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Hello I'm Sara. I'm 16 years old. I love giving advice and I am very good at it. I have helped a lot of people out with their love, sex, drug, ruined lives and turned them around. I hope I can do the same for you if you give me a chance and just ask ME a question. I respond quick so you will get your answer as soon as you write it to me. I do have my own little problems too so we can share together if that makes you more comfortable.
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okay, me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 2 weeks, not long I know but anyways we have been talking about haveing a 3 sum with me, him and one of his guy friends, and I am thinking about it, but the thing about it is, I dont know how 3 sum's work and everything because i've never had one, but I am considering it. But what my question is....I want to know a little bit about a 3 sum and I was wondering if anyone could tell me about what all happens and everything. If someone can help me out I will rate High, thanks!! (link)
Okay first of all your BOYfriend should NOT want to have a 3 sum with you and ANOTHER GUY. That is not a threesum. A normal (not gay) threesum is 2 girls and a guy. Unless your boyfriend talks shit behind your back and says how easy you are to hes friends and to prove hes point he is doing this. But to answer your question.....YOU will either be sucking one of their dicks while one is in you from behind (anal or vaginal entry) or one is in your vaginal while the other is in your ass. They will basically put it any where..I WOULD not consider this if i were you...You will be considered a slut and I am not trying to be mean but I'm serious. That is what you will be called if word gets around to all hes friends. which it will. HOpe I helped.


Aright, well...heres the deal. First of all there is this guy I had liked for about 4 years and things for really rough and we stopped seeing each other...when I say rough I mean he cheated on me with ALL of my best friends. I started working somewhere where I met this girl...she's absolutely amazing...everything about her. To get to the point, I fell head over heals in love with her. We were together for a while...and then I got basically shafted for this other girl who she is now with. Now, I'm moving 700 miles away and I'm to afraid to confront who is now the love of my life and talk to her. Also, my "best friend" confessed her love to me recently and she kissed me...so really everything is ALL messed up. The best friend that now says she loves me, has had a boyfriend for 2 years...if you were me, what would you do? (link)
Okay so your a girl? lol I got VERY confused for a second when i read that you were with a guy and then a girl and now your friend that is a girl loves you. lol Are you bisexual or something? Anyway...To your answer. If she has confessed her love for you, then she isnt really worried about her 2 year long relationship with her boyfriend so then you should go for it. Make yourself happy with hte person you want to be happy with. Your person you are in love with now is who? Is she a friend, a stranger? If you like her than you SHOULD NOT be afraid to aproach her. Your need to have it out in the open if you want to be happy. Hope I helped. xox sara.


13.f
can anyone give me tips on masterbating besides dildos, vibrators, or fingering. please dont send me links 2 websites or say eww y do u like 2 masterbate or something like that. (link)
I'm sorry hun but that is the only ways to masturbate..Your could get a boyfriend and that could be your "toy" Hehe..(Thats what I use..my boyfriend) lol. Why do you need to know anyways little young lady? Your only 13. Haha just kidding. Im 16 by the way.


i have a friend that've liked me for soo long and i like him too but i never got with him because i always knew that i couldnt he lives in another state and long distance of course never works out..the past two boyfriends ive had he totally hated and btw i have a boyfriend right now...well so because he lives in a diff. state i dont wanna get with him but now hes giving up on all hope and i know for sure that when he stops he'll stop talking to me and we're gonna drift apart and i really dont want that to happen...ive tried to give him some signals that i dont like him but then other times i just cant help it because as ive said hes soo sweet and hes always there for me and he never seems to get it how else can i help him get over me but still keep in touch?! (link)
Okay I seriously had a problem like this. My friend Steven lives in maine. Well I met him on Sims Online. Well he started to like me A LOT say he loved me and goodnight and all that and then he started sending me stuff. Freaky!!! He went to disney land for spring break and he sent me micky mouse ears with my NAME sewed into the back, 2 necklaces with my name on them and then for my birthday he sent me a card with a teddy bear and 16 dollars..Stalker? YES. He only did this because I have a boyfriend..John that he "hated" (was jealous of) and would always put him down, well I got freaked out about him...He got my address because my friend lives in maine and she knows him and she told him..well i stopped talking to him so he got the hint that i didnt like him AT ALL and then he just gets mad and sends me mean emails...Thats the way it worked for me but if you want him to keep talking to him then you need to tell him that you guys are relaly good firends and you don't want ot loose that but you live in a differnt state and it wouldnt work out and he should know that. Say that he is like a brother to you and that is all we will ever be because you guys have a bond like no other..He will take this into concideratione and think about it and he will adventually get over it and all will be good. Sorry so long but I hope I helped you with your question hun. Respond with what you think? Thanks bye. xo sara


