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Ok, so I just had sex for the first time. And now, a few days later, it hurts to urinate, and when I do there is blood in it. Do you think it's serious? I don't know what to do. I can't go to my doctor, because I don't want my mom to find out. Please respond asap I'm scared.,
You probably just have a urinary tract infection.
In any case, you need to go to the doctor. You get UTIs from a variety of things, so your mom wouldn't have a reason to suspect anything if you asked to go to the doctor.
Good luck. :)
EDIT: It's probably from sex if you have one. But no, your mom wouldn't find out from that.
ok there is the girl who is after my boyfriend and she is driving me insane so i told my boyfriend that if she really meant nothing to him he would erase her from his msn aim phone and everything which he did but i made him mad so he added her back to everything. so later i told him he should go and talk to jen and tell her she means nothing to him because i thought that she would take a hint and back off. so now she wants to talk to me her exact words were "tell that b*tch of yours i want to talk to her." how do i get this girl to back off of my boyfriend? because a simple stay away from him wont do the trick. she insults me everytime with the same old he could dump you in a second for a prettier girl. how do i retaliate to her insults and make her feel weak against me. and again how do i get her to back off of my boyfriend other than asking her to stay away from him? like what else can i say to make her backaway? sorry this is long
First, you should at least try to make peace with this girl once. Offer that you co-exist, you as the girlfriend and her as the friend. You can acknowledge each other's existence but never more than...
"Marc* said Jen and Jackie* were coming to the movies with us." said the boyfriend.
"Okay," said the girlfriend. "So we'll hang out Friday?"
... to ensure that you're both happy.
If all else fails, just tell her to stop embarrassing herself because the only person she's making look bad is her.
And of course, show off your boyfriend as much as possible. He'll love it, and she'll hate it. :)
*Example names.
ok so im 15f i have only had 1 bf before. i feel like i dont wanna be committed having to buy gifts and just all that stuff. but now thats changing i think. im ready to try a relationship, my ex was an awful kisser and i think that turned me off and i just like stopped talking to him , its mean i know. idk why i feel like this but now there was an older guy, by 1 year and him and i got close and we talked and as soon as we started getting closer i backed off and didnt talk to him. its not live ive been hurt so why am i like this, what can i do to change
Maybe you found out that you really didn't like that guy. It happens, and it's totally fine.
A relationship isn't just kissing and all the physical stuff. For it to work, the person you're with has to be a mental turn-on too. :)
Try out a few different guys. Who has similar interests? Whose personality is most appealing to you?
It's important to have a long-lasting relationship.
I'm not really sure how to start this so I'm just going to jump right in...
I was in a very abusive relationship for about 2 years, the guy hit me and would call me fat and just a lot of really bad things that I don't like to talk about.
Well, I got out of that relationship and it's been about a year and a half almost 2 years since then but I'm still having a very hard time with guys.
Every guy I've met (since the ex that abused me) stops talking to me. I always seem to scare them off I think. And I think it's because I'm very scared of guys and I tend to overreact over things because of it.
Any time a guy I meet does something my ex used to do I get scared because I'm so afraid of being adused again and being in a bad relationship like that so I freak out.
Like for instance the last guy I tried to talk to, he wanted me to "open up to him" because he said I seemed so sad and he wanted to know why. So I let my gaurd down and I told him SOME of the things that happened. Well, after I told the guy he started acting different before he left my house and he didn't call me when he got home, but he said he'd text me in the morning, well it was about 11am and he didnt text or call so I started texting him telling him how stupid i was for opening up to him and how he's acting different and he got really mad at me saying he was sleeping and how he doesn't understand how he was acting different. Well, we were fighting almost all day but I said I was sorry and things SEEMED fine because I thought we worked it out. But then after that he stopped talking to me... I tired texting him but he never responded and when I saw him he acted like he didn't know me so I started to do the same.
My question is, how do I stop scaring good guys off just because of what one bad guy did to me? I don't like people thinking I'm crazy, I'm not I'm just very scared and push people away. But I do just want to be liked and I'd like to be in a good relationship and I feel like just because of that one bad one it's ruined my chances and I feel like I don't even know how to act anymore around people. The abusive guy was my first bf, and I did sleep with him and not really by choice (not sure if that matters.) It was just very bad and my self esteem got very low. Does anyone have any suggestions? (sorry this is so long...)
