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I feel I'm a waste of space I'm an older person and yet I get yelled at by my 27yr old nearly every day. I feel this way also as I was a cleaner and hurt my back nearly 7 years ago. I was on workcover who was suppose to retrain me but all I got was 4 days word 4 days spreadsheets basic computer and yet I am suppose to get an admin job. Well I've tried have had to write down 5jobs a week for over 2years now and no one is willing to give me a go. In August workcover decided to not pay me anymore so I went on a centerlink payment which lost me nearly $200 a fortnight can't pay my bills, I was going to a psychologist which they no longer pay for yet I feel I need as I have felt quite often suicidal in the last few months and I can't even buy anything to end it all. I have decided now some ways I do not need to buy anything and I have made a time limit on when this will happen as I feel my children and granddaughters will be better off. After this November I probably won't have enough food to survive, I can't pay my bills, I can't get a job because of my bad back, my daughter yells at me, NO ONE cares about me and workcover has made my life hell. I feel I,m just exsisting. I have a court case against workcover where the judge was suppose to give an answer before christmas and here it is the 10th Jan and no answer.
I just can't deal with this anymore, I can,t afford anything there will be no christmas presents this year and probably no birthday present I feel so bad about this but I have tried time and time again for a job.My emotions are out of control so am I a waste of space?
your a stronger person than that! and honestly i dont think you children and granddaughters are better off without you. i cant believe that someone would even think that. i am a daughter myself and i am telling you this no matter how bad i behave towards my mom i will always want her in my life! and if anything happened to her i would feel so guilty and so bad! and you really dont want your children feeling that way, right?! no one wants their kids to hurt like that and there is nothing more hurtful than loosing a mum! so please drop that thought completely from your mind! death is not an option!!!! you are not thinking clearly at the moment! so just take a deep breathe, be optimistic and look again for jobs. there are tons of things you can do, you can apply to be a receptionist, you can try telecalls thing you know the one that sells products through phones. you can try tons of things am sure there is a job waiting for you out there you just need time and effort to find it. and i really think all you need is a good support system, you should talk to your daughter honestly about your feelings shes old enough to understand. and tell her that her helling although you know she doesnt mean it make it harder. so just please try again its not over yet. "i always think that there is nothing impossible and there are no dead ends, there is always a way" and so far it works for me whenever i get desperate, have faith, you'll get rewarded. great things dont come easy you have to keep trying to get them :).
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Ok I have a boyfriend, same age. He moved so now it's long distance now and we hardly get to talk. I still care about him though and he's what I want.
I have this really close friend. He's 18 and just went to college so I don't see him anymore. I care about him so much. We've been friends since he was 16 and I was 14.
Anyway, I like him a lot. I broke up with my ex boyfriend because I ended up liking my friend a whole lot more than I had planned. After that we ended up telling each other we liked each other. Then I started liking my current boyfriend and he asked me out. I wasn't completely over my friend but I didn't want to miss a good chance with a guy I kinda liked.
I ended up cheating on my boyfriend with my friend. I felt bad, wish I could take it back, all of that. Decided not to tell my boyfriend because I care about him and it was never going to happen again.
Me and my friend are close so I wasn't going to cut contact with him. I'm also best friends with his sister so I'm around their family a lot.
Well, since my friend went to college, we would text and he always told me he loved me. Not like in love, but you get it.
This is kind of long so I'm just going to end it. So to finish this, my friend ended up hurting me by some things he said. He did apologize but I know I care about my boyfriend a lot. I know it might be wrong but I still want to be with my boyfriend and I want to leave my friend in the past. I just don't know how. We haven't talked in awhile but I know I need to work at getting completely over him because I know just not talking to him isn't going to work. We've been through a lot.
So sorry about how long this was, but if you could help me at all it'd be great. Thanks.
well...if your sure that your boyfriend is the one you want, love and care about then you shouldnt have anyone around you that threatens your relationship with your boyfriend. in your case your "close friend" as you've mentioned. if you do decide to cut him out of your life i support that, but you have to let him know and understand why your doing that. since you've been friends for along time, all you need to tell him is that you love your boyfriend and that you dont want to mess things up with him and you feel that having " this close friend" in your life will cause problems and you dont want that.
however, my concern here is not this close friend. its really you. cheating on your boyfriend is a problem. you need to start thinking about the things you really want. your need to understand yourself more, your still young so i am pretty sure your gonna meet tons of boys that you might like but if you intend to stay with your current boyfriend you need to be honest about your feelings towards him to yourself and just be sure of them. i think that if you're inlove 100% and your sure of it you'll never see anyone but your boyfriend anymore. so i guess you just need to invest more in your relationship and in your self. personally, i have a boyfriend we've been together for 7 years and we've been through so much together so we're really in love, if i ever felt that someone in my life is threating the love we have, i'd cut them off cuz my boyfriend would always mean more to me than that person. but thats just me :D you could always go for the long confusing road but i really dont recommend it, its really messy and you tend to lose things along the way. if you know what i mean. hope that gave you an insight on the situation your in. hope it helped.
