My name is Jillian and if you've got a question, I'll answer it the best I can.
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I like my guy friend from school, (he doesn't know, and he might like me but i'm not sure) and we talk everyday and stuff. We already have each other's phone numbers but we haven't really texted a lot, we talk mostly in school. But I do want to get his screenname and I want him to have mine, but I don't just want to randomly be like "Oh what's your screenname?" cause I'm shy about that type of thing. We both have blackberries and can go on AIM with them so I guess I could sortof initiate getting his screenname through that. Any suggestions on how I can sortof get his without being totally obvious about it? (link)
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Well maybe one day you could randomly text him and be like:
"gah! bored. Hey, do you have aim?"
Make it seem like a random thought you just had.
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At a recent school function, I met a new group of friends visiting from another school and we all still talk. The other day, I was informed at school by somebody that one of the boys in my new group of friends likes me, and people think I like him too. Now, this boy is nice, has a good sense of humor and we are friends, but I do not see him the same way. My problem is that for whatever reason, I only find myself romantically/sexually attracted to my own Caucasian race and the boy is not Caucasian, so I do not find myself romantically attracted to him. People now think I am racist, which is simply not true! My mother assures me that it’s a matter of personal preference. I can justify that I am not racist, because I have multiple friends that are from races other than my own. My attraction to only Caucasian men is not something I chose, it’s just the way I am. Kind of like if someone was gay. They don’t choose to only be attracted to men, it’s just how they are. Is it wrong of me to feel this way?
I am almost 16 years old, and a female. (link)
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I guess it's not really wrong. Obviously you feel guilty about it, so that's a sign that you aren't rascist. If you just are truly not attracted to the other race then you just aren't.
However, have you considered that if maybe a white guy had the same exact personality, would you like him then? Is it ONLY his color that is keeping you from being attracted to him? I guess that's kindof strange...but I have a few friends that feel exactly the same way you do. So it's not abnormal. Just think about it in terms of attraction to personality, otherwise no you aren't wrong.
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16F
I usually get my jeans at PacSun, and they've been pretty good but lately they kindof bother me, like i'll have a bunch of the same size and some of them will be too tight, and some might fit ok, and then like all of them sortof like ripple in the zipper area whenever i sit and it's annoying and weird looking. What stores have good jeans that fit well and are pretty comfortable? that includes regular fitted jeans and the skinny jeans that are in style now. (link)
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I get all of my jeans at Forever21. They always fit like a glove, last a long time, and are only 20 bucks a pop.
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i'm not sure if this has anything to do with it, but yesterday i was shaving (with a bad razor...) & i got 6 cuts in total on my legs. they stopped bleeding, so this is why i'm not too sure if they have anything to do with this.
i woke up this morning with this orange like color on my legs. they're like streaks, and at first i thought it was dry blood, so i went to shower. none of it came off.
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anybody help meeeee :/ i'm really upset because i have to wear a dress to a party tomorrow... so is there any way to clear this up a little? or tell me what it is? thanks :) (link)
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Well I guess to cover it up you could just like put concealer or foundation over it. But I'm not sure what it is...maybe you were scratching your legs in the middle of the night and it left marks. They don't really look noticeably orange, kindof pinkish. So maybe that's it? Whatever it is, it doesn't look unhealthy or anything so it'll probably go away soon.
But yeah. Put concealer over them. Or powder or something.
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what is a hj?
and what does prude mean? (link)
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prude is someone who is stingy about sex and about anything inappropriate.
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Whats some new good songs in the genre of rap & rock. ex: lil wayne & all time low.
Thanks. (link)
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Anything by 3 oh!3 is amazing. Richman, Starstruck, Don't Trust Me.
Lately my favorite rap song has been "So Blowed" by Gorilla Zoe.
I also like "I Love College" by Asher Roth. It has a rock/hip hop kindof feel.
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I've looked all over the web for an answer, but i can't find anything.
On the bottom of my foot, the skin is pitted, like swiss cheese, and moist and decaying around the ball of my foot. It's NOT athlete's foot, I've tried creams and powders for that, and it causes an odor so bad I have to change my socks periodically throughout the day.
I can't see a doctor right now because my I am temporarily without health insurance,
but it's been here for about a year, now,
and it's driving me crazy.
Has anyone experienced anything like this, or found an answer as to what it is?
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
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This might be ridiculous and extreme but the word "ulcer" came to my mind?
Maybe it is a very shallow ulcer? It's just a suggestion and I'm probably wrong, but just in case see what constitutes as a shallow ulcer and I don't know if they last a year so...look up that kindof information.
