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ok well last summer i didnt wear any bikinis because im fat and this summer i really want to wear one i want to be preety and look good in the summer and not worry about what people think of me in a bathing suit. i do 250 crunches a day, run a mile, lift 6.6 pound weights on each arm. will i lose about 50 pounds by the summer if i do this everyday. also i have been eating healthier and slower. if you have any other workout ideas for my arms, legs, butt and stomach. mostly my butt because i dont know what to do for that. thanks ill rate 5's.
hey, dont overstress about losing weight be confident in who you are and be healthy not skinny! to become healthier here are some great booooty shaping workouts:
-lunges:great for thighs and booty firming
-squats:same but try with tens not just 6.6
-----tip doing the same weight wont be affective forever so slowly increase and also running is a high impact actvity..walk instead, walking a mile is proven to make you lose weight wayyyyyyy faster than running trust me. by walking i mean power walking btw
-----tip: walk with weights it will help tone your arms
good luck and stay healthy
-kim
okay .. so theres this boy i like && ima buy him something for vday i guess .. but like i dunno what to get him ! what do you get a guy ??
hey, here are some different ideas depending on what type of personality you are or your age.
sexy idea:
-cologne:try Very Sexy For Him at Victoria's Secret...i swear the best cologne ever!!!
sweet thoughtfull ideas:
-a poem
-make something with a not too tacky valentines theme
-watch a horror(time to cuddle) film, try the movie...Valentine. heres the tagline for the movie "love hurts" its creepy but theres always time to hold hands and duck your head into his chest during one of those scary movies.
tell how it goes!
-kimberly
One of my best friends is dating the guy that I like. And this is the 2nd time they're going out. The thing is I still like him and I can't stand being around them when they're together. And I'm good friends with both. One other thing is she tells me almost everything and she doesn't really like him that much. Is there anything I can do about this?
omg deja vou(if i knew exactly what that meant) lol ok first does your friend know you like him cuz if she does that is horrible! but if she doesnt then your situation is like mine...this guyfriend i liked asked out one of my best freinds like 3 times...but she never liked him although i guess she kinda led him on. for months i watched him like her...but good news i kinda encouraged her questioning how much she liked him and then she finally told him she really was not into him but someone else(true not trickory). Although i never ended up dating this boy(both too shy :( ....he did end up liking me according to everyone of our friends for a lonng time) so try to telll your friend you like him, while still keeping your friendship in mind and if shes really a true friend she'll understand that your definite feelings are more important than her "kinda" feelings. good luck and tell me how it goes i like a happy ending!
hearts always,
kimberly
So I know this guy likes me and I like him but he doesn't know I like him. Anyways, this one friend of mine who's friends with both of us is telling me to ask out the kid who likes me because he knows he's going to say yes. Anyways the problem is, I don't ask people out anymore because of really bad experiances with it, and apparently he wont ask me out because he's to shy and thinks I'll say no. Even when the middle friend tells him I will say yes he wont do it. Should I give it time or forget the whole thing?
PS please dont say ask him out because im not going to
hey, ive been there over and over again...although you dont want to actually ask him out, maybe you should just say how you feel and tell him that you feel the same way(scared maybe frm past experiences)let him know that you care and your not going to hurt his feelings. I know it sucks to like a shy guy who wont take action but be brave and know not all guys are like the ones in your past. good luck!
-kim
I'm 34 yrs old with 2 children aged 12 & 9. My marriage is extremely rocky. Sometimes I dream of a happy life but it just seems so far out of reach. My husband is not physically abusive but mentally I am suffering from his constant downputting of me. The kids can feel the friction in the house and that just makes me feel even worse. My main problem is that I have been suffering from anxiety related problems and I don't feel strong enough to cope on my own. How do I know if I am emotionally strong enough to get out of this bad situation.
i think that any time in a marriage where someone is being mentally abused like you are then they need to leave, you dont deserve that no one deserves that. if you dont think that you will be able to do it alone ask a friend for help or a theripist. you desrve a marriage that embodies your dream of happiness, dont settle for anything or anyone! i hope this helps you.
hearts, kim
I feel really moronic asking this because it's stupid and one of those annoying Valentine's Day questions, but it would be really nice if someone could try to help. I'm 13 in the 7th grade and I've really liked this guy named Will for a long time. He's not quite a best friend, but a friend nevertheless. I was wondering whether on Valentine's Day it would be stodgy to send him a carnation (the school is selling carnations on Valentine's Day to donate money to child prostitutes in India) anonymously? I don't think he would laugh because he's a pretty romantic and sensitive guy himself. What do you think?
thats a great idea but if you think your brave enough try to sign it with your name not anonymously this way its a hint that you care but you can always make it light by writing some kinda joke on it like:
Love and stoplights can be cruel. - Sesame Street
Love at first sight is possible, but it pays to take a second look
or be bold and say "love is blind, but friendship closes its eyes"
good luck!
