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Hi!My name is Melissa.I'm from G.I. New York.I love being able to help people and giving advice.I'm usually the person who people come to for advice and i'm always glad to be there for them.If you just wanna talk or if you want advice you can IM me.UnLuckyWishes3.I'm really into sports and love to play basketball.I play JV voleyball and Varsity track.

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I was thinking...do any of you agree with the saying, the right guy will come when you stop looking?

Yea, i think that when people are too concerned with looking for something they wont find it but when they stop concentrating it finds them.

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Hey, theres this girl that I really like. And it turned out she liked me too, so I asked her out last night. She said she wanted to think about it. So then later today after school she gave me a note... it explained that she said "I hope we have a good time together, not only as friends but also a couple..." But also later in the note it said "I also found out that (friend of mine and hers) likes me too, but I felt sorry for him because I told him I like you, do you see how I'm feeling? Anyways you're so shy!! You made me feel like a 'sister'~~ haha! Sorry! Hope you can understand what I'm trying to say!" Well anyways my question is... does that mean we are going out or does she want to stay friends??

If she started off on how happy she is about you two being a cou[ple, your still going outfromw hat it sounds liek.She's pry just feeling bad that another guy likes her and she's telling him that she likes you.I think she also wants you to be more open with her.I'm pretty sure your still going out but she just had mixed up feelings.some girls arent always clear when they talk to you.Hope i helped and good luck with your girlfriend.

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im 13-f i have a bf and i luv him its just we've been going out since summer and i know i shouldn't have done this but i've gone really far with him but my friend likes me soooooooooooo much and i sorta like him to. the thing is he has a gf but he said he'll break up with her for me! but i dont want him to because i dont want to break up with my bf. i cant decide who i like better but i've known my bf for 2 years now and i went out with him in 6th grade and in 7th but now since im in 8th grade i sort of want a knew bf because i've known him so long........im really confused about what to do....help please! thnx

Maybe you should dump your b/f now.If your not really sure what you want its usually the best thing to do , that way you can figure out what you want and who you wanna be with.Try to spend time with both of them and see if that helps.Hope i helped and you figure out what you wanna do.

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Okay.. i have had a secret that only my really good friends know but im not going to tell what it is. Well, in skool one day this kid chase shouted it out loud and everyone looked at me. I asked him who said it and he said it was my bestfriend! Well she promised she didnt do it so i forgave her and she told me my other friend jade said it.. but now i heard that this girl that i really dont like her name is shelby she told 2 of my friends that didnt know and i didnt even tell shelby about it my other friend shannon did. Today we were in s/s and my other friend amanda told me she said it! Im just so confused! should i be mad at all these people or should i just let it go?? please help!

Maybe this time let it go.Just try to watch out for who you tell, people can be untrustworthy sometimes.If it happenes again would be mad @ them.Hopei helped and it doesnt happene again.

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i like a few boys and i broke up with my bf just to look . do u think its wrong

No, thats actually really smart compared to what most girls do.They just go look around while thier going out.Most girls should be like you.Good luck with those other guys!

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When i was really little, i was raped by my cousin, someone i thought i could trust. i can no longer trust people anymore, it is very hard for me. What do you think i can do to help me cope with this and how can i explain this to my friends, who always want to know why im such a cold, hard shell of a person?

I just wanna say i'm really sorry about what happened to you.It happened to my cousin almost a year ago.Tell your friends that you have a really emotional and horrible past and it's just hard for you to trust people.If they ask why and if your comfortable let them know what happened and how that effected you.I dont know if you already do this or have thoguht about it but i know you can go to consueling to help, thats what my cousin does to help her and it seems to help.Hope i helped.

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well see, my friend Ricky like just broke up w/ his gf. And he was really into her. I mean REALLY. he loved her more than anyhting in the world. And now she broke ^ w/ him for another guy and hes soo fuckin depressed now. he started to cut himself again ((which he hasnt done once since they went out)). And hes attempting suicide. Im so scared idk what to do. And im mad cuz mad becouse i cant do anything. so if u guys have any ideas please tell me. im desperate. i dont want him to die.....

