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Allooooo~ well to start off...I go by as Dennise and giving advice is what I'm here to do and I plan to provide whatever assistance I can offer to the best of my abilities. I've had my share of ups-and-downs (don't we all) and I'm more than willing enough to help those that ask.
In fair warning: I won't give answers that are "gusshied with sprinkles on top" (or whatever things that that line follows). I will be blunt if the situation calls for it...either you take the honest words or brush it off and go search for a lie~ all in all, it's entirely your choice.
Advice is simply there for people to brood and consider over, not a forceful act.
So feel free to ask me whatever you wish to be answered and the advice shall slide over these keyboards~ ^-^
"If it's free, it's advice; if you pay for it, it's counseling;
if you can use either one, it's a miracle."
-Jack Adams-
"If you don't go after what you want, you'll never have it,
If you don't ask, the answer is always no.
If you don't step forward, you're always in the same place."
-Anonymous-
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so i have this friend. we have been friends since like 6th grade, were in 11th. anyway..she honestly treats me like shit. i dont know why i am still friends with her. well no.. i take that back. i do know why. because if i ignore and just dont want to deal with her anymore she will seriously make my life a living hell. she has done it before. she acts like im not even a human. ive been the one that has been there for her since i dont even know. she is crying, im there triyng to help her. but when I am crying or something is wrong with ME, god forbid she takes 5 seconds out of her life to help someone with a problem and that its not all about HER all the damn time. i dont know what to do. im sick of it. when i get mad, i just ignore her. im not the confrontational type, i dont like bitching at people. i usually keep the peace. but she on the otherhand will rip you apart and make you hate yourself. its happened. today in lunch i was telling her something, because i mean her being one of my best friends..itd b nice if i was allowed to talk to her rtight? apparently wrong. i tell her something, she goes "ok, i dont care" and gave me attitude. so i just got up and went with my friend and i started crying so hard. then these other two gierls that i used to be reallly good friends with, not so much anymore, came up and talked to me., they care more than my so called best friend. she knows im mad but she will turn it around on me and be a bitch. i dont know what to do anymore. please help me!
I definitely understand what you're going through now and it's also happening to me at the moment. Change always happens to everyone...sometimes for the better or for the worse. And during those changes, we sometimes have limits to what we can handle such as you've had enough of your friends bitchy attitude. Everyone wants to be treated fairly and at least be treated with respect. Your "friend" isn't giving you what you want most and since she's not giving you her friendship, would you still consider her as a friend? Listen, getting over this situation is very difficult, but you gotta keep your head high and just move on. This may sound harsh but...you don't exactly "need" her to go on with your own life.
And seriously, if she's gonna try and make your life hell, her's is going to get worse because she's just wasting her time trying to hurt other people's feelings just to feel proud or something. But anyway, just ignore her if she threatens you like that...show her that you're not afraid of her and that it's pathetic to use pointless words.
You are very strong, getting through this may be tough but in time it'll just be another memory. I know that it hurts to find out that a close friend is crushing a precious friendship but it's a way to move on even if you guys drift apart. Don't let her rudeness get in the way of what your goal is in life. You'll still have those memories of her during your years together, some may be bad but some are good...this time you make new ones.
I hoped this helped you a little! Keep your head up high! =3
my friend and i recently became closer friends. and he told me that he used to burn himself and cut himself and that he attempted to commit suicide three times. he told me that things were better now, but im still worried. he hasnt burned himself in six months. and i told him i'd always be here to listen. if he confides in me that he is suicidal in the future, should i tell someone. he told me no one can know, but i'm scared for him. i know he's fine now, but what about if he gets depressed in the future? what should i do? please help me.
It'd be best to keep it between you and him for now, seeing as though he's okay at the moment. But, if you honestly really think it's very serious that he might think about committing suicide again, then it'd be a good idea to let someone know. And if he gets angry, he'll thank you in the future because there's at least someone who's worried about him. Don't be scared, you're doing a wise thing and it shows that you care what happens to him...and it's good to know that you'll always be there to listen to him.
But for now, just be there for him. Give him your friendship and trust because that's all that everyone needs.
