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ok well this is the story of my recent realationship.

well earlier this year in january, my friends got me together with a friend of theirs, max, (they go a different school to me} and they gave him my email, and we started taking heaps over the net.. then on my birthday, 24th of january, me and my friends went to the movies and we invited him, and i met him for the first time.

we had a great time and he told me he would like to be in a realiationship with me, he told me i was perfect and beautiful and i was just so happy :) so then we met up again the following week and we went to the movies again and he officialy asked me out and of course i said yes.

so we were dating and we were both so happy i was so inlove , he would message me all the time.. wwe went to different schools so he would call me everynight. and then i got into his school the following week so i was going to be starting at his school in a week. we were both so excited, and i knew heaps of people there so i wasnt nervous.

so now i go to his school, we would sit with eachother at lunch and recces and sit with eachother in classes. i was so inlove with him and still am .. we were like the happiest couple going around.. then we went out last saturday together and it was basically the best day of my life , i just felt so happy he made me feel so loved. then the next day [sunday] we got into a fight basically over nothing and he was really angry at me and then i tried to sort things out but it was really hard becuase he didnt come to school on monday or tuesday and we didnt speak for 2 days [thats the longest amount of time that we hadnt spoken to eachother] so i sent him an sms on tuesday afternoon telling him that i wanted to sort things out and that i loved him and i asked if he was ok because he hadnt been at school. he then wrote back that he was not well and that he wanted to sort things out aswell, then i told him to call me that night so we could sort it out and his reply was that he had lost his voice and couoldnt talk. so i was left no choice but to sort it out through sms because it was killing me and i just wanted to fix things.

so we just started talking about things and how out realtionship was changing then he told me that he didnt love me anymore and that he was sorry. those words hit me like a ton of bricks and i am heart broken. i didnt understand how he had just fallen out of love with me when the 2 days earlier we were the happiest people walking around.. i am so confused.. he didnt come to school all last week..
and i talked to himn last night for the first time since the break up [a week] and he said he was really sorry and that he is really confused at the moment.. he also said he wasnt over me yet.

i really dont know what to do.. i know that there is still hope for our small little twisted realtionship and everyday i still think to myself.. he will want me back i know he will.. but nothing so far.. i havtn seen him since we were a happy couple so im hoping that when i see him at school next week that he will realise he did the wrong thing..
but could someone help me out i dunno wehter i should just try and move on or try and get him back..

im thinking about him all the time and no matter where i am or what i'm doing or who im talking to; he's the one thats on my mind.

i went out with this guy for a month.. and it was the best month of my life.

i dunno what kind of advice i need but i just need something .. some sort of direction..

thankyou for reading this it means alot to me.

Okay, one of my friends is going through this right now, so I will try to help you as much as I possibly can. I personally think he is going to go back to you, but I would still like him and go for other people at the same time, ya know? Maybe, just like flirt a lot, it might help you possibly get over him too. Don't over do it in front of him though, cause that could make things worse. Still talk to him though, talk to him how you would on your email before you guys met. and honey, if he doesn't go back to you, he's just plain out stupid, and he doesn't realize what he's missing out on .. i hopee i helped [: .. if you need anything else just ask !

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I have mild acne on my face, chest and back.
what would you guys suggest for me to use to help clear it.. i have mixed feelings about proactive...
ive been usind oxy pads, but they havent shown much improvement...
anything will do thx!

proactive does truly work .. but some of my friends have used it and for all of them , it made their acne worse , but then it cleared up pretty fast. so i dont know if thats for everyone? but they said it works really good. but if your still having doubts, try using neutrogena(spelling?) product .. they work for me ..

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i am 15/f i am still a virgin and i plan to be until i find the love of my life that i know for sure im goin to marry. or i might just wait till marraige.. i just feel it's the right thing to do ..im not all religiousy (if thats a word) but i do believe in God.

okay so i never had a boyfriend well 2 one in 1st grade and i hated him (long story short: only went out because i needed a pack of post-its that he had) and the other guy was a player and i wasn't experience and wasn't ready to be.. i didnt even kiss him.. i never had a serious relationship basically.

