Iv been here for a few months and I belive that helping others is a way give others hope in there lives my advice is straight forward .I have my own problems like anyone eles out there but I keep looking for the answers .sometimes life isn't easy or not fair but you live and learn every day .I hope that anyone looking for the advice they need truly helps and if you need my advice I'm here for you .I might not have all the answers but I will do my best with this said good luck to all
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I have a 1992 Cadillac DeVille. It keeps dying on me while I'm driving. It has also been smoking quite a bit(white smoke), and I've noticed it isn't getting very good gas mileage. Any idea what the problem may be? (link)
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You need a valve job done .your valves has oil caced up inside caseing it to smoke usualy when it hasent had an oil change regualery the oil becomes thick like molasses and it makes your lifters work overtime caseing it to smoke .if you take it to a mecanic he will tell you the same thing .its a messy job and price wise I'm not for sure but to be honest I don't think its cheap but I hope this has been some help to you
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``jello" id rather not say my name but i am a ten year old virgin i am very good in class(until the teacher turns around) but i masterbate. i dont do the whole fingering thing becuase i think thats just nasty.i just turn on the bath water and do my own thing.but i dont know if its against god either.and my mother doesnt know.i learned how to do it on my own.(thats another story)i just dont know to stop or keep doing it and if i do that i dont get pregnant acually doing it! (link)
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Well first of all its never too young to get to know your body .just as long as you are doing it in private.and masterbating won't get you prego there is more to it than that .everybody does it or has done it or still doing it .its apart of life .no shame in the game so like they all say enjoy .
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Okay, three months ago I posted a blog about having mixed emotions with my boyfriend at the time. Im 17/f and he is 16/m. We was together for 4 months and I started having mixed emotions. Now its been about three months, and Im starting to want him back. I thought since I had mixed emotions it meant I didn't care about him like he cared about me, so I tried talking and hanging, and moving to a new level with other guys, but it just wasn't working. Seeing him flirt with other girls makes me jealous, and we hung out a couple of nights ago and he kissed me, and it felt good again. I recently found out he called me a "stupid fat ass bitch" because he said he knew it would hurt me and he wanted to just cause me a lil pain even though it was wrong because he's been going through hell for two months and ive acted like I was fine. A part of me wants him back, but another part of me doesn't because I don't want to get back with him and my mixed emotions end up coming back, and than I hurt him AGAIN. He says he doesn't care, he just loves me and wants me back. But I don't know. I want to be with him, but Im afraid mixed emotions will come back, but im not certain if they will.
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First of all this is a confusing time for you .your young and still going through a lot of changes especaly emotional .you have your whole life to settle down with the one persone that will tteat you right .when I was your age I had this girlfriend who was 3 years younger than me and we would be together for awhile break up get back together and I tell you it was confusing for me but you see it all boils down to one thing you either have strong fellings for him or you don't .he might like you more than you like him or vice versa .but you will never know what true fellings you have for each other unless you comunicate .if you want to be with him than be with him. Don't play the cat and mouse game because can be bad .its a tough desision but here's the thing you have to be friends before lovers .it takes getting to know eachother and that could take a lifetime .what I'm getting at is this if it was me and you realy like him than start out slow and see what happens .you might be surprised of what could happen ask him to go out on dates just to see where his mind is at by asking him questions but go out alone just you too and you will then know the answer if you too are compatable with eachother. I hope I haven't confused you wiyh all this
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I am a 45 year old male. I served in the army for 20 years. I was medically discharged due to a negligent life threatening parachute collision. I could not live without being in the army. So on my last day before heading off on holidays, I went up to my room on the barracks and swallowed in excess of 300 tablets. Previously I had been diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome (PTSD) of which I was taking a cocktail of drugs. On top of that I was also taking a cocktail of drugs for the pain from my parachute injuries.So I swallowed the pills...wrote my goodbye letter to my wife and 4 daughters. Unfortunately I woke up in hospital. 2 years later I slashed my left wrist and I was bleeding into a bucket whilst talking to a counsellor...once again I woke up in hospital. I want to die. I can not take this life of mine any more. Please tell 100% how to commit suicide! (link)
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Nobody is going to tell you how to commit suicide .its not the answer .think of how this would impact your wife and children if left them behind .it would be damageing to them .it would be selfish to do such an act and deitrimental .you have to look at the whole picture here .life isn't fair and its way to short .look at me my ex wife ruind me took everything I loved my daughter my belongings .everything all because she wanted to sleep around on me while I was provideing for my family I wanted to make a differance in our lives .she even told the law I was beating my kids when it was her sex offender boyfriend she was sleeping with that was doing this and my wife was alowing this to happen .did the law belive me .hell no the believed her and for this I was charged with a 3rd digree fellony injury to a child .I haven't seen my kids in 10 years nor I can't because the law won't alow me .I did nothing wrong but try to be a husband a father and a provider .I can't even get a good job because of the felony .so yea my life is ruind and I have no one to help me .is this where I want to be hell no .but I'm not going to kill myself because lifes not fair because I know someday thins will change you have to think as every day is a new day and what you put into it is what you get out of it you either fell sorry for youself or do something positive for yourself and the people you care about the most there is always a reason to live just look at life in a different perspective and stay positve my friend