For one thing, stop blaming yourself. Some people just get uncomfortable and don't know what to say with something like abuse, and that's not your fault.
Also, don't think that your ex ruined your chances at a good relationship. You emerged a stronger person because you did get yourself out of that situation. Try to remind yourself of that every time you get scared.
When the right person comes along, you'll know because he'll make you feel completely safe. :)
I hope this makes you feel better.
15/f
Okay, i went to a school meeting today and i was sitting by my friend elaine and she was sitting by this girl i don't know. Well elaine asked me if i was still "talking" to the guy i was talking to. I was like "no, he said we should just be friends because he has a lot going on right now and he has to get a job." I didn't say it in the nicest way either. I mean i didn't say it mean but i wasn't exactly cheery. Well after the meeting i was talking to my firend elaine again and she was like, "that girl that was sitting next to me was he sister." I din't know that that was his sister and i still really like the guy and i don't want her to tell him, i was saying that and being snotty about us just being friends and not anything else. Now, i am really worried about it because i like him a lot. We only talked for a week and then he told me that and i was kinda sad. Please help!
Wait for him to bring it up. If he does, explain that you weren't trying to be rude, that you were just a little upset, and apologize. Same goes if his sister says something about it.
It's not guaranteed that his sister will tell him anything though. She might just understand what you were feeling.
All in all, you didn't commit a crime by what you said, so don't feel too bad about it. And the guy? He'll come along. :)
Me and my friend met these two guys 3 months ago. One of them really liked me. He asked me out 3 times after a few weeks. I said no because we hardly knew each other BUT the real reason was because my friend liked his friend and he wasnt asking her out and I felt mean for saying yes because things were going well for me and not for her.
He would ask me to come out and meet him and I wouldn't. Id only meet him when I took my friend and he was bringing his friend along for her. Id also never had anyone like me like that before and I was nervous about being alone with him, incase we ran out of things to talk about or something.
We met up a few times (the four of us) and would stay at one of the guys brothers flats. One night I got drunk and tried going all the way with him but as the alcohol wore off I felt the pain and told him to stop it (im a virgin). It was from here he had gone funny. He still talked normally when I spoke to him but we didnt speak for like a week and I havent seen him since this night (which was about 3 weeks ago). He now doesnt talk to me on MSN first, and I never talk to anyone first. He will be on for hours then just go off.
I really do like him and regret alot of things, but things are fxcked up now and theres no going back. He just isn't interested anymore; However my friend said he asked her if he should ask me out again. He hasnt asked yet???
He has my sunglasses so I’ll have to see him again sometime to get them off him...and he might start liking me again or something if he sees me...then again he might not. WHAT SHOULD I DO!!??
Make the first move. ;)
Call him up or IM him to set up a time to meet and get back your sunglasses. When you get there, strike up a conversation and try to be a little flirty. If he doesn't get the hint... well, ask him out yourself. Say something like "We should do this again. Over pizza, maybe?" when you're about to go home. If you're not comfortable asking him out one-on-one, suggest you bring your friends along.
And about what happened between you, he was probably just embarrassed because he thought you wanted to and then told him to stop. Make sure he knows it wasn't a big deal to you.
Okay, well... good luck! :D
I'm a girl, 14 years old, and theres this one guy who i dated a while back, but i broke up with him. Lately, we've been talking a lot and a started to really really like him again. He was so sweet to me and he seemed like he liked me a lot, too. One night, i told him how i felt and he told me that he liked me too, but the thing is, the next day he started dating another girl, and he told her that he loved her---over myspace. To me, thats stupid, especially on the first day dating and stuff. But anyway, i haven't talked to him since then, and i can't get him off of my mind and its driving me NUTS. Everything i do, reminds me of him, and i see his face all the time everywhere i go. I know that sounds stupid, but its true. Idk what i should do about it. And thinking about it puts me in a bad mood, and makes me take it out on my family and stuff. I am trying so hard to forget about him, but i think about how he makes me feel, and i just can't. I just have no idea how to handle this situation. >.<
-jess
Distract yourself by putting a lot of time and energy into things you love to do. Always wanted to play soccer? Do it. Have a thing for the french horn? Take lessons.
