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While I am still young, I have had a great deal of life experience. It is from this that I give advice. I am open minded and try not to be judgemental. If I can help in any way, I will. Just ask. However, like everyone else in this world, I am not perfect. My advice may not always suit you, since my experiences are not the same as yours. If you want clarification on any answers I give, feel free to ask me. If you don't like what I said, or if I offended you, let me know. This is the best way for me to improve on my responses. Thanks for looking at my page!
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Well ive been with this guy for almost 2 years. We broke up about twice so far. The first time i managed to get him back and he told me that he missed me and realized he still loved me. But it was also partly because i gave into him and gave him bj the two times we saw each other while broken up. But its cause i asked him straightforwardly the thirdtime when we were about to do it again. But the three months togwther then was mostly us doing sexual stuff like up to third base and thats it. But we didnt have much time to just bond and talk. Were also a bit long distance seeing eachother only once in a week or two. But this time he broke up with me again giving me a bunch of excuses. His friends even told him that we wouldnt work out which i think possibly influenced his decision. But his friends dont even know me because my parents are strict so i mever got to meet his friends. But well a month of no contact with him then the second the month ended i started talking to him and asking to see each other for closure. But once i saw him it wasnt closure but me asking to get backand being desperate. Then he blew up on me saying we should just let it go now hefore it gets even harder to let go later on and that hes trying to move on. Then i stomped out yelling i just dont get this. Then he texted me a day after explaining that he feels like hes in the relationship for sex. And then from tere we judt argued back and forth because i got hope from that. And on saturday i lashe out on him ecause he asked this girl to prom when he knew i still liked him and i wanted to go to prom with him since junior year. And then he lashed back put on me. And then we argued intensely until thursday. Because on thursday he told me the modt hurtful things like im annoying him that he cribges when e sees my texts and that everything was in the past its over and that he takes back all the hope an consideration he gave me a few days ago when he really thought of possibly geting back together. And that im lucky he hasnt blocked me yet. Well to be honest i feel so hurt but i still want a try but im scared to hear hurtful things. But i want him to be with me again. Idk if i should move on talk to him or what i should even do!!! I honestly want some possible way to slowly get his love for me back again.
Move on. He is toxic and using you. You cannot get his love back because it was never there. This is not someone you want anything to do with. You deserve so much better. Get him out of your life and be glad he is gone.
Ive had a bad prostate infection for a couple weeks now I'm a 21 male. I've had a cloudy discharge coming out here and there but today when I was peeing I felt a chunkish thing coming through my penis it came out into the toliet and I continued peeing. I Got it out of the toliet it was chunky like a chunk of cum you'd pee out but this chunk was about a inch wide and half inch wide it didn't hurt or burn I just felt it push out then drop into the toliet. I felt it is was kinda softish and a little sticky but not like sperm or cum sticky had no smell to it was dark yellow some weight to it for how little it was I guess the best way to describe it is a hard chunk of cum you pee out after ejaculating but dark yellow. Any ideas? Please help??!!
I\'m going to guess it was a kidney stone. Still, check with your doctor to be sure and to see if there might be any other issues. Pretty certain it is not a symptom of an std, at least none that I\'ve heard of.
my heart has been doing weird stuff so i was looking what can be wrong with the heart and it said "coronary artery disease" but i don't know what that means. can some one please explain so a 16 year old can understand?
I would like more detail. What is happening with your heart? Are you overweight? Tell me more about your medical history and I\'ll be better able to help you.
I live in an apartment complex, and the apartment above mine decided to overload their washer, causing massive leaking from my ceiling. I have come to notice than when my one year old son and I are home, we are very congested, but when we leave, within minutes, our noses are clear and we can breath just fine again. I have spoken to the maintenance man about the possibility of their being mold, but EVERY time I bring this up "Oh you don't know what mold looks like. It ain't mold" I had lived in an apartment before this one, where there was NO ventilation system installed in the restroom, and yes, I dealt with black mold before. I know what it looks like, and what effects it has on me. I was mostly wondering, what organization would I get a hold of to hopefully get this situation properly taken care of? I am worried about my sons health, and speaking with the buildings management seems to do me no good. I can't move out because I can't afford to break the lease and to find a new place to live on my salary. Any and all help is greatly appreciated. For easier references, I live in the state of Indiana, and my apartment is supposedly owned by the IRS, so they say. Thank you for your time.
