I went to camp as a counselor.. for about 5 days and I liked a boy there last year.. but this year when I went I had a boyfriend which things weren't going to great for us.. so I ended up dumping him.. Over the 5 days at camp the guy I liked was like flirting with me grabbing my hips and just being incredibly sweet.. now that i'm home from camp we have been talking on the internet.. and he says he wants to see me and asks me if I want a new boyfriend and stuff like that.. I really want to see him and miss him like crazy.. but sometimes I get mixed feeling from him.. should I just come out and ask him if he likes me??
yes of course u should ask him! at least that clears off one question on ur mind. but before that remind urself, are u ready for this new relationship? what if its just an infatuation, since u have mixed feelings about him? but all the more go for it and who knows what u might get outta it right? im happy for ya, and good luck. all the best -Rei!
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A boy deep kissed(first kiss) me and i am very paranoid about catch HIV through kissing, but should i be worried?
lol dearie u dun have to be worried! HIV is a sexually transmitted disease, u wouldnt get HIV just by deep kissing! =P besides shouldnt u do a little investigation first? maybe the boy isnt infected with HIV in the first place. getting paranoid goes nowhere, gurl! relax (",) -Rei
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I LOVE basketball, it's almost like my life. I love playing, even though I'm not that good. My new school started practices today, and they are making the cut next week. So far we have 15 girls, but we can only have 18. School starts next week which will mean more competition. I'm really nervous, because I'm not horrible but when scrimmaging/playing in a game, i get really nervous and I lose my head. I mess everything up. I really want to make this team. Does anyone have advice to help me get better and focus? THX
do a little card with words saying "i MUST make into basketball!" the 'MUST' must be in bold and capitals, try look at it everyday when u wake up. it helps motivate ya a little to work towards ur dream of getting into basketball.
reason for putting 'MUST' instead of WILL TRY or CAN: the moment ur brain reads something that equals with compulsory(must is a MUST!), it naturally gives u the "strength" to fight for that basketball position. good luck and YOU CAN DO IT!! *cheers* -Rei
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There's this little boy and he's 12 years old. His mom got in a freak car accident in which a lighting bolt struck a tree and it fell on her car a killed her. And if that wasn't bad enough his step-dad kicked him out. I really want to help him out because he's such a sweet kid and he doesn't deserve this. Any suggestions about what to do? Thanks for any help I'll try my best to give you good rates!
im sorry to hear about his late mother and the curelty of his step-dad, but sometimes life is simply not on our side. we didnt choose the way we want our life to be, its already predestined that this and that will happen. i'll show him all the love i have and shower him with warmth and comfort. hes still young and doesnt really know whats the outside world about, make sure he doesnt feel angry at his plight and doesnt self abuse(cutting) himself. hes probably going through a tough time right now. be there for him, stand by him and support his future dreams.
hoped i helped! -Rei
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Ok HeReS HoW It StArTeD:
I WaS OvEr At My FrIeNdS HoUsE(aka person) AnD ThIs iS OuR CoNvO.
Person: Ummm I need To Tell you Sumin Serious But you Cant Tell AnYbOdY!!!
Me: Ok You Can TrUsT Me
Person: I think I mite Be bi
Me: Bi as in Bisexual
Person: Duh
Me: Wow
PersOn: I kno
Me: So r you atrracted to any of our friends?
Person: yea
ME: Are you attracted to me?
Person: Maybe
So Thats It. So Im confused cuz it kinda grosses me out cuz what if she invites me to sleepover and since i cant tell anybody about it she'll get invited to sleepoers nd stuff so she could try to make a move on me nd my friends i need help
ill rate!!
since u said u could be trusted, why did u post this question here? arent u afraid that she might find out about this??