Things happen. Maybe he liked the other girl better. That happened to me. I had a 3-year crush on my best guy friend and was about to tell him I "loved" him when he started going out with one of my friends. I was so upset; I thought I would just die right there. But in the end it didn't matter because in the fall of that year, I met my current boyfriend and soulmate. Everything fell into place from there. (Okay, with a few bumps along the way! :P)
For every door that closes, a hundred more open. :)
Positive thoughts!
So me and my best friend both like the same guy. ( ya ik a common problem) I've dated him 3 times and I still love him. He broke up with me the first 2 times so he could date her. I know it sounds bad but I can't help but love him anyways. She dated him 6 times because they have known each other longer. I understand we both love him but I'm sick of getting hurt because he loves us both. The most annoying part is my best friend knows that I like him but she keeps talking about her fantasies about him. How can I keep my relationships with both of them without yelling at her to shut up about the fantasies or crying every night because I love him so much?
Sit down with your best friend and calmly explain to her that you would appreciate it if she would stop talking about him all the time because it hurts you, and that if you were truly best friends, she would understand that.
Or if you really love this guy, wait for them to break up (because I assume they do break up sometimes) and pursue him then.
But remember, they're just fantasies. Who says they're ever going to happen? :)
Keep that in mind. It might just work.
okay...im 14/f
yes, extremly young.
but enough of that....
me and my boyfriend fooled around maybe..a week and a half ago...2 weeks? and he cumed while we were...then he went into the bathroom and washed up...im not sure if he washed his penis off or not...im afraid to ask cause he might find out. and then he kinda got inside me a little, but not all the way...
i dont remember when i had my period last...i started it for the first time maybe 4 or 5 months ago...my mom said that it's normal to not start a regular cycle after like a year of starting. my breast have been kinda sore...not to bad though. i mean...since im only 14, arent they suppost to be, since there growing? they've always had this sorness since i hit puberty. i dont have to pee alot...the only thing is that my breast are sore, and i havent had my period yet...im not naucious at all...i dont have any weird cravings..i dont have a weird taste in my mouth... could i be pregnant???
my sthomach hasent grown alot..but im not sure when it starts to grow...im to young to go anywhere and by myself a pregnancy test.
thanks for all your help
14/f
It's probably still too early to tell, but it doesn't seem like you're pregnant.
Don't stress it unless you don't get your period for a while. And by a while, I mean 2 or 3 months. Or if you start feeling more than a few pregnancy symptoms.
You could just ask your doctor for a pregnancy test next time you're there for a check-up. Ask your mom or dad if you can talk to the doctor alone for a second and do it then. Even if it's a children's doctor, they should be able to give you a test. :)
Hoping for the best,
another 14/F.
hey i shave below the belt but recently started to think i dont want to look like a 10 year old or something so should i leave a strip or hair or a triangle or what? what turns guys on most? thanks x
If you plan on having a guy go down on you, it might be a good idea to shave it all off because I haven't met a guy yet who likes pubic hair in his mouth. :P
But if it makes you feel more womanly, you could leave a small strip of hair instead of a clean shave.
In any case, most men don't care if you're not having oral sex. :)
haha, my first day was crazy, but i still need help with being more talkitive. i mean i talk to people when they talk to me, but i dont really know what to say to start a conversation. oh and im not a very good conversationalist, because i use to not talk at all at school for like 4 years, now im going into junior year, i should be able to conversate. its really hard for me because i feel so cut off from the world, and i have social anxiety but i take medicine for that. yeh, so when i talk, i feel awkard. and people usually comment on my voice, they usually say oh you talk so quiet. but thats because im still not comfortable to be outgoing, but i am working on it, i dont know what im reallly asking. just please help. im thinking about planning what im going to say tomarrow at school and coming up with funny stuff to say, haha.. any jokes? also if you can tell how most girls my age think, so i would have a clue what to say. haha, like i said, im so cut off from the world. and what kind of atitude should i have?. ahh , ihad one more little question but i forgot haha.