Hoped this helped you a little! =3
hii
well heres the story its pretty long.
last week was the last week of the holidays and i was chatting to my friend on the net and she just randomly says to f*#k off and that she hates me and never was really my friend. so i'm like really cofused and thinks she just going through some troubles at home so i leave it. later that week i try talking to her again and the same thing happens but this time she starts telling me that no one likes me and i'm annoying and to stay away from her and her friend who are also my friends. i got really up set and cried.Then school started and i styaed away from her as much as possible which is hard cause i'm in her roll call and i'm in the same group as her. Then all my friends started sitting down the back with her and stuff and some of my other friends told me that she was saying stuff about me and saying that i started it all and that she wanted to start a punch up with me and stuff. then last night her and another girl from my school started a convo with me and started like harassing me calling me a sped and just making fun og me basically. i think i'm going to tell my teacher whats going on. i saved the 2 convo's she had with me calling a hoe and stuff.I just don't know what to do about my friends like all my school friend from my group hate me. what should i do
p.s sooooo sorry for how long it is
xoxo thaks for the help
In a situation like this, you definitely should let someone know about this. I mean, it's seriously just frustrating enough that your friend and your group are treating you in a crude way without even giving a reason as to why they're acting that way. Your friend could possibly be jealous of you because you have something that she doesn't...but in a way, it sounds like she more of the "coward" (I suppose you could call her that) because she's taking your own group of friends and having them turn against you like some sort of shield. It's pathetic and pointless because she's not going to get anything out of it...but only showing that her selfish attitude has gotten the best of her.
It's good that you're considering about telling your teacher about your situation. You can also let someone you know that you trust in either your school, or someone who doesn't go to your school. just let it out and keep them informed if things worsen.
And all I can say is, don't be afraid of those girls. You are your own person and can find other friends who wouldn't treat you this way. Hey I know it's easier said than done but it's true and it's more of a benefit for yourself because once you talk more to others rather than just that group, hopefully a heavy load will be lifted off of your shoulders. Also, don't come to the conclusion of insulting them back because it's gonna get even messier.
Keep strong.
I hoped this helped you a little! I wish you luck! =3
Okay so I like this one guy. We'll call him Bob.
My bestfriend, We'll call her Sally likes him too.
Bob has liked Sally for a week or so now and my bestfriend Sally has a boyfriend. She doesn't liker her boyfriend and is going to dump him today or tomorrow to go out with Bob.
I don't want to tell Sally I lik Bob because Bob likes her, Sally likes Bob and I don't want to screw anything up. Should I just wait until they break up or do I say something?
Bob is also a year older and I don't want to look like a fool.
Help!
Well all I can say is you just have to leave it alone. I mean, since they both like each other it'd be kind of unruly if you just butted in without letting someone know. But of course you can definitely tell your friend about how you feel so that there won't be any difficult situations in the future and I'm sure that when you tell her, she won't take it so hard because you're letting her know ahead of time, it's more of a show of trust.
Hoped this helped you! =3
16/f
i play volleyball and i have been for a long time. like 8 years. I'm on my schools varsity team and its my first year on it. I also play on an elite junior olympic team. so basically i can just say i play the sport all year round. I only get about a month off of it. so my question is... i'm not sure if i want to keep playing the sport. I mean i love the sport and i always will. its just that i never look forward to practices, and sometimes i even cry after practices or games. Since i'm new on my high school team i dont get any playing time but i know for sure that next year i will be a starter until i'm a senior. I've already decided that when i go to college i dont want to play volleyball then. but I'm not sure if i should quit now. because sometimes i love it, but sometimes i don't. and my mom has always said that if i don't enjoy something then whats the point of doing it. and honestly, sometimes it feels like a HUGE waste of time and instead i could be doing something better. so i need help on deciding what to do now. maybe i just need a break because i have been playing for so long. but i'm not sure.... help!!
I know that once you've started something you're really into it at first and very determined to push for it. But after awhile, you just think of it as being tedious and pointless because you aren't as determined as you used to be when you first started.
If you think that you're not gaining much out of volleyball anymore, then it's ok to take a break from it~ don't feel guilty if you make a decision to stop something for a little bit. And it also sounds like you want to try something new and different. There's nothing wrong with that, because everyone wants to experience a change.
Do what you think that could be used for your own benefit. There's a limit to what a person can handle...and can't handle.