ALRIGHT PEOPLE! I need your help! Alright well there is this guy and I think I have a crush on him! butt.. he is like a really horny person.. and like if i ever did go out with him (which I doubt) im afraid hed use me! But i think itd be fun to go out with him! and I have a crush on him.. and hes funny and everything! but I dont want him just to use me for stuff.. and I already told him if I do anything sexual with anyone they are gona be my boyfriend.. what if some how we do end up goin out.. how do I know he isnt using me? But also how do I make him like me for me and not just for sexual stuff!! (link)
Easy. Play hard to get, guys hate hit but they chase you and realize your more than a sex toy if they would waste their time chasing you. Get what I am saying? It is easy, so don't say it is hard. I know from experience. Try it. It my be a little hard cause you do have to kind of ignore him a little bit cause that is the point of the chase. But I hope I helped you hun. Please respond with the out come?. XO sara


hey! well me and my ex boyfriend mike went out for 3 months..i know its not a long time but we talked and dated for like 4 months before that! well anyways we have been broken up for almost 6 months now and we both have went out with other people!i have always asked him if he liked me and if wed ever get back together..well he never would answer the whole like you question but he would always say i dunno if we will ever go back out cause i dont normally go out with ex gfs so i thought ok fine whatever! well i tried moving on ya know and i finally got to the point i thought i was over him! i even had him over like 4 weeks ago..i could kinda tell he had feelings for me cause he would keep asking me for a hug and hed like put his arm around me and he gave me a hickey and we had a total blast together..but it kinda felt like we were just friends so i thought well maybe i am over him but yet i still missed him! so i went on vacation and didnt really talk to him for 2 weeks..the day i get back he ims me and was talking to me and said he liked me so that kinda made me feel good but then i also realied that maybe i wasnt quite over him and he had also asked if he could come over next week so i thought sure! well so the next night we stayed up til 3:15 in the morning talking and he had said he still loved me and always had, he missed me, and itd be great if we eventually got back together but he didnt want that right now and he wanted to keep things slow for right now! then the next night it was a repeat we stayed up til 3:30 and he said he missed me and my picture was his background on his computer and what not! well then things just kinda seemed weird! i just had this feeling it wasnt gonna be a good day but i kinda tried letting it go past me and i wrote his xanga past memories and i told him i still loved him..so i guess that was a bad idea cause he totally flipped and was like omg i cant believe u did that , you know i dont like my friends knowing everything, blah blah blah! so i was like ok im sorry and i showed him how to get rid of it! so then he wouldnt say i love you but he said i miss ya and your pic is still on my background so i was like okay maybe things arent that bad! but he also told me he didnt know if he was going to come over next week now because i made him upset and he couldnt believe i would do that which seemed kinda weird to me! but the thing is i want him to come over cause i wanna see him and talk all of this out in person and i even made a scrap book of us cause i want him to realize how much i really do care! well then theres this girl melissa that has liked him for about a year now! well hes always told me they were just friends and things like that! and the other day i said something how hes always with girls and calls them hun and stuff and hes like i hate when your like this cause you always think i like these girls when really we are just close friends! and i want to trust him but its so hard! and then like today i read his xanga and melissa signed it saying i cant wait to watch fire works with you tomarrow and then it had this quote that was like seduce my body blah blah blah seduce my soul and ill always be yours! and im so clueless on what to think about that! i know they both use to like eachother and they went to a dance together after we broke up and all he ever tells me is they are just close friends but he is with her all the time! and i dont know what to think of it! i just dont know why he would sit there and say all of a sudden out of no where that he loved me and missed me when for 6 months he wouldnt say a word to me! PLEASE HELP ME! and by the way you are very pretty! (link)
Wow..Well first of all thanks for the compliment.. That made me feel very good. Okay but anyways I said wow because (I know a lot of people say "i've had a boyfriend like this and blah blah" but i have and i have all the advice to give you because of it.) Okay My ex boyfriend JJ was like this a lot...and still is. We went out for 4 months and then he broke up with me saying it went to fast and he needs other girls in hes life cause he is to young, well I find out that he was doing stuff with this girl kristy (which was hes "close friend") Well I was pissed..Cause one he told me he would never she is like hes sister and they are just really close friends..well they went to a dance together and then that was the end, well i was stupid and went back to him and that was in august (not last august, the one before) well we broke up in november because it went to fast again and so I go really hurt because i started loving him and I really needed a guy at the time. I got over him around januaray and then he calls me and says all this shit like he has me as hes background and he misses me and misses talking to me and I felt like he was honest and I really felt bad..so i went back to him but he was talking to this girl ally which was hes other "close" friend so i got mad then hes cousin told me that him and her were kissing so I got mad and then he got mad so he dumped me AGAIN (cheated on me and THEN he dumped me) well that was around march or april then so then i got over him pretty quickly cause i felt like i didnt have to cry and waste my fucking time over someone that didnt want me so i met john (my boyfriend now) and we started talking around july and then we started dating in august and I have been with him for 10 months now with no break ups at all and we are as happy as can be and no one can bring us down, but jj emailed me like a week ago and made this long ass speech about how he loves me, never thought about ANY other girls (lie of course) and blah blah and then when i told him about john he flipped and then got into hes angry mood (which he had all the time...we had a very aggressive relationship that had him hitting me and stuff...ya horrible)well I didn't even think twice..It was long gone and Just move on, what you hear and see is probly correct and I would stay away, i was in the SAME EXACT situation that you are in and it ended with me crying and hurting my self over someone i thought loved me but just used me. and he still wants me and that was like a year ago. I hate him and I always will...Hate is a strong word but when it comes to him I have a right to use it and i have scars to prove it. but thats a different story..John is now my councler (spell check) so I am good now. i don't even think about him any more not even a tiny bit. So hun I would just move on and they are other good guys out there ....trust me a lot of people told me and i didnt believe them and i always said no but now look at me, i've been in a relationship for 10months and never could be happier. I hope i helped you hun...I really hope i did. Please Respond to me.


