. She looks really hot!
hey i don't see your question but anyways ...this crush will go away once you realize that she is older than you and she might have other plans with he boyfriend or if she don't have a boyfriend she might be looking for some one her age or older....

Q: hi 13/f ive cut scince i was 11 its an everyday thing for a full year now. i can go a day or two without it and then i cut and it feels so much better and its like i like it and i need it not to be so wonderfly soothing to see blood gushing from my scarred wrists arms and legs and belly. and even to see the scars slowly changing their colors as they fade is enjoyable to me in a sick way.so ya, how do i stop that feeling i get when i am calm for the ine moment when my razor is gliding over my skin and chemicals release and i geuss i like those and all the drugs death and assholes around me are gone. how do i not want to do it so much? i know theres no quick fix but i need something and someone who isnt a phyciatrist my mom or some teen who wont listen.my mom knows and im on antidepressants they make me kinda suicidal and cut even more so yea help me if you can i nedd someone to talk to now
hey...i don't really no about what to do in helping you, but i love helping people and seeing others happy soo that's why im here...ok umm cutting is not a suicidal attempt ...i went and look for a link that you can see some ways in how to stop..http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Cutting-Yourself..i really truly hope that this helps....

Q: What are some good items to masturbate with that are in-expensive im a 13yr female and i have been tolled that a cuccumber is perfect but i dont know please help!
hey...i dont agree to this ....umm your to young to be doing stuff like this that will take you virginity so i wont encourage this or encourage anyone else to answer this question...

Q: I broke up with my boyfriend of 8 months because I had exams and am doing year 12 next year. I recently met another guy who really likes me and goes to extreme lengths to make me happy. I'm still in love with my ex boyfriend but I
Ike this other guys company. What do I do?
hey ..you broke up with this guy for reasons and you love him you said...but the question is does he love you?, do he show it ? do he try to make you happy ? if not, well i guess he is not the one, but i think love comes with happiness, understanding, caring, respect and more...so who ever shows more and pay more attention to your needs and wants that individual might be the person you wanna settle down with...

Q: F/15
I have this best friend, that's a boy... We're so close, but lately we've fallen for each other, we've told each other, we've expressed those “I love you” which is obviously a bit more deeper than “I like you” or whatever. Anyway, over the past month we were both making the effort and everything were going so well. Now, he doesn't even make the effort with me, even in texting! I honestly think he can't be bothered with me anymore, I keep pestering him, getting upset, crying because I'm scared to lose him and he knows this, I feel as though as I need him, I can't stop crying about all this because I know I'm going to lose him, I know I am. I can actually see it coming, I've never felt like this about anyone before and this feeling is horrible, my heart feels like it's in my stomach. Please help me win his effort back :/ I want him to want me as much as he wanted me before.

Thank you.
awwww its sooo sweet you think you need him ! ...maybe he dont try tht much because of various guessing reasons ...1.he can be dealing with problems or other things..2. he might not feel the way he did because it might not feel the same as how it use to with you ..maybe you already done this but if you haven't, just sit down with him, tell him how much you really love him and how much he means to you..try holding his hand and looking him in the eyes and just bring up all the good times also the first time you guys met and try asking him questions, like if he really love you cause if he do love you he will wanna try to make things work out between you guys..also try making things interesting..

Q: Heyy,
well i need some help trying to get over a guy ive liked for about 2 years ....i really want to get over him bkuz he hurts me and doesnt cherish what i do for him ...and says hes just not looking for a relationship ...please help i feel stupid and obssesed bekuz i like him alot
hey ..its kinda hard to get over someone you liked for such a long period of time and if you loved him that would be sooooo much harder, but just tell your self he is no good and you deserve better ..this will kinda hurt but just think of all the negative things he did not the good cause that will interrupt the focus on getting over him .. i hope this works ...

Q: My family thinks that im.a pain in their ass, I love my dad but I always let him down, I dont wanna live a life which is just not me
I cant even run away coz it will eventually lead to problems with my family
I dont wanna give them pain
Plz tel me some suicide tips... Plz help me
hey :( i feel really bad about this ....and i would never advise anyone to take away them self from living.....life is a blessing but i guess some people find it more depressing and sorrowful than happiness ,but just work through it....ok you said you don't wanna give them pain but if you look at it this way, committing suicide will give them more pain than you think,especially if your parents love you ...you wont be doing them nor yourself a favor it will just make things worse ...i wont give you suicide tips but what i would advise you to do is try talking to them(parents, family members ) and tell them how you feel and what you wanna do ..hope is still there ...

