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Sad, Confused, Disappointed
i'm in my first year of college and sometimes, I tend to get a little stressed socially sometimes. There are girls in my classes and girls who are my friends that are just pretty, smart rays of sunshine who never have any problems talking to boys or making new friends. I get really jealous. I get really tense and anxious when i'm with a friend and another girl (or guy, especially a guy) comes up to us and starts talking to her and i get all these negative feelings at once (jealousy, anxiety) and just freeze up and can't even make an effort to socialize with the new person. On the other hand, sometimes i have better days and i'm a little more confident, but these days are uncommon. For instance, this past weekend was one of the most amazing weekends of my life. I was so happy saturday and sunday i felt like i was sitting on a cloud. And now all of the sudden it's monday and i'm depressed beyond belief. I'm paranoid that the friends here that I absolutely love are going to lose interest in being friends with me and are gonna pay more attention to other people and i'm gonna have to be friends with people who are boring like m . I don't even know. I just know that i am depressed beyond belief at this moment. It's amazing how i could go from the happiest I've ever been over two days to having the shittiest day ever today. I feel like I can never be consistently happy the way i was over the weekend. I knew that ecstatic feeling was too good to be true and all things have to crash and burn eventually with me. I just wanna be happy like everyone else is and i feel like that'll never happen. help
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Well I don't think that the people you hag around with are happy all the time they just are able to hide it better .I mean you can't be happy all the time .but in your case it seems to me you might suffer from depression .I go through the same thing where one moment I'm the happiest guy arond and then its like one person can ruin it realy quick for me .but don't wory about your friends getting bored with you .it hasn't happend yet right .don't fret on things that might not happen look at the bright side of things you are in collage and ther is a lot of people to meet there its like an ocean full of fish so don't wory about that just be your self and don't panic take a deep breath and and then get out there and enjoy what life has to offer you might be suprised and if all eles fails try try again
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I know how you feel im 15 btw and a guy ( if that matters? ha) but last year in 8th grade i felt like i had the worst time, never could talk to people, especially girls! but now its my freshmen year and i'm in classes with no friends pretty much and i gotta make new ones. I found if you just start talking to people you start to get to know them and become friendly to them. Your friends are like some people i see all the time, never have trouble talking to people especially the opposite sex, which seems like its alot of fun. Which it is.
So just start talking to random guys you see, say hi or whatever. And I've felt how you felt about being happy to crap, just quit thinking about the negative stuff and think positive and be positive!
I'm going through the same stuff you are, i've asked for help on this site multiple times and got great advice so you can do it!
Hope this answer helped? only my 2nd time answering.
Good Luck! :)
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