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boy troubles..i cant read him.
this is long to bare with me please :)
17/f/nj
okay well me and this guy have fliting i guess you can call it since october.We try to hang out outside of school but always one of us is busy so we cant.Well,we finally hung out last weekend.He asked my friend what she was doing tonight (he dosent like her though i guess he just knows im always with her) and we picked him up in my friends car with his friends.And like he was tapping my shoulder and he wanted to sit next to me in the car but my friend sat up front with me and we decided to go to my other friends house.We went to his house and a couple people were drinking,and the guy i like was drinking also(he was kind of drunk but not really bad).So me and my 3 friends were sitting on the couch and the guy i like was on another couch but got up and just decided to sit on the chair in front of us,he kept looking at me and saying that the guys and girls should mix.Well,once one of my friends left the couch he sat right next to me and started to like rub my leg and hold my hand which was cute.But everyone all of a sudden left the room and he started to kiss me (which was our first kiss together) until someone came in and said it was making people feel weird and that like we should stop so i felt kind of awkward and we did stop.Well,after that happened i started to ignore him not on purpose but i was just so mortified i didnt really want to talk to him but he kept following me from room to room trying to talk but i just couldnt,and so my friend took home me and my other friend but not my crush and his friends and they left soon after us.When i got home he texted me asking me if i was mad at him and i said no,i just get uncomfortable getting with someone in front of people and he said umm sorry and i said whatever its fine.then he says not to sound like a dick or anything but i dont like serious relationships and i dont like being attached im sorry if you feel that way and i said im not(although im starting to now,but i knew he didnt want anything serious already) and he said good im glad your not mad.Then today he texted me asking if i was mad at him again and i said no im not and he said oh someone said you were i guess not and i said no im not,sorry if it seemed like it the other night and he said its cool then today he texted me asking me what i was doing and i said nothing just at my house how about you and he says nothing just getting stuff for the dance (the dance is in feburary, that made me mad because i wanted to ask him) and so i said oh i didnt know you were going he said yeah are you and i said no and he said why and i said idk and he said you should go it would be fun and i said eh maybe and he said go and i said you really want me to go huh and he said yeah it will be fun and so im confused why would a guy who just wants to "get with you" talk to you for 4 months like you really like her and care about her (since he really wanted to know if i was mad at him) other guys would'nt care if you were just some girl and how we would text at night for like 4 hours..and why would he tell me about the dance..to make me jealous? (someone asked him because its not his dance,he's in another grade then me this is my grades dance) so yeah what do ya'll think about this? im so confused thanks!
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It seems as if he's trying to ask you out. Considering that you've already kissed and that got awkward, this could be a way of making it up by taking you to the dance to have fun with him.
Different guys treat girls differently. He really does care for you and if i were you, i would go out with him and see how you feel about him after the dance. This is how relationships grow, you figure out how you feel for each other and then take it to the next step if you're both ready for a relationship.
Good luck with the future,
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i must say i had the same problem. The guy i liked paid attention to me for six months, flirted, texted me every ten seconds and tried to ' get with me.'Then I kissd him and he freaked out and told me he didn't like me like that though he wanted me to sleep with him, I found out he had a girlfriend for three years and he was trying to use me to get in my pants. He still talks to me in our class everyday though.
Anyway, thought I 'd shair that to show you i know what im saying, it dooesn't matter how long a guy flirts with you and pays attention. Some men will try for years to get into a girl's pants for a night. This guy sounds like he wanted to try you out for the night, flirtng and getting touchy feely and yet telling you it was not serious. What he's telling you is that he should be able to have fun with your body yet not commit.
So drop him and leave him in the dust. He doesn't respect you obviouly and your better off not even thinking about him. I mean really do you really want a ' friend with benifits?' It wll do major blows to your esstem, trust me im a relationship councler at my school,and you'll get a reputation for doing anything with a guy who doesn't want to date you.
Hope I helped and good luck:)
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