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ok.. so a while back.. my friend sean was dating someone named starr.. well sean's cousin krysta is my ex.. im madly in love with her.. well, krysta moved on october 2nd. ever since then my life has been tumbling.. getting worse and worse..
first i tried to get with someone named elizabeth..
we began to fight so it didn't work =/ oh well..
then sean and starr were dating [sean's like my brother] so i backed off.
but sean broke up with her last friday-[Feb.27]
so me and her began to talk [sean was already with someone else and was okay with me liking starr]
well March 1st, me and starr begin to date: we were doing great... and today [March 3rd] she broke up with me cause she said "i need some time alone.." and she thought she jumped into the relationship too fast.. so iv broken down about 7-10 times total today, and can't stop.
its not because of today, today just enforced it.. its been falling ever since october 2nd. and now i dont know what to do anymore!
and i just.. ugh i wanna die..
i am in love with someone and now.. i just..
she lives so far away i have to move on, and even though im in love with krysta, i like starr a lot and everything happening to me, is tearing me apart

help?

First lets think about this rationally . you need not be in such a rush to have agf i no how that feels then when you meet a girl she turns out to be the wrong one . youre hurting because you know deep down you wanna find someone thats right for you but i think youre afraid that wont happen dont doubt yourself be happy with being single for the moment . then maybe just maybe if one day in say a few weeks or less probably if you meet a girl get to know her first find out about her before you decide to have a relationship with her .

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Well... hi. (Sorta long... sorry )


I have this friend his name is Matt... and I really love him. I finally told him exactly how I felt about him. I told him I loved him.. and I really do. He told me... that he has a girl friend and he likes me as a friend .... nothing more. So... I am really hurt and I told him that... we worked everything out and were still friends...but.. I STILL love him. I CAN'T get him out of my MIND. My heart aches all the time... because he has someone else. I don't want to get up in the morning to go to school because he's there and every time I see him... in the hallway... or anything...I feel like I am going to cry. I really don't know what to do anymore. I want to be happy and find someone who loves me back, but there's no other guy that I love more than Matt. Can someone help me out ?

if hes a good guy which im probably sure he is then thats not the reason he might just not wanna risk the friendship because if you two were to get together and didnt work out it would make the relationship all weird so consider that it might just be him trying to protect the friend ship . and also if if hes just not interested then you should find someone that is because its not fun being in love all by yourself trust me i know how that hurts . its a feeling of missing something and ait hurts like hell .

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might be long but theres a guy and we've been great friends for 6 years and this year we gotten so much closer we hang out atleast once a week and he says things like hes wants to be by me and wnts to sit with me and like we talk about college (im 15)and he says that he wants me to be his dorm buddie and he offers to buy things for me, plays with my hair , hold the door and says nice things about me. we both manipulate each other by doing things like he gets me to go somewhere if i really don't want to and i get him to go places too and we sing

take it from another guy he likes you

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Me and my girlfriends are making Junior tshirts for spirit day at our school.

On the front we're each going to have a letter(J, U, N, I, O, R) spelling out Junior. We're trying to think of cute sayings to go on the back that kind of go along with junior year.


HELP!! :)

you should try the phrase carpe diem or my all time fav
vin vedi veci

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ive given bjs n hjs before but ive never been eaten out before or fingered. i just figure it wud be awkward n i wudnt know wat to do while he did it. any advice?!?! THANX!

hmmm im a guy but the most i could say is its kinda like sex us guys enjoy doing it for girls except the girls get pleasure not the guy so its like a girl fingering herself its basically assisted masturbation............

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so just wondering, do guys like it shaved all off down there or a little bit or trimmed????

a little bit trimmed just enough to make it not look weird because when we do shave down there we or most guys have to be careful though it feels really good hairless its all smooth which is how i like it most of the time

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ok i no this probably sounds really stupid n i know circumcision is like cutting the foreskin off n stuff but why do they do it? what difference does it make? do most guys have it? thanx any advice is appreciated! ALOT!!!!!

most guys do have it but circumcision is like done when youre really young it makes the penis look bigger or so ppl think i had it done when i was like 2 but then it does make a big diff when its not done the penis is really sensitive and icky stuff gets in the skin

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For people who have it or have had it, how much does that cost? I'm planning on telling my mom to take me to the closest invisalign office, but it doesn't say the price on the website. Does anyone have a clue?

you cant get a price online because the different cases vairies like the more serious the case the more it cost you'd have to go into the office and get fitted and the theyd give you the price

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I'm looking for creative ideas for asking a guy to Sadies.

