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Should I move out?
I absolutely love my father, I really do, and he's a great dad and all but... I don't want to live with him any more. He's a slob, he's always moody and he uses his depression as an excuse. He also has a lot of debt and I'm sick of having his weights on my shoulders all the time, you know?
My brother has offered me that if I want to, I can rent a room of his house. I'm thinking of taking this up and possibly bringing a friend with me so it'd be less rent for me to pay 'cause we'd be splitting it. He's a reliable guy, too.
Does this seem like a bad idea? I'm 15 and a half, I'm paid $800 a month from my job, I plan on staying in school and my brother lives close to the school.
I'm just afraid my dad will get upset and stop talking to me.
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hello.
iam exactly in your shoes right now except for the isult part. if you really love your dad you should try and help him not run away from him. you could ask your brother for help so that you can talk to him about his problems. but he needs you now more than ever. be there for him and help him and you might get an even bigger price.
p.s: i have also been they the best i did was help out because i love both my parents.
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This iz alot of hardship on a 15 year old, but Im 16 and just last year I wanted to move out because my mother would be a little moody, and things of that sort. But I decided to stay because I wanted to finish skool at my skool, and I wouldnt be able to do that, if I waz going to be in another state with some other family, but your brother lives near your skool, so I think you should first tell your father how you feel, and his reaction to it should determine what you should do
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Well in a way...it is a bad idea seeing that you're pretty young to be moving out.
The only advice that I can offer you is to be completely honest to your dad and let him know exactly how his depression and other mood swings are putting a lot of weight on you. He might take it hard at first...but your reasons will of course keep him thinking about his past actions and possibly have him realize of how much this is affecting the both of you.
It also sounds like you're taking a great deal of responsibility there too. Give your dad a little nudge so that he can be able to take care of himself. Sounds kinda strange but, as long as you're their to be more of a "helping hand" rather than the caretaker of your dad, he'll be able to handle situations on his own and maybe be able to overcome his moody/depressive side. You don't have to do this on your own if you think that maybe it's not going to help your dad, but you can ask your brother for support.
It's great that you still love your dad ^^...and as long you still have that bond, you shouldn't be afraid to let him know what you really think about this situation.
I hoped this helped you a little! Take care and good luck! =3
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I personally think that moving out would not be such a great idea. My dad was also very depressed and used it as excuses. He would make his illness his weakness and guilt me into doing everything for him. He ended up passing away almost a year ago and I regret all of the pressure and hatred I showed him. I dont think you should be worried about his feelings and him not talking to you anymore. You should be worrying about what could happen in the future and if it is worth it to break a connection that you will want forever.
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Yeah, that sounds like a pretty bad idea, to be honest. You're a little young to be out on your own, and to be honest you need to check laws in your area, because I'm pretty sure that you would be a run away as well. In texas you can move out at 17 if you choose, before that you can't. Most states are the same, or 18.
In other words, your brother could be nailed for harboring a runaway and your father can have the cops escort you home.
In all honesty, you don't sound that bad off. You havent mentioned abuse of any kind, you havent mentioned anything other than "my dad is unhappy and I don't like being around it"
As an adult, perfectly valid reason to move out.
Given that he's your father, and you're not even 16, not a good idea.
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You are very young to be moving out on your own, you need to think in the long run. Will your brother be at his house for a long time because if he moves out you will need a place to stay. Becasue you are so young your dad will be offended. If I were you i would approach my father and let him know that his "depression" is making me miserable and that I have seriously thought about moving in with my brother. I would let him know that I love him and do not want to have to move out because I want to live with him but I need to be in a better cleaner happier enviroment if I plan to suceed and be happy myself. hopefully your dad will see how important this is and change for you. As for his debts has he seen someone and tried to do something about it. He can get the interest rates lowered and many things, ask him to go to a bank they will help him. hope all goes well and please don't make impulse decisions and think things through befor making a life changing decision. Good Luck!
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I think this is a great idea. I would do the same. Hm, I would break it to my dad slowly and nicely. Explain to him that you do love him, you just need your space and already have enough problems to deal with oun your own. I hope this helps. =]
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