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I have a blood stain on a sheet and a pair of pants. I really need help getting them out. PLEASE HELP A.S.A.P. I can't go out and buy anything because I need them today! Please give a quick easy solution!!!!! QUICKLY!
THANKS
here you go i hope that helps : (simple steps)
1-Wet the stained area in cool or cold water.
2-Rub a generous amount of soap or shampoo right into stain.
3-Scrub the area hard between your fists, with your palms facing each other
4-Work up a good lather. Add more water if needed.
5-Rinse in cold water and repeat until the stain is gone. Do not use hot water. Hot water makes the stain set in
6-it should be gone but if the hand washing with soap does not immediately get the blood out, pour ammonia straight on most items of clothing--it will NOT damage the fabric like bleach will. It will not fade your clothes unless the dye in the fabric is not permanent or tie dyed or batik.
hope that helped :D
i heard whispers sometimes..even when im alone and it really freaks me out:( what do i do?
if that happens when your awake you might just ignore it. but if that happens when you sleeping, you always put headphones on and listen to music. sometimes when i watch a horror movie and i find it impossible to sleep i put on headphones play soft and nice music i like and that always puts me right to sleep :D i think that would work with you too. and you dont need to freak out. i really dont think whatever your hearing can hurt you. you should always know and believe that your much more stronger. and you might say a prayer whenever you hear the whispers it might just go away. worth a try.
My ex boyfriend text me today, apologizing for everything that he did to me and he told me that he's glad that I found someone new and that he misses me. Basically we dated for five months and he broke up with me in August through an instant message conversation, he was my first real boyfriend and my first sexual partner. Before we dated I had known him for almost half my life, and I guess that I was his first “love” although it's complicated because he did a lot of things towards the end to dick me around.
I decided that I miss our friendship but I don't know if I can have in my life after the way that he treated me, so I asked for closure. Closure to let go of someone who was a big part of my life.
Well since we've broken up I've met someone new, and in my eyes he easily towers over my ex boyfriend. I've been dating this guy for about a month and I think that we have a real future together. I just feel this comfort around him, like I can totally be myself, he doesn't insult me and I felt like my ex started to. I can open up to him and when I feel insecure about something, I know that I can tell him.
I made plans to hang out with my ex for closure but now I feel like it's a stupid idea. I'm really afraid of messing up what my boyfriend and I have together. He's going to be there when I get my closure, but I just feel like seeing my ex again will be a bad idea.
Maybe it's because when I saw my ex, he used me for casual sex. I'm a little bit worried about feelings reigniting somehow, I don't know. Like I realize that my ex and I were never meant to be, and my current boyfriend is really great for me. It's weird, are these feelings normal and is it really a bad idea to get closure from the guy that I previously dated for five months, have known for years, and whose friendship I miss? Or am I right to want closure and just worrying over nothing?
my advice is simple. you really dont owe your ex-boyfriend anything. if you really feel like you need closure (face to face) then go get it but if you can manage without, then just save yourself all these feelings your having and forget about him and dont go. i personally had something similar once. i chose to just block that person out of my life completely since he really brought nothing but pain in my life. so it wasnt worth it. i didnt feel that he deserved any attention or for me to waste any of my time on him when i could be doing something better. another thing if you really think that there is any possibility that you'd get any feeling or doubts back by seeing him face to face, i'd advise you not to take the risk hes not worth it obviously. and you can just get a closure over the phone just like he broke up with you ( he didnt give your relationship importance then, so you should just do the same dont make him feel important). i am pretty sure that you wont miss much about him. and your current boyfriend sounds awesome :D and you shouldnt take any risks of loosing him if you feel there is any in this (face to face meeting) hope that helped abit.
I would like to get rid completely of black cicles and saging skin under the eye
- You can use a concealer for a quick fix: Using yellow will neutralize the blues, purples, and husky hues on the skin. This does not remove the problem, but can build your confidence for the day, by alleviating the 'tired look'.
- You can use tea bags and cucumbers: Yes there is definitely something to those commercials where women have cucumbers and tea bags on top of their eyes. Both tea bags and cucumbers reduce inflammation and decrease swelling. Tea bags are especially good to use for dark swollen circles because there is tannin inside of the tea that helps with eliminating the puffiness.
