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is it wrong to feel this way?
At a recent school function, I met a new group of friends visiting from another school and we all still talk. The other day, I was informed at school by somebody that one of the boys in my new group of friends likes me, and people think I like him too. Now, this boy is nice, has a good sense of humor and we are friends, but I do not see him the same way. My problem is that for whatever reason, I only find myself romantically/sexually attracted to my own Caucasian race and the boy is not Caucasian, so I do not find myself romantically attracted to him. People now think I am racist, which is simply not true! My mother assures me that it’s a matter of personal preference. I can justify that I am not racist, because I have multiple friends that are from races other than my own. My attraction to only Caucasian men is not something I chose, it’s just the way I am. Kind of like if someone was gay. They don’t choose to only be attracted to men, it’s just how they are. Is it wrong of me to feel this way?
I am almost 16 years old, and a female.
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Well your obviously not racist. So let them know, you hang out with other people of different races. Its normal. Like last year for some reason I was attracted to asian guys. I don't really know why but that's how I was. Then turns out my next boyfriend was white. So its just your preference. Just let them know you see him as a friend and nothing more. Good luck!
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My children are mixed race (Afro - caribbean/ white). They had many friends, including romantic attachments who were Chinese/Gurkha and Phillipino, among others.
We all make our own choice. I am white, their stepfather, married to their white mother, I have never interfered with their life though I have been protective when necessary (no more , I don't need the police around).
Be your own person, be honest and it will always work out in the end. Honesty always wins!
Good luck, Bob
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Is someone who prefers blue eyes and blonde hair a racist?
No. It's a preference. Calling someone with a preference for certain looks a racist is like calling a homosexual sexist!
You just like certain looks. He's not your type. If anyone tries to tell you otherwise, don't worry about it.
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Normal. Anyone that says they're attracted to every race is lying.
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I guess it's not really wrong. Obviously you feel guilty about it, so that's a sign that you aren't rascist. If you just are truly not attracted to the other race then you just aren't.
However, have you considered that if maybe a white guy had the same exact personality, would you like him then? Is it ONLY his color that is keeping you from being attracted to him? I guess that's kindof strange...but I have a few friends that feel exactly the same way you do. So it's not abnormal. Just think about it in terms of attraction to personality, otherwise no you aren't wrong.
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