I hoped this helped you! I wish you luck! =3
im kinda looking for inspirational songs, that have meaning, they can be sad, happy, rock, alternative, anything, i guess.
Personally I find Keyshia Cole's songs inspirational.
You can also try:
Queens
Rolling Stones
Alicia Keys
Give it a try~ hope you'll enjoy them! =3
my girlfriend is comeing over soon n shes sick so she doesnt think we should makeout bc she doesnt want me to get sick, but im diein for her to again! how can i convince her its ok?
Well it'd be best to wait a little till she gets better...I mean, it really would cause a lot of discomfort for the both of you if you guys make out while she's sick.
Think of it that it's a good way that she's at least thinking about you so you won't get sick. It'd be fair to your girlfriend if you wait for her to get better.
No need to rush~ take it slow and easy. And if she's coming over, just take care of her if she's not feeling well. She'll love that for sure ^-^!
Hoped this helped a little! =3
I absolutely love my father, I really do, and he's a great dad and all but... I don't want to live with him any more. He's a slob, he's always moody and he uses his depression as an excuse. He also has a lot of debt and I'm sick of having his weights on my shoulders all the time, you know?
My brother has offered me that if I want to, I can rent a room of his house. I'm thinking of taking this up and possibly bringing a friend with me so it'd be less rent for me to pay 'cause we'd be splitting it. He's a reliable guy, too.
Does this seem like a bad idea? I'm 15 and a half, I'm paid $800 a month from my job, I plan on staying in school and my brother lives close to the school.
I'm just afraid my dad will get upset and stop talking to me.
Well in a way...it is a bad idea seeing that you're pretty young to be moving out.
The only advice that I can offer you is to be completely honest to your dad and let him know exactly how his depression and other mood swings are putting a lot of weight on you. He might take it hard at first...but your reasons will of course keep him thinking about his past actions and possibly have him realize of how much this is affecting the both of you.
It also sounds like you're taking a great deal of responsibility there too. Give your dad a little nudge so that he can be able to take care of himself. Sounds kinda strange but, as long as you're their to be more of a "helping hand" rather than the caretaker of your dad, he'll be able to handle situations on his own and maybe be able to overcome his moody/depressive side. You don't have to do this on your own if you think that maybe it's not going to help your dad, but you can ask your brother for support.
It's great that you still love your dad ^^...and as long you still have that bond, you shouldn't be afraid to let him know what you really think about this situation.
I hoped this helped you a little! Take care and good luck! =3
I said some things that i wish that i could take back right now but I can't and I just feel like my life isn't going to get any better right now. What do i do from here?
We all make mistakes at some point in our lives...and at times it's hard to cope with it. But in the end, we learn from all those mistakes and take advantage of the knowledge we gained for a better use in the future.
Apologizing is a first step to take. Be honest, no denials. Don't say that your life isn't getting any better! It's definitely gonna go for the better~ stay strong and true to yourself.
Hope this helped you a little! =3
so i have this friend, we'll call her sally. well sally and i have been friends since 6th grade, we are now in 11th grade. in 8th grade we got into a huge fight that lasted like 6 months. we haven't really gotten into any huge fights since then, but lately she has been treating me like shit. she acts like im not even a friend to her. although i do nothing wrong to her. EVER. im never rude to her. im ALWAYS there for her. shes never there for me when i need someone the most. she gets mad at her "best friend" well call her suzie, well they've been friends for a while but suzie always ditches her and is rude. and she gets mad, complains to me about it. she has no idea how she acts to me but everytime i try to talk to her about it she gets mad at me and turns it all around on me. she is not mad at me, wont talk to me. yet we were fine this morning. i have NO idea what to do. please help me
A friend shouldn't be treating their own friends like shit. I know this may be hard to accept, but if she's treating your friendship like trash and shows it in a way like it doesn't matter at all to her then it's time to just move on. You can try talking to her one more time and let out all the things that you wanted to say to her about her behavior towards you and your friendship. If she chooses to not listen to what you're saying and get all angry about it, that's when you know that you have to let go of her because it's useless to try and reason with her if she won't listen to what you have to say.
This may sound kind of selfish but in a way, all her anger will just make you feel guilty...so maybe letting her go would give you a bit of relief without having to worry about if your friend is gonna get pissed at you the next day or something. We all have our limits to what we can handle.. and what we can't handle.