You might wanna tell an adult, he may be mad @ first but he'll know you did the right thing and thank you for it in the long run.TRy talking to him maybe, let him know your worried about him and you dont wanna loose him.Hope i helped and your friend gets help.

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okay well theres this boy.. hes 15 i think and im 13/f
hes the kinda guy who does drugs, drinks, does stuff with girls, everything like that..
hes really nice to me and he talks to me a lot. he says he likes me but idk if he really does cuz he might just be fooling around. he touches me in the halls n stuff but him and his gf of 6 or 7 months just broke up a few days ago because he made out with someone else and lied to his gf about it. well some of my friends are sayin i should ask him out but idk what he will say. what do u think? thanks! :) (sorry so long)

If you really like him and you want to , you should.But if he cheated on his old girlfriend just be careful because you should deserve someoen who'll treat you right.It seems like he likes ya though.:)Hope i helped and you figure out what your gonna.GOOD LUCK!

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Ok well to start off the question...I have a boyfriend named..lets call him bob....well we broke-up over a really dumb reason, but we got back together yesterday....I like him a lot but He is always rude to me and He told me [when we broke up] that he was thinkin about it a week be4? and I think now that were goin out again hes just screwing me over I dont kno!..well plz help me
Also I have feelings like I just want to break up with him because I love bein single and I have a crush on sum1 else!

I think you should break up with him.There's no point in your relationship if hes not treating you right and if you dont really want to either.You deserve someone who will treat ya right.If you have a crush on someone else, try going after him.;)or staying single and having fun with that.Hope i helped.

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im in a real jab. i like my best friend and he likes me but... he also likes my bestfriend. And we both know about it. he's really sweet and a good friend but lately weve been getin to know the real him and its perverted. then suddenly he goea out with this girl micheal and didn.t tell us. at first we didn't think it was true until he told us. a big fight happened and we ignored him for a while. Now while he's going out with her i feel jealous. i care for him and its hurting our friend ship. does he like me? does he like my friend? or is he just playin us both?...

He could be playing both of you.Once and a while you find a really rude guy like that.Maybe not though.There could be a reason why he didnt tell you.Maybe try talking to him about it.Anything thats one your mind just let him know.Hope i helped and everythign gets straightened out.

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See, i'm gay, and thats why i have a gurly user name, i am really a man! my boyfriend just broke up with me, and i am really depressed, i look so straight in gay bars no one aproaches me, what should I do!? please help!

Maybe you concentrate on it too much.sometimes if you want something too bad, you cant seem to get it.Try to approach some of the other guys, dont wait for them to approach you.Try not to worry about it as much.Go out and have fun.Hope i helped.

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Well you see i really really like this one guy. But this guy is both of my best friends x b/f. and i've liked this guy for like hmmmmm... since like 5th and i'm already in in 7th grde. and i hated it when they both went out with him.and both times they knew i liked him. Well now Janine (second girlfriend/bestfriend) broke up with him and now my other friend eva is probaly gonna date him and i swear i will commit suicide if this happens!!! i cant stand it. well lets put it this way i dont have the biggest boobs and well yea that doesn't exactly help. sooooooo please help me or tell me what to do!!

If you reallylike him make the move before your friend does.dont let them do that to ya if they know you like him.For your boobs try and get a push up bra or a padded.Member a guy should like ya for who you are though.Hope i helped and good luck with everything.

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okay in like 3 1/2 hours my next door neighbor is having a birthday party and im invited. i have no clue what to get him! hes 12 , likes baseball , basketball , rap ! any ideas?

I know this isnt very creative orw/e but mayeb give him money.I'ts always hard to get teens presents so money's usually something everyone loves.If you had more time then maybe getting him a b-ball or baseball and having all of his friends sign it.Sorry i wasnt that much help but have fun at your party.

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I love volleyball... but i fucking hate my coaches... they are such dush bags... should i quit or should i stick with it? if i quit i would def. play soccer... HELP!!

If you really cant stand the coaches at all, like you know you cant deal with them, maybe quit the team your on and go to another one or a camp for volleyball.You shouldn't quit something you love just because of other people.Maybe it wouldnt hurt to do soccer and volleyball that way if one doesnt work out you know you have the other one.Good luck with that and hope i helped.