That is a good question. I'm not in a place where I can research this for you. As soon as I am, I will get back to you. It should be no later than tomorrow.
i had unprotected sex 4 days after my period ended can i be pregnet ?
I had sex the day my period ended. I got pregnant.
Okay, so I'd asked this question earlier as well but I guess I wasnt clear in it.
Basically there is this guy I really like. The problem is that I am too short for him. I am 4'11 (151 cm) and that guy is 5'11-ish. And I feel REALLY consious about that. He lives in a another city so its not like we can meet everyday and eventually get used to eachother's difference.
So my questions are, where does a 4'11 person reach a 5'11 or 6 feet guy?
What do guys think of girls as short as 4'10-4 11
Those in relationships, coulld you please temme your height difference
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I am 5'3" and my husband, who I have been with since high school, is 6'5", so there is an even greater difference than you are facing. It doesn't matter. We love each other and the height just isn't an issue. If he likes you, he won't mind that you are short. Your head will be at his chest, where you can lean on him and hear his heart beat. He will probably rest his head on yours sometimes. My husband does that. Don't worry about the height. Tell him how you feel. If he cares about the height difference, he is not right for you anyway because that is shallow and meaningless.
So this is the thing I've been diagnosed w major depression disorder and they have offered me to take Prozac. Of course I'm not obligated to take them but I would still want to know what are the side effects and if it does work because I've heard that it becomes addictive and later on you depend on them to feel happy.
I have not heard of Prozac becoming addictive. I do not know all the side effects, though I do know it gave me major headaches, which is uncommon. If you have a major depressive disorder and are seeing a psychiatrist, I recommend following their suggestions for medication. If it does not help you or you do not like the side effects, there are many others you can try. I also recommend seeing a therapist. To treat mental health disorders, you need a regimen of medication, therapy, and support. For support, look for a DBSA (depression and bipolar support alliance) group in your area. I run such a group and they are very helpful.
hello internet im 13f and i have cut myself almost everyday scince i turned 11.i am coated in scars head to toe littereally and tommorow i start gym class we have to wear shorts and a tee shirt.I am not excited and am very worried about it and sad i have to do it in face i just cut pretty deep on my calf and 3 0r 4 cuts on my wrist i ussually cut in 3 bouts a day before school sometimes during if its a hard day as soon as i get home and ussually before bed.they are deep and take a ery long time to heal.i ahve depression and anxiety and im going to a phyciatrist.i am ery worried about school and gym and have terrible anxiety dreams every night.in the dreams i drop a razor blade from my pockeet in class and it is found.these scare me really badly and they rule my life.i get depressed easily too and do get suicidal.last year in gym class one of my fresher cuts showed and people mad efun of me untill i tried to kill myself and i am bullied in school.i start to not enjoy anything for fear and i do sometimes wish i could end it would it be easier?idek please help me
Have you told your psychiatrist about your cutting? Do you see a therapist as well? These are important steps. I understand being suicidal. I've been there and even been admitted to a psych hospital for it. Suicide is not easier. It is easy to mess it up and then have to live with the consequences. Also, I know a lot of cutters. It is not uncommon. There is a new device being developed to help cutters. There is a website for it that has some support for cutters. It was developed by a friend of mine who has helped many. Go to http://www.stopthescars.com
Understand that it is dangerous to cut, but not uncommon. Suicidal thoughts are ok, depending on what you do about them. Get help from a therapist that specializes in your needs. Your psychiatrist can help with recommendations. You are young. There is hope. Lots and lots of hope.
My boyfriend went to a party last weekend and I stayed home under the impression that it was a boys night. Well last night I got nosy and looked through his phone. Come to find out I was invited and he told his friend that he was leaving me at home because I was a party pooper. When his friend asked how he proceeded to tell him that I don't drink, I don't know how to socialize, and that I would just cling to him all night and he didn't need all that shit. My feelings are extremely hurt. He has never even been to a party with me and I am one of the most sociable and independent people. I'm confused as to why he feels this way about me. We have only been together for three months. It is not serious on my end yet but he has made it clear that it is for him. This situation makes me want to leave him. I feel as if I deserve someone who won't talk about me like that. Am I overreacting or do I have sound cause to be upset?