I hope this was of some help to you! I wish you luck~ and be strong! =3
Im 15/f if it helps....
when i was little my Dad moved far away and iv always had problems dealing with it but lately its been worse I havent been sleeping at all, all i ever wanna do is hide but this morning i signed onto Yahoo and there was a message from him that he will be having another kid in the spring, i dont know how to deal with it, he also says he might only have 6 years to left and i dont think i can handle this on my own i need help.
Hi there~
I'm very sorry for what you're going through and I understand the tough situation you're in now...the reason why you can't seem to fall asleep is mostly likely because your father isn't around you when you need him. We all want a father-figure in our lives who teaches us how to love, respect, how to be strong and be an individual. It's especially hard knowing that you're dad is going to have another kid soon. Jealousy can get the best of anyone especially when you think someone is going to replace you. It's not like that at all.
Maybe this new child is in a way a bridge to for you and your father to reunite once again. Think of it as a great thing that you're dad told you about having a new member coming along because when he sent you that e-mail, it shows that he still thinks of you always and he wants you to be also happy for the new arrival.
Knowing that someone will be leaving you soon is a heartbreaking thing to know. Six years, honestly, can pass by so fast. Take this time you have right now and use it to your advantage to communicate with your father and spend some quality time with him as much as you can. Keep in touch and let him know that you're always there for him no matter what, as he is to you.
The bond that you and your father share will always overcome any obstacles that life is going to give you.
I hope this was of some help! Always smile for him! I wish you luck =3
My friend, she's really cool.
She's really funny.
But I'm worried about her.
You see when it comes to her home life, she just
shuts off. She'll never talk about anything
personal. And she always wears this jumper, even
when it's stinking hot!!
When we were changing for PE one time, I saw her
take of her jumper and I saw lots of scars on her
wrists and arms.
I know she saw me looking, and it's really
awkward between us now.
I want to say something to her.
But i don't know what.
I don't want to say something like "If you want
to talk, I'm here" because the school councilor
has said that to her like a billion times, and sh
really hates it!
Anything?
At times like this, you just have to stand up and let her know that you want to know what's at least going on and why she has those scars. It's definitely tough to ask but you both are good friends and should be able to trust each other no matter what the situation is. And don't worry, even if the school counselor says, "if you want to talk, I'm here," he's just counselor and maybe the reason why your friend hates it is probably because she's telling her thoughts to someone she hardly knows. But if it's you, I'm sure she'll confess and let you know what's going on because you're someone she truly knows and the fact that you're a friend to her.
It's good that you're worried about her, that shows that you really care for her, so if you think it's a serious problem that she's gotten into you should let an adult know if your friend has been abused...or if she's just hurting herself. Don't be afraid, because even if she doesn't want to discuss the first time...she'll eventually tell you because she knows that you're the only person who's worried.
I hope this helped you a little! Good luck! =3
Hi. I'm 18, and yes, I am an adult living at home with my parents.
I hate being here. My parents try and live for me. I know that while I live under their roof, rules apply, and that I need to respect the rules and my parents. But I think my mom's too controlling. I still have a curfew (usually around midnight. EVERY night). My mom insists on meeting every friend I make before she allows me out of the house with them, and I'm FORBIDDEN to go to dance clubs or even the hookah bar a lot of my friends chill (even though I don't smoke, and she knows that). Everytime we argue, she ends up screaming at me, and when she gets really mad, she'll take my bedroom door away. She has to know where I am at all times, and if I'm not doing something she approved of, she'll take my cell (she pays the bill), my car keys (she pays for my car insurance), and my debit card (she's cosigned on it).
If I had enough money left over from paying for school, I would support myself and move out. But I can't afford anything besides school right now, and that's a priority. But I have NO freedom, and mom and i fight constantly.
tonight she actually wouldnt let me visit my boyfriend because he and I recently fought and mom thought it'd be best if i "didn't forgive him yet".
She's controlling my life completely and I'm on the verge of a breakdown. The very thought of coming home to her after class each day makes me want to cry, and I often do on the way home. She insists all my emotional stuff is "drama" and that she is never wrong.
What do I do to cope?
please help.
