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I'm Alyssa. I am 16, about to be a junior in High School, bi-sexual, and been through A LOT. I am willing to answer anything and everything.I am looking into becoming an ER Nurse or EMT and i'm taking Anatomy and also basic Health Science. Plus I have an insane amount of health problems.
I have been diagnosed with depression and anxiety and also I know alol about eating disorders, as I have had one, and gay/bi issues I know a lot about! I'm also a computer whiz and know loads of HTML and that kind of stuff. Basically ANY kind of question-- I can answer! Hope to you help you.
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theres this boy called Aaron i feel alot for him but he doesnt like me and hes going out with one of my best friends i dont no what to do because i want him to like me and i want him to be mine!
thankyou Natalie x
If he's your best friends man, keep your hands OFF of him.
Guys come and go hun, but friendships are more important.
When I go to the bathroom and get rady to wipe I aways look @ my underwear and every time I do they is this whitish Yellowidh hard crust stuff what is it and what should I do?
Calm down! =) This is normal. Very very normal-- it's just vaginal discharge. Every girl has some of that. It's supposed to be wet-looking and whitish. If its an odd color, clumpy, ect, you have a problem.
But normal discharge means that if you haven't had a period yet, you'll have your first one soon.
p.s. this Discharge hardens after a while, that's why it's crusty on your underwear.
I have no clue what to get my girlfriend for christmas. I don't want to get her makeup or cosmetics because i know nothing about that stuff, and I don't want to get her clothes because I don't know if she'd like it or what her size is. So with that said, what are some gift ideas that girls like?
Cook her dinner, take her somewhere nice for dinner, get her a gift certificate for a spa, or even a giant teddy bear (with flowers also) would be cute. If you do candy or flowers, make sure its with something else.
Does anyone know what can happen if you get too many MIPs (Minor In Possession)? I've gotten 2 in the past 3 months for alcohol.
Well it depends on your state
what does "525,600 minutes" mean??.. i did know but i forgot??..thankss..
*ALL 5'S!*
525,600 minutes.
525,000 moments so dear.
525.600 minutes.
How do you measure...
Measure a year.
Its the amount of minutes in a year, and it's also a song from Rent, sung by Stevie Wonder. One of my favorite songs!
(15/f)Well my life is really hectic right now. Some things have happened recently that are really stressful for me...well i just havent been myself lately && my boyfriend has noticed it. Things arent the same like they used to be. Dont get me wrong i love him a lot but idk if i can handle a relationship anymore. All we do is fight now, and im just always moody now and he deserves way better than me. With everything going i just cant handle the whole bg/gf stress. Yes ive tried talking about it to him but he doesnt get it... I told him we were over last night (that was deff. the hardest thing ive ever done)...its just horrible that i had to do that because its like now all i feel is like sh**.. First i was just like "I have to do this" and now i feel like I need him more than anything. Weve been dating for 7 months, and its like i just blew it. He told me that if i did this that he was never gonna take me back && i did it, so i lost him :(. Idk what to do im so confused. And i cant take a break because those things never work out and besides he said he wont take me back anyway. Hes online right now and he nor I have imed each other. he was really hurt when i told him and he was seriously about to cry :(. Now all i can do it cry because i feel like such a low-life loser. I do love him but its just difficult, really really difficult...If anyone can help me out with this i would really appreciate it..xox
I would say, if this guy doesn't understand what your going through and says up front that he won't take you back, you would be wasting your time and energy trying to get him back. I would say that you should'nt waste your time with him now and that all you can do is move on. To be honest, he sounds like a jerk anyways. I know it's VERY hard, but you just need to move on. Honestly, there isn't hope. You would just be torturing yourself if you wasted anymore energy with him.
Okay, so now to the point. You are going through a time, yes? Maybe what you need to do is just go on a walk a try to figgure things out. Walks are nice-- especially during the sun rise or sun set. I'm not saying that will fix everything, but you may get more insight to the situation.
Of course there is always a possibilty that you have chronic depression. If this is the case, I would highly recomend that you talk to your parents or guardians about seeing a phsychiatrist. They will be able to diagnose the depression and give you proper treatment. Treatment will include Therapy if you choose, and Medication if your willing to take it. (I have depression and have been through that process so I know.)
