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So my boyfriend and i started have sex a few months ago, and we have only done it 4 times. The first time, it hurt bad enough that we had to stop. The second and third didnt hurt as bad, but it didnt feel GREAT. Then the last time, it hurt REAllY bad again... there was about a 2-4 week period in between all these encounters. So im guessing he got bigger..but when will it feel good? (link)
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Has he stretched you before entering? By stretching I mean preparing you with two or more fingers-lubricant as well as lubricating himself before entering? If he has are you using a water based lubricant? If you are you should step it up and get a better brand of lubrication. Sometimes as well the vaginal area doesn't let out enough "wetness" to naturally lubricate the area for less painful entry. But since there is something actually pushing past muscles it will take time getting used to. Its not like romance novels where the girl is in ecstacy as soon as the man enters her:(
Hope I helped:)
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So when I go down on my bf, some stuff comes out of his penis (not sperm) its like, before he gets off and its kind of salty.. but i know its not sperm because its clear..and theres just a little bit. He has never actually ejaculated in my mouth, so i dont know what cum tastes like. so my question is, What is it? and if you know what it is, Does it taste the same as sperm?, and if not, What does sperm taste like? (link)
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this is called pre-cum and yes it is sperm dear. It comes out of the penis when a man is aroused and it sorta cleans him out and such. It prettyy much is sperm but the ejaculation sperm is a bit thicker and musky(er). As long as he has good hygene then the sperm should be okay:*
Hope I helped:)
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I just got out of a relationship of about 11 months, and it was my longest relationship and also a very abusive, crazy one. I finally broke up with him in December and while I was slowly ending it with him I actually met someone new that I realized I had feelings for. This new guy (Mike) is 4 years older than me, age doesn't matter to us now though, but my problem, is that he doesn't show constant love towards me. If he does its like on and off, its never all the time since we've been seeing each other. When I try to talk to Mike about it he says it's because sometimes he doesn't "trust" me because we've had a lot of problems in the past. I'll name some so you can understand the relationship better.
One night I had a bunch of people at my house and we were all drinking, I started to get really drunk and I pretty soon couldn't even stand up by myself, so i started leaning on Mikes cousin (Mike wasn't near me, and his cousin was sitting in a chair unlike the rest of us so that was easier to lean on), so my hand was on his leg, Mike took it the wrong way and flipped out. Being drunk I obviously got really emotional, and started crying and it was really embarrassing so I just went out with a few friends and tried to blow it off. When I got back I could barely walk and everyone was yelling at me, he called me a bunch of names so I hit him. I would never do that if I was sober but thats the way I handled it because of my past relationship. He stormed off and left me, so I just slept out at a friends that night. He ended up going back to my house and slept there because he was waiting up for me, but how was I suppose to know that? The next day he came over to talk, and told me that his original plan was to never to talk to me again, and he made it seem like it was all my fault, I tried to tell him that I was drunk and I honestly didn't know what I was doing, but he just kept telling me that I was so wrong, and it was all my fault and he should hate me, so I just let him be right and told him I was sorry. I also made the decision not to drink anymore.
That was last weekend, this weekend, we've been arguing again, but not while I've been drunk, Friday night we went to a party, and he was drinking, (I wasn't) and he was acting SO amazing towards me, really lovey, always wanting to be around me, he even went to the store and bought me a rose! Later that night I questioned his "lovey dovey"-ness because he's never usually like that, and he flipped out, probably because he was drunk, and he just wanted to go downstairs and pass out, but i really wanted to work things out, so I kept going downstairs to talk to him, and everytime I would walk away, he would just fall asleep. Every time he would ever walk away from me during a fight, I would chase after him. He ended up just coming upstairs with me in my room and sleeping with me, we blew it off.
