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i want to get higher marks and next term i wanna aim for a 90 or over.. how can i do that? i'm not actually particularly good at any of the subjects but i want to try to get a 90s average. what are some things i could do? especially for core subjects like english, math, history/geography, and science? thanks alot, i really want to keep all my options open since i want to be some kind of doctor when i grow up.

Bookworm- (jk)Its really good that you care about your grades and your future! Ok you could get a tutor or someone thats really good in that class to study with!
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ok well i like this guy. i dont know if he has a girl friend. he always says hi to me and gives me hugs. and were both like involved with singing adn stuff at school so we like sing songs together and stuff. and he kissed me on the cheek once when he was leaving somewhere. and he asked for my cell phone number. and once he tried to hook up with me. stupidly i didnt know and didnt even open my mouth! ha ha. anyway i wanna know if he likes me. and if he does then what should i do? should i ask him out, or wait for him to ask me out, or ask a friend to ask him to go out with me? i am really confused and i really like him. please help!

Ok he obviously has a little more on his mine than chorus buddies! You say you like him, did you give him your number? Does he call you? It sounds to me like he likes you, you could always ask a fried to talk to him for you, make sure its someone you trust though..maybe while your talkin to him just ask him what hes doin this weekend, ask him if he wants to go to the movies or something bc your dying to get out of the house..
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The guy who I've really liked for over a year said that he kind of likes me. What does it mean if he kind of likes me? My friend who is friends with him thinks that since he's shy, he said that he kind of likes me because he was too shy to say yes. This other guy who I talked to who doesn't even know the guy I like said that he thinks it means that the guy I like thinks I'm hot and has a little crush on me, but isn't really like in love with me. What do you think it means if he kind of likes me?

If someone likes you..thats what it means...They like you, your pretty, do you talk to this guy, maybe he likes that your easy to have a conversation with, he likes you a little, maybe he has feelings for someone else or hes never really thought about a relationship with you, why dont you talk to him about it and tell him how you feel!Tell him youve liked him for a long time and ask him how he feels! Youll never know unless you ask! :*:SaRa:*:

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One of my best guy friends who calls me all the time (like literally every 2 minutes) well my best friend told me that he likes me but i didnt believe her and then he told me he did and i just thought of him as my friend so i was like no and then he got a girl friend and it hurt me and i think i'm just in denial cuz i do have feelings for him. Do y'all think I have feelings for him?

I was in the same situation awhile back, theres just something nice about having a guy around just as friends, theres nothing wrong with being a little jealous that another gurl has taken some of his time, noone can tell you if you have feelings for him except you, listen to your heart and whatever it tells you is what i think you should go by! *:*SaRa:*:

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okay i have a b/f now well call him "K" okay well we've been goin out for a lil while but i wanna call him but im afraid his mom or something is gonna answer what do i do/?

So whats it matter if his mom answers? Just ask if hes there,...obviously he likes you and wants to talk bc your his girlfriend, get off the internet and go call him! :*:SaRa:*:

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Hi, i really like this kid. He's kinda on the popular side, and im just not there yet. Like, the popular people like me and all but its hard talking to them. Well back to the point, i really like this kid and i know you might say "go talk to him!". Its not that easy! Ecspecially for a girl like me. I have liked him since last year, and i IMed him once asking him a question and he asked who i was and said he thinks he knows who i am and answered my question. He's not in the same class as me either. I think he knows i like him cuz of last year someone i think told him or something but i just dont know what to do! Please Help!
-- lost girl

--lost girl--
Its really hard being in situations like that, people just think that they are better than everyone and so busy with their little lives that they dont understand, your situation is not permanent! in a couple of years youll be out of highschool and never have to mess with some of those little immature freaks! Or you can look at it my way, your only who you belive yourself to be, as long as your happy with yourself, none of those freaks should matter! i wouldnt consider myself one of the most poplular ppl at my school, it takes years to climb to the top of the social ladder and im afraid of heights! Go talk to this guy, it is that simple, whats the worst he can say?If he is mean or rude then you dont need him neway, real beauty is on the inside, believe in yourself and everyone else will too! Hope it works out! *:*SaRa:*:

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As a seventeen year old female who is oober tired of stupid highschool guys and would like to move on to more mature ones... how old is too old for me?

i know how you feel im 17 and its seems like guys are so immature and even get dumber with age, as my personal opinion i think that 19 is the oldest i would go..thanks for the question, *:*SaRa:*:

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uhhh sara if you and ur g/f have been going out for a long time and you both want to take ur relationship to the next level butur too shy to make the first move how would you go about it???

