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A while ago my phsycologist said that i had really bad ADHD and its ruining my life. For example, it took me four hours to do a language arts assignment that it took the rest of my class 1 hour. Heres my problem: my cousin also had ADHD and they put him on medication. Later, they found that hewas abusing the medicine and taking way too much so they sent him to a re-habbilitation home. Now my mom wont let the doctors prescribe me any medication because she thinks ill wind up the same way that he did. is there anything i can do?
Ask your mom to look into the different kinds of medication. There are multiple medications for ADHD, especially with all of the abuse that has occured. There are slow relese medications that work over many hours. Talk to your doctor, look online, and then talk to your mom (preferably with your doctor), and explain that there are drugs that are much harder to abuse becuase they work differently.
This question is for someone who knows a lot about nutrition and working out.
Okay, I just started to work out for about an hour and fifteen minutes a day at the gym (cardio). I get hungry afterwards. I'm trying to lose weight (I'm a female, if that helps at all, and I'm not trying to build more muscle), so what foods would be okay to eat after a workout? Thanks in advance!
After a long cardiovascular work out you body will be craving energy. Carbohydrates such as fruit or bread is probably what would satisfy you. Part of the problem may be that you aren't eating anything before; eating one of the mentioned foods about an hour before you work out may help you not feel as hungary afterwards (but don't eat too close to your work out becuase you may feel sick, though I'm sure you knew that). Good luck with your work outs.
well today is my bf's birthday so we are going to lunch at a nice (in other words, expensive) resturant with another couple. i invited him, so does that mean i have to pay for him? its a pretty expensive place and im 14 and he's turning 15. thanks!
If it's his birthday and you invited him then it is probably assumed that you will pay. Since it is his birthday, it would be completly acceptable (and almost required) for you to foot the bill for his and your meals. If you are short on money ask your parents to lend you some, and assure them that you will pay them back (they are usally more willing to do this if you have a job or are willing to look into getting a job, even if the job is babysitting neighbors kids). Don't maketo big of a deal about the money, especially in front of him; its his birthday, and the most important thing would be for you guys to just have fun.
ok well i was 16 at the time same age as now and i have a feeling that after i went swimming with my x bf he turned of me! I was not hairy or anything i mean i shaved before hand and waxed but i duno he seemed to have acted strange after that i have a feeling its because i was over weight at the time but i was not huge. I duno he also kept on saying my boobs were huge i know some people say its gd but i don't think its nice when it comes from ur bf am i wrong my bra size is like 36c/d??? Do you think he turned of me because of swimming? i am confused please advice me .
If you (or anyone) is skinny then they will probably look skinny in a bathing suit. If a person is overweight they will probably look a bit overwight in a bathingsuit. That said, being overweight is probably not the main reason your bf broke up with you (assuming he saw you before you went swimming). When it comes to guys, every one is different. Some guys like stick thin supermodels, others like curvey girls. There are guys there who looove big boobs (and I mean bigger than a 36 d/c). Just b/c he said they were big does not mean that he didn't like them. At the same time, guys are visual (which is why they like pics, porn etc). If he did break up with you becuase of the way you look then it was for very superficial, shallow reasons. My guess is that it was probably something more (maybe he thought that your personalities didn't mesh), but if he really was being shallow, console yourself in the fact that you deserve a guy who will like you and your body, and to go out with anyone less would be setteling.
Okey, so i dont really know what i need help with, i just needed to talk to someone. Im soo sick of appearance being everything! Last summer, i got a makeover at a beauty salong..and the week after that i met a couple of friends that i hadn't seen for a while..
And now, im gonna see them again..and they've told everyone they know that im coming and that im really hot and stuff..so everyone is gonnna be expecting me to be gorgeous!! And im really not, i wont afford going to that beauty salong again :S and ive gotten fatter since then..and my hair is messed up, and my teeth are yellow :( im soo freaking out at the moment..i mean i dont wanna let my friends down..theyve gotten more popular since everyone is hanging out with them so they'll introduce them to me..
And imm not gonna be hot anymorwe :( they're gonna hate me, and im gonna hate myself. theres no way i can get hott in 2 weeks, or is there?
