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My name is Lauren. My life dream is to become a pirate, as well as a witch straight outta Hogwarts! I believe I was born in the wrong place and the wrong time. I often beleive I belong in England. I wish I was british. :] I'm 15 years old, and I'm called weird. I'm a spunky and smashing teenager ready to answer your questions.

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This is a very long story so I will shorten it as much as possible.

I had a 'best' friend for a long time but she was VERY co-dependent. She was also not a very good friend to me. Always expected me to be there for her but was never there for me, tried to steal my boyfriend, flirted outrageously with him right in front of me, was horrible to my sister and so on. The final straw was when she did something WAY out of line earlier this year (details of which I won't go into) and I told her I wanted nothing more to do with her.

That was in March and, horrible though this may sound, although I missed having a friend I haven't missed her as a person at all. Now, she's e-mailed me saying she wants to be friends again and wants me to e-mail back. I can't just not reply but I don't want to open the lines of communication up because I really don't want to ever see or hear from her again. That being said, she was kind of suicidal for a time and I just don't know what to do.

So please, any suggestions on how to respond firmly but without saying I want to be friends would be appreciated. I know it probably sounds like I'm being a bitch but believe me, there are good reasons.

Well I've been in this situation as well, and it wasn't easy.

The thing is, when friendships end, it's usually for a reason. And if you get back together with that friend, it doesn't make the old problems go away. The old problems will work their ways back into the friendship, leading to a humungous blowout.

I suggest telling your friend that you'll give them a chance. For all you know, they could have easily changed. But when you get with them, and the old problems start to come back, just let them know that you're feeling the same way you did before and after you two fought. Here, to avoid her becoming too depressed, it might be wise to use a little white lie and say that Although you may have missed her, the old problems are still there and cannot be solved, so you believe that maybe you are better off not being friends.

I hope this helped you. :]

For the past 4 days I've been getting an "unknown caller" showing up on my call display. This has never happened before. Usually when someone calls their name or phone number will show up; like it might say "private caller" but then have the number. Well the weird thing is whenever this"unknown caller" shows up and I answer; whoever is on the other line never talks to me- I usually will say "hello- hello-- hello? and then I hang up. This was the third time this has happened to me in the last 3 days. Also; I check my missed calls and this "unknown caller" has also phoned when I've been out and has not left a message. My gut is telling me it's my loser ex. I think this is because he has also been getting friends of his to come into the store I work at and they just stare at me. Do you guys think I'm right? I don't know who else would be that creepy- maybe he's not ready to talk yet but wants to hear my voice; and he doesnt want me to know it's him so he's been phoning from a line that would say "unknown caller'.

Ok. Well this is very creepy. Now, it MAY be your ex, but it made me suspicious when you said that his friends come and stare at you, and that you get these 'unknown' calls. I'm afraid to say this, but either your ex and his friends are stalking you, or someone is. Those calls are very unhealthy and if it continues for a long time, you'll need to take action. Therefore, do NOT answer the calls. When his friends come in the store, confront them while someone is nearby [so they don't do anything stupid] and tell them that if they're not going to buy anything, they need to leave. And that is that.

I hope this helps.

I'm a junior in high school, and it's now 2nd quarter. The past few weeks I haven't cared about my grades, and I don't know why. And, so they slipped. Now, I'm caring a lot more. I just need some good study habits to help me. What can get me motivated to study and do realy well on tests and homework? Anything good will help me. Thanks!

Motivating yourself is a difficult task. See, I'm actually a freshmen so I might not have the pressure of a Junior like you.

Basically what motivates me is a time limit. If you tell yourself 'I need this done by 5', then you can push yourself to do your work and have it done for the next day.

I also think a good way to motivate yourself is call a friend. Yes, that sounds more like just chatting, but it really can help! While your on the phone, mention that you have some work to do, but allow yourself to be on the phone while doing this. Maybe if you need help, their right there!

A really good way to study for tests is study a small portion each night. For example, say you study Greece one night. The next night, test yourself on Greece, and then study the next portion, Rome.

Another good way is to study in the morning before school. You may ask, why? Because if you study in the morning, the knowledge is fresh in your mind and hard to forget.

Good luck and I hope this helped!

how much should a fourteen year old who is 5'7 wiegh? whats a healthy weight for her?

Thank you muchly!

I have to tell you, weight if not an accurate measure if your looking to see if your 'overweight'.

If you really want to know if your on the heavier side, or the way too skinny side, go to a doctor and ask them to measure your body fat. Because honestly, muscle weighs more than fat so if you find out your over the limit, you may just be very muscular, not really overweight. =]

Hope this helps!

hey i sent you an e-mail. did you get it?

ill look.

no jk, what's your screen name? i keep forgetting. my new one is RoxyLuvs2. i don't know what it means though. lol

my sn is lauren loserface

what are some ways to show a guy that your interested in him??

14/f

Well, I've been using my own tips to get the guy I like.

-- At dances, have your friend ask him to slow dance with you.

-- Smile at him and make funny comments or create an inside joke with eachother.

-- Have your friend walk up casually and say 'Sooo.. what do you think of ____?'

-- Make eye contact with him anytime you can, or just constantly look his way with a smile on your face.

Hope this helped. ;]

hey. um hopefully you'll get this soon. I have 2 new e-mails. wicked_witch0103@yahoo.com and wicked_witch151@yahoo.com i wanted your e-mail address so I an add you and talk to you more often. so send them to me! luv ya, holly

lauren_is_amaziing@yahoo.com :]

what do you think? meet me in chat!

you left!!!!!!! grrrrrrrrrrrrrr

wanna chat?

yeah ill chat go to the chat room NOW

Lauren, if you're there, you need to answer this question right away!!!!! Falon. it has to do with her!