My point is, I've given up so much for him, drinking, going out all the time. and I don't think it's always my fault when we fight but I'm too scared to REALLY stick up for myself because I know he'll freak out and leave me because it's only the beginning, I've tried to tell him that he's messing with my head, but he says "fine then we're done I'm not going to mess with your head anymore" and thats not what I want! So I just deal with what he says, and hopefully we just forget about it and move on like we always do. Another thing, we're not officially Boyfriend and Girlfriend. We were before but we kept fighting like we are now so we decided just so act like we're going out? but not with the label. If he loves me he should just want to be with me shouldn't he? But I just want him in any way I can have him. Is it really all me? Am I just crazy, how can I make him want to change and show me love but not lose him completely? If you say I can't make him want to change, than what can I do? (link)
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Leave him now sweeet heart. Do you want another abusive relationship? It may not be physical ( yet) but its mental abuse for you. A man who is in love with a woman treats them with respect and not like property that he can just pick up one minute and throw away the next. He's blaming everything on you and keeping emotion and attachment far away. Really its no good for you. Please get out of the relationship now before its too late. You may think it hard no but it'll be even harder later on.
Hope I helped and Good luck sweet heart:)
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can someone please help me understand what this is
http://www.usmc.mil/13thmeu/marines/meu.htm
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well my thought is that its telling you about what these things are and what they do in the military. Are you looking for a job in the military? Or did you get it in the email? More info could really help out in getting you a good answer
Hope I helped:)
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16-f
dating for about 8 months
ok well my boyfriend told me awhile back he would love to lay in the grass and look at the stars. I was having a hard time figuring out what to get him for his b-day that is comming up in about a month and then i thought maybe i should buy him a star. He doesnt have some weird fascination about stars or look at them often but i thought maybe after giving him that i could tell him some night once it gets warm out we can lay out in the yard and find his star.
does this sound like something that could work or be cute or something or should i save it for our 1 year anniversery and find something else for his b-day??
would you like this if you got it? (link)
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i think its really cute( of course im a girl). I think it would be better for an aniversery gift though because its so sweet and origanol and shows how you care about what he says. Also maby write him a card and hint at that you remember what he said about laying in the grass under the stars and give that to him a little while before the present:) Totally romantic
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okay so this guy i've been talking to since like the beggining of february has a girlfriend.
and they've been dating for like 2 years and last night i sent him a picture.
it wasn't revealing or anything but it was kinda..
ya okay so then he kept trying to get me to send him another and i can't.
i can't just be the one to break up a couple of 2 years and i dont really care if he ever talks to me again but what should i do if he asks me again??
b/c the last time i said no and reminded him he has a girlfriend..but idk.
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stick to your morals sweet-heart and no snapping photo's. Remind him as many times as you need to that he has a girl friend. Besides did you know about 67.9% of pictures like these " sorta revealing but not really" are actually shaired with friends who shair them with more friends and end up filtering around school/workplace/etc. Thats more then half. Do yourself a favor and stay away from it all.
Hope i helped: )
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I had a baby on January 28th, and he passed away. I had sex for the first time since then on February 12. I know I didn't wait the standard 4 to 6 weeks, so don't tell me that. We used a condom, but it broke. A friend of mine told me that I very well may be pregnant again because you are most fertile right after you have a baby. I was wondering if this is true, or if anyone has any information on if you really are very fertile right after. What are the chances that I am pregnant again so soon?
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I am very sorry to hear about your loss. It breaks my heart to hear about loosing a child. But while most believe your most fertile time is right after its not true. Your body is still going through the healing process of having birth. But there is always the chance of being pregnant no matter what. Your most fertile time is actually four to seven days before your period.