Sorry if that was an idiotic response but it was the first thing that came to mind, oddly enough.
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I live in Europe.
I'm just wondering why in the states, you have to be 16 to drive...but 21 to drink?
Here, drinking age varies from 16-18 in most places, but as far as I'm concerned you have to be 18 to drive.
Why the big differences?
And also which one would you prefer?
Thanks :) (link)
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A lot of kids get part-time jobs around the age of 16, so they need a way to get around. It probably helps start their independence, also.
Drinking is abused so much in the states. So so much. Maybe the two are linked? Kids don't know when you are too drunk to drive and so they drink and drive and kill people. They do it anyways of course, but yeah maybe it is because they don't know when enough is enough until later in life. So if they can't allow us to do both and since we need the driving one, they give that one to us and set the drinking for a little later when we know enough is enough.
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Ok.. I have this weird kind of puffiness under my eyes and I don't know what to do to get rid of it.. I've tried a lot of things but none of them work.. It kind of always looks like I didn't get enough sleep even though I do.. If anyone has any ideas, please let me know.. thanks :) (link)
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I have stressed over this for years and what I have learned is that it isn't going to go away. The best thing to do is to make it look it's best with makeup. It isn't going to look perfect and that teabag thing totally does not work. Just accept it as a part of your appearance. Make it work with your face via makeup. There are tricks you can do (look them up online) that distract from your faults and make people notice your better attributes.
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15/f
Okay well me and my boyfriend have been dating for a month. He says he would never lie to me and never hurt me and all that. Well i caught him lying to me one time and he admitted that he was lying and he said he was sorry and was begging me not to break up with me because he liked me so much. I forgave him because he admitted lying and then promised he would never do that again. But right now i am acared that he will lie again. Some guys learn their lesson and don't do it again and some are "once a liar, always a liar." So i don't know which he is. he told me he wouldnt do it again but i cant stop thinking about if he will or not. What should i do? (link)
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I think that you should trust him until he proves you wrong. However, be very wary of what he tells you. I mean trust him, but just have it in the back of your mind that there is a slight chance that he's lying.
If you catch him lying again, then he is an official chronic lier and not the best guy to date.
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i woke up and immidiately knew i hit my period. i didnt have terrible cramps at church, so i didnt take anything. when i got home is when it hit me hard. it felt like someone was taking my liver or intestine or something and twisting it as tight as it could go, (i dont know how to explain it otherwise. i dont think im having any problems with those organs...) well i thought if i took some ibuprofen it would go away, so i took 3. it was after i swallowed them that i realized ibu works slowly, takes forever, and doesnt last more than 2 hours. and it just feels like a blanket is covering the cramps. so then i went downstairs and took 2 pamprin, the pink ones with max pain relief. after that the cramps were unbearable for 37 minutes. i writhed on my sisters bed twenty minutes, switching positons, sobbing, punching pillows, rolling around, about to lose my f**king mind. finally, the cramps subsided, but all my energy is gone. i have to walk slowly because if i make any quick movements, they come back, like a sore. its been an hour since i took those pills and im trying my hardest to stay still and not move anything. i even have to breathe a certain way.
did i OD or something? is this normal? and is it normal for the cramps to be THAT bad? they've never been like this before, and im afraid of when the pills will stop working. it was too unbearable. can someone explain this, please?
thank you for reading. (link)
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This is exactly how my cramps are every friggin month so it is normal. I have had better experience with Tylenol personally, but I guess it still doesn't really work.
Ibuprofen is shit. It takes hours to work and like you said doesn't last very long.
An ice pack or heating pad is my preferred method of treating cramps. You just have to wait for them to go away. Try just putting a heating pad on and laying down and watching a movie to distract from the cramps.
I do think that it's very strange that your cramps usually aren't this bad and suddenly are, but maybe it's just a weird month. I'm not sure. I mean sometimes I have minimal cramps and sometimes they are torture. I'm sure it's normal.
And avoid taking all of those pills at once. You probably didn't OD but it's still not safe.