What whats wrong

Hello. Well tommarow is my first day of school! I'm so excited!! I have first period with this boy..I don't like him like him, but he is really cute and I want to sit next to him, but I don't want like him to come in and then me be like hey! cxome sit next to me! you know? Does anyone have any seggustions as to how I can get him to sit next to me. Or me to sit next to him? Please answer back before 7 tommarow morning. Thank you :)

Well, you could go up to him before school starts with some friends and just have a casual conversation. When it's time for first block casually wait outside the door with a friend and pretend your in a deep conversation. Once he walks in and puts his stuff down, go in to class and just put your stuff next to his, but don't be like 'HEYYY!! WHATS UP!?!' because that might scare him off a little. Hope this helped!

What are good things to eat before and/or after a workout? Thank you :)

I would say carrots, or celery or anything vegetable or fruit. Don't even try with soda, sweets, and junk food. All it will do is make you sick and give you even more to work off. :] Hope I helped!

14/f. i'm starting school soon and i have two questions:

1) i dont know what to wear on the first day of school. i want to wear jeans, but my school has no air conditioning, and i don't want to be hot. so i thought i would wear a jean skirt, but i think that everybody will wear skirts, and i don't want to be like everybody else. oh and i really don't like wearing shorts, so any good ideas?

2) also i have a problem for school picture day. i always straighten my hair, and that is what i want to do on picture day. but since my school doesn't have air conditioning, i'm worried that my hair will curl and frizz by picture time. i have my pictures taken 7th period, which is the second to last period of the day.

THANKS [=

I'm in the very same situation. I'm also 14. :]

1. Just wear jeans, and if it bothers you that much, wear a pair of capris and a light tanktop or tee shirt. Also put your hair up so it's out of the way, that way you won't be so hot.

2. Check the weather the day before. If it says it's going to be humid - definitely don't straighten your hair and just try something new, or even put your hair in braids the night before and it will be wavy the next morning. If you want it straight that bad - take your straightener to school and straighten it during lunch so that it won't be as frizzy as it would have been if you had done it in the early morning.

Hope I helped!

Ok well, here is the deal... I started talking to this girl online, we talked every day, and night, we eventually became liking eachother, so after a few weeks of joking around, I decided to ask if it could be 'for real' as a relationship, She is 14, and I am 24. I know it's a bit of a age different, and no, I am not a pedophile, I never usually like people younger than me, just it's.. She acts more mature and it's really easy to talk to her, and listen to her. We have really great conversations, but we never met, but then one day, we decided to meet, and she brought a few friends with her... the whole time she avoided me, yeah I was shy also, but I would've talked to her if she wasn't avoiding me, cause I could tell she didn't want to be there with me, I mean, she did, but she didn't... and I know she's had past relationship problems, but I guess, maybe I was just another problem in a relationship, and I really fell in love with her, before we even met and she means the world to me, I just don't know what to think, she only lets me talk to her, if I ask her on this, but she speaks as if she don't know me, and I don't know what to think, any advice? P.S. She talks to me still, but don't tell me her true feelings, and acts like nothing happened, but she don't talk as much or act the same.

Wow. Well, I'm 14, and believe me, she is scared. 14 year olds only look for relationships to flaunt the boyfriend, and maybe kiss in public and go to the movies once and awhile. This girl is seriously just beginning to be a young lady, whereas you are a grown man. She's not ready for some commitment with you, she's just barely a teenager for goodness sakes!

My advice is to just talk to her online - don't meet up with her. Don't try and persuade her into dating you when she doesn't want to. Man, go to a bar or something and find someone your own age. Leave the girl alone. If I were in her situation, I would be scared and ashamed for thinking any romantic thoughts about a 10 year older man.

Just leave her alone. 10 years is a big age gap.

how do i list you as a favorite columnist? i only have 13 minutes left on the computer!

Go to my page and on the top click 'add friend'. :] Nothing is going on here. How about you?

Ok I have this friend who is a guy and i am a girl, I have know him for the past five years, and we are good friends but he has changes in the past few years..he got into drugs...bad. Well long story short he ask me out a few weeks ago and i said no. He got really mad/hurt and is telling how he is sleeping with other girl but pretends it is me. It really creeps me out. He been asking me out like once a week for the past 3 weeks. I feel like he is stalking me. Like everytime I turn around there he is! It scares me. I don't know what to do. Please help me. thank you!

Well obviously he may be under the influence of drugs when he's telling you these things. So lay down the law. Talk to him in person and tell him that it's either drugs and sex, or your friendship of five years. If he wants to keep the friendship with you - he will get some help. If not - he's not worth hanging around with anymore. And if he keeps bothering you, just have your parent or guardian call his parents and even though he may get mad at you for telling on him, he needs the help. Hope I helped!

your birthday rocked out loud and i love the glasses we got! i wore them to the beach and i need your opinion. did they make me look fat? LOL! jk. i'm bored at the library. call me tomorrow (thursday) at anytime to keep me from going insane. luv ya!

geegollyholly

hey are you online now?

I have some scabs and a rope burn that has scabbed over (not too big, about the size of 2 dimes) on my legs from a ropes course and sunburn on my shoulders from a water park. (it's pretty red and tender.) How can I make this stuff disappear ASAP before cheerleading practice starts next week? (At least the sunburn and rope burn) Help!

Well use some anti-biotic cream on your rope burn - and use a sunburn healing spray on your sunburn. You can find either of those at your local grocery store. :]

okay, so I'm in love with Leguna Beach, but I'm from Canada, and I heard that they show like seasons earlier in the states. Like, apparently people in america, are watching the third season right now? Is this true? and if so, I'm soo jealous :p. Thanks for letting me know:).

Haha I love Laguna Beach too. Yes, Laguna Beach season 3 premiered in america already. :]

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