Hope I helped :)
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this is long to bare with me please :)
17/f/nj
okay well me and this guy have fliting i guess you can call it since october.We try to hang out outside of school but always one of us is busy so we cant.Well,we finally hung out last weekend.He asked my friend what she was doing tonight (he dosent like her though i guess he just knows im always with her) and we picked him up in my friends car with his friends.And like he was tapping my shoulder and he wanted to sit next to me in the car but my friend sat up front with me and we decided to go to my other friends house.We went to his house and a couple people were drinking,and the guy i like was drinking also(he was kind of drunk but not really bad).So me and my 3 friends were sitting on the couch and the guy i like was on another couch but got up and just decided to sit on the chair in front of us,he kept looking at me and saying that the guys and girls should mix.Well,once one of my friends left the couch he sat right next to me and started to like rub my leg and hold my hand which was cute.But everyone all of a sudden left the room and he started to kiss me (which was our first kiss together) until someone came in and said it was making people feel weird and that like we should stop so i felt kind of awkward and we did stop.Well,after that happened i started to ignore him not on purpose but i was just so mortified i didnt really want to talk to him but he kept following me from room to room trying to talk but i just couldnt,and so my friend took home me and my other friend but not my crush and his friends and they left soon after us.When i got home he texted me asking me if i was mad at him and i said no,i just get uncomfortable getting with someone in front of people and he said umm sorry and i said whatever its fine.then he says not to sound like a dick or anything but i dont like serious relationships and i dont like being attached im sorry if you feel that way and i said im not(although im starting to now,but i knew he didnt want anything serious already) and he said good im glad your not mad.Then today he texted me asking if i was mad at him again and i said no im not and he said oh someone said you were i guess not and i said no im not,sorry if it seemed like it the other night and he said its cool then today he texted me asking me what i was doing and i said nothing just at my house how about you and he says nothing just getting stuff for the dance (the dance is in feburary, that made me mad because i wanted to ask him) and so i said oh i didnt know you were going he said yeah are you and i said no and he said why and i said idk and he said you should go it would be fun and i said eh maybe and he said go and i said you really want me to go huh and he said yeah it will be fun and so im confused why would a guy who just wants to "get with you" talk to you for 4 months like you really like her and care about her (since he really wanted to know if i was mad at him) other guys would'nt care if you were just some girl and how we would text at night for like 4 hours..and why would he tell me about the dance..to make me jealous? (someone asked him because its not his dance,he's in another grade then me this is my grades dance) so yeah what do ya'll think about this? im so confused thanks! (link)
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i must say i had the same problem. The guy i liked paid attention to me for six months, flirted, texted me every ten seconds and tried to ' get with me.'Then I kissd him and he freaked out and told me he didn't like me like that though he wanted me to sleep with him, I found out he had a girlfriend for three years and he was trying to use me to get in my pants. He still talks to me in our class everyday though.
Anyway, thought I 'd shair that to show you i know what im saying, it dooesn't matter how long a guy flirts with you and pays attention. Some men will try for years to get into a girl's pants for a night. This guy sounds like he wanted to try you out for the night, flirtng and getting touchy feely and yet telling you it was not serious. What he's telling you is that he should be able to have fun with your body yet not commit.
So drop him and leave him in the dust. He doesn't respect you obviouly and your better off not even thinking about him. I mean really do you really want a ' friend with benifits?' It wll do major blows to your esstem, trust me im a relationship councler at my school,and you'll get a reputation for doing anything with a guy who doesn't want to date you.
Hope I helped and good luck:)
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I have this huge pimple on the side of my nose, but its like not a normal pimple its like unfer my skin and doesent have like a "head" or anything. It's been there for a REALLY long time and just isn't gonig away! It's SOO embarresing, how can i get rid of it!? Thanks. (link)
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it sounds crazy but use DOVE SOAP. Its got a very light moisturizer in it and paired with a strong berenzoyle peroxide, i personally use a over the counter berenzoyle wash with 5%, and an overnight remedy it works sooooooo much. Do this two times a day, once in the morning and once at night. Acne products wont tell you that they dry out your face so much that your skin produces more oils that cause bad acne cuz they want you to buy more and omre to eventually remove them all. I once had terrible acne and in a week it all dissapeared, after six years of it!!!!!!!! Trust me if dove worked for me it'll work for your pimple problem:) Hope i helped:)
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i with someone and me him were messin around and im wondering if u can get pregnet if he masterbates and then if he shook it off his hands then fingers u im talking about his cum! (link)
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well there is a possibility though its low. You can get pregnant if any semen touches you there. Even if your wearing underware and his semen touches there then there is a possibility. Just be careful and tel him to wear a condom even when he's just masterbuating.