so yea i am an attractive girl and guys ask for my numba i usually blow them off and i meet new guys and eveything and there are a few i like...but everytime i like i guy i always have to picture being married to him and having kids and just living the dream that i want with a nice man that i'll love...(i dont really go out wit boys because im scared of a broken heart also). is that a good thing thinkin about my future with a boy???? i know sometimes that i wont really end up with them but it's just a habit i have. any of you relate?
also i've been talkin with this boy from my school and i really really like him i just hope he feels the same about me. he talks to me in school and today was the first time we spoke on the phone. we talked for a hour and a half.. (hes one of those boys that are hard to understand)but i want to have a relationship with him. i want it to be the perfect relationship..but i know i have to go through the bad to get to the good the only thing is that i think imma be shy with him and that we wont be how i want it to be...does anybody have any advice they can give me or any opinions to what i said??? thanx for readin

Okay i def. say go for this boy you like now! I used to be scared of a broken heart too , but I have gotten over that stage. Your going to get hurt with everyone eventually ... But maybe just hint it to him that you like him or find out who he likes. Now if you lived in Ohio(like mee :]), people have this term as a freezer ,, people that dont do stuff. Pretty much all of us dont want to be a 'freezer' so we all have kissed. But just start with a peck seriously. But wait for a special guy, and for the right time. If someones pressuring you to do something ... DONT DO IT , you have no need to do if it doesnt feel right. Uhmm ... and I also dont want to bring your hopes down but, our teacher(shes around 32 and shes like normal && we talk to her about stuff) she told us that no one our age gets married anymore ... like no one stays together that long, because the divorce rate increased a lot or something. But just talk to this boy .. if you want help on figuring out if he likes you .. just ask me :]

xoxo melissa

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ok im 13 and cacussion(dont think i spelled that right),and my boyfriend derrick is 14 and african american.ok my dad is so raciest and my mom isnt.like i had to tell my boyfriend that i wasnt alowed to date.so when we hold hands or something we have to stop so my dad dose not see.i babysitt his little sister and we like watch movies while his sisster is asleep and we hold hands an sit close but if i hear my dad coming we have to seperate really fast!!!im getting really tiered of it and its pissing me off.breaking up with him is not an option so what do i do???

Okay you REALLY need to talk to your dad. I would probably write a note its a lot easier. But dads are ALWAYS going to be protective ... so he's gonna just find one thing not to approve of them && in your case its race. But just tell him how you feel and you feel as though you really like him. Tell him to imagine him in your shoes. And ask him what would he do if his mother was raciest and he was dating a african american girl.

If you need more help , just send me a message :]

xoxo melissa

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Hey. ^.^ I'm a f/15 and I have a boyfriend. My mom caught me and him getting really close, and now i'm not allowed to see him. I was fine with that, because I planned to move out whenever I get a decent job, and some money (and of course come of age), but my mom continues to tell me that i'm not leaving the house until I finish college. (Which means I won't leave the house until i'm 24 or older...)And anytime I happen to tell her i'm moving out until I am legaly an adult she screams at me, and cries to my dad insisting that I hate her and want her dead. Which gets me on my dads bad side. But, she think she has cancer so i've tried to forgive her, but i've just found out that she went to the doctor, but didn't get a biopsy to prove she does. So she "feels" like she has cancer, when really I just think it's menopause. It's really quite horrible and because of her mood swings i'm starting to become an angry person. And lately she's been pushing another guy onto me in hopes that me and my boyfriend will break up, and sadly, I think it's working. The guy she's been pushing off onto me has gone off to the marines, and anytime I tell him I just want to be friends, she yells at me more and tells me i'm ungrateful, disrespectful, arrogant, and irresponsible. I've tried my best for 15 years to keep her happy. I've never done drugs, never had sex, I NEVER cuss, and i've never drank. But she continues to tell me i'm a bad child. But, we're also in the middle of a move so I figure somewhere between moving, her "cancer" and menopause, she's just having a bad decade. But, it's gotten to the point to where she started crying because I asked her for my own bed! I have a twin sister who i've been sharing my LIFE with for 15 years, and she flips because I want my own bed. And after the incident where she thought I got too close to my BF, she has threatened to hit me, called me a whore, and she cusses out my existence all the time. She gives me dirty looks whenever I walk into the same room as her, but again thinks I want her dead because I don't want to be in the same room as her. And, again, all of this wouldn't be so much of a problem but just a few hours ago I was writing in my diary about how much I really don't think she has cancer, and how I really think it's just her way of having a pitty party, and I left it on the ground. Now, she is constantly listening in on my phone calls, which I have nothing to really hide so it's just a stupid invasion of privacy I think, but she read my diary. It was locked, and under books in the bathroom, and she pryed it open, and started crying to my dad saying I left it open for her to read intentionaly so that I could let her know just how much I hate her. But, fighting won't get me anywhere, i'm too young to go anywhere, and crying certainly doesn't help, so I have no where to turn! We've been to family counceling and she makes it a point to make sure I don't say anything. The minute I open my mouth to tell the councelor about her threatening me, she immediately interupts and tells the coucnelor that I have a horrible lying problem. I need someone for some advice please make it quick! I don't know what to do, because i'm starting to think that I really do deserve what she's doing...Am I really a bad kid? ...Should I hate her? What can I do to make things better? I've already tried talking to her, but she starts crying and continues to insist that I want her dead, and that I hate her because I don't feel bad that she has cancer...But no one knows if she does! She keeps saying she's going to die soon, but she refuses to get a biopsy because she's afraid she won't have cancer and she'll be missing half of her breast for no reason....