Ok, so in a year you have changed, and they don't know that. This has happened/will happen to almost everyone. At some point most people will get fatter or break out or loose an arm (ok maybe not that one) or change in some way. As much as you think that they will be judging you based only on how you look, its probably more your personality and how much fun they had with you that they remember. Think of the worst thing they could really say...Oh, she gained some weight....they won't talk about it for more than a second (most people are too concerned with themselves to worry about anyone else). Besides, being hot is an attitude. If you don't feel confident about your teeth then use whitening toothpaste, buy a cute new outfit that flatters you. If you go in there feeling (or even acting) confident about who you are, everyone will notice you as the cute, confident, fun loving hottie.
My bf and I are 8 weeks into our relationship, things are good I guess except... I kinda feel like something's wrong.. Even though it shouldn't be :( I guess the best way to put this is, ever since we started going out nothings changed! We're still like friends...just who now make out and spend weekends together. And it's abit uncomfortable for me.. for some reason... don't get me wrong I like my guy alot but it feels strange because I still see him as one of my friends I guess... like the first time he started kissing me I pulled away because it felt weird and he mistook it that I wasn't comfortable with kissing lol... he told me he'd lay off until I was more ready! He doesn't know how I feel, I guess I'm afraid to say it.. it sounds like the start of a breakup afterall! And well.. I'm not exactly feeling a spark for him either, I find his personality cute, even adorable! but he isn't exactly attractive looking to me, I know that's mean to say.. but I just don't feel any spark there.. this kinda bothers me I guess.. but I still like him! I am messed up? What do you think I should do? I'm going to try and talk to him about it when I see him but what sort of things should I say? I really dont wanna hurt his feelings with what I say, do you think this will end in a break up?? :(
Please help! i'm 16
Inevitably in guy/girl _friend_ relationships, one of you will want more. In this case, it may be him. If you are suck good friends then talking about this issue frankly should not hurt the friendship. This doesn't have to end in a break up but it almost sounds like you want it to. No spark? Then what is there? Frienship? He may even be feeling the same way. If you want to break up, or even just see how he feels, then explain that you tried the dating thing with him but that you feel that there may not be the sparek there. You guys may just be really good friends (which is ok). If it comes to a break up basically say exactly what you think. Are you too good of friends? Brother and sister? . He may want to continue dating but if you are starightforward he'll get it. Explain that you still want to be friends, in fact that is more or less the resason you are breaking up. Remind him that he is still a great guy and the girl for him is out there, and that you will always be there (as his really good _friend_ ).
17/f ..all the time i cry..about little things and i get upset very easily sometimes i jsut sit in the bathroom and cry...i think about my life and whats going on and i just break down..does anybody know what i can do.or have an idea whats wrong? please help i rate high
When did this start? Can you pin point any major event (or even something small) that may have sparked this? If it is not something specific and you just randomly started crying for days then you may have depression. If it was en event then if may have brought on your depression. Since you have been rather vauge it is hard to say if you are "just sad" or if it is something more. Either way, you should probably go to a therapist just to tell her how you are feeling, becuase just speaking about it can really help. A therapist may refer you to a psychiatrist who can give you medication, should you have depression. But realize that medication alone will not help you, especially if you have been through a traumatic event. Talking about it and finding a solution ro your problems is the best way to figure out what is truly worng, and help you live your life, not cry through it.
I am @ the end of my seventh grade year and am already thinking of colleges(I know,I know)But i am one of those people who are obsessed with my education and trying to plan ahead. I love litereature and acting.I live in Massachusetts. I am also interested in history. Does anyone have any ideas? I am a great student and like evry subject except math (although I am good @ it) Thanks (I rate HIGH)
Great job for planing ahead, you must be every parents dream child! I now live in an area where the pressure for college is huge and so people planing in 7th grade and working till they drop for school grade is the norm. The best thing you can do for yourself (not just college applications) is find out if you truly enjoy working in that field. YOu love english? Join a school newspaper and write (even if its for yourself). Try to get short stories published when you are a bit older (magazines love that stuff) and maybe even intern somwhere. English is just one example, bue I think that whatever you love, pursue it and find your niche. I strongly recommend in state schools because they are cheaper and the huge (15 years worth of ) debt is just not worth it. If you are lucky enough not to have to worry about money then have your reach schools (for you it may be Duke or Stanford) your range schools (generally in state schools that you proably will get into) and your safety's (community colleges and other state schools that you definately will get into). Remember to do community service and one other thing (a sport, an extra intrest) out side of school. Colleges love it. Good luck!!! Most importantly though, remember to enjoy high school (you only get to survive it once....).