Dear Bashful:)
Goin all the way is a really big step and adds alot of unwanted pressure to any relationship if your too young, my advice to you is that you need to talk to her and tell that you wanna take things to the next level and you wanna know how she feels, personally i dont have a girlfriend but i do know that if its not with the right person and the intentions arent right...it hurts any relationship...think about what i said and lemme know how if i helped!
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Hi. I'm 14. I'm a girl. Can you get pregnant from swallowing cum after giving head to a guy?

ps..no i havent done it..just wondering about it..

Umm...im not sure what gave you that idea, but no it is impossible..think about it...anything you swallow gets digested in your stomach and the acid in your stomach is so strong that it can melt metal, so it gets digested along with anything else..maybe its time to have "the talk" with your parents!j/k
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ok well latly i have been remembering times when i was younger that i did not like at all. my family would take pictures of me when i was in the bathtub.(i was about 10 or so at the time) and i recall one time when my grandmother was scratching my back but went below my pants line and i freaked out,ran away and cryed. my mom said i was making to big of a deal out of it. again when i was about 9, my mom would suggest that i sleep topless in the summer if i got hot. i always thought that was strange. plus my family(including aunts and grandparents) spanked my butt for no reason at all. just when they passed me they would. i dont like thinking that they did that to me, but i was younger at the time and i didnt know any better because i though a lot of famlies were like that. well now i know that they're not and theres also a lot of other problems going on in my house(not sexualy). but is there something i can do about it now that im older and know it was wrong...(is it wrong?) or if i should just forget about it because its passes. oh and i have always felt that i would get raped before im 18...please help me if you can...

Its only a problem if it bothers you, and if it does then you need to solve the problem..talk to them and tell your family how you feel...im sure they are just playin..but tell them that you are uncomfortable and then maybe things will get better...keep me updated and remember only you have the choice to change things in your life..:*:SaRa:*:

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okay there's this guy at school...his names chris and i've liked him for a year now and last year we had 4 classes together and this year we have 4 classes together again! and we've been talking alot and he's sooo hot! and last friday night at the football game he sat down by me on the hill and i pulled out a pack of gum and he said "you know you wanna give me a piece of that right" and so i pulled out a piece and tried to hand it to him but he wouldn't take it...so i was like "uhhh" lol and he said "my arms are too tired i need you to unwrap it and put on my tongue" and omg he stuck out his tongue!!! i laughed and blushed and did it and then we just talked the rest of the night! does he like me?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? HELP PLEASE!!
~*lashes*~

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It sounds like to me that he was DEFINATLEY flirting with you! I mean come on!! What all do yall talk about? You should try to get together with him one weekend or something, go ahead and sneak it into the conversation one day, or try flirting with him to see if he flirts back!
Keep me updated! good luck! :*:SaRa:*:

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I have a friend that i love very much, and i did some stupid stuff to get in trouble and now i won't be able to see her for a while. I know it don't bother her she probably likes having a break from me, but i can't stand it i used to look foward to seeing her lovely smile everyday and now i can't. What should i do?

what about dont get introuble?

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My Friend Lied to me telling me he got suspended for acting "pimp" and i knew that u cant get suspended for acting like that. But i had found out by a nother friend that he brought a knife to school. It totally shocked me and i started to cry because wat friend could do that. I'm still mad and frusterated. Now he may be suspended 4 good. im still mad for it should he still be my friend?? Should i trust him??? and I*m mad cuz wat was he gunna do wit da knife!
PLEASE ANSWER IMMEDIATLY!!