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my boyfriend, logan, seems to not like me as much as he did when we wernt going out. all of his friends say that to me. im really good friends with all of his best friends. and today, his friend philip, said that he didnt think he liked me that much anymore. and even clarissa said it( my bff )
i want to ask him whats up and talk to him about it, but im to afraid that he will get mad at me. cause he gets mad at me alot! please give me advice! (link)
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Obviously somethings going on. I wouldn't tolerate this for one second and id probally dump him. lol I happen to be very staight forward. But really if he's acting this way there's something that happening. maybe your being to clingy or something or maybe he isn't the type for relationships. I think he's also telling your friends things as well. He may also be getting ready to dump you and I apologiize for my bluntness. If he's getting mad at you for things often he's not a good boyfriend and it sounds like he's mean. Id cut it off right now. This relationship doesn't have a bright future. Also if your bff is saying thuings like that maybe its time for a new one. Hope i helped and am again sorry for being blunt:)
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my friend used to go out with this really cute guy. she likes to flirt, && i guess she flirted a little too much, so they broke up. they don't talk anymore && got in an arguement. i think it's been over a month, && he's trying to talk to me. at first he requested me as a friend on myspace,&& he messaged me. he told me that he liked me, && asked me for my number. we started talking && realized that we had a lot in common && he asked me out. i don't think it would be right for me to go wit my friend's ex, even though she did him wrong...he likes me && i like him too. should i go out with him ?? (link)
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you definetly should go for it. Your friend may not understand at first but she did do him wrong by flirting. Just in order to avoid a big fight have a girl's night and talk to her: tell her that there's this guy who likes you and you like that guy and he asked you out. trust me she'll want to know who and tell her gently. If she gets mad explain to her that its no big thing and that you aren't gonna jump head first into it if she's upset. But don't put your life on hold for a friend even though the saying goes " no boy should get between friends" if thats true then she shouldn't let anything get between you guys, even if your dating her ex. just don't yell at her and if you guys date don't tell her every single ushy detail of your relationship. confide those parts to other friends in confidence. I wish you luck:)
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why is it that sometimes when i type " (link)
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it depends on diffrent websites, documents and that type of thing. Alot of doc. and sites wont do it cuz its a image thing but others will. Also make sure your not putting a big space between the
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15/f
I am about 5'3" and 120 pounds. I do not think I am fat, but I think I have fat ON me (there IS a difference!) I'm pretty confident in my body and I'm not striving to be stick thin, I just want to lose a few pounds. How many? I'm not sure. I don't know numbers. I just want to feel better about myself and I think it is a pretty achievable goal.
I can pinch a pretty decent amount of fat on my lower abdomen; I have a bit of a gut. If that was gone I would not have any complaints about my body. SO: I don't know if this is the healthiest choice, but it is most convenient for me. What do you think about this?
For breakfast I eat a SlimFast bar and a cup of coffee (yeah I know... it'll stunt my growth. Don't bother telling me).
Lunch I eat some type of sandwich on wheat bread (plain turkey or peanut butter & jelly), a water bottle, and a fruit or vegetable.
No snacks
Dinner I eat whatever my mom cooks but if there is a salad I go for that first. I try to eat small portions and stick with healthier options. And for a drink I have skim milk.
I am not getting a ton of exercise. I just come home from school, do homework, take a shower, eat dinner, do more homework, and talk to friends/boyfriend a little. So I think cutting out the extra calories is necessary.
However I do think soon I may start some kind of workout routine. Just some cardio for now. My friends and I have been wanting to do yoga and I might look into that. But I should probably start jogging for a while every day too.
What do you think? Will this work? Good idea? Input? Suggestions?
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well first off coffee doesn't stunt your growth, im 5'8 and i drink coffee all the time. But you need a healthier breakfast. Eat what you want but pay for it by doing at least a half hour work out session. don't over do it or you'll hurt yourself, just do twenty crunches at least, and bend over to touch your toes for five minutes: bend down, touch toes up, back down. Try some yogga too its very relaxing and always always remember to stretch before working out/. Or even try joining tap classes if you have the time. Dancing will take off five pounds instantly after three or four classes and if you continue your body will be shaped as you have fun! Hope i helped!