I guess my biggest problem is low self esteem right now. Or maybe not...I don't know!! Please tell me what I can do, because she's starting to drag me down into depression, but I don't want CPS to take her away!!

Okay well ... I can't really help you with the breast cancer thing cause I don't know anything about it. But, in counseling, get your twin to say something ... Or become close to her && eventually get her to speak up for you. And NO your not a bad kid. (My friend once told me , he does drugs && drinks && a lot of stuff like thatt, I may do bad things, but I'm NOT a bad kid) .. No dont hate your mom either ... all this will lead up to something good , I promise you that. To make things better will be hard , but maybe try writing a letter .. telling her how you feel && write one to your dad too so she can't go crying to him. Also maybe kinda try to bribe her or something giving her chocolate with the letter or something. && I also have a low self esteem because of my cousin , so I know how it feels. But mines more psychallyy(i cant spell lol) than emotionally/internal. But if you need help with that just send me a message :]

xoxo melissa

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Dear Advicenators,

I have a very bad problem. I have this feeling that I don't want to study anymore. When I learned about how I felt, I was disappointed, I never knew I could actually feel this way because I'm an honor student. I moved to a new school, and when second semester came, I had this feeling that I don't want to pursue my studies anymore. Or maybe its just because I felt really bad about my grades during the first semester because they were surprisingly low. Or maybe I'm just going through some sort of phase. I really don't want to think this way because I know that my mom works very hard for my education. How do I snap out of it? [f/13]

Super Thanks in Advance!

Love,
Stacy

Dear Stacy,

It could be that your adjusting(spelling?) to a new school, and your just not used to their learning circulum. It also might be a phase. Are other kids that you hang out with not on the honor roll , or dont like to study? If that's it , you might just be hanging out with them too much or something(not a bad thing , still hang out with them .. but have more serious/hardworking friends). I hope I helped :]

xoxo melissa

if youu need anythingg else , justt ask :] ... (lol oh and i tried to sound kinda smart if you couldnt tell)

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hi my name is ashley and i need some help with finding a new screen name for aim... can you help me?

lol sorry im probably like wayyy late on answering thiss .. but uhmm do something cute like ... ohh && whatss ur middle name or a nick name people give you? cause that helpss too :]

ASHlEY x0

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hi... i have had the same AIM screen name for a really long time and im sick of it. i have been wanting to change it for a while now except i dont have any good ideas. i want something i can keep for a while maybe somehting with my name. which is katie or my nickname which everyone calls me KP. thanks

okayy how aboutt maybe

KATiE x33
KATiE x Y0URMiDDLENAME x3
K(middle intial)Px3
oMg kATiE sAysz x
KPx3
PiiNkP0LkAd0tSx0

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I’ve been having issues with my parents lately. I have a different problem for each of them. I guess this is a two-part question.
In order to fully understand my situation, I think a little background information is required . . .