Okay, so friendship questions are rare for me. This is gonna be long. If you have a problem with that, stop reading right now.
I'm really kind of scared. My best friend, short of sister, I think, is addicted to this guy.
Problem is, they never dated. She liked him, but he didn't like her. Then she got over him, and he liked her.
Then she decided to unget over him.
He's a possessive asshole. He's basically "claimed" her and talks about their married future, and she goes with it, considering him hers as he considers her his.
The worst thing is, though, all her life, her family has considered her the "screwup", so all she's known is displacement and pain. She's longed for real love her whole life, even the "parent" kind of love. Not just the husband/wife love.
I don't even know how to explain this. She thinks he unconditionally loves her.
I have unconditional love. My boyfriend and I have discussed marriage, and he loves everything about me, even my flaws, and wouldn't change me.
This guy, however, he's used her, emotionally abused her, hurt her more than anything, and he's even like, haunting her dreams. He tried to change her. Get her to dye her hair blonde, change her clothing style, criticized everything...
I'm just afraid she's going to end up with him and cause herself more pain.
She's created an idea of him for herself. Things he does, she's given examples...I can see that he's only doing these things because he gets something out of it. He gets a person to possess. Someone to own. I hate him for what he's doing to her, but she won't let me talk sense into her.
I can't talk to him because he doesn't like me anyway.
I don't know what to do about this. This girl is seriously like my little sister. I want to protect her from him. Not from all guys, just from him because I know he's bad news.
He tried to convince me to cheat on my boyfriend with him, and to tell me that if he "really" wanted me, I could be his in a heartbeat, because he's just that good with women, which sickened me from the start. I don't understand what she sees in him. Fine. Whatever, I can deal with that.
I can't deal with him hurting her and making her think he's the last person out there for her (she's had bad luck in relationships).
On top of it all, she's afraid her parents are going to make her move, and they're not sending her to college next year, which is where she should be.
What do you think I should do? I mean, I can't really DO anything. What can I say?
-Siren =( (link)
WOW, That is a lot to read huh? Haha..But that is good that you took your time to concider typing all that. Okay She is like your sister...So say that. Say ((whatever her name is)) that shes like your little sister and that you care for her and what she does, You don't want her hurt and in pain likee is causing her and that you think it will become really bad news and you don't want her hurt because your afraid that he will end up hurting her and you don't want that because she is like your little sister and you don't want someone that you loved hurt like that. You obviously love her a lot if you care enough to say this but if she does not listen to you then you cannot do anything for her and you need to tell her that. Say at the beginning of your talk to her tell her you cannot help her if she is not going to listen. It will do no good if she does not care. Do you have her trust and honesty with each other so that she will listen to you?? Tell me how it goes. I had a friend like this but i talked came to late and she killed her self over this guy because he told her all that shit and then he told her that he hated her because she wouldnt stop talking to me..She was only 15 years old...Guys these days..But my boyfriend is great also and her boyfriend tried the same thing with me...So I know EXACTLY were your coming from.
Hope I helped a little bit.
Sara.