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I am 14/f and I am having a birthday party
Here is what I have planned so far:
--->3 girls including me, 4 boys
--->on a Saturday
-Meet at my house at 6:30
-And eat...ANY IDEAS?
-Then go to market street (like a New York type place) and play in the fountains and go get ice cream and stuff
-Come back to my house, hang out, go outside on the golf course, ravee, snack, cake and presents
-I NEED SOMETHING LIKE COOL HERE
-Go wrapping around 1ish or 2ish a.m.
-Boys go home, girls stay the night =P
It will be too cold to swim
But if you have ANY ideas to spice it up a little, you would be a life saver :D
Thank you soo much!
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you can never go wronge with pizza and soda, depending on what type of party you want. if you want an older teen party try little sandwhiches and bg bowls of chips and crackers, fresh veggies and dip, cookies so that your guests feel taken care of for every need.
You could go out and play a big game: like football, make sure you stretch and stuff before:* You could even try a dance off against the sexes:) Get cool music and just hit it off instantly. Hope i helped and i wish you well on your party:)
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My parents have paid for this EDIFI thing when i was a freshman, or maybe eight grade, thinking it was the best idea, but it's a scam. Do you think i still have a chance at getting a refund after four years?
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alot of companies/schools will not give you that money back after so much time. Even with these scams people find loopholes/loopolls in any document. Perhaps if enough people go after it you may be able to get some money, but most likely it won't be the same amount you put in:( Sorry about that scam its horrible what people do.
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i'm trying out for winter basketball at my school in the Fall. i've done basketball out of school.. probably the longest than I've ever done any sport. I don't even remember all the things I did for it. But I'm not amazing.. I mean I'm a good defender since I'm aggressive and not afraid to grab the ball and stuff, but I'm not the best shooter.. and we don't have a basketball net at my house so i can't practice. I mean I havent played basketball since last spring (I did travel bball) since I didn't try out for my school team last year cause I forgot. But do you think I have a chance.. cause I guess I'm good at foul shots and some faraway shots, but I suck at lay ups currently. Well I'm doing soccer right now in gym and I can do basketball maybe if they let me switch.. but I really like soccer too.. so idk. and theres a basketball club but it is mostly guys or should i just suck it and join the club anyway to improve my skills? and other than like.. shooting (what are some tips to be a better shooter btw) what other skills should I practice and what drills should I do.. like should I run a lot (and how much) to get in shape and all that jazz. thanks so much! and i'm in 8th grade btw. and a girl if you didnt realize that already.. lol. (link)
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You should be fine for the tryouts:) To practice run with the ball, dribbling it and try to get someone to pass with you. And yes girl join that Club! I know the tallest, prettiest girls who joined the Basketball team and totally got a lot of respect for doing it:) You need to start running and try to practise a little:) Good luch on your tryouts too!!!!
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ok heres the deal one of my chick friends her step cousin tried to molest her and her aunt found out and know she told a bunch of people and this was like a year ago shes very embarrassed and no one will let it go she asked me for help but im stumped on this one can you help me help her (link)
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tell her when she's around people who knew what nearly happened to talk to them about all the good things that are going on in her life and all the awesome things she's doing:) Hope i helped and i wish your friends well:)
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Can a virgin become pregnant? i am virgin ( still have the hymen intact) but have had done a bit of foreplay with my boyfriend which includes slight insertion ( placing "it" on the lips). My question is can i get pregnant even though i am still a virgin. (link)
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yes, though rare, it is possible and most shockingly: if a guy orgasms and it gets on your underware you can get pregnant. Like i said it is rare but it is very possible. Hope i helped:)
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Coming from a guys penis, is pre-cum and lube the same thing? (link)
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no. its just pre ejaculation. it will NOT lubricate the passage enough to have him enter without pain. lube is a gel that will cool and make you more prepared for his entry. hope i helped:)
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