I'm going to be blunt. First, yes, you do have cause to be upset. However, he will too when you confront him about it. Snooping through his phone, in his eyes, will show that he was right about you clinging. I'm married, my husband's best friend is a woman, and I don't look at his text messages unless he asks me to.
If you are still not sure if you want to be serious, and you already have trust issues that you can't handle with honesty yourself, this is not the relationship for you.
Ladies...
Has anyone gotten stretch marks reduced? Like, the appearance?
I know it's physically impossible to remove them... but I know there are several options for getting them to look better.
And of course every place says their method is the best..... =/
What has worked for YOU or someone you know?
I had a growth spurt in my early teens and got them on my upper arms... and I'm tired of not being able to wear things I like now that my body is back to normal!
Believe it or not, Mederma and similar products work really well. I have a friend who is a cutter and has recently used Mederma on her scars and they are barely there now. So, since I saw her success, I am using a similar product (a generic) on a surgical scar I have. If it can work on her scars and mine, it can work on stretch marks.
I can't move in my sleep. I have scary dreams about the devil & demons.I'm a christian and believe in god. I had a dream that I was marrying the devil once and it scared the crap out of me and I also had a dream that I was in hell and I and another were my house was burning and I could not move and a voice told me I was going to hell and a devil and all these people talking about hell. Then I was with my mom dad and sister in a town and they all died. I was on the ground and people ran around and fire was everywhere. I woke up scared. I've had these dreams a couple of nights in a row and I've even prayed before I slept.
It was as if I was in a coma like state, awake, but not able to move or talk, I tried to speak and wanted to speak but couldn't nor could I move,my body wasn't and didn't respond to my desire to wake up and I couldn't open my eyes.I tried calling out for help but it nothing wanted to come out, (this is not the first time it happened to me) This was real and creepy. It's like I wasn't even asleep. i actually feel like im really awake. I hate going to sleep after it happens.
I try to reach out and grab someone or call their name, but I get nothing. I guess its in my head, cause I can't speak. I think to myself but this the scariest stuff ever. I Don't know how to get away from it and wish I could. This happens all the time. I'm a grown man and it makes me scared to be alone at night or sleep alone. When i finally woke up from the state, My arms were no floating and they were right where my face was as sleeping... can anyone tell me what the heck happened? Is this something supernatural?
I've also heard voices a couple of times and I was WIDE AWAKE and the voice was evil. I was in the living room and my mom was in the next room. I was just sitting down and I heard a voice tell me I was going to hell. I ran into the other room with my mom.
Why am I having these dreams and hearing things? Help?
Pls share ur ways of shaking it, if you have any pls!
Someone told me I might just have schizophrenia, but I've looked this up and I'm not the only person dealing with these problems
The best I can tell you is that dreams like this do not mean schizophrenia. Nightmares with sleep-paralysis are awful! I have had them since childhood. They have eased up since my teen years, though I do get them sometimes.
What I do sounds a little weird. I get in my own head and tell myself I'm just dreaming and need to calm down and breathe slow. This, for me, helps to pull me out of that dream state. I've had these dreams a lot and can recognize when I am getting into them, sort of my conscious mind interrupting the subconscious dreaming mind. This works for me most of the time.
When you do get out of the dreams, whether by waking yourself or naturally waking, sit up and calmly recall the dreams. Write them down. Getting them out of your head by writing will take some of the fear out of them. This, I think, has helped mine to lessen over time.