My parents met one another while they were in highschool. They started dating soon after and eventually my mother ended up pregnant with me at the age of seventeen. It was completely unexpected and unplanned - I was a ‘surprise’, if you will. At the time, my grandmother was a very traditional woman. The idea of premarital children just didn’t sit well with her. She managed to convince my parents that marriage was their only option. They married three months after I was born.
Because my father came from a wealthier family, he graduated from highschool and was able to attend university. My mother, on the other hand, dropped out of highschool four months before her graduation so she could get a full-time job in order to support me and father while he was in school.
It’s not really a surprise that my parents are divorced now, they have been since I was five. But that’s not the issue. I live with my mother and stepfather now and she often talks about how she wishes she hadn’t been so careless when she was younger. She’s always warning me not to ‘throw away’ my youth like she did.
I know she doesn’t mean it, but sometimes I feel as though she resents me. I can’t help but think about how much better her life could have been had she not had me at such a young age. I know this is all in the past, and what’s happened cannot be changed but I would just like to know how I can get past this feeling of “I ruined my mother’s life”. I'd like to be able to stop feeling like a mistake.
Any and all advice is welcome =]

And that’s just my mother. . .
Now for part two - my father.

Like I mentioned before, my parents got married and then divorced at a fairly young age. I live with my mother so I only see my father once a month, if that. I wouldn’t exactly say we’re close . . .
Anyways, a few days ago, my mother told me a story about my father that really disturbed me. She told me that three days before their wedding, at his bachelor party, my dad had cheated on her. And even though she knew about it, she still married him. I was completely shocked when I heard this. I can’t help but be angry at my father. He doesn’t know that I know about this yet, but I would really like to confront him about it. I’ve talked to my mom about it and she doesn’t want me to say anything to him. She suggested that I just let it go. However I know that I won’t be able to do that. To me, this isn’t something I can just forget about. I would like some sort explanation from my father, even though I know he wont have one for me.
I’m supposed to have dinner at his house Monday night and I plan on confronting him then. My only problem is that I don’t know how I should go about this.

Any suggestions or any advice whatsoever would be greatly appreciated =]

Sorry this is so long =/

Well first off you should tell your mom how you feel about you feel like ur ruining her life. Which you certainly didn't ... (To be honest I think she's glad it all happened.)

And your father -- You might not want to say anything just because you two aren't exactly close and your Mom doesn't want you to. And if you do it's an obvious his first question will be how did you know about that? Even though he knows its your mother that told you. Or he might even deny it. But if you do decide to say something say "Dad .., uhmm I have been meaning to talk to you about something. I know your not going to want to talk about it, but it means a lot to me that you will and I'd like to talk about it privately." And He'll be like 'Sure'. Then begin by saying " This is really hard for me to talk about and I've known for awhile and now its hard for me to keep it in any longer...*pause a few seconds, take a deep breath, and look him in the eye all before you say this* Why did you cheat on mom? " Things might end up bad from there just so you know. Or he might just actually tell you. Send me a message if your confused at all.

xoxo melissa

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what are some good jobs that a 15 year old girl can do? i really need to money, my mom mainly needs it. were going through a tough spot and i want to be able to help out, but i dont know where they hire people my age other than a supermarket, and i dont want to work there.

thanks

try working at fast food places or babysit -- like stuff around the neighborhood

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i wanna go to the movies but i don't know what movie i should see anyone have some ideas? thanx

Stay Alive (PG-13, 85 min.)


the Lead (PG-13, 108 min.)


Phat Girlz (PG-13, 100 min.)


Tickets The Shaggy Dog (PG, 98 min.)


12:25pm She's the Man (PG-13, 105 min.)

Larry the Cable Guy: Health Inspector (PG-13, 89 min.)

The Benchwarmers (PG-13, 85 min.)


Failure to Launch (PG-13, 97 min.)


Ice Age: The Meltdown (PG, 90 min.)

ATL (PG-13, 100 min.)

Ohh andd Scary Movie 4 but it comes out Friday and its 90 min.

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how old should i be to have sex in your opinion (f)?

I think when you are married ..., but thats just because I am Catholic. Uhmm but if you weren't married, I would say probably after 18 because your an adult and responsable for all your actions.

xoxo melissa

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im going to get my hair highlited soon, but i cant find any pictures of what i want. can anyone send me pictures of celebs or models or anything like that with light brown hair with a little blonde in it? even medium brown with some blonde is good too. thanks!!

i'd try carmel highlights ... i have a picture of me with them but my hairs dark so i dont know if your hair is like that... heres the picture;; http://i1.tinypic.com/v74f9c.jpg (you can't exactly see them that well)

if it's blonde and you get carmel highlights it makes it look like your hair is brown and you have blonde highlights so i wouldn't suggest that -- unless of course thats the look your going for.

If you want any other colors that might look good on you then just send me a message.

xoxo melissa

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