Yeah a very difficult situation that you're going through now.
We all want to show our parents of how much we've grown up and have gained our own independence to live a new life.
Your mother may seem very controlling to things that you do but in a way, she's caring to you. Hard to believe at first, right? Your mother just wants to keep you in a safe situation where she eventually reaches to the extent of worrying about you and what you do after classes. It's a strange, and often mistaken as unloving, bond between parents and their child where the parent is over-protective and controlling towards their child because they want to help you grow into an independent individual and be able to face life's challenges. Your mother just wants you to grow into a strong woman who will be well-prepared for any of life's difficulties.
Find the time to sit down with your mother and talk to her about at least having a little bit of freedom to prove to her that you ARE an independent person and can handle herself. If she interrupts, just be mature and let her know that she needs to be patient and listen.
Arguments is in a way of showing that we have to handle a tough situation carefully without having to worsen it by shouting back. If you're mother is shouting at you, wait for her to cool down and use that chance to talk to her in a mature way. Arguments would always tempt us to argue back, to make us mad at others, and if she's yelling just be calm and say something that you want to say without having to say it all in a rough way.
Show her that you can be a full-grown woman who can support herself by being able to handle problems in a reasonable way.
Hope this was of some help to you! I wish you luck~ you are a brave adult now so stand up to something you believe you are ready to face! =3
Sorry about the length. I'm so mad. I feel like i'm trapped in my house. My dad grounded me for 6weeks when i didn't do anything!! I have to get out of this house, i'm constantly crying and when i do something i feel like i'm gonna scream, i'm constantly hittin/kicking the walls to release my anger. I don't know what to do. My mom is being a bitch too. ANd i'm not going to go to my brother or sister. Should i start to go to a theripest? I just failed my bio test and got a c on my math test so yea, i'm stressed about that too. I don't know what to do. I went to the therepist for anger issues, and i think they returned. I need to get some of this anger inside of me out and i'm strating to beome emotional, and i neverr cry. Every now and then i break, because i keep everything bottled up inside till like the last absolote breaking point. I don't know what to do. I need to get out of here. 14/f/fresman highschool
Anger is definitely a difficult emotion to hide away otherwise it builds in when you keep it bottled in. Anger comes back anytime in unexpected places and the source of your anger seems to be your family. Since you see them like everyday, that anger will somehow sneak through you and you just have to let it out even though it hurts so much for yourself and others.
It may be very hard to do this but you have to at least try and sort out some of your feelings to your parents. No matter what, your parents will ALWAYS be your parents and you have to come to trust them at some point in your life.
But if this is too much to handle, go to a trusted friend. A friend who'll listen to your pain. Let it all out, because once you've talked to someone who you actually trust (rather than a therapist) you'll feel a sigh of relief.
And if you need to, maybe you can live to a close relatives house for a few days, possibly weeks. Seeing as though your household is almost like a cage to you.
Also in a way, your parents will always love you even if it seems to you that they don't show any affection. But the bond between parents and a child is very strong through matter every event. It's hard to realize it but it is there. Once you grow older, you'll come to see that in some tough situations, you can only turn to your parents to support you. They want what's best for you...even if you think they're not giving enough, they are at least trying to give you something to support you.
Hope this was of some help to you! Take care~ =3
so there is this really cute guy in my school and i really quite like him. he's a year above me though and we never really talked before. so we go home on the same bus and like yesterday he kept glancing at the clothe I'm wearing and smiled at the stickers on my bag :D LOL and today on the bus he looked a bit down at first and usually I'M the one being down because i'm a bit emoish sometimes. so anyways i just couldnt stop smiling because he was just sitting there so cute and then he started to smile as well but he never looked directly at me. he was kind of "talking" to a few girls so i thought he was smiling because of them but then when they talked to him he didnt even notice so he wasnt listening at all :P but im still not sure if he likes me. i mean i can see him always turning around to look at me when he thinks i cant see him. like for examply i keep seing him in windows when hes behind me because it mirrors and he always turnes around. :] but then when i meet him in the hallway or something he just ignores me. or when I'm looking at him and i mean i really want him to see that i like him but how am i supposed to make that happen if he always looks away? i also really wanna talk to him already but i'm really shy and so is he obviously :S
Aww! Sorry but this was a very cute paragraph to read. ^^
But anyway, all I can say is take a step and say hi or...something random to him. Yeah yeah, sometimes shyness gets the best of everyone and you get embarrassed..but don't be! That's how greetings usually are when meeting someone new~ maybe once you've said your hello to him you can just do a simple compliment about him like "oh, I like your shirt," or, "that's a really cool book bag you have there where'd you get?" (well, nothing that drastic but you can say something along those lines xD)!