Q: I have a big crush on this guy I have not met. My friends tell me we have similar interests. He's not in any of my classes and I tend to visit my friend a lot during passing period just to see him. I really want to meet him and capture his attention and maybe even get him to like me. What should I do?
Hi ...wow you kinda sound like me ...ok here how it goes ..wanting to get a guys attention can be pretty hard if the guy don,t know you or like you .. but i think i can help ..first when you see him walking by say hi and smile.. second when you see him another time ask him his name or tell him your name .. then try to find out if he have a facebook or twitter so that you can try to get to know him ...by asking that he will get a hint that your interested in him and might want to get to know you a little better ... when or if you get the change in finding out his facebook page or twitter account try talking to him and match your similarity's with his so that he can see that you have things in common with him ... good luck peace and love

Q: I like this guy and I have a feeling he may like me but I'm not sure. I feel like he has a hard time expressing feelings like that. I know I'm awkward at admitting when I am attracted to a person. I believe he's been sending very subtle hints. How do I do about showing him that I am attracted to him without really saying it? Oh and I'm an 18 year old female.
Hi...i hope my advice works ... ok when you like a guy and you don,t want to tell him ... you can show signs... What kind of signs? you may ask.. well first look at him for a long time ..make sure he catch you doing it ..in one word this is call (eye contact) ..try to get to know him and that will show that your interested in him .. Smile at him when you see him and try to make it as blushy as possible ..don,t act weird around him ... show him that you really cares about what he says and do ..ps im 15 not old enough but i hope this works peace and love .

Q: Relatively long question, I genuinely appreciate all the help!!!!!

Whenever I borrow things from this guy, why does he over fiddle with them when I give them back? Like once his pencil fell on the floor under my desk and it was out of my reach so I kicked it back to him, and then he remarked it was dirty or something and wiped the pencil on his shirt a couple of times. my shoe hardly even touched it, and isn't dirty looking, tbh. and then another time i borrowed a calculator and he said some remark about me not doing anything to it or w/e and then when I gave it back he fiddled with it for about 2 minutes, like just the calculator and its case

and he also likes to make drum beats on the table and on his lap a lot, like for longer than just a moment. and when he walks by me he walks kind of slow and may add something to his walk and i'm often afraid of looking up to look at him cause there's a good chance he's looking at me when he does this. i mean i talk to him occasionally, we have similar music, and are both like geeky, relatively nerdy, loners (he's less of a loner than me, though, but he's not part of any cliques or anything). we have a similar sense of humor, too.. like quirky and sarcastic in a way. but when i talk to him I don't know how to take what he says. I don't know if we're even friends or what, but we talk at least a couple times every class, and when we're not talking it's like awkward tension before we start talking again. we usually talk like right at the beginning of class, and he seems enthusiastic then, and then it sort of dies off, but there's still the tension

why would he do weird things like this? and why does his body sometimes like face mine directly? i have a crush on him so normally my feet face him, but i've noticed that sometimes he'll legit be facing me even if he's not looking at me, or sometimes i'll actually find him staring at what i'm doing or something for longer than a glance and it makes me awkward cause idk what to say or to think. do you think he may like me or not? why would he be doing this? haha. sometimes i'm afraid to see if he's looking in my direction when we're sitting (we're right next to each other) cause idk what to do with the eye contact and i'm so awkward

WHAT IS GOING ON
Hi.. first of all i love your long story its really interesting .. you said you have a crush on this guy and it seems like he have a crush on you .. the details that you gave us shows us that he is in to you and trying to get your attention.. soooo i,ll say that he is really crushing on you... peace and love.

