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A guy that liked me LOADS 3 months ago has gone off me n I REALLY like him
Me and my friend met these two guys 3 months ago. One of them really liked me. He asked me out 3 times after a few weeks. I said no because we hardly knew each other BUT the real reason was because my friend liked his friend and he wasnt asking her out and I felt mean for saying yes because things were going well for me and not for her.
He would ask me to come out and meet him and I wouldn't. Id only meet him when I took my friend and he was bringing his friend along for her. Id also never had anyone like me like that before and I was nervous about being alone with him, incase we ran out of things to talk about or something.
We met up a few times (the four of us) and would stay at one of the guys brothers flats. One night I got drunk and tried going all the way with him but as the alcohol wore off I felt the pain and told him to stop it (im a virgin). It was from here he had gone funny. He still talked normally when I spoke to him but we didnt speak for like a week and I havent seen him since this night (which was about 3 weeks ago). He now doesnt talk to me on MSN first, and I never talk to anyone first. He will be on for hours then just go off.
I really do like him and regret alot of things, but things are fxcked up now and theres no going back. He just isn't interested anymore; However my friend said he asked her if he should ask me out again. He hasnt asked yet???
He has my sunglasses so I’ll have to see him again sometime to get them off him...and he might start liking me again or something if he sees me...then again he might not. WHAT SHOULD I DO!!??
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First, it was nice of you to think of your friend in this situation. It was really nice of you to think of her before a guy -- Stay as kind as that, most girls don't have the intentions to do that anymore, haha.
It sounds like he thinks it was awkward to stop, when you guys were hooking up. Have you explained why you said stop, exactly? If not, he might think you don't like him, or he was doing something wrong, or something along those lines. If you DID explain why you said stop, he might just be a little upset with you? I'm not really sure. But like I've said in other questions: Assumptions are NEVER good.
If he's not talking to you, and you're not talking to him, maybe he thinks YOU'RE avoiding him. I know you said you never message anyone first, but you'll miss a lot of conversations that way. He could think you're mad about what happened three weeks ago, so he's waiting for YOU to send a message.
The best thing to really do at this point would be to talk, actually. Be up front with him. Let him know what's bothering you, adn if you don't want to tell him that you like him, just tell him at least why things went down the way they did three weeks ago. What's there to lose if you're already not talking, in a way?
As for the asking him out, talk to him first. From that, he can see if he still likes you. Then, if you don't want to ask him out yourself, get your friend to encourage him to soon. Make sure she's telling you all the details, and getting a lot of details from him. I'm sure she'd be glad to help you out.
Patience is good. (;
XOXO
KAT.
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Make the first move. ;)
Call him up or IM him to set up a time to meet and get back your sunglasses. When you get there, strike up a conversation and try to be a little flirty. If he doesn't get the hint... well, ask him out yourself. Say something like "We should do this again. Over pizza, maybe?" when you're about to go home. If you're not comfortable asking him out one-on-one, suggest you bring your friends along.
And about what happened between you, he was probably just embarrassed because he thought you wanted to and then told him to stop. Make sure he knows it wasn't a big deal to you.
Okay, well... good luck! :D
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Either he's an ass and is pissed because you stopped the sex, or he might be embarassed because you told him to stop. Or He could've just lost interest. Maybe he thinks(due to the fact that you've rejected him a few times when he asked you out) that you aren't really interested in him. Maybe he's waiting for you to make the move this time. Get over the whole "I don't IM first". I've never really gotten that and I've always thought that was a bit dumb. No offense, but anyways you need to get over that and IM him the next time he's on. It'll show that you actually want to talk to him. Hope I helped hun =]
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