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i started my period in 4th grade (in 8th now) and its still irregular and this last 2months its worse like it wont come for 2 - 3 months then when it does it only goes for 2 days...whats wrong with me its been more then 2yr's?!?!

Usually every couple of years it goes off course but if its been happening for a while you might wanna go see a doctor.There could be something wrong and you might have to take birth control to regualte your period.It's happened to mee before.It could be nothing but i woudl see a doctor to make sure your alright.Hope i helped and it gets better.

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Okay, I went on this pill, and it caused me to gain 12 pounds...*sigh* I've been on it several times before, and this is the only time it's caused a weight gain.
I'm 5'4"ish and I weigh 125 pounds. I don't know if I am overweight or not, but I feel like it. The thing is, I don't look it. I look like I weigh my old weight (113), but I FEEL heavy. I felt so much better at 113. It sucks, and it's really upsetting me 'cause I've always kind of had issues with weight...my dad's obese and I was overweight in 6th grade - like, this is what I weighed then, and I was overweight. I had just gotten comfy with my body when this happened...grr...
While it's good to know that I don't look overweight and my boyfriend can still lift me with one arm, the way I feel is still upsetting.
How long does it take for water weight to...go away? Is there anything I can do to fix this? I have a good diet, and I get excercise...or do I really just have to wait it out? My doctor said when I stopped the prednisone, the weight would kind of drop off, but I don't want to wait that long. Help me out, if you can.

You'll pry gradually start to the loose weight.You really dont need to though.Your perfect weight for your height.Most people would love to be ya.You pry feel like you need to loose weight but people pry see you as perfect.

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hey guys im ryah

well ok there is this boy Jake that i have dated before but I like him again, only because he calls me every day and is so sweet but it was so randomly that he started calling me, i mean we have been seeing eachother outside of school because we have the same friends and all but like we weren't really close since we broke up, we still kept in touch and talked online and all.i mean i have never really STOPPED liking him but i kinda moved on for a while but the feelings were still there. well anyways when we do see eachother OUT OF SCHOOL (keyword lol b/c we just act like friends in school which is odd) we are all over eachother and makeout and stuff, thats the farthest its gone since but he has mentioned to do other things. well anyways us doing all this stuff makes me attracted to him even more. i just don't know where to go from there like i would want to date him again officially you know, but i just don't know what exactly to say to him about i can't straight out say 'i like you, so let's go out' but i don't know what to say!!

Sorry it was long :(
Thanks if you help me :) I need it lol

Maybe have one of yours or his friends bring up that you two should start going out again.That might give him a hint to ask you or to bring up the subject.Or in person, online or the phone just be like listen i was wondering what'd you think about going back together or something to that effect.Hope i helped and good luck.

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Hey ..
I was just wondering..
does anyone have any ideas on places my boyfriend and I can go to just hang out? We just like to hang out and spend time together....I'm 15 by the way. Also..what are some good jobs to get at this age? I heard Culver's hires at this age, but I'm not positive. Does anyone know of any work places to help earn money towards college? Thanks so much!:)

I know the obvious places are the movies and mall.Maybe go to the park if its just you two.I know these arn't great jobs but cashiers at a grocery store or department store.I know summer is far away but if you play a sport you could ref. for your town or cities teams.My brother does it and he's 15 and started at 13.He makes between 12-20$ a game.Maybe even babysit.Put up flyers around your neighborhood and see if people respond.Thats always an easy and sometimes fun way to make a good amount of money to start putting away.Hope i helped.

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I am talking with this dude. And I asked earlier what to get him for his 16th Bday, but I didnt get any good answers so I'm asking again! He likes bands like NFG and Blink 182, hes beachy/country, and he plays soccer and football! I really really want to get him something special! Please gimme some sweet ideas! Thanks!

I know a couple people sometimes get a person likeba soccer ball (or any type of sports ball)and have thier close friends sign it with a lil message to that person.Maybe get your a friend a nice soccer ball and have people sign it.It'salways saomething people save as a memory.Hope i helped and you find something for your friend.

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Everytime i ask a question why is it always say
This question was deleted by an administrator it getting me really pisseed help me ??

It could be because it has many spelling mistakes or it has been asked a million other times.

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