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ok, so for sometime now my bf has told me he really wants to eat me out. But i think he just wants to because i tell him i want to give him a bj. But he keeps telling me he really wants to. Im just concerned cause well...girls get wet and if a guy does oral thats gonna be pretty much in is mouth. Not to mention girls arent balled, like of course ill shave but...its not going to be perfect. Girls also give off a smell. Id think that eatin a girl out would be 100 times worse then giving head cause of all this. So my question really is, do guys enjoy, get turned on eating a girl out? I really want guys opinions cause this is directed to them, but ill take any advice i can get. I just really want to know if there is anything i should do b4, obvisously shower, but is there anything else i can to? Thank you soo much for your time! (link)
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Well I can't say every guy likes that but there is a lot that do but only if its clean .if you plan on letting your boyfrend go down on you then first you need to douche realy good that helps clean your couchy and makes it smell good .I know this might sound weird to you .but no guy likes a dirty coochy .so if you do that then it won't be as bad as you think and if he doesn't like it after that then I'm sure he will let you know .its kinda like cave exploring but only better lol
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ok so lately i have been feelin tired ALL the time. i never have energy anymore.
my boyfriend and i are sexually active, but i am never in the mood. if i force myself to try to have sex, i feel gross and dirty...like i want NOTHING to do with sex. this has caused problems with our relationship and idk what to do ro what is wrong with me.
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You have the same problem my wife has kinda .I haven't had sex with her in over a year and I'm 39 she's 33 we or should I say I am sexualy active .she sure the hell isn't. But I know I can't go on like this .I wish I could help you but I can't. Help myself .so if and when you find the answer please let me know .iv talked to my wife several times about thi issue but she can't explain it either
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I like this guy and I've known him for a while, but I noticed him recently, everything seems to be okay, but one day I saw a picture of him him putting his arm around this girl in the car and now I'm discouraged by it and feel hurt. What should I do about this? He's not a flirt. I rarely get jealous but here I am. (link)
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Well if you lik this guy than you should tell him .he might not know you like him that way .if you do this than maybe you can be with him or at least know wher you stand .never assume nothing but be sure .if he likes you the way you like him than what do you got to loose .and this picture you didn't say if it was a recent picture or an old one .but never the less tell him how you fell that is the only way you will get anywhere .
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hi m sarab 25 years old..i want to commit sucide just beacause m very poor n i lost ma first love just because i m not fucking rich....but now i have already in a relationship with some other girl n in this case also money comes between us...she belongs to very rich family ...n the main problem is m unemployed n totally dependent on others even sometimes i feel hungry so i cant afford to buy 1 burger...i tried so many times to get visa of USA but every time i wasn't able to get it...every day my father discouraged me alot,..he says i spent lot of money on u..but now m not gonna spend a single penny on u, m so helpless so i think sucide is the best way to keep my self satisfy.... (link)
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Suicide is no way out !!! Where there's a will there's a way !!!l let me tell you iv had a rough life myself iv had my ups and downs iv had my family tookn from me I was in prison for 2 years for something I did not do and I lost everything when I was younger I was homeless living from shelter to shelter working odd jobs just to make it but I never gave up .you see life is a chalange every day .its what you make of it is what you put into it .life is not easy and its not fair either .you may think that nobody cares but you would be supprised how many people do .so you lost a relationship her and there .there is more to life than your pears .who cares what people thinks of you .its who you are .nobodys perfect not by a long shot .I still strugle everyday on my past but I have to remind myself every day this too will pass .it just takes time .what you need to do is find a church wher people will help you till u get on your feet .never be to proud to ask for help its out there you just need to ask .you need to concintrate on you and if you can do that then relationships will come .but don't do something you will regret .give life a fighting chance .untill then peace man
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I use to use the dove deodorant and then it just stopped helped me. Then I started using secret brand and it stopped working. I switched to the Degree for women and then my BO came back and that deodorant stick stopped working? What is going on? Why does deodorant not work for me in covering up my body odor? (link)
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Everybody has a different PH balance and if you have tried different deoderants maybe a antiperperant or try a gell
will last longer than a stick .like a sports gell it will help you stop sweating and keep you dry .no sweat no smell .its that simple .