Betrayed is what you feel! What would posess your friend to think that he had no other options? You should be there for your friend and let him know that your there for him because he obviously has problems and thats not the way to solve them. Yes your friend is probably suspended for a year or so, the school has no choice and you can obviously understand that! Was he gonna stab someone or was it a deliberate act of being violent! I probably wouldnt fear for my life if i were you but you def. should get to the bottom of this! :*:SaRa:*:

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how do i tell a friend that i think im to old to hang out wit them in the nicest possibleway??? plese help!

how do you tell a friend that? this person is obviously not a friend but you shouldnt make up stuff, if your so much more mature than they are then tell them the truth. (honesty is the best policy). Why all of a sudden is age a problem its not like they got older over nite! Tell them that your busy or you cant "hang out". :*:SaRa:*:

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ok i used to go out with this guy but we didnt really do anything so we broke up and plus i dont think he liked me anymore and i didnt think i liked him but now that were back @ school everytime i see him i get really really nervous but i still like him as a friend what can i do not to act so nervous around him?

Let me get this straight, you want advice on how not to be nervous? You must feel more than a frienship toward this guy for it to make you nervous! Think about other things, try to distract yourself...dont tune out or anything but just get side tracked, drift into space lol i dont know what can i say i tried! Happy daydreaming! :*:SaRa:*:

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Just so everyone knows, putting this in the subject of your question not only does not affect our decision to delete it, but it only serves to point out to us that you have already asked the same question before and it was deleted.

Asking the same exact question two or three times, only putting "MODERATORS, DON'T DELETE THIS QUESTION", does nothing but serve to annoy us more.

I added this comment only out of pity!-*:*SaRa:*:

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I need GOOD grades to get into a certain group, and be consistent about it. Does anyone have study tips or ways I can pull off a good grade by the end of the year?

Im not an A student, or a high acheiver but i have learned to study, its just something you have to force yourself to do, make it a habit, do it for the group you wanna be in and do it for yourself! good luck student! it says alot about you when you care about ur grades and your future! :*:SaRa:*:-now go hit the books:)

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i have a question i have a friend and i try to get her to just go somewhere with me as friends but she always has better stuff to do are she gets looped into doin something else how do i get her to finally go somewhere with me

Maybe its just never the right time, i mean im sure sometimes she asks you to do stuff and you already have plans or didnt answer the phone or it was inconvenient for you! Its prob. not her fault when things come up without notice-everything happeneds for a reason, just stop worryin about it...if its suppost to be, then it will be, dont try to make it into something if its not and you pushing isint gonna change her mind, its gonna push her away, so why not drop that subjects till she brings it up, then if you feel the same way youll know its suppost to happen! :*:SaRa:*:

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i have a friend ive been in love with since 7th grade and she knows how much i love her,but she wont go out with me. i have tried everything i have proposed to her 3 times but she says shes to young to make that kind of decision,but i know she is who i want to spend the rest of my life with. she wont even go out with me because we are best friends. but i think its because im not cute enough or i dont have blonde hair or blue eyes or im not buff or skinny. what can i do to get her to like me.

Appearance is not always what people are looking for, you have a kind heart, good intentions and im sure that you mean very much to your friend, so much that she wouldnt wanna lose you over a breakup or something stupid! Its not always about "goin out" why not be friends and see if in the future something could happen, im sure she does like you, like you so much shes doesnt wanna lose you...

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When I first met the guy I like right now he would always tell me to call him and stuff and we'd always talk no matter where or what we were doing.Well now that school started we hardly talk but I still like hime very much.Well last Sat.when I was at his house we made out and he was holding me and stuff and when I said I was cold he would pull me closer you know he was very sweet! Well it's tues and I haven't talked to him since Sun.I like him alot and He makes me happy.But I hate calling him other then when he tells me too{{ i feel like im bugging him}} So..Should I call him?Im 13 female.

Its always a good point to never call a guy, if they wanna talk then they can always call you, but i mean who listens to that really? You said that yall always talk no matter where or what, so just call him, he obviously has some feelings for ya, maybe hes waiting for you to call, :*:SaRa:*:

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