Before you know it, you'll be in a never-ending conversation.
Be brave to take that step if you want to know him! Keep that smile for him and I'm sure you'll be doing great!
Hope this was of some help~ Good Luck! =3
so my sister has been having trouble with the family... ALOT. i admit she is a pain in the ass and a demon at times but regardless she's my sister and i really feel that i ought to help her :S....
well she doesn't deny she loves the fam but what worries me is her pessimistic attitude towards them and towards life because of them... she believes everyone is evil and bad and she believes that there is no good at all and she must keep a wall to herself and fend for herself and put a barrier so she doesn't get hurt... my family is so borderline and dysfunctional so i understand why she's feeling the way she does... it's just that i don't want her being this pessimistic and impulsive and defensive about everything... i tried talking but she starts attacking me (and that is really really really hurtful!) or she blocks it out or she just ignores me... me and her have had a troubled past these past years but we're working on getting through it......what are ways which i could help her out and perhaps change her behavior and outlook... and create a sense of respect towards her elders? she seems to think everything is the right and she is equal to everyone or above them....
thanx
In a way, this is a problem where you have to actually step into your sister's shoes to better understand what her situation is.
Ask her friends about her behavior towards your parents and ask if there's any reason why she's acting that way.
You can try to look back and see if any past events had triggered on how your sister grew an attitude towards your family..or life, as you mentioned. I'm not entirely too sure if what I'm going to put down is the source of your sister's behavior but...maybe your sister doesn't want to feel controlled~ like she doesn't want to do things that she's been told to do (doing her chores, schoolwork, etc.) and in some cases maybe even when someone is simply giving an advice. Your sister might literally take it as an "order" from someone who just wants to help out which may be the reason that's making her frustrated or impulsive to your family. This could also cause an aura of feeling mightier than others because it could be a belief to her that she understands more about life, thinking that there's no such thing as good or happiness in the world but just filled with cruel hearts, and that could cause her to push away other people because she just wants to think that everyone is "evil."
This may not be anywhere close to your sister's situation but I hope that it could be of some help to you! You know her better than anyone else out there and it's great that you still show your love for her by trying to find ways to help her even if it's tough to search for a way. Be there for her. Maybe give her space to let her be in her thoughts for awhile (maybe she's attacking you when you try to ask her what's wrong because she wants some privacy) and give her just a regular conversation and be gentle to her...because deep inside, it sounds like she's fragile. If you do this, maybe your sister will someday open up to you because she knows that you're there for her and that you're giving her kindness.
I hope I was of some help~ take care! =3
Hey =].
I like to consider myself a religious person. But sometimes it's hard. My question is specifically what are some things I should be praying about? I mean, I don't like to pray about the same things over and over, though I do. Should I be praying for better questions on Advicenators? ;]
If you pray, what are things you find yourself praying about so that it's not always the same thing each time?
Hi there! ^^
Normally I usually pray about just hoping to have a good day at high school, for tests, games I go to, and friends. I let out all of my emotions and let them do the talking with God because it's when I open up and just say anything that's weighing me down or troubling me. This may sound weird but sometimes I randomly just talk about...random stuff! :p Kind of like, how my day went, what books I've read, or how many squirrels I saw on the road (alive ones by the way!) today~
Prayer is a way of communicating, so in a way, just say anything that would lift your spirits up!
And then I fall asleep, cause usually I say prayers mostly before I head for bed.
(I'm sorry, seems like I gave my answer a few days late hehe~) ^-^
Okay, so I'm not saying I hate my best friend "Nora?" It's just that she can be really mean to me and to our other friends.
Ex.) On this one site were I posted a story she also did and my story was more successful than hers and she wrote a bad comment about me in my guestbook ,but it was annomonsye[sp?] well i found it was her because her IP addresses matched. Well I was upset about this ,but I got over it.