I usually use pads out of the fear I've had of of using a tampon... I have attempted using them a few times in the past but didn't like the feeling... I recently tried using them again but the thing is I can FEEL them even when I push the applicator as far up and in as possible, is this normal? I heard it should feel like you're wearing nothing when you have a tampon in... plus when I push the second part of the applicator I get this uncomfy pressure which feels weird... and when I take them out (this is usually right after I put them in because I can feel them) - it takes alot of tugging and feels abit horrible too!
Is this right? (link)
Okay Yes it is normal for the first time. It's because you do not know how to use them yet. It might be because you put it in a wrong way...like to far to the left or to the right. The first time I used them I put it to the right and omg it hurt so bad to sit and stand and move and ya it was painful but I had taken it out and when I did it hurt SOOO bad. It's because it was dry and I was dry inside. That is the only reason it hurts when you take it out. I tried my second time and put it straight down and pushed all the way up. I felt good because I couldnt feel anything and now I don't even think I could go back to pads..Pads can give you yeast infection and a VERY VERY nasty odor, even if you got a smelly kind of pad. Well I hope you try again and I hope it is successful. Good luck, inform me if it works.


Does anybody know if Laney was adopted like you know in eminems songs. i know that halyey is his real kid but what about laney? i know its kind of a dumb question but i dont need to know that thank you! peace.xox (link)
Wow okay..I just read all your answers you got for that question. They are all wrong. Yes she is he's neice. Her father was eminems brother. He died ((If you ever look at eminems tatoos it says r.i.p and then thes name)) Laneys mom was never a fit mom. Eminem adopted her so now she is hes daughter kind of..If you listen to the lyrics of the song it kind of explains it. Hope I helped. Bye


okay well lately alot has been sucky. we had to move to another town and now i go to an up-tight sucky school. i hate the people there are judgmental and all that crap. they lable people and stuff and the friends i do have my parents do know their parents so i cant do anything with them. my parents are stucky. the only thing i have that is good right now is soccer. i might even have to quit though because my knee cap, it is shifting over the more i use it the worse it gets and another peoson on my team has the exact same thing and she just got sugury done on it and she is out all summer. well lately i have been writing lyrics and i dont want to show them to anyone because im afriad they will get scared that im depressed and put me in a rubber room. but anyways i guess all i need is some help. i was talking to my bf's cousin today (because my bf is on vacation)and i think that i give her the wrong impresstion because at that time is was really thinking about runaway and just i dont know dying but now not as much but now im afriad she is going to tell my bf that im going to break his heart because i told her i was going away for awhile i didnt know if would come back. i guess i just need comforting.

thanks thoose who help (link)
Okay hun. You sound just like my friend chelsea. You just need a close friend. If you ever need to talk to me I'll be here. Ya it is kind of weird to talk to someone you barely know. But trust me I can help. I've helped her from killing her self I dont know how many times. If you cannot get a hold of me on here my sn is xpinkflamezzx. On aim.


