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not a real friend
so i have this friend, we'll call her sally. well sally and i have been friends since 6th grade, we are now in 11th grade. in 8th grade we got into a huge fight that lasted like 6 months. we haven't really gotten into any huge fights since then, but lately she has been treating me like shit. she acts like im not even a friend to her. although i do nothing wrong to her. EVER. im never rude to her. im ALWAYS there for her. shes never there for me when i need someone the most. she gets mad at her "best friend" well call her suzie, well they've been friends for a while but suzie always ditches her and is rude. and she gets mad, complains to me about it. she has no idea how she acts to me but everytime i try to talk to her about it she gets mad at me and turns it all around on me. she is not mad at me, wont talk to me. yet we were fine this morning. i have NO idea what to do. please help me
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Well to start things off i ca put myself in the same situation. I fight with my best friends to for nothing. Wat you have to do is sit down with her and mayb 1 other mutual friend or a guidence counsler or someone else. What you have to do it ask her how she feels about you. Then you need to tell how how u feel and how she is acting toward you, and how she is hurting you and how upset ur getting. I no that seems hard and it is but thats how you will know what is going on. I did that with my 2 best friends and now we have never been closer. If she is a real friend then she will tell you whats going on and she will also listen to what you have to say. It might take like a couple of talks to get everything solved. But its worth it to find out whats going on. Thank you for listening to my advice
Amandax0x
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Well she shouldnt be treating you like that if she is your friend.I would talk to her about it and see what she says.If she blows you head off then she might not be the best friend to have.Also if she says she will stop treating you like shit but keeps it up i would talk to her agan about it but if it happens a third time i wouldnt be able to stand it,i would have to say to her that we could still be friends but maybe not hang aroungd with each other.Another good thing to try is to ask her if she wants to have a little break for about a week or so and see how that works out.
I hope this advice was helpful and ai also hope that things work out.
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Thats really not right of her to treat you like that. If a friend is treating someone like that, there obviously not a friend. Try telling her how you feel one more time, if it doesnt work, then I say take some time from her until she realizes that she made the mistake. If she doesnt realize it, then you should tell her that when shes ready to be a friend then you'll be here. But, your not waiting around for her to change.
Good Luck.
-Brina
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A friend shouldn't be treating their own friends like shit. I know this may be hard to accept, but if she's treating your friendship like trash and shows it in a way like it doesn't matter at all to her then it's time to just move on. You can try talking to her one more time and let out all the things that you wanted to say to her about her behavior towards you and your friendship. If she chooses to not listen to what you're saying and get all angry about it, that's when you know that you have to let go of her because it's useless to try and reason with her if she won't listen to what you have to say.
This may sound kind of selfish but in a way, all her anger will just make you feel guilty...so maybe letting her go would give you a bit of relief without having to worry about if your friend is gonna get pissed at you the next day or something. We all have our limits to what we can handle.. and what we can't handle.
I hope this was of some help to you! I wish you luck~ and be strong! =3
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If she treats you like "shit" then she doesn't sound like much of a friend. I hate to say it, but as years go on people change. Sometimes for the best and sometimes for the worst. You could try talking to her and let her know how she acts and that it bothers you because maybe she doesn't see it. If she doesn't listen and continues to treat you badly then maybe it's time to meet some new friends because if she keeps treating people like that she won't have many left..
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