Ex.) She constantly says she "hates" me and she knows that upsets me. Even thought she might or might not mean it.
Ex.) She constatly offendes me.
Ex.) We both had this friend named "Laura" but one day "Nora" decided to not like and hate "Laura" so she turned on "Laura" while I didn't .
Ex.) She talks about our friend "Michelle" behind her back and tells me how much she hates "Michelle" while I sit there an listen.
Ex.)She tells me she'll never like my type of music/style and then like it. Hiprocritic[sp?] Which strangly makes me mad.
And we are slowely drifting away. I don't know if I should go with the flow considering she's been mean. Or try to remain bestfriends with her [and try to get over all this]
So please tell me what you think of the situation. Sorry it's alot and that it whatever else I could be sorry for.
Thanks in advance. :)
I'm also in the same exact situation that you're facing now and I understand the feeling you get everytime a friend who you trusted most of your life, is treating you in a cruel way as if friendship doesn't mean a thing to her anymore. Anyway, all I can say is that it's best to let yourself and your friend drift off. You don't have to constantly feel yourself growing in pain everytime your friend is continuously hurting your feelings. Take a stand and let her know what you really think of her personality and how's she has been treating your friendship. And if she just brushes it off, don't feel any regrets and move on.
Maybe also in a way, you both needs some space from each other, I'm sure she'll understand that even if she's trying to hide it. There's always some place in time of your life where you just have to say goodbye to old friends and say hello to new ones~
I hope I was of some help and good luck! =3
13/Male- I have this friend of mine, we've been friends for years now, and I kinda used to have feelings for her a few years ago, but then realized it was awkward that way and since then, just kinda back to liking her as a friend.. Anyway, she's 13 as well and I just found out she's dating a 16 year old, should i be slightly concerned? I mean, I'm probably thinking the worse, but it's been crossing my mind the last few days and am just kinda wondering if maybe I should be a little worried.. Most of my friends are dating 13-14 year olds.. Could there be a "reason" if you know what I mean, that he'd want to have her as a girlfriend? I mean, if I was 16, I'd probably be looking at someone around the similar age.. Just my opinion..
Thanks in Advance!
Chase
Hi there Chase!
Yeah I have a very close friend as well she's 14 years old, also a freshman in high school, and she's going out with a 17 year old guy who's a junior but they're really happy with each other and there seems to be nothing wrong with their relationship too. But anyway, it's great that you still care for your friend and that you're worried about her safety. You don't have to jump into conclusions so easily when you're not even sure if it's true yourself. Also, just because of the age difference it doesn't necessarily mean that this guy is just going to use her for his reasons. Maybe he really does love your friend that same way she does for him.
But if you're friend is feeling uncomfortable with the relationship or that there's something wrong, then don't be afraid to let her know that you'll be there for her no matter what and that you'll help her in anyway you can. Being concerned is what makes friends that best. =3
Hoped I helped a little!
I am 17 years old and I'm seriously considering suicide. I've already been through some tough times with my ex-girlfriend, we had so many things planned out for the future and she left me for her ex. I found another girl I like but she's been playing games with me and I'm just sick of everything. Part of the reason I want to do this is because I get jealous very easily, so when I see her flirting with someone else it really upsets me. Now I'm only a Junior in high school, but I've been through alot of adult situations. I just want to know the quickest, easiest way to do it. I would appreciate advice on how to handle the situation properly though if anyone has it, thank you.
Hey listen, suicide isn't going to answer any of your problems now will it? You'll only end up more guilty and upset if you think suicide will resolve anything. And hey I know that life sucks and all because it just never goes that way you intend it to go, but you only have one chance to live and that's it. Don't let all your effort go to waste because since you're still young, you can still experience more things good or bad as you get older and even learn a lot from all those experiences. You gotta face the rough times as well no matter how bad it is, it's how you learn about your mistakes that shapes you into a better person.
Even if you've taken a beaten and you're brought to the ground, stand up.
Also, you don't have to handle this situation on your own. Tell a close friend of yours. Everyone needs help every now and then.
So apparently both girls weren't really suited for you after all. Keep searching, I'm sure there is definitely someone out there who'll give you love and relief. You just gotta be patient.
Hoped this helped you a little. Don't give up! =3