- You should use more anti-oxidants: Antioxidant treatments help to reduce fluid buildup under the eyes, which decreases the dark circles. Therefore, you should go for treatments that involve a lot of vitamin C and GHK copper peptides. Also, vitamin K is great for restoring stability and strength to the blood vessels under the eyes, which reduces their proliferation.
and of course you need to starting organizing your sleep and have plenty. regular sleeping habits/schedule will help.
hello, i've been with my boyfriend for almost 11 months, everything was great at first but he started to stop talking to me that often and he said it was because he thinks i want other guys, he has been saying this for half a year...he says that he thinks im really really pretty and that its obvious that im trying to get guys attention cause i get dolled up (but to be honest i just do it when i HAVE to ) how can i change the way he sees me ?? he loves me and i adore him and i have never cheated on him and he once cheated on me, he thinks im just this horrible person, he says that its so obvious that i crave for other guys attention and thati just want guys to be looking at me and to be wanted by guys :S when to be honest i am NOT and between my friends i am the one that to less stand out to be honest my friends are very pretty tall girls great body white skin, im short average body not fat but not skinny pretty face long hair brown skin..my point is , i understand he thinks that way about me like he thinks every guy out there is trying to get with me and its soooo stupid because the truth is SO far from it !! i dont stand out at all ! but just because to him i may do it he says that he doesnt wanna be with a gril like me who just wants to be wanted (because according to him if i go out with my hair done and wear heels eventho i dont wear them often at all its because i want to get guys attention) to be honest the only reason i take care of my image is because i go to a rich kid's school, everyone there is literally dressed like the girls that are on the show gossip girl, just to go to uni they go like theyre going clubbing hahaha and i do noooot look like tht at all im like usually on jeans flats a regular shirt and have my hair done and a bit make up, im not trying to stand out but im trying to not stand out for being the laziest girl to at least do her make up....im just trying to pass unnoticed....but my boyfriend left me because he says that i am always trying to look good , when to be honest i look like every other girl out there! not over dressed but not in wearing pj's ...he says he cannot have me as his girlfirend anymore because he thinks i want other guys :S when the truth is i dont and i only want him. please tell me what could i do to change his mind , i never ignore him i always take his calls answer his texts i try to speak to him whenever he wants but he has changed alot :S he says he still loves me more than anything but he deleted me off facebook he says he doesnt want to see me there, he never replies until hours after i have texted him, he never makes time to speak to me and he says he is always busy eventho he isnt doing anything imoprtant !! he once said to me when he was very upset that it was because i didnt deserve his time of day for being a gilr that wants to attract other guys when he is my boyfriend, when i swear i never do anything like that :'( im desperate and i dont want him to leave me cause he thinks im a slut :S i prefer him leaving me over something else ! not because of something he thinks i am !!
to be honest, what i see is the following: i think your boyfriend feels guilty of something he did and thats why he's been trying to make you feel that its your fault and not his. i really think there is nothing wrong with you and its not a bad thing to look good. i am 22 i have a boyfriend and we've been together for 7 years now. i always like to look good and be noticed its not a bad thing it doesnt make me a slut and it doesnt mean i want other guys, i like looking good cuz it make me happy and lifts my self esteem and makes me more confident which makes me even more sexier in my boyfriends eyes. and hes not insecure to think that i do it to get other guys. so i hope you see that your boyfriend is the one with issues not you. hes got self confidence issues or as i said feeling guilty for cheating on you that in his own mind he's trying to make you feel like your the cause which is wrong. so there are 2 options here, either you ignore him and hopefully he will understand how stupid his decision was. or you talk to him and tell him that you're not going to change the way you look cuz it makes you feel good and that he should worry only if your behavior says that your out to get boys and not anything else. which you dont do. and tell him that he should be more trusting and honest if he loves you as much as you do. then just let him decide. and really you shouldnt be depressed or feel bad. your not a slut your normal and your a girl you should look good and feel good about it too! and no one should tell you otherwise. let him deal with his own issues.