hearts, kim
There's this guy I get to see once a week, and I don't talk to him or anything. (we talked once on the phone) During the week, when my mind wanders wherever I think about him. Actually, I think about him A LOT. Like in that one period of time that I get to see him, we both look at each other, kinda like flirting...well, you get what I mean. I have a total obsession with him, but I have to wait till I'm older to go out with him. I love seeing him, but when I don't see him, it drives me absolutely crazy. What can I do about this obsession???
hey been ther way too many times...theres not that much you can do but try to look at other guys to, developing other miny crushes will not make you forge about him but let you know not seeing that one guy wont ruin your day. also try doing new things and work on realizing when you dont see him its not the end of the world....but it may be for him! if you absolutley cant be wih him try those things but if maybe you could then next ime you see him try at least saying hi or purposefully pump into to him to start a conversation and then you'll know that ever other time you see eachother he is going to be thinkin alll about you! good luck!
hearts, kim
hey. im 14 years old and im looking for some romance novels! I loved Wuthering Heights, that kind of book, but im looking for some choices that are an easy read, just for fun you know!. Any suggestions!?!
hey, i think that you would really enjoy a book called Love Story by Erich Segal which in the 60's was made into a a tearjerker movie. I have also enjoyed 2 of the books by sue limb which were romantic stories about a 15 year old girl the books are called:
Girl, 15, Charming but insane
and Girl, nearly 16, absolute torture
both are funny and romantic. i hope this helped!
hearts, kim
I'm babysitting my next-foor neighbor's 3 kids. They are 10, 6, and 2. This is my first time babysitting on my own and I`m a little nervous. What should I do to keep them busy? What do I do if they begin to fight with each other, or one starts to cry? Any tips?
wel what i do with babysittin a larger amount of children at once is first tell the oldest one that you are intrusting him/her with the resposibilty of being your little helper...this way if the baby needs something or even if you need to go to the bathroom the kids will be fine. then set them up with a disney movie that would be good for the 2 older ones and simly play a little more with the baby since most 2 year olds cant stand to be still! good luck and dont stress just have fun!
hearts, kiki
I want to walk into my babysitting job with the kds running up to me saying yay _____ here! How any tips? I'll rate you high for trying
hey, that is the best part of babysitting besides after the kids go to bed lol... for the kids i babysit i bring fun movies or books that i know they will like so that they can guess what i brought in my bag of "fun". also ask the parents if you can make sundays or a special treat... sometimes i let the kids make banana plits and making them is sometimes even more fun then eating them. lastly always have high enthusism and try games they want to play whether its dress up or legos. i hope this helped!
hearts,
kiki
My mom has been smoking for a long time now. She smokes a pack a day and i want her to stop so she wont get cancer or anything. She says its really hard to stop and she already tried one of those stop smoking programs. How do i make her stop?
to convince some of my own family members to stop smokin i told them the simple facts:
-it not only hurts the smokers body but hurts your own too(second hand smoke is one leading cause for cancer)
-show her the amount of tar she puts in her lungs everyday...inform her that it takes over 10 years to rid your body of this tar...tar from the dirty street!
-show her a picture of a smokers lungs and tell her that hers may already be turning black but you need them to be pink to be healthy
-lastly explain that people whose parents smoke are more likely to begin smokin than children of non-smokers ...shes influencing you.
i hope this helped!
hearts, kiki
heres a good site: http://www.cancer.org/docroot/PED/content/PED_10_2X_Cigarette_Smoking.asp?sitearea=PED
I need some new bands to get into, because my musical band "vocabulary" is not very large.
I love bands like U2, The Rolling Stones, Bob Dylan, Joni Mitchell, Aerosmith, Coldplay, Bruce Springteen, and Crosby., Stills & Nash.
Any suggestions of other bands I might like? I would really appreciate it.
Thanks.
if you are really into that great oldies type feel then you might enjoy guns n' roses, the romones(good song "i wanna be sedated"), Journey("dont stop believing") some even older music may be Simon and Garfunkel or The Rituous Brothers, and some newer music is aqualung, hot hot heat, and Keane("somewhere only we know")i hope this helped!
hearts,
kiki
Hmm .. I want to make a new CD but I really don't know any songs. If anyone can, will you please list some songs for me that are like band music liek Fall Out Boy and All American Rejects. Thanks
hey i like pretty much the same music so see if you like these songs.....