Another thing I recommend, since you are religious, is to talk to your priest/minister about them. Do this after writing a few down. Priests/ministers are generally smart people and can help you get to the bottom of it.
i am 14/f. almost 15. but I have been in therapy since i was 12 when my parents divorced. the weird thing was i had such GREAT self confidence and self worth that i wanted them the get divorced, and i didnt care if they got remarried or whatever i just figured if they got divorced it would be best and everything would be ok. well they did....but in a horrible, messy way that me and my 4 other siblings were dragged into. my narcissistic dad dragged me into it and pulled me under, which i wanted nothing to do with. it took me about 3 years to realize what he is. and he doesnt care about anyone but himself. all i tried to do was keep my family happy but all he did was make my life that much harder than it was the day before. now my family is doing tons better. me and my two other siblings are not seeing my father because we dont like him, the very least. And i/ we do not need to. ANYWAY i have gone through soooooooo much and i am the last one to be a drama queen. my dad has pressured me into the worst things and i hate him for that. he manipulated me into everything. and now as i am in therapy i am taking it all in. about a year a half ago i didnt see my dad for like 6 months and he didnt give two shits. i cut i drank, i smoke to dissolve the pain. now i feel 100% different. i like the way i feel about "leaving" him. I am much more relieved because ei don’t have deal with him or his BS. BUT i am still left with bad emotions. i am still batting depression which i do not take any med for i want to do it on my own. but i know what bipolar is and how people act when they've had it, im not stupid. Basically the manic and depressive moods/behavior i go through if not every day. its just about now im realzing it. i know its not 100% accurate but i took an online bipolar quiz and i got the highest score. you can tell me because i am a teenage girl its likely for me to act like PMS. first of all not the case. i know my body and how i act when im on my period or just have a bad day. its completely differnt then being bipolar. PMSing is like you have really bad cramps, tired, cranky, hungry, bitchy. ok thats totally true BUT i get these emotions and way more worse ones, and act out this way to evryone for about three years. EVERY single day i feel and act manic/depressive. no joke im not making it up.i will LITERALLY start a conversations tired and mumbling/slurring my words then sped up very excitedly for no reason then calm down again. if i get a lot of money i spend it all, which is not like me. i had like 200 dollars and i spent it all, only when i got home did i realize what i did. i've always had a bad temper but i have the worst rages and take it out on the people i love. it's ruining relationships with people, im losing friends and dont know what to do. i feel like im going crazy. im sure i have this illness. if you knew me you'd probablly agree. i feel either manic/depressive all the time there is no in between. my mom's ex husband (my dad) doesnt pay shit and not even health insurance for his own kids. i want all the help i can get but i dont feel like there’s even a point to telling my mom or therapist this if i cant get screened and get help with no money coming from my mom or dad. i really want and need help and if i dont get it i honeslty dont know what will happen next.
i took the quiz at http://psychcentral.com/cgi-bin/bipolar-quiz.cgi it basicaly asks do you feel up one moment then down the next. and i tried to answer carefully and read each question twice. and either aswered like yes 100% or yes. but thank you so much for advice.
This could very well be bipolar disorder. Or not. You have been through a lot and it could be classified as PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder). What you need to do is see a psychiatrist. They can give you a diagnosis. At your age, they may still say it is just a part of growing up. Stand up for what you feel and let them know this is not normal. Do not try to do this on your own without medication. If you are actually bipolar, medication will make a world of difference. I had to do it on my own for a while because we didn't have insurance. I ended up in the ER after a suicide attempt. Then, just recently, my medication stopped working and I went to a psych hospital for a week. Make sure you see a psychiatrist regularly if you are diagnosed and keep track of your moods in a journal or log so you can know if your meds are working. If/when prescribed meds, give them at least 6 weeks before you decide they are not working. Many take that long to reach therapeutic levels.
As for support, look for your local depression and bipolar support alliance. They have fantastic groups. I actually facilitate one now. Go here to search: http://www.dbsalliance.org/site/PageServer?pagename=peer_support_group_locator
If you do not have insurance or money, you can find a place in your area that serves low-income people without insurance, usually on a sliding scale based on income.
Definitely talk to your mom and your therapist. They can direct you to services to get diagnosed and helped. Do not wait until it gets worse.