so i've got this very inconvenient fuckin cold sore on my lip and i'm 22 and never had one before. my friend gave me abreva, a 15-dollar tube smaller than my pinky finger. i've been puttin it on for 2 days and it feels like all it's doing is irritating this mean-muggin cold sore i've got pulsating on my upper lip. it turned white and tingly as shit. i was just wondering... say this little bitch decides to explode over the plate of food that i'm eating. and i dont notice. not until i've already swallowed a bite. does this mean i'm gonna get cold sores all down my throat and i'm gonna suffocate. whats goin on here
a cold sore usually lasts for about 7 days. you can put ice on it, it defiantly make it go away faster and reliefs the pain. there is also a cream that you can apply that would reduce its life time make it go away faster its called "zovirax". here is a link to learn more about the cream "http://www.drugs.com/cdi/zovirax-cream.html". you will need to get used to a cold sore cuz you might get it again. i will give you a list of things that make a cold sore active again, stress, fever, cold, flu, weather changing... usually stress and a cold are the main causes. other times the cold sore will remain dormant. but the bright side is at a certain point in life you will learn to deal with it before it shows and after a while it will stop showing at all. read and learn more about the virus online.
Everytime I get drunk I do outargeously stupid sexual thongs with people I know and each time I regret and am ashemed but then I still do It the next time and bi never learn but I always regreat!!
What is wrong with me? Why do I always have to do sexual things with guys evthat I know! Even tho I always regreat and feel ashemd the next day
Why don't I learn?
the answer is really simple "STOP DRINKING" and then you wont have to do "any outrageously stupid sexual things".
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I have liked my friend for over a year now. Almost two years. We're really close...or we were. He's 18 though. I've known him since I was a freshman and he was a junior. I'm a junior now and he's in college. He left to go to college like last week.
In September we told each other we liked each other and all that. We wouldn't go out because he was gonna leave and all that. We would talk all the time and then it went on to the sweet stuff like he cares about me and could picture marrying me, ect. So before we even told each other how we felt I was crazy about him. I had a boyfriend and I still couldn't get over him. So pretty much, I liked the guy so much. I don't want to say love because I'm never too sure but he's the guy I've felt most for.
Well one night we ended up making out.
We were cool after that. I found out he also liked another girl but that didn't really bother me too much because he knew I liked someone else also. I thought about it a lot though because I liked him so much and he started texting her like he texted me.
Well then it started going back to normal again with us. We'd talk on the phone all night and text but he told me he liked me but only as a close friend. I was confused but I went with it.
He eventually would bring up sex and stuff. He knows I don't want it. He always knew about my problems with guys because I told him about what guys have done and all that. Anyway, he would eventually start texting dirty to me and stuff. Then it went back to I like you. Actually he was telling me he loved me and wished he was with me and that I was older. Not like that whole in love kinda thing. He said not like a girlfriend but he did love me and care about me.
Ok so I never understood how he felt. I just assumed he did like me but was confused, just didn't like me too much or maybe he was just messing with me. All I know is that he does not like me as much as I like him. I never told him how much I liked him though. You know, don't wanna weird him out.
Well I didn't talk to him all this week because he left. But he texted me last night and we were talking and stuff. It seemed totally fine and it was really sweet. We texted from like 9pm to 5am. Except I had fallen asleep on him but he texted me before class and after.
He texted me today around 5pm and we texted for a couple hours. It was all about sex this time. Well then later he texted me around 9 and it was the same. Some of it was nice and stuff but then it was like what he wanted to do with me and all that.
Then he called me so we talked on the phone for about half an hour. He tried starting with all that again but when he started like asking questions, most of my answers were, "I don't know" or "maybe". He told me he loved me though and I was like, "mhmm sure I believe it." Then he started going on about my trust issues. He was going on about I didn't trust me two last boyfriends. I mean I think I have reasons not to. One almost raped me and the other cheated. So he went on about how annoying it was when all I said was "I don't know" and "maybe".
Well then he called me a tease. Jokingly, he's brought it up before. He says I am because I only let him make out with me and only have a taste of me and not the whole thing. Anyway, he called me a jerk. I don't know why and he started talking about how he was a player. I agreed but then he was like, "Yeah I break your heart?" I said, "mhmm" I was kinda crying when he was saying this stuff. He couldn't hear it though, thank God. But he was talking about how I'm one of the few girls he's been talking to, ect. He told me I was the 2nd girl he's ever made out with though. I already knew that but still. This stuff kinda hurt because he kept saying he wanted to ask me out when he got back in May. I was like, "Yeah..because that would soo work. Only like 3 months together." He said, "Yeah but you're graduating." I said, "Yeah, in like a year." He asked if I liked him and I said, "Idk" and if I wanted to talk to him. So eventually I got off the phone and he said, "Good night. I love you" Then I just said bye.
All those things he was saying. I don't understand and he's being confusing. I don't even know if he cares or if he just wants sex out of me.