it okay to be confused. if she asks u for a sleepover, kindly say u cant make it. if she continously asks u the same questions, maybe u should get it out straight wit her. of course theres nothing wrong in being Bi.. ur reaction about wanting to "protect" ur pals from her might make her feel 'different' and unwanted. that shouldnt be the way. accept her for the way she is, as friends try her out through this period. hoped i helped! good luck -Rei
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I'm 14/f and I've never had a real boyfriend. My only "boyfriend" if you can him that lasted for 1/2 day and I broke up with him because I get all nervous around guys that like me. I get really sweaty and light headed, sometimes my stomach starts to hurt too. Is this a normal reaction to guys that like me? I have also never kissed a boy. What is the average age for first kisses?
lol im 14 and i never had a real boyfriend too *cough* actually im turning 15 soon (in about 13days time) and seriously theres no average age for first kisses! it can happen anytime, anywhere and anyhow. its okay to get nervous around guys (i feel like that all the time), but remind urself to be YOURSELF. dun act like someone ur not. to overcome the nervousness, take deep breathes in and out for about 5 times, close ur eyes when u do that. (of course dun do this infront of him, do it before u go and meet him) and of course u'll grow outta it, afterall u only 14, theres a long way more to go in this lifetime. first kisses might not come now, but it will certainly come when the time is right. (i believe it will *winks*) dun rush into things, u might get unwanted kisses instead =P good luck! -Rei
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OK When I was about 14 my mom told me that when I wanted to go on birth control that all I had to do was ask her about it. Well its been over a year and I dont know how to bring it up. We're not really that cloce. She meant when I'm 'in love' and I want to do it with that special person. Well thats kinda not the deal rite now I'm not in love at all. I dont even have a bf. But I want to go on it .. how do I ask her ? I cant just bring it up out of nowhere..
lol to be frank, being it up outta nowhere was actually my suggestion! it puts her at the spot and surprises her a little. but at least she knows how to answer the question.. =P -Rei
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why do people cut themselves because i have a friend that does and its obvious. my friend always blames it on "the cat" but cat scratches don't make crazy grid patterns.
im not a cutter myself, and i too ask questions like these. sometimes a person faces loads of pressure on her shoulders and she cant handle it. i dont like my friend to be cutting herself. its not nice to see scars all over her arm. it truly pains me to see my friend actually cutting herself just becoz she need to let her anger out. they cannot control their anger and feel the urge to cut themselves. inflicting these cuts make them feel "good", and to them its not pain at all. its not they are of a different breed or wadsoever, but we gotta understand life is really tough and sometimes life is simple unfair to them in many ways. as a friend, u should talk to her and maybe try to understand her current situation. she might need a listening ear and shoulder to lean on now at this current period and state of mind. being there for her is really important. i hope everything works out. keep informed if theres any other questions. hoped i helped. good luck! -Rei
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okay theres this guy and me and him have been friends for like a year now. he dated one of my friends a long time ago and thats how we met. but anyway..we used to like eachother and we were kind of "together" but never really had the title of dating...and i always kinda had a thing for him but now whenever i see him i think i like him again and we end up making out & stuff like he fingers me or whatever but i cant tell if i like him or i just like him as a friend with benefits...i dont know if he likes me either...but i kinda wanna date him for real this time but i dont know if its for the right reasons..please help
moving from friends to a new relationship sometimes changes expectations in people, why couldnt u tell him if u like him or just a friend? are u confuse about this? maybe u should ask ur heart this, sometimes ur mind wanders u off-course and leads u in the wrong direction. or is it maybe he is liking u only because his mind tells him so, and not his heart? often when people fall into liking each other because of "mind-games" the relationship isnt strong because true love isnt present. the two of u should work to a new beginning, talk him out first and find out if he still has something for you. dun waste this time, but at the end of the day, it could either mean 2 things, He's taking advantage of ya (because he has nothing to lose)or He's doesnt love ya as much as he loves himself. i hoped i helped, good luck and take care! -Rei