Rock & roll queen-The Subways
Pretty Girl-Sugarcult
Loser-Beck
Cold Hard B*tch-Jet
Goodnight Goodnight- Hot hot heat
4ever-the Veronicas
Inside out-Eve 6
if your like these songs and want some more ideas jus tell me and ill give the list from my ipod...i have very a eclectic taste in music so i have everything including good oldies songs. enjoy!
hearts,
kiki
Hey what are some good british/european (english) band?!?! i like franz ferdinand, are there some good ones you could recomend?
hey, personally my fav. english band is Hot Hot Heat. try listening to their song Goodnight Goodnight, it a great song about this guys gf who keeps getting drunk and embarresing him so he finally tells her goodbye kinda funny! i also like the Killers which you have probably already heard of from the songs Mr. Brightside and Somebody Told Me. and of course if you like britsh bands then you probably really love Coldplay, which if you havent has really great music as well. i hope you dont hate my taste in music lol.
hearts,
kiki
hey people i love to write songs, poems, and stories, well i want to right more songs but i have righters jam..i cant think of wat to right..so can anyone give me ideas, some lines...show me some of your own work (i promise i wont steel your songs)(i wouldnt want any 1 steeling my hard work so i wont steel yours) anyways plz help me thanks...
hey, i am the exact way, whenever i feel down i just sit in my room and write poetry. as for inspiration usually i jus write about whats real, its called confessional style poetry. Write what you see and hear and most importantly how you feel. I really liked this guy and when he left i wrote about how i felt so numb, heres the last lines "he glanced back and then shut the door. my head falls to my hands and i simply wish that endings wouldn't have to be so hard" (sounds kinda bad when its alone lol) rite about a moment in the past, present, future anything that you know did, will or is effectin you.hope this helped!
hearts, kiki
I'm an advicenator on here, but I really need help for this.
[TiNA_DUH]
K, I weigh 145 lbs & I'm 5'3" and I think I'm fat. Now, everyone tells me I'm not [especially guys] but, I feel like I am. I checked my BMI and it's 26 which is overweight. :( That made me feel really bad about myself. In November, I weigh 137. I gained 8 lbs in a little over 2 months. I really wanna lose weight, to weigh 105, so I'll be healthy again, but everytime I try to go on a diet or change my eating & exercise, I never do. I lack enthusiasm. It's either that, or I just never have time. I'm a freshman in highschool, and I'm piled with homework, so it takes me a while & sometimes I babysit, and then I have to do stuff around the house, and by time I'm done with all that & my shower - I don't have time! How do I manage my time so I can exercise and lose this weight. I hate being fat!
Please help me. My confidence is really going down because of it. I know I'm pretty - but I wish I had the body to go along with it.
&TiNA;
i really dont think that theirs any problem with you and no teenager should be on a diet anyways. The BMI that you get from a health class or whatever is not correct it varies greatly from one persons body to anothers. also no matter how much weight you lose you wil always feel the same if you dont have the confidence in yourself from the begginning. what you can do though is simply trying to eat healthier: try not to eat too much past around 7:00, so that your not eating when your metabolism is the lowest along with the fact that you dont need the energy from that food. also dont drink soda, this lady in like arizona stopped drinkin her regular amount of soda and she went from obease to healthy in a good amount of time. dont get frustrated, the healthy amount of weight pple should lose weekly when on a diet is only 2 pounds!finally drink lots of water, it fills you up so you dont binge on junk food and it cleans your system too.good luck and remember to stay healthy not skinny.
hearts,
kiki
i am a junior in high school & i just got a job this past november, which i have had for about 21/2 months (it's at a candy store). i really enjoy it & since i am a junior i will be there until i graduate highschool. i am pretty sure (99.99%) i told the owners that i would be home in the summer to work & i am pretty sure that since i am a junior they expect me to be there. however i just heard about this amazing arts program (it's sleep away) at a college for people my age. it is pretty demanding, but i would LOVE to go for theatre. however, it's 5 weeks long...the end of june to the end of july. i don't know if i should even bother auditioning for it, because i think i am expected to work. i know i could just tell them at work that i am going away for 5 weeks & they can't do anything to stop me, but then they may not want me back after july. i want to keep my job for next year too, so i don't know what to do! what would you do in this situation? thanks!
i think that you should defintly take advantage of this programm and try it, maybe your meant to be the next picasso or valasquez. as for your job explain the situation and point out that (this doesnt have to be completely true) you may want a career in arts and this is a good opportunity. if they still dont want you when you come bac then try appling for a job at your school system, where i live for a 1 month job moving computers(not hard or too much liftin i promise) you get payed about 16 dollars an hour...way better than minimum wage! i hope it works out for ya and good luck with your art school.
hearts,
kiki
Theres this guy; and I really like him. He seems to be interested in me but hasn't made a move. I was thinking about making the first move to speed things up but idk what to do. I don't wanna ask him to the movies cause I know my parents wouldn't approve.
hey, i think that making the first move is a modern and cool look, he'll know that you care and are comfortable with him. if your parents would definitly not let you guys go to a movie, try a school activity like a b-ball game or even if your parents would feel more comfortabe, going to your own house and renting a movie(more time to talk alone, more snacks, and more of a comfort zone for you)i hope my advice helps!