Someone at my school already used the "washable and permanent marker on a t-shirt" technique, which I think is ingenious, but I don't want to copy her. lol

All I have so far is sending him a note or a sports card that says, "Football helmet $50, Jersey $35, Football $20, date with (my name) to Sadies... Priceless"

Any cool ideas?

mail him football invitation or give it to him with all the info written in permanent marker

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How do you personally deal with stress? I have no idea how to. I usually get stressed from school/ working and not having enough time for homework. I try to manage time as best I can, but like, for example, if I don't understand my math homework, I sit there and freak out, and don't get it done. I have so many other things to do then just my math homework..
Also, how do you deal when you're upset/angry? I know some people run, but it's getting cold and our treadmill is broken. I hate just going to my room. I feel like it just makes things worse.
Since school started, I feel like I ALWAYS have something to do. I work about 25 hours a week and go to school (high school, junior). I know I probably should cut down on work hours, but I need the money. I have almost the whole weekend off, so any suggestions as to what to do to kind of "start over" and just feel better? I thought about just sitting at home and watching movies all weekend by myself, but at the same time, I want to hang out with friends. What's your opinion?
Any suggestions? Thanks!

or you could take a kick boxing class and start kicking ass which really relieves stress it works for my mom

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This year for Halloween I want to be a song. Example: "Devil With the Blue Dress" by The Greatful Dead - Pull it off by wearing a blue dress and devil horns and tail.
Two years ago my sister was the witch doctor. (Self explanatory) I have no idea what song to be. My friend suggested "Janie's Got a Gun" by Aerosmith but I couldn't pull it off other than carrying a gun around...any ideas???

hmmmmm i reccommned you dress like julia roberts in pretty in pink that was awesome

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the eyeliner i have now is maybelline new york define a line (soft black) ...its good and all but it like wears off in 2 hours...is there any eyeliner that i can get at CVS that will last me like a whole day without fading? thankss

try wet and wild cosmetics they have really good items for girls and women oh btw i suggest you try rite aid or wal greens its better

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I'm 21/f, he's 23.
So, there's this guy. We dated for awhile, then "broke up" but didn't. He was a pretty awful boyfriend, but he's turned into my best friend. We went through a very rough patch, thanks to his family (they hate me), and I kicked him out of my life, kinda. After a week, he called me, begging for another chance (at being friends), which, after much discussing and debating, I gave him.
Since then, he's been the sweetest, most appreciative guy I've ever met. I thought I had begun to fall out of love with him, but now all those feelings are rushing back. He hugs me, he cuddles me, plays me love songs (he told me once that the music he listens to tends to reflect what he's feeling)...I feel safe and right in his arms.
I said we couldn't be as close as we had been, but I can't seem to keep my guard up now. We seem to be growing even closer than we were, and I'm...well, scared. I don't know if he's had some serious epiphany or what, but he's like a completely different person now...more like, he's turned back into the guy I fell in love with the first time.
I keep telling myself it won't last, but the thing is it has lasted. I'm afraid to take it for granted, and to let him in like I can feel myself doing.
What's worse is I don't know if it's me that's changed or him. I can't tell if I'm just handling things better, or he's giving me less to have to handle.
How do I keep my walls up? Do I need to keep my walls up? How do I figure out if it's me or him?
Thanks, everyone.

you should give him a chance dont keep up walls they only shut out and totally block those who love youand want love you more but ill tell you this you cant shut out love no matter how hard you try its just one of those unchangeble facts of life that just is its like the sun shining down on you or a warm feeling you get after you hug him and if he has chaged for the better dont question wether it was you that changed him or he that changed himself because no matter what we would like to believe we cant change ppl they have to want to change in order for a real change to occur be of luck in all that you do

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Okay, so i was wondering what songs of the
jonas brothers that kevin sings?

i love kevin and i was just wondering.

thanks in advance!

kevin sings along with nick in the song love bug but ti9s strange joe doesnt really sing considering hes in the band

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my boyfriend (17) and I(15) have been together for a little over 4 months, and we are sexually active.. we were both of our firsts. well, whenever we have sex, he never well, cums. and I asked him about it, and he said for him to cum, he has to tense up his body and I guess he doesn't do that while we're having sex? but whenever I give him oral, he cums, like, right on the spot, so I don't know.. does it really take alot of tensing up to cum, or am I just bad or something? from the first day we had sex, he never came? is that normal?

it may just be he needs more motivation

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Im moving pretty soon to somewhere I have never been.
I dont know anyone there or nothing.
Where I am at now, I have 93205438 friends.
I am really outgoing and I love making new friends.
But my friends that I have now arent moving with me and I dont know what to when my friends arent there with me to make new friends, im really shy when they arent around.

Im going to be a junior at school next year, and im pretty, you know, im your average high school girl. Im really nervous, I hate moving schools and moving to places where I dont know anyone.

Is there any advice for my situation?

try and make the best of the situation remain optimistic and keep a positive attitude just as hard as you can to stay in contact with them and your new life will fall in to place

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in weights class my fiend was lifting weights.he was lifting the weight where you had to lay doen on your back.some other people were like WOW!!! your hung.then they put a jacket over his shortsto hide his penis.what does "hung" mean.

to be blunt it mean he has a big penis

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Okay, me and my boyfriend have been dating a while now. I want to go farther with him. What are some things I can do to turn him on? Thanks!

if able run your hand through his hair and kiss his neck

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I really want to know where to find that song that mike and madi sang its rap and it was a grandma song it went somthing like "g r a g r a m a g r a g r a m a g r a what you say g r a what you say" or somthing like that if anyone knows where to find it please say

i could help if i knew the name of the show

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right now I'm taking a depressing pill and also i don't know if I'm pregant since i got all the nauseating, from the depressing pill or pregant, shld i stopped taking pill or what?

do a home pregnancy test and then if you are preegnat start talking to your docter about the possibility of him gradually winging you off the pill

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