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the past year me and my mom have been fighting a lot and im sick of it! i always think that things will get better but they dont. yesterday she was supposed to go on a couple of erins but before me and my sister were fighting (which is normal i mean we were just getting annoyed by each other) so then she just stays home and a little later says that she wants us to come w/ her. so rite when we're about to leave my friend calls and asks if i can go swimming w/ her and i asked my mom and she said ok. then like 5 seconds after i hung up i asked her where my swim suit was and she starts screaming at me that i cant go and that shes late for what she wanted to do today so she was gonna leave me and my sister alone while she goes out and said i have to call my friend back up and say i cant go. i said that i couldnt do that cuz i just told her i could go so i started screaming to her how i hate the way shes always screaming at me and how she always changes her mind and that i hated my life. then she told me that i needed to go to a doctor but what i need is for her to stop all of this (which is never going to happen). then she starts watching tv and i said how come you aren't leaving and she said that she couldnt leave me alone the way i was acting and i told her that its not me or my sister's fault that she didnt go before cuz we told her that it was fine and we wouldnt fight before, but she just keeps saying how its our fault because we were fighting. finally she says that i can go so she wouldnt have to deal w/ me so as i was putting my swim suit on she starts screaming at me that i have to get downstairs in 10 seconds so when i was goin out the door she starts really really screaming at me w/ a mean glare that im grounded for everything. that nite when i got home she was a little bit better so i wanted to walk my dog but she wanted to come on a walk to so she was there but when we were on the driveway i asked if she was mad at me and she said yes so i went inside and didnt go on the walk. also that nite at dinner i asked if she hated me and she didnt answer. i really dont like her but i just wish she would stop all of this. this kind of thing happens like every day and i hate it! sorry this is so long, but id appreciate any advice.
i really would like to help ya grant that "wish" but somehow it looks impossible. shes ur mother, and somehow my mom is soooo like her sometimes. she gets on my nerves all the time. so when she acts like that, i usually try my best not to talk back or argue back with her (it always gets us nowhere), i try control back everything till im save outta her sight before letting it all out in my room or something. cry it out if u must. listen to music, draw, read, write poetry. do something that will get ur mind off ur arguement with mom. to end off, i would like to say that girl, HANG IN THERE! and be tolerant of ur mom. sometimes it takes loads of determination and strength raising a child. she deserves respect, just as much as you do. good luck and take care -Rei
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I am sick of guys treating me badly or not being right for me. I'm going back to school soon and I want to meet someone new who makes me laugh etc, what qualities do guys look for in a girl and how should I go about meeting people?
different guys have different likings in qualities when it comes to gurls. its hard when u ask a question like this, as the answers are always range differently. the 'right' guy is out there. somewhere. he could be there infront of ya right now, maybe u just didnt realise it? be patient. dun forget how good things come to those who wait *winks* good luck in finding 'Him'! -Rei
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okay . .
there is thys guy i reallly like and we have been talking since last year online and stuff and he a couple weeks ago he asked me if i liked him and i said i did. then he was like maybe we could hangout sumtime then . .but we havnt yet. i think he likes sumone else now even tho he still i.ms me online . .what is he doing to me?
aww dearie, *hugs* maybe u should ask him whys he treating u like that. dun jump to conclusions that he likes someone else now! if u wanna know the answers to ur problems u should ASK him urself, and he isnt doing anything to ya.. maybe hes just having a moody week. be there for him, and find out wats wrong. good luck! -Rei
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Hi , okay when i wake up and i brush my teeth , after i get a HORRIBLE stomach ache ! it really sucks because it ruins my day ! is it normal? am i doing something wrong when i brush my teeth? PLEESE HELP ! I RATE 5 !
maybe its ur body system, sometimes its "programmed" to let go of the toxins in ur body in the mornings! dun worry, it should be okay! but if it gets worse, then consult a doctor asap! take care! -Rei
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Hey, my girlfriend and I are really close and i love her so much but lately she doesnt seem as interested in me as her friends, i don know maybe its just me but it feels like she doesnt like hanging out with me anymore, even though i know she loves me. please help me.
what u need to do asap is to sit her down and talk to her face to face. find out whether shes still interested in u or not. dun make assumptions too fast or jump to conclusions! find out the truth first. it might not be as bad as u think it is.. good luck! -Rei
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hi im a 15 year old girl and my mom hits me a lot. i was wondering what you think i should do to get her to stop?