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I love my best friend, we'll name her Cassie, but she has no problem being a blabbermouth when I tell her things. I've told two of my closest friends and my cousin about how I like my guyfriend from school. Only one of those close friends goes to my school and Cassie is from another school. I promised myself that I wouldn't tell Cassie about this guy if & until I was totally sure he liked me back or if something were to happen between us (the guy does not know I like him, but it's very very possible he likes me). Cassie knew two people I used to like well and blabbed it to them. Even though this guy is someone she doesn't know I feel like if I tell her she could possibly write all over my Facebook wall about it or something like that and it'll ruin everything. I feel like I'm really getting somewhere with this guy. But I really really want to tell Cassie about him, and I feel like a liar everytime she asks "What's new in your life?" and I just say "Nothing really". I could simply avoid any issue just by not telling her but I just feel like a liar and I want to tell her about it. Also she just lost her grandpa, after losing her uncle earlier this year, and she needs good friends. Should I just tell her or wait until I'm totally sure he likes me (if that were to happen)? If you say I should, then how do I tell her without giving too many details away about him and making sure she doesn't ruin it? And don't say she's a horrible friend, you shouldn't be friends with her, if you were me you'd understand why I'm friends with her. I just feel like if I wait until something happens she'll think I've been lying to her about what's going on and she'll be mad. Sorry that this was long. (link)
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Why don't you just tell her that you think you might like someone and when she asks who you either refuse to tell her or say that she probably doesn't even know him so the name doesn't matter.
If she badgers you about the name, just change the subject. Tell her the signs he's giving you and does she think that he likes me?, etc.
And then if anything happens and you then tell her that you are going out with whoever and she says "oh I do know him" and you say "Oh,really? i didn't think you did." So then it will kindof be lying but not really!
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I'm engaged to an amazing man. He's truly every girls dream. He's attentive, caring, sweet, thoughtful, gorgeous. We've been together since I was 20, I am 23 now, he's 26. Our relationship is good, we fight, no more than any other couple. We aren't too stressed about the economoy, we aren't rich by any means, but we have food on our table, and a roof over our heads. We can't complain. Sex lifes fine.
Only problem is, I'm not truly happy with him. I love him with all my heart, but I'm not in love. And, I just can't see myself marrying someone I'm not in love with. Call me old fashioned, but I want to be deeply in love with the man I'm going to marry. And, it's just not my current fiance.
I need some advice on how to break the news to him without hurting him too much. I know, I know, there is no way to do this without hurting him. Which isn't what I'm setting out to do at all. That's why I've come here, how I can get through this as gently as possible? If you need anymore information about the situation, please let me know and I'd be glad to provide it. Thank you in advanced for your help.
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The best way to tell him is to just sit him down and tell him. Make sure to let him know that you really want to be in love with him, but you aren't. Make sure to tell him that it's best for the both of you because if it's not love then it will end in divorce.
It's not a lot of advice, but just make sure to let him know how much you appreciate everything he does for you and that you truly appreciate the years you've had together. That way his self-esteem doesn't get battered and he won't be afraid to meet new people after everything is said and done.
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What channel is HBO? I want to watch "trueblood" but I don't know what channel, help please :/ (link)
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You might not have HBO. Call you cable company and ask if you have it and if you do, ask what channel it is. It's 2 birds with one stone!
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17/f
I sit beside a guy, Alex, in a class at school. Many girls are jealous of me and for the last year (during junior year - now we are seniors) they have been saying horrible things about me to get Alex & his friends to dislike me. I`m not sure if it has worked or not, but I would like him to have an undeniable attraction to me so that he does not listen to what the other girls say.
I`m smart, I look good, & I try to be nice & interesting - but what else can I do? I do not have any attraction to Alex, it`s actually his friend I`m interested in. Plus Alex has a girlfriend (who absolutely hates me - not that she knows me, I`m just a threat I suppose). Is there a way to trick Alex into blocking out what the girls say about me? I need Alex to get to know me for who I really am (rather than what he has heard) so we can get along; then I can get to know his friend better. (link)
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Well, tricking him will never do any good. Just show him who you really are and just pretend like you know nothing about what people have been saying. If he's a nice kid then he should just look past all of those nasty rumors and such.
However, why not just talk to his friend instead? I suppose I can understand why, if you don't have any classes with him or anything.
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Im getting my braces off in the next couple of days and I have noticed some brown spots I've never notoced before! I'm really nervous about getting them off, cuz' when I do, I want to be able to smile, not be afraid to! I really want to what is going to happen. Is it going to be there forever or what? HELP ME! (link)
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A lot of people use white strips after they get braces off because the braces can diminish whiteness a tad. If I remember correctly it didn't hurt to get braces off...it was a real relief. You kinda feel naked because you've become accustomed to having a bunch of metal in your mouth for years but yeah it's no big deal really.
Just get some white strips and you'll be set smile-wise.