hearts,
kiki
Ok I have this friend who just got married back in september of 2005. Now before she got married her husband was very sweet and all this and after they got married he was for a little while. However, the other day the went on a trip and she started joking with him because he was joking with her. Well he got mad about something she said and backhanded her in the face. I mean He acts as if there is something he needs to tell her or something like that, but he is scared to lose her and so he's being hateful about it. If any of you guys know why he is doing this I would love to know, before my friend loses her life and her unborn childs life!
i think that yor friend needs to leave him. what i learned from a reletive of mine is that anytime you are being disrepested and especially abused mentally and or physically you nedd to escape and realize that you are better than that and deserve way better. my aunt was beaten by both of her husbands one who was an alcoholic and she never tried to leave on her own my mom and her sisters and children had to convince her to get an divorce from them. your friend needs your help so dont let her be alone with him make sure that she is always safe and feels safe in this fragile time. good luck!
hearts,
kiki
This is long...sorry...but if you read this and answer I promise to rate you a 5 and I will be so greatful! thanks in advance for reading this. I have this friend named nicole (fake name) and she has been my best friend for about 2 years. She gets really annoying and is pretty stupid, and my family doesn't like her very much. She doesn't have a lot of money and her parents are completely uninvolved in her life. My parents do everything for her and we get nothing in return. She never really does anything to show she appreciates it and I really don't like that and neither does my family. So recently she's been pretty rude to me. She ditched me twice. At lunch I sit with nicole and kelly (fake also) and 3 other girls who im kinda barely friends with but mostly I only talk to nicole and kelly. well kelly is "popular" all of a sudden to nicole but no one really likes her...and no one really likes nicole because she's so annoying. I know nicole doesn't care about popularity because if she did she wouldn't be so weird and act so nerdy. We're not popular but we're not geeks, I guess we are known as just normal group, except to the geeks we are known as popluar, so i've heard. Well nicole has just been obsessed with kelly and she blows me off or is too busy to hang out with me but not kelly. I have many friends in school, like a ton, but I usually only hang out with friends once every week or maybe even less then that. I only really hang out with nicole. But shes always so busy and always grounded so I kind of have no friends outside of school. I make an effort to hang out with other girls I know at my school but it never really works out, not that they don't like me just our plans don't really follow through. Sorry I'm writing a lot but I wanted you all to understand the background of my question. So here it is...Today nicole got mad at me and I had no idea why and so her and kelly totally ditched me at lunch and sat with someone else and I asked kelly is she mad at me she said no there was no room at the table...when there were plenty. I am so mad at nicole I seriously was about to punch her because suspension was worth punching her. She totally takes advantage of me and I keep going back to be her friend. My parents and bother think I should stop being her friend and there a feeling in me that I want to but then there's also a feeling that's not willing to give her up. The main reason I don't stop being her friend is if I do then kelly wont be my friend and I'll have no one to sit with at lunch and no one to talk to during class because most people in all my classes are popular or totally nerdy and all that stuff. But today seemed like the last straw and I don't want to be her friend but I'm afraid of what will happen. I'm hoping once I start high school I'll make new friends and totally ditch her for good, but thats about 6 months away and I don't want to go with nobody to hang out with during summer if I stop being her friend. I really love her and shes so funny and fun to be around. If I didn't love her, I would hate her and think she is the stupidest person ever, and I would never consider being her friend, if you know what I mean. I love that she doesn't care what others think, but sometimes I hate it because she is truly embarassng and since not a lot of people like her, I think that's why nobody ever calls me to hang out because they probably think I'm just like her. Basically I want to know all of your opinions about what I should do. Stay her friend, ditch her, wait a little longer, etc? Please help I have no idea what to do!!! I will rate you 5 if you answer no matter if I like your answer or not, just because you read all this. By the way, im 14 female. thanks so much!
hey, been ther we girls hav so much drama as my parents say. heres what i think you should do: try to talk to her about how u feel. i know its sounds kinda stupid and hard to just bring up with out them gettin mad but if their truly your friend they will listen. when me and my best friend started to drift because she did volleyball and started to hang out with all new people and never had time to go see a movie or even just chill, i just kind of was rude back to her for a few days and then we had a huge confrontation at my house one day and i just went crazy yellin all the things that she'd done and all the things i hated about her. well afterword i knew she truly was my best friend because she told me she had no idea and was really sorry. and now we hang out all the time and she doesnt ignore me or ditch me and im even friends with her newer friends. if she gets mad or if your freinds get even worse then just stop hanging out with them and stop talkin to them...dont just drop them as a friend but make them realize what their doing to your feelings. i hope my advice works and if you need more advice you can email me at koolkiwi12@yahoo.com
good luck!
-kiki