at 15, a mother shouldnt be hitting ya anymore. tell her ur old enough. may i ask, why would she want to hit ya? were u naughty, thats why she hit ya? u could try talking to a counsellor on this. -Rei
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Well im 16 and lately I have been feeling really lethargic and sad. I have cried pretty much every single day or I have been in a bad mood and didnt want to do anything. I can never fall asleep at night and when I wake up in the morning I am still tired and want to go back to bed. I took some tests online and one of them said that "The likelihood that you have major or clinical depression is high." and I took a few more and they pretty much said it was high. But I cant tell my mom or step dad about it because they will tell me im fine like they always do. They will say im just overreacting and its not a big deal. But I have been feeling like this for the past year or so, not constantly but it just gets bad sometimes. Does anyone have any advice on what I should do?
dearie the current moods that uve been feeling musta suck, it might be hormone-puberty related. taking online tests may be fun, but the results are something not accurate, therefore u must not be silly to take the results to heart! maybe u can approach a good friend whom u trust and pour out all ur emotions and feelings to her. or maybe u can keep an online journal and type it all down... get all this off ur chest, the load on you might be causing the bad moods and teary days. i hoped i helped, one way or another. ps. much appreciated if u could rate me. good luck and thanx a bunch! -Rei
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ok i have this guy friend,john, well john knows A LOT about me and we've been friends since like may, or something but anyways, he knows things about me that my friends that i've had since headstart and kindergarten dont even know! and hes like really hot and he has a girl friend and all but me and him are REALLY good friends, and anyways, the other day in class the was i was standing i could look at him and he wouldnt know, but im pretty sure i seen him checking me out, i mean he like looked at me from head to toe.. and he knows i think hes cute and all..please tell me what this could mean!!! im 14 female
*-*ShAtTeReD drEaMs*-*
lol firstly thanks for ur question, i would love to help. u asked, what his actions could mean. personally i think he might be checking u out too! u should pluck up all of ur courage and ask him. who knows how he might actually feel about ya right? but since he has a girlfriend, chances of him liking you back might be slim. unless he unreasonably decides he wants to dump her. im sure he aint those sort, but dun worry so much okay? afterall u two are good friends for so long already. moving into a relationship might hinder a healthy friendship. hope i helped! ps. much appreciated if u could rate me! thanx -Rei
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when u slightly cut ur wrist does it bleed bad... just a small tiny slit...
thanks-
~worried~
for as long as something cuts ur skin, it will definately bleed. especially at ur wrist area, as the skin there is extremely thin. it might bleed bad but im not asking ya to try it out by cutting urself! please Dont!! -Rei
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hey. my name's ren. well, to start off. i just started back to school, everythings going great. i'm so happy. i'm doing good, getting every accomplished. i know it's my junior year & i have to buckle down.
but theres still a part of me thats lonley and sad. all i feel like doing is sitting in my room, cry, listen to my music, cut, and read.
i'm a recovering cutter. i still every-so often cut, but.. i don't know what wrong with me.
please help.
theres always a part inside everyone thats always sad and lonely. ure not the only one.. i suggest u share this with ur friend. a trusted and very close friend. or keep an online journal(lock it if u must), do wadever u feel like doing. turn up the music and dance like crazy. it usually helps alot! telling u to stop cutting would be like telling a toddler to stop playing. each time u feel like cutting, stop urself. its not worth the pain dearie.. besides it will leave scars. scars of ur pain. each time u see it, it reminds u of ur pain. nobody wants to be reminded of their pains right? what u need is a good hug.. *BIG BEAR HUG* take loads of care okay? tell me how it goes. love. -Rei
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hi. i'm a 16/f and when i masterbate, i think of girls. i look at pics of girls. not guys, girls. but i still like guys!! am i..gay?
if u still like guys then definately ur still straight!! the police wouldnt come after u if u look at pics of girls, so dun worry so much! how about looking at pics of guys instead? lol -Rei
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