what would you do if you are only 14 and a girl wants to grab you there but you aint had puberty and it aint that big and youve been going out for almost 2 years what should i do just let her and get humiliated or just tell her to wait

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Okay So...YOu have been dating this girl for what 2 years? You were 12? Normally guys don't start puberty at 14..My boyfriend is 17 and he got puberty at 15..It's differnt on a lot of people. If you guys have been together for a while I don't think she would mind. Just tell her how it is. She shouldnt mind. How old is she? If she is the same age as you then i doubt she has hit puberty and if she has then tell her your a late bloomer..Tell me what you think and I hope I helped. Keep me informed on what happens please. good luck.


im a 13/f. i have been getting this white werid stuff in my underwear for ALONG TIME NOW AND I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT IT IS. shouldnt i have go my period by now? (link)
Do not worry. I am 16 years old and I still get that. It is discharge. It is where your body cleans out its system. DISGUSTING ISNT IT?!?! I hate it. I hate buying new underwear cause of it. but it is a natural girl thing. My gyno told me you will grow out of it some time when your older...I hope mine comes soon!


my best friend is having sum guy problems she has never had a bf! and i really want her to have a bf because when i am with my bf she is there, and i feel bad becuz she fells left out no madder what i do! so i was wondering if anyone had any ideas....
o and she has very high standards
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WOW..Once i read this I immediatly thought of my sister. Alright im 16..I've had about 5 boyfriends in my life..She is 20...She just got her first boyfriend, first kiss, first date. AND SHE IS 20!!! Yes she did hate it. Seeing her little sister have boyfriends..I'm with my guy for 10 months now and I guess it got her thinking. She just got a boyfriend. You have to have your friend find a guy by herself. I helped my sister a little cuz she finally got the courage to talk to me and ask me for help so her now boyfriend is my boyfriends friend. See...Just give it time. She'll lower her standers...TRUST ME! My sister was VERY VERY VERY picky also. HOpe I helped...Sorry if i dont


So, my questions are usually opinion issues, but this one's actually an "I don't know" issue.
What is the guy's equivilant of a promise ring?
My guy and I are going ring shopping for me, and I want to get him something that says "I'm taken" basically (because I don't trust girls, and we're going to different colleges in the fall).
My problem is that he doesn't wear jewelry. Like, at all.
There's the sliiiiiim possibility that I could get him to make an exception for a ring (or even get him to put the ring on the only necklace he wears (a dog tag on a chain)) but I doubt it.
So...what can I get him that'll tell other people he's taken besides a ring or a tattoo with my name in it? Lol. (link)
You should really try a ring. Ask him and tell him that it means a lot to you if he would wear it. Say it could be a reminder of you when he is at school and away from you. My boyfriend wears a necklace..Basically guys that wear necklaces ((no dog tags)) have girlfriends. Basically. But one thing i know for sure a girl will second guess herself is a ring. I wear a promise ring my boyfriend got me and no guy has talked to me in 10 months. Well I hope I helped. Please tell me what he says if you go with this plan...GOOD LUCK HUN!


okay so i was wandering how accurate a home pregnany test is if it is taken like 8 days before your period? also my boyfriend and i were kind of messing around a few weeks ago we started to have sex without a condom it was like for 2 mins then we finished with a condom are there like any chances im pregnant i took a test which was negative but like i asked i have like 8 days till my period


thanks (link)
Alright not every home test is accurate. There are some flaws in them. Did you get the test that can happen before your period or did you get one that is for a late period. There are many different kinds of pregnancy test. Yes if you guys started having sex with no condom you can get pregnant by Pre-Cum. Its when your most likely to get pregnant because the pre-cum is were are the live sperm is fastest to go into your system. but that happens right before he is about to cum. Never REALLY early.
hope I helped...Tell me your results if you take a late pregnancy test if your period dont start in the eight days that it is suppose to
Good luck!


well...here is the thing. i have a boyfriend and we've been dating for a while now. when we have sex it feels very good to be honest but one thing i dont like about my boyfriend is when i give him head...he seems to enjoy it SO much he "tinkles" a little in my mouth and it is the most unatractive thing in the world....how do i stop it? (link)
Tinkles? Like he pisses or cums in your mouth a little bit? If its cum then thats normal and no you cant stop it. He can't feel it either is Pre-Cum. It happens kind of right when they guy is about to fully cum. Pre-Cum is the cum that most of the sperm (baby makers) are in. But sorry you cant stop that. It happens to me ALL the time. I just spit it out after he cums. Its a natural thing. Hope I helpd.