So he texted me after that saying, "I'm so done with you." I said, "I don't even know wth I did" He said, "Your so ugghh anyway, I'm done talking to you." I said, "All you want is sex and I actually kinda liked you. But do whatever you want." He said, "Yeah I know all I want is sex its so wrong so I will get it right." I said, "Just don't do that to me again." He said, "Do what?" I said, "Make me that upset." Then he sent this long message saying, "I'm sorry this is 100% my fault. I feel so ashamed about what I have done with you and to you and all those bad things I said. I'm asking God and you to forgive me and I will never do this to you again. I am sorry I hope I didn't hurt you."
So this was really long and I'm sorry but I am so confused and hurt. I might be kinda pathetic for crying for so long but yeah. I still like him so much but what should I do? I don't want to lose him but I'm afraid he really didn't care about me like that. Thank you sooo much
wow.. yes that was long and confusing to me too..lol... but the obvious and simple answer is that hes really not worth it. you might think 18 is old but trust me its not, hes just a teenager and hes not thinking with his mind hes thinking with something else..loll... hormones and stuff. so you shouldnt be pressured into having sex. hes not the last guy you'll ever like or love. and you said you had problems with boys maybe thats what you should be focusing on right now. forget about him and focus on you and how you tend to choose the wrong type of guys, your confused and your young you need to understand and find your self first. you need to be more confident and have more self esteem. the guy you've been writing all this about is obviously just a child... you know scientifically speaking girls mature faster than guys, hes not mature yet, he does not even know what he wants yet. so cut him out of your life a have a fresh start thats what i would do. change is good in your case. make over your life be a better person with better choices. and be single for awhile you need to spend time with yourself not with some one that confuses you and makes you feel bad.
I have really straight hair that is fine and thin. I take care of it but I wish I had curls. I totally love curly hair. I was thinking about getting a perm one day but my friend said that my hair would break off since it's so fine and that I'd be better off just leaving it the way it is. My hair pretty hard to curl since it's so straight and I also wonder if the perm wouldn't hold because of that?
Anyway, is it possible for a person with fine, thin hair to get a perm or will it damage it too much and break it all off or burn it?
Thanks.
dont get a perm there are much easier and faster ways that you can get a curly hair. check this out you might find it useful its got several videos of how to get nice looking curls without using any products or heat or anything like that. its really easy. heres the link http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eh8ZknFFYBI
note: the perm will in fact damage your hair and that worse part is you cant get your old hair back once you do it. search for disadvantages of perms on google and you'll get a whole list of them.
To begin with, I love my boyfriend...we always have a great time together and he is my best friend. He's the only guy I've ever done stuff more then kissing with and I've lost my virginity to him (and he lost his to me). This morning I woke up really happy because we had a date last night and it was really fun. But then I checked my facebook, and everyone else updated their status about them hanging out with friends and my best friend sent me a text and said she missed hanging out with me...I'm so confused, because I LOVE hanging out with my boyfriend, I'd rather hang out with him then anyone else, but at the same time I miss hanging out with my friends. I feel like my friends are just like "oh, she's always with her boyfriend now, she probably won't want to hang out with us anyway" and they never invite me to stuff like they used to :( I guess I have been more distant since I've been with this guy, and I miss my friends but I'd still choose to hang out with my boyfriend over hanging out with them...I don't know why but I've been craving the 'single life' lately, even though I'd never break up with my boyfriend, at least not right now. And I don't believe in 'taking a break'...if I ever broke up with him (or him with me), I couldn't ever allow us to get back together because if we can't work out the first time, then we probably can't work out the second time. So what do I do? I feel like I'm torn between my friends and my boyfriend, but I'm not...I'd rather hang out with my boyfriend. Maybe I just like the idea of being more social rather then actually doing it? A lot of times when I used to hang out with a friend, I'd get really bored and just want them to leave so I could be alone...I just don't know what's up with me! I'm so confused :( please help, any advice is appreciated!
Also, if it helps, I'm 17 and he's 18...we've been together for a little bit over a year.
i dont think you need to break up with your boyfriend, if you love him. all you need is to balance your relationships, you need to have time for your friends as well as your boyfriend, i know that can be hard, but with the years you'll understand that you need friends too and that you cant make your whole life revolve around your boyfriend. both of you need to have friends and a social life other than just it being you two together. imagine this you and your boyfriends lives are like circles you need to interlock and not overlap, if you know what i mean. so get your own friends and let him have his own friends and every now and then you two can go out on dates, talk on the phone about your day, trust me you'll have so much more to talk about now that u both have a life. and you'll see that this will get you closer to each other and you'll have a healthy relationship, one that is not obsessive (does not revolve around eachother) and that doesnt mean that you guys dont love each other.