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this is going to be such a hard question to answer.
but i'm pretty sure this book has one an award, one with a gold sticker i think?
i'm 15 now but when i was in 5th grade my teacher read it to us. i can't remember names or anything. i remember this girl who was like a tomboy and something about a back of a store and someone getting hurt?
the cover kinda is gray and i think it has a girl with short hair on the front? (link)
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I think it's Lily's Crossing:
http://www.buildabear.com/babw/us/assets/_graphics/play/bookclub/books/LilysCrossing.jpg
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I just started college about a week ago. I live about 20 minutes away from campus, and sometimes it takes longer to get there with traffic. So it gets a little tough driving to and from everyday.
Anyway, next summer my best friend's mom is getting married, and hence, moving in with her husband. My BFF doesn't want to move in with them, because we will be sophomores in college and 19. So, we've been talking about getting our own apartment closer to campus/our downtown area. It would be her and our other best friend. (We live in a city just barely big enough to be classified as a city. It's about 55-60,000 I believe, and the university is in a pretty decent part of town).
It seems like a win-win situation. I'd still be close to home for things like meals and laundry to save some money. The hardest part would be teling my parents, because we're a pretty close family and I don't want them to be offended or anything like that. I really just can't think of any downfalls to getting an apartment. We're responsible girls, and we're not into the party scene, so that's definitely not our motive. Could anyone share some experiences or advice about moving out for the first time? Thanks. (link)
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Your parents might be a little sad that you are moving out but I doubt they'd be offended. I mean I don't know them personally of course but all a parent really wants is to see their kid go off to college and start a life of their own. You sound like you have great parents, so I'm sure they'll be happy that you are finding your way in the world. So don't think of it as you hurting them-you're actually making them proud and happy.
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So if you work out daily and your trying to lose weight, can you eat things like Sugar free mints,Or sugarfree gum
is that stuff okay to eat? :]
aND Also i hear that if ur trying to lose weight
you could eat WHATEVER you want
But very small of it
true? :]
thaknyhou. (link)
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I'm sure that sugarfree mints/gum won't make you gain weight or anything but, I dunno about you, but they make me feel hungrier.
About the "eating whatever you want" it's kindof true but kindof not true. You can't just eat cake and french fries in small amounts and still expect to lose weight it's just not gonna happen. Now it is true that everything is good in moderation, but it depends on what you eat small amounts of. If you eat healthy things and treat yourself to a cookie or two or a small slice of cake, there's no harm in it. But if you just eat mostly junk, in small amounts, it still adds up.
The best thing when losing weight and working out, is too eat a lot of healthy food. There's no point in eating less, because you end up either withering away or gaining all of the weight back really quick. If you eat nothing and then have a cookie, you are totally gonna gain weight. Where as if you ate healthy food all day like.. a bowl of raisin bran crunch for breakfast with oj, a tuna sandwich with celery and milk for lunch, and a slice of meatloaf for dinner with milk and peas, and THEN you eat a cookie-you aren't going to gain any weight from the cookie because the other food weighs the small cookie out and you end up looking healthy and losing weight-with work outs of course which I see you are already doing, so good job :D
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Okay well I am 15/f an I have an small problem. It's like every time I meet or hear about an interesting guy who is into what I like, I automatically like the guy without really knowing him. I wish I could save the crushing for after we become friends not before. Today in my second day of school I met this guy: very friendly, same musical interests, kinda shy, and really cute. So all of a sudden I am starting to develop feelings for him. When I met him I feel like I was stuttering and kinda embarrassed myself. I just have a huge problem with showing people who I really am. I feel like only 2 people really understand me completely. I have had problems with making friends and I want to learn how to properly express myself. Thank you to anyone who can help in any way! (link)
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I do that whenever I meet a new guy, too. I think it's because when you are around the same old guys there is no potential and you know what is there and what isn't. When you meet a new guy, the possibilities of who he could be and what he could be for you in the future opens up and it's rather exciting. The exciting part being not knowing exactly who he is, but thinking maybe he's the one I've been looking for and waiting for. You get what I mean or am I just blabbering on?
Now I'm not quite so sure about the expressing yourself part too much and that's mainly because I don't know who you are and what you've been through or what you haven't been through. You need to honestly question yourself about why you don't show your true self to only a couple people. There's usually a reason behind it. Maybe you are just insecure-and in that case you should better your confidence and such in order to feel more secure-or maybe you have been hurt in the past and now you don't trust people with your true self. There are a myriad of reasons why some people hide who they are, but one important thing is to make sure that you don't hide who you are and you figure out why you are hiding and how you can fix it. It's not something that can be told through instructions; only you can truly find out why you hide yourself and don't properly express yourself and how you can fix it. (Now I know this sounds lame but self-confidence books really do help. I read a few chapters from one once and I've never been the same insecure person since. Perhaps if you go to the library and look at the section on self-help-there's no shame in looking for advice from a book.)
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