Ok well me and this boy fucked on satday alright its monday and last night i started getting bumps and oucer thingys in my mouth we made out too well i guess you'd no that. But today i was talking to my bestest friend ed and i showed him and it spread all over the inside of my lip well you no right infront of your bottom teeth. He said its herpies. Is it? It was the first time we both had sex and i no hes kissed at least one other girl other then me this week or 2. And if this is herpies how can i get it to go away with out seeing the doctor?
*-*Plz help ill rate 5*-*
You can't really get rid of it without seeing a doctor becuase you need a prescription medication. Once you have the medication it will take a little while to work and once treated its not so bad. Just realize that it is _very_ catchy, so tell anyone you may have kissed etc that you have it. You may not want to see a doctor but they may need to. The sooner you see one the sooner it will go away.
i am in love with my old neighboy Andy, he likes me too. the thing is he moved away last year and of course my mom MADE me go camping so i didnt get to see him or say good bye. i havent seen him for almost 2 years, but we talk on the phone and online a lot. He is coming to visit on June 20, and today my mom told me we are leaving that day to go camping! so im not going to be able to see him when he comes here! i am soo mad! i asked my mom if i could stay home and she said no. my dad and my sister are going to be there, so whats the big deal? How can i get my mom to let me stay home so i can see my best friend/love?
Does your mom know how much this means to you? Explain (calmly) that you never got to say good bye and that he is one of your best friends, who you will not have anothe ropportunity to see. It may also help if another family member (such as your father) could ask your mom with you (not for you). At the very least, ask if the trip could be postponed by a few hours. (p.s tell your mom that you understand all of the work that has gone into planing the trip, I'm sure she was really looking forward to it as well, so understand where she is comming from and maybe she will try harder to understand your point of view).
ok so my best friend was in love with this guy (she's 14 so it didn't mean a whole whole lot) but anyways he liked her in the way beginning of the year but it didn't work out. then he like my other friend but she didn't like him. next he liked me and i liked this guy a lot too. my best friend was supportive and got us to go out. now we're happily together and have been for awhile. but my best friend has been depressed and everytime we get into a fight she'll bring this up (that i stole him from her). she still wants to be my friend but how do i eventually solve this situation. i know i caused it but how do i fix it without breaking up with him?
Complicated love triangles are never fun, but are even worse when it involves friends. You guys aren't twelve anymore; to prevent this from becoming more of an issue confront the probelm. Clearly she did not mean it when she said she was fine with you going out with him. Explain to her that you did not mean to hurt her, and ask her to always be honest with you in the future. If you liked this guy you may also have missed subtle signs that may have said that she was not really overjoyed about you guys going out. Avoid haning out with your boyfriend and other friend for now, but in the future try to avoid crushes/boyfriends/flings of your friends, or risk ruining a friendship.
i told the guy that i love so much that i loved him and he told me he was in love with someone else. i have never been in love with someone i have never dated, i have only loved one other person and he broke my heart. i so lost and confused cause i thought that the guy i loved doesnt feel the same way about me he doesnt even like me enought to give me a chance and that hurts. i work with him and that makes things even worse. my life continues to go on but my heart stops beating. i dont know what to do i just want my heart to stop hurting and for someone to love me as much i as i love them.
You have already been in love twice and both times these guys have not felt the same. First of all, you need to realize that you _will_ find somone who will love you as much as you love them. You also have to recognize this pattern. Is there anything you could have done from preventing it getting to this point (read: deep love)? Some noncomital dating will definatly open your eyes to the hundreds of other guys out there. These are guys who are like you-- also looking for love. So whenever you are ready look for accessible dates and fun times. Go out and have fun, and don't look for love, it will find you.