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My husband and I are always in fights. He wants things his way and I want things my way. I was about fed up with him and was going to pack my things and leave and he told me he wants to go to marriage counseling to try to resolve this and work our marriage out. I know he wants to save it since he approached me about therapy. Do you think marriage counsiling really works or should I just give up now save us the money? (link)
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Marriage counsiling works only if you both are commeted to it .it can't be one without the other .if you want it to work out it can but there is no gurantee like anything .iv tried it before but I found myself the only one that went to it so the outcome was a devorce anyways .if you two are ment to be with eacother than you have to put your differances aside that's the only way to make it work otherwise you will both be at eachothers throats all the time .I sugest you do your homework and look around and give councelling a try .it wouldn't hurt
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Im 42 and i want to start to smoke. Where do i start (link)
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Iv been smoking for 6 years and trust me it is an expensive habit a pack of marbrols is 6$ pack where I live at some stors I somoke a pack every 2 to 3 days .and then it makes your clothes stink so you would have to buy collgne and brush your teeth more often .and mouthwash just to get the bad taste out of your mouth .all for a ciggerete .oh and it turns your teeth yellow over time to so if that's what you want to do its you life but if it where me I wouldt think of it and quitting for some people is hard to do like me when you live with stress everyday working 2 jobs so sereously think about it first hope this helps
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I know STDs are obviously diseases and spread through sex. I was wondering if you have sex on your period if you're more prone to getting an STD of some sort? Because obviously there's blood involved and it's coming from you and they say a lot of diseases are bloodborne. I'm not going to have sex on my period though. I'm just curious about it because it makes a lot of sense to me that it would be more dangerous or whatever. (link)
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No you can get an STD at any time having sex .the best thing is to use protection .and get to know the person before you decide on having sex .there are so many STDs out there safe sex is always best but just because you are on you menstral doesn't make it easer to catch an STD you can get it at any time .hope this helps
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when my mom was pregnant and I was little she told me that the baby got inside of her because her and Dad kissed.. My parents told me that all of my life.. Well,, I just turned 13 and I never really thought much more of it.. I don''t have a boyfriend or anything and so I never even considered kissing someone or making babies.. Logically I am thinking kissing doesn''t cause pregnancy but I don''t really know how a woman gets pregnant anyway.. I don''t know um so does kissing cause pregnancy for sure or not or..?? I heard sex means pregnancy but is kissing sex then or what?? (link)
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Of course not if kissing caused a woman to become pregnant then there would be a whole lot of pregnant women out there .first of all you have to have intercorse to get pregnant that means the man has to insert his penis into the womans vagina and a lot of motion going on .a woman caries eggs and a man caries sperm when the man puts sperm inside a woman from his penis it travels to where the eggs are and if its succesfull the woman becomes pregnant .it might sound gross too you right now but that's what happens .I hope you got the idea cause I don't know how eles to explain it to you .but at your age this is not a practice for you you have plenty of time for that .you should be doing other things like shoping hanging out with your friends and so on .I hope this helps
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I been dating my bf for almost 2 years and he's just great. Today we were talking about fetishes and fantasies and he said he had a really embarrassing thing he liked and desired. So, of course, I pushed him to telling me. He was saying he likes when girls fart. I thought he was kidding but he was dead serious and even turned red. Anyways, I said I was okay and cool with it but then later he asked me if I would fart on him. I don't see why this is a big issue so I'm like okay I will. I couldn't do it then but I guess it'll happen sometime. Is it weird, you think, or do you think all or most boys like this sort of thing secretly? He's the only one who has ever said something like this to me and I'm just kind of curious if this is like common? (link)
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That's. Kinda weird.iv herd of strange fetishes before but its like quiefing I guess if it was me and I was in your shoes I would be embaresd to do such a thing .I mean there is limits to everything and I think this is one of them unless you are comfortable with it and that would be a very open relationship on the other hand too each his own I guess ?anyways don't take this personal but to me I think that's kinda gross .I would just ask him what other fetishes does he have and see what he says I mean you can't please every body right hope this helps
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I got a shirt at XXI & I washed it before I ever wore it anywhere. Problem is... it shrank, mostly length wise. Is there any way to UN-shrink a shirt, or a way to stretch it out?
Thanks in advance. (link)
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No ! Once it shrank you can't stretch it out .I sugest when washing clothes that are 100% cotton wash it in cold water and either tumble dry or hang it up to dry by its self otherwise try to buy clothes that have poliester in it but as for that shirt that shrunk chalk it up as a loss .
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im 18 and i always wanted to sleep naked but every time i do i get an erection right when i get into bed naked... how can i stop this? (link)
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Don't sleep naked !!!!