i was wondering if anyone knew any websites that have FREE phone greetings? like voicemail greetings by celebrities? i've tried searching but its no use. preferably avril lavigne, britney spears, or the olsen twins? thanks bunches, 5 for trying. =) (link)
It depends on your phone that you have. I have a Motorolla and every site I go to..Like Jamster.com Don't work because of the phone I have. My real company I go through though is US Cellular-They work on that website though. Depends on the model your phone is.
Write me back with more questions if you got any.-Hope I helped. Your Welcomed


but
does size rly matter and if it does how big does one need to be

ive heard both that it dont and that it does and its bothericious (link)
Have you ever heard that saying "Its not the size that matters its the motion in the ocean"? Well it's true. Even if the guy is really small he can still give the girl all the pleasure she needs by how he moves. Unless the girl is a whore and really loose then i guess the guy that is small is outta luck. Just kidding. No its really how you use it now how it looks...Hope a made ya laugh and helped ya out a little bit.


ok so ive had a crush on this guy since my freshmen year (Kyle). And then i find out from a friend (Jason) that Kyle's intrested in me too, and he thinks i am cute, has a good personality.. blah blah blah. But as i'm asking Jason about all this he says Kyle is confused and he doesn't know if he wants a relationship! what am i suppose to do? This guy doesn't really know how crazy i am about him. But i mean, how do i get him to think of me as more then a friend? PLEASE SEND WHATEVER ADVICE U GOT! haha thanks! (link)
Okay a lot of birdie huh? Birdie is talking from one person to another person for the "info". Well i think that if kyle is intrested in you and you think its for your personality only then you need to talk to him about it-but from what I read it sounds like its for your looks if he thinks your cute but he doesnt know if he wants a relationship-thats normally how it goes..they just don't want ot sound like a regular guy. Just you need to REALLY talk to him..see what he is all about and then think if you should really waste your time and talk to him.


I am 13 and I have never kissed anyone. I know that I want too, but I want it to be sweet and romantic. I have thought about this for a LONG time (ever since I turned 11) I want a romantic first kiss, like a walk in the park or something and then we just kiss. I need to know about 5 things though. (1) I have braces, will our lips get hung together or something? (2) I ALSO have a herpz appliance in my mouth!!! Will THAT get our lips caught together? (3) How do you kiss? I mean whats the most sweetest way to kiss without making out? (4) Where is a romantic date? I can go to the movies or somewhere like that? I don't have any parks where I live. (5) Whats a good type of clothing, earrings, etc. to where? I REALLY NEED A GIRL'S ADVICE! (link)
Okay well these days the first kiss isnt all that romantic anymore. But here are your answers.
1. No your braces won't get caught on their lips. Your mouth is closed and your teeth are not no wide almost sticking out grin type anyways.
2. Okay I have no idea what a herpz appliance is..but I don't think it would be a problem.
3. For a sweet kiss but not a make out. Just lightly peck(long but not to long) him, Hold he's face with your left hand-gently..like a caress..and tilt your head to the right so your noses dont smush.
4. Lately a movie isn't a romantic date these days. Everyone goes to them so it's a normal routine, I think a romantic date is just sitting at home eating on a couch or you could go for the spender and just go out to a nice restaurant you and him have never tried before so then when you guys go to look at orders you can look stupid together..There has to be a good laugh at the beginning of your date so it don't go crappy.
5. A good type of clothing? Nothing-lol jp. Just jeans and a nice t-shirt..not to nice of an out-fit. you don't want to look helpless(unless you've been dating for awhile..so then you can surprise him) Earing..Go for SMALL hoops or just plain colored diamonds.
-I have had the same guy for 10 months now. I started out seeing him in just a long t-shit and jeans and regualar shoes. Lately to surprise him and get him excited to take me out I wear skirts and cute tops..Theres always time for a picker upper for your man...Just don't try to hard-i learned that mistake with my ex.




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