Why is it that I think thru a thought of suicide? I know what it would to to my adult children,and my grandchildren. I truly think that they will get over it, in time. I am so tired of struggling. I've lost my home, my health, my brothers make no contact with me even when I reach out. I am on depression and panic attack meds. I am 53, not overweight. As my daughter told me, "get over with the pity party"
How long have you been on your meds? It sounds like a med adjustment may be needed if you are seriously considering suicide, so see your doctor. The thoughts, however, may come and go. I'm no longer actually considering suicide, though I think about it often. Are you going to therapy? I have found it to be very helpful. If you can find a group intensive outpatient therapy, that is a really wonderful setting for learning to cope with these thoughts and feelings. As you have depression, the comment to "get over with the pity party" shows lack of understanding of depression. It is often a chemical imbalance. You can't help it happening except by having the right meds and the right therapy. Another thing to consider is a support group. Go to DBSA {dot} com to find a depression support group near you. They have great peer run groups.
I hope that helps.
I've been feeling hungry all the time lately. I'll eat lunch and feel really full, and then an hour later i'll feel hungry again. its really annoying. why could this be?
17/f
At 17 years old, you are still growing, which can make you hungry more often. Are you active? Your body may need more calories to make up for what you burn with activity. Also, are you on any medications? A lot of medications can cause constant hunger and weight gain. A good way to manage the hunger is to keep very healthy snacks, like fruits and vegetables, around. This way, you won't feel guilty if you are eating more often. If you think it is more of a problem - something health or medication related - see your doctor.
I am 16 and I just had unprotected sex with my boyfriend, I was previously a virgin, he did not cum in me he has alot of self control, trust me I would know and we didn't do it for very long before he popped my cherry and I told him to stop because it hurt. But he DID precum inside me and I would like to know of those risks I know it's possible but unlikely to get pregnant from precum but the bigger picture is what are the risks such as sexually transmitted diseases. I've read online that it's possible to contract chlamydia and ghonneria easier through precum but sometimes the internet doesn't give very valid info like (you have to be ovulating to get pregnant and my friend says that's the stupidest thing she's ever heard and her teacher says it's rediculously easy) but anyone who knows for sure, for a fact, perhaps an educated professional on these things. I just don't want more false information. Please and thank you for your help!
1. Any genital to genital (or even oral to genital) contact has the risk of STDs if your partner has them. If he has had other partners, there is risk.
2. Precum does contain some sperm. Not as much as full ejaculation, but it only takes one sperm to get you pregnant.
3. Yes, you need to be ovulating to get pregnant. Ovulation doesn't last long, so it is a small window you have to worry about. The problem is that, unless you get specific tests that detect the possibility of ovulation, you don't know when that window is. Even if your cycle is generally predictable, you can ovulate any time. I had sex right at the end of my period 13 years ago and I have a son as a result.
From now on: use condoms every time you have sex, consider getting on the pill or other birth control, and make sure you know your partner's sexual history.
I've recently experienced my period last week, and am having terrible breast pain. I have never had pain in my boobs. I always use protection when having sex and was just on my period ( although my period was slightly weird because it was a little lighter than usual) so I don't think I'm pregnant, but what other reason could there be for my boobs to hurt this badly?
As the other answer said, there are many causes for breast pain, including growth. Hormones also can cause pain, especially close to your period, even if it never happened before. There are more serious things as well. If you had sex during or soon after your period, you can still be pregnant (guess how I know . . . ).
I recommend checking for lumps, waiting about a week to see if the pain goes away, and then seeing a doctor to rule out anything serious. It is better to go to a doctor and find out it is nothing than to not go and have it be something.
For the last two months I've been going through some depression, though it's not always a constant thing. That is, I guess it's always there, but I can only feel it for a few days at a time before it fades. I go about 3 days where I feel fine, but then I drift into 3 days where I feel horrible. I know the roots of it are in self-loathing brought on by relationship problems, drug abuse/dependence, etc.
I can feel it coming and I can feel it leaving. I just started therapy, so I don't necessarily need advice on what to do -- I'm just interested in knowing if anyone else has gone through the same thing, and whether medication was necessary.
First, I disagree with the other answer. Please continue therapy. It is one aspect of treatment for mood disorders like depression and bipolar disorder.
Other than that, the other answer did have some good points. I agree that you need to see a psychiatrist to get an accurate diagnosis and find a medication that can help. Mood disorders are very successfully treated with a combination of medication, therapy, and taking measures to improve general health (diet, exercise, etc.). It takes all of those to really treat it.