Q: I am from India and in 9th grade and there's a guy in my class and i kinda like him. I want to know what he feals about me without giving him a hint that i like him.I want to built a relationship with him and want him to be crazy about me as i am about him and to do so i don't wanna flirt or do something wrong that will spoil my image in school.My image in school and in front of teachers is good and i don't wanna spoil it. It's India and rules are quite strict......
Please help if you can.
hi! i know how it feels to be the good or best behave student in class to teachers and to like someone who may or may not like you back don,t do any stupid that is not you just be you and try to have a friendly conversation with him and see where it takes you peace and love :)

Q: hi

im james
i wanna ask u something tht im very much attracted towards my elder cousin sis so is it ok to have fun with her is incest sex is right or not ? plz reply me fast thanks.
hi James i think it,s wrong to have sex with one of your family members so i will encourage you to not have sex or any love relationship like that with her take your time in life and make the right decisions .Peace and love

Q: Hi! uhm.. so.. I've only been with my boyfriend for 3 days now, but I don't really feel.. right... around him.. He's really a sweet guy though... I guess what I'm asking, is should I wait for awhile to see if maybe I will feel better later, or if I should tell him how I feel..... (P.S. I am a girl, 16 years old.)
Hi! if your not confortable with this guy i think you should tell him peace and love :)

Q: my boyfriend is having child from a divorcée women but i cannot live without him then he said i love you jaan
hi!your boyfriend does not love you .I,m sorry for that but no guy will ever do that to the one they love. Before your boyfriend been sleeping with other girls and end up with a virus .You have to start thinking about that. He was not faithfull to you and now he has a child for another women he is not the one for you god have someone better for you. peace and love :)

Q: I am absolutly in love with theatre. I am a theatre performance major and love every aspect of the art.I am however, an actor most of the time. I am just wondering if I am really good enough to make it in the real world. I have started out quite promising in my school. I received an acting scholarship and was the only freshman cast in the shows this year. However, I am a decent sized freshmen fish in a very small pond. How do i know if I am really good enough to make it as an actor? I don't want to waste my time, you know?? I am so conflicted, because acting is the language of my heart and soul and it is all I am really comfortable doing in my life. Really need some advice here please!
Hi! my advice to you is to do what makes you feel happy and what ever makes you feel happy well go for it .peace and love :)

Q: I've decided I'm going to try to start writing. I think it could be a fun and interesting hobby I might really be able to get into. But of course I have concerns. I've made up the main story line in my head just not the characters names, titles, and my writing style. Lol a lot I know! It's going to be present day non-fiction with a little twist of horror in it. That's the kind of books I like to read. Not horror as in Stephen king but just a little kick. :) For names I'm just going to get that list that shows every baby name from A-Z. Titles hopefully I will figure out. So my main question is my writing style. I think I'm going to look at some of my favorite series and try that style out. That wouldn't be plagiarism, would it? I'm not going to copy names of characters and stuff just the style. That would be okay, right? Thanks! :)
hi! i think you should go for it.You might just make an excellent writter:) peace and love

Q: Hi everyone!!!!!Happy new year Advicenators!!!!!May 2012 be a great year for us all!!!!
happy new year !2 u to .

Q: NOTE: This seriously is NOT my personal question.

One of my closest friend was talking to me about a problem she has been having lately. She admits she is bisexual (attracted to both sexes) but says she does not want to be that way. She knows her parents won't accept the fact that she is bisexual, as it is FORBIDDEN in her house. She wishes she could just come out and expose the real her, but fears judgement, and her parents. Note: She has had a secret relationship with a girl. What advice should I give her? Should she tell her parents? Expose the real her? Please, I really don't know what to tell her.
Hi! i think u should tell her that she should tell her parents. Because it will just stay on her mind and she will feel bad about not telling her parents about her problem.Peace and love :)

Q: I really like this guy but im 12 and he is in the nineth grade. But we talk alot of facebook. But he cousins with my cousin but im one her moms side and he on her dads side.What do i should i stop likeing him cuz its werid or is that OK.And its ok cuz im in the 7th grade.But my our families know each other
hello, girls date guys that are older than them. but u should not get yourself involve with this guy .guys that are older than you can force you to do things you did not plan to do. i think you should wait until your old enought to date older guys peace and love :)

Q: What does it mean if you have a dream that one of your family members die?

I had a dream that somebody killed my brother and my mom was crying. Does that mean anything?
hello!sometimes dreams like this can be a sign , my family have dreams like that and some times they came true ,i,m not trying to frighten you but this can be a sign ,ask god to protect you and your family peace and love

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Jesus is Lord of my life. His love warms me and keeps me together. His name brings peace to my heart and his hands are rest upon my life. He creates my path and lead me where they is good,but only if I trust him. I love my creator and I know he loves me. He helps me and he will help you too. I pray that all who comes to this page receives the blessings the lord has for them. I rebuke all depression, anger, lust, fornication and all the demonic threats the devil neatly planned out for you in the precious name of Jesus. Amen

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