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how do i get bottle caps with out actually doing those stupid survey things that give your computer virus?
pleaassee help!
kaaitlyn (link)
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Drank a lottttttt of bearrrrrrrrr??????
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I just started talking to this guy that I work with (at a fast food restaurant). We have been texting every day all day for about a week. We have talked about hanging out in person outside of work and I don't know what to expect because...This guy and I are definitely flirty, but I literally just got out of a 1-year relationship and I honestly don't know how to tell if this guy is a player and is talking to other girls or if he genuinely likes me. What are the signs -- how do I know if this is just how he is with all girls or if he has a thing for ME only? (link)
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Ok here's my sugestion .go on a date with him a couple of times .and pay close attention and watch if he's looking at other girls or is he keeping his eyes on you .if he's. Looking at other women chances are he's just a flirt and only have one thing on his mind a true player can't resist the urge to see what the opertunites are or should I say bait .so if you seeing him looking at other women and not at you then you will have your answer that he's not fully intrested in you and you should forget him and move on
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ok i dont know what to do anymore. my ex bf of 2 years dumped me last year and it took alot of getting used to like no more kisses no more hugs i had to get used to living the single life and it was hard. this boy i went out with last year after him i only went out with him for 2 weeks. then he dumped me. after like 2 months we talked again. then i didnt actually until like 5 months later. and he kissed me. then waked right back out of my life again. i was mad for like a few days. then after that i still talked to him and then i seen him again like 3 months later i seen him one day he randomly said he wanted to see me. so i said ok and i seen him. its like everytime i see him we do things. ater that he said he wanted me to be his gf and like an idiot i said yes. that was last month. i still texted him and stuff.. then i didnt see him again until last week i met up with him like 4 days in a row more then i would usually see him and we did things. and this time i got really attatched to him for someone reason. and now he isnt texting me back. and he has pulled this kind of stuff before but i just wasnt really as mad but now i am so upset i feel like i have to start over again and it makes me mad cuz i love the feeling of being loved and kissing and hugging and now i cant do that anymore cuz i am alone and have no one. why cant i find someone who is a good bf to me and would treat me right. to me it seems like all boys are the same. help me what should i do. (link)
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Not all boys are the same it just seems that way to you I'm not for sure what age you are but that might be a lot to do with it .you see younger guys don't know what they want they just go from one girl to the next .my question is and I don't want you to ge ofensive about it but you didn't have sex with him cause if you didn't. Then that's probably what he's looking for a booty call .and you don't need someone like that .you seem like you have a lot of emotions going on in you cause you can't find the right guy but be patiant it will happen .hers what you do don't try too hard don't just take or get atached to the first guy you see take your time .I know it sounds hard to do because you don't want to be lonely iv been there before and I'm a guy .maybe you should ask this guy if he realy wants to be with you or not because you don't want to be with him when it covienent for him he's either with you or not and see what he says that's all I can sugest to you well I hope this helps and good luck
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i'm in my first year of college and sometimes, I tend to get a little stressed socially sometimes. There are girls in my classes and girls who are my friends that are just pretty, smart rays of sunshine who never have any problems talking to boys or making new friends. I get really jealous. I get really tense and anxious when i'm with a friend and another girl (or guy, especially a guy) comes up to us and starts talking to her and i get all these negative feelings at once (jealousy, anxiety) and just freeze up and can't even make an effort to socialize with the new person. On the other hand, sometimes i have better days and i'm a little more confident, but these days are uncommon. For instance, this past weekend was one of the most amazing weekends of my life. I was so happy saturday and sunday i felt like i was sitting on a cloud. And now all of the sudden it's monday and i'm depressed beyond belief. I'm paranoid that the friends here that I absolutely love are going to lose interest in being friends with me and are gonna pay more attention to other people and i'm gonna have to be friends with people who are boring like m . I don't even know. I just know that i am depressed beyond belief at this moment. It's amazing how i could go from the happiest I've ever been over two days to having the shittiest day ever today. I feel like I can never be consistently happy the way i was over the weekend. I knew that ecstatic feeling was too good to be true and all things have to crash and burn eventually with me. I just wanna be happy like everyone else is and i feel like that'll never happen. help (link)
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Well I don't think that the people you hag around with are happy all the time they just are able to hide it better .I mean you can't be happy all the time .but in your case it seems to me you might suffer from depression .I go through the same thing where one moment I'm the happiest guy arond and then its like one person can ruin it realy quick for me .but don't wory about your friends getting bored with you .it hasn't happend yet right .don't fret on things that might not happen look at the bright side of things you are in collage and ther is a lot of people to meet there its like an ocean full of fish so don't wory about that just be your self and don't panic take a deep breath and and then get out there and enjoy what life has to offer you might be suprised and if all eles fails try try again
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