On the days when you feel fine, is it just a "normal", level feeling or do you have symptoms of mania (grandiose feelings - as the other person mentioned, a feeling like you can do anything, taking risky behavior, not sleeping, extreme energy, feeling sped up, et.) or hypomania (some of the same symptoms as mania but less intense, irritability, sudden creativity and intense focus, rhyming/alliterating a lot)? If so, you may be bipolar. You say you feel it coming and leaving, so it seems there is a definite difference in the moods which makes me think you might be bipolar. There are two main types of bipolar disorder. Type I has mania and type II has hypomania and a lot more depression.
I have bipolar II disorder and it has taken a lot of time to get my medication right for me, but it was worth it. I am also benefiting from a group therapy setting with others dealing with bipolar and/or depression.
Mood disorders are an imbalance in the brain. Yes, medication is important. Yes, therapy is important. Yes, there are a lot of people out there going through the same thing right now. Get to a psychiatrist now, before it gets out of hand. You are on the right path to getting it under control.
I suffer from very severe depression, im on sertraline 50mg I want to die but i am too scared to act upon it, i love my boyfriend who is going into the army and im scared i might do something while im not with him, can anyone give me advice?
As someone else said, it seems your medication isn't working enough for you. Are you seeing your primary doctor or a psychiatrist for your medication? I highly recommend seeing a psychiatrist, as this is their specialty and they can better work with you to find the right medication and dose. It can take a while to get it right and, even when you do, your body can eventually stop responding to it and require a change.
I also highly recommend therapy. It will help you to develop coping strategies for when he is gone so you can feel better. If you can get into a group therapy setting, it is actually shown to be more helpful than individual therapy. If nothing else, it puts you in a place with other people who are feeling similar to you and will support your well-being.
Next, I think you should talk to your boyfriend about your feelings in an open, honest way. Let him know you love him and are proud of him and ask him to write you often. When my bf went into the Marines, he wrote me every day. He is now my husband and he is very supportive and patient with my bipolar disorder and depression.
If nothing else, keep in mind that your boyfriend will come back to you. If you are not there, what will that do to him?
I'll leave you with an exercise my therapist gave me to help rein in the emotion and negativity: Set aside one hour every day to just cry. Cry for the whole hour, then write what you experienced and felt. It will give you back some control over the emotion, take you out of the spiral where just being depressed and crying makes you feel worse and cry more. You will have a say in when you cry and what you take from it.
i see horney videoes everytime and masterbuting please give me an idea to leave it
There is nothing wrong with masturbating unless it is interfering with other parts of your life.
If it is, then you need to find ways to distract yourself. Stop watching videos and go do something else. Eventually, it won't be such a habit.
If it isn't causing you problems, you don't need to stop. It is that simple.
Info you should know:
1) My sister is a hair stylist she went to beauty school
2)I don't have my period
3)I'm 13
4) I want to dye my hair bright bright red
5) All my sisters have dyed their hair like 50 times.
I have asked my Mom if I can dye my hair and she keeps saying NO. And heres her reason: because you dont have your period for 3 years because of the chemicals in the dye. And I asked what will it do? And she said : Idk, but lets not find out.
I said : i dont believe you
she said: Just ask your sister she went to beauty school she knows.
Me: UGH! and stomps off.
I'M REALLY PISS3D OFF I WANT TO DYE MY HAIR IS THIS TRUE THAT YOU HAVE TO HAVE YOUR PERIOD FOR 3 YEARS BEFORE YOU CAN DYE YOUR HAIR?
I looked at both links in the previous answer. It does make sense to wait until puberty because your hair and scalp change and you risk seriously damaging either. However, I do recommend you read the second link well. It basically says that over the age of 8, you can use gentle, color only dye (that doesn't chemically lighten your hair to make the color stay). It says nothing about waiting 3 years after puberty. I personally think that might be excessive. I had my hair seriously lightened when I was 15. I got my period at 13. I didn't have any problems.
It might help you to call a beauty salon that specializes in hair color and ask their opinions. In the meantime, there are some temporary dyes that come in great shades of red that you can try out until you can do something more permanent. A great bonus to those is that you can change them as often as you want.