Just be yourself. People will respect you more for it than if you try to be something you're not. And if they don't like who you are, who cares? There are plenty more friends to be made who will.
Anyway, when I'm talking to people I don't know, I find it easier when I ask questions, like "How's your day been?" or "What do you think about such-and-such?" Or I find things to compliment them on and continue a conversation from there. Example: I compliment their new shoes and go off on a tale about my latest adventure trying to find the perfect shoes for school but alas! I never found them. :P
To help you, look for good qualities in yourself and write them down on notecards to put in your backpack, locker, etc. Anywhere you can find them randomly throughout the day to lift your spirits and give you a nice boost of confidence. Brownie points for cool decoration! :)
In conclusion, don't stress too much and have fun!
How do you please your self with just your fingers?
It depends on the person.
Try having your fingers inside of you and rubbing your clitoris with your other hand. See how that works out for you. If that fails, try them one at a time. Or do both with one hand and stimulate your breasts with your other hand.
You need to explore your own body to find out. Pick a time when there's no chance anyone will walk in on you and just lay there in your bed naked and... well, have fun! :D
Okay, I was late for my period the month of June. The I had sex on the 28th of July and started bleeding for like 2 days but it went away... We didn't use a condom (yes i know stupid move) but it just kinda happened, but the bleeding stopped and i am pretty sure the bleeding was just my hymen, but that would mean i never got my period the month of July. I know it is always possible to get pregnant, but how likely is it that I could be pregnant now?
I'm pretty sure the bleeding from your hymen breaking does not last for two days.
You might just have an irregular cycle. Sometimes girls have their periods late or early on one month, then not at all the next. It's usually caused by stress in teenagers.
Pregnancy is very possible, but I would recommend taking it easy this month and not worrying too much. If your period still doesn't come this month or comes very late and seems light, consult a doctor or Planned Parenthood for a pregnancy test.
Best wishes! :)
recently i went down to visit my dad a few states away from me, i was there for about 2 weeks. & in those two weeks i met some amazing people. i liked one of the boys at first, then realized he was just a friend to me & realized i really liked his friend. well me and that boy were just laying in bed together and he had his arm over my back and he just kept looking at me and smiling. and then i told him i liked him. i could tell he liked me but wouldnt tell me because he is like basically taken. anyways. one night we were going to sneak out and meet up with eachother, really just to talk because i was leaving in 2 days. well that never happened. but the next day we were laying in bed again and he put his arm around and told me that im beautiful and to not let anyone tell me different and smiled. i had to leave the enxt day. so the day i got home, i was on the computer talking to him and he goes if you tell anyone i will never talk to you again, but i like you. and idk i was so happy! like i knew he did, but i wanted him to say it. we talked until like 5 in the morning and he was so sweet. he is the most amazing guy i have ever met. i just hate thinking about how we live so far away from eachother because i really like him. i wont be able to see him til either november, december, or february. i just dont know what to do. any advice since im not really asking a question.
Continue talking online and over the telephone. :)
I know it's hard to have someone you really like so far away, not being able to see them or be close to them.
But I'd like to bring up something different. You mentioned he was taken already. And I hate to be a downer, but it doesn't seem like he's going to be breaking up with this other person any time soon, judging by his comment.
Keep talking to him because it seems like you guys really get along and like each other. And remember that it might not work out the way you want it to but there's many more possibilities out there. :)
15/f
well i'm 5 foot and half an inch. yes half an inch. anyways i'm about 113 pounds. its not like i'm fat or anything i just want my stomach to be flatter. i've done the seventeen magazine workouts but they are hard to stick to when cheerleading takes up a lot of time. so if anyone has suggestions that would be great. thanks a ton.
One work-out that is really helpful is hula hooping.
It's fun, fast, and also works at slimming down your waistline.
It's one of my favorites. I do it while watching TV, so it's not like I have to set aside any special time to do it.
I use 2 water-filled hula hoops every day for anywhere from 15-30 minutes, but what you should really be using is a weighted hula hoop you can buy at your closest gym or online. They come in various weights, and you use them for very short amount of time and still get the maximum benefit.
Hope this helps! :)