You may not have depression, though. I am not saying that you defenitely do. It could be Anxiety disorder, which your constantly worrying. In that case, you would go through the same process mentioned above.
There is a high probobility that you have neither of those. You could just be going through the same teenage hormone shifts that we all are going through. It's extremely hard, though, I know. Trust me, I know.
The best thing you can do right now about your stressful situation(s) is just be strong. Don't let him make you cry so much and feel so bad. Relationships come and go, sister. He is obviously not the "one" for you. It was meant to be-- just remember that.
One thing i've learned recently is that friends are great. When i'm at home, i'm stressed. But when i'm with friends and just having a good time, I forget everything. Friends are wonderful for talking to about things, as well. I don't have many friends, but the ones I do have are amazing. Feel free to lean on your friends after something like this-- if they don't let you, they're not a good friend. What are friends for, after all?
You say you haven't been yourself and life has been hard recently... that happens to everyone occasionaly. It honestly does. Take a long bubble bath and just relax. Watch a silly movie, or heck call a grandparent up and just chat. I love talking with my grandma, but that's just me.
If you're still not feeling better in 2 weeks or so, I would say that it's time to look in to weather or not you have a chemical imbalance.
p.s. no problem, babes. =) glad I helped. send me something in my inbox and tell me how it works out!!
Is it a bad thing that he guy u have a crush on says ur cute but 2 shy?
This guy is a loser. Shy = mysterious. Mysterious=intriguing. Why would he NOT like a shy girl?
If he's saying that you're "too shy" he is probobly not interesting. Move on as quickly as possible, and find a better guy. One who thinks your shyness is cute.
Hey I'm a guy and was just wondering...should age matter in a relationship? What's your point of view on this one, like does it matter if both are close in age or far apart...by far I mean less than 5 years or so. Thanks in advance, will rate.
If theres not more than a 15 year age gap, your ok in my book.
oh my god! this morning.. i woke up.. and i went into my bathroom and i saw on my mirror in my won handwriting "support george" in soap.. i have a history of sleep walking! I THINK IM TURNING REPUBLICAN! PLEASE HELP ME!? SHOULD I TAKE MY OWN LIFE NOW?! END IT WHILE I STILL CAN?! OH FOR THE LOVE OF GOD!!!!!
(im sorry, hon. really. i really really couldnt resist.. like.. i treid. it didint work. as you can see. it is kinda funny, though)
Yes, you should kill yourself.
I love you, Ben.
well i started writing poems and songs about sucide and dieing and cutting and popping pills! im sucidal?? PLZ HELP!!
(( and plz dont tell me to go see a counslar or therpist because my family doesnt know and i dont want them to find out))
Whoa... slow down. Just breathe. First off, suicide is a PERMANENT answer to a TEMPORARY problem. You have to realize that things can only get better. If your at rock bottom, theres nowhere to go but up.
Depending on the severity of your depression, you might not even need "help". It is very normal to feel sad and even hopeless when your a teenager. You just have to do your best and get through each day knowing your on earth for a reason. No sense in messing up the order of things!
Take it from someone who has had their fair share of depressing moments and someone who has battled depression first hand-- cutting and attempting suicide is just stupid. There ARE people in your life that care. Remind yourself of how much worse things could be for you. Imagine you having a rare form of cancer and having only six months to live.
Think of what's important in life. Taking time to enjoy the small things, pointless romances, sleepovers and laughs with your best girl friends. You'd be missing all of that if you weren't here. Think of the good PEOPLE in your life. I can assure you, there are some.
Take a nice long walk. I think it may do you good to go out and get some fresh air and maybe see the sun set. Or sun rise, even. It's the small things in life than make us happy, because we're not thinking of the big picture. Truth is, life DOES suck. Realizing how corrupt the world is and realizing how little people REALLY matter is tough. Realizations in the teenage life (like what i mentioned above) are hard to deal with. It's not easy realizing your parents aren't perfect, or that things AREN'T always fair in the end.
Everybody has these realizations, and everybody has bad days. Everybody has good days, too. Let tommorow be yours.
yesterday a boy came over that i really like. Ok so things got heated and we started kissing, makin out a lot.yeah. Then we got into my room and he fingered me. Now im afraid that maybe he doesn't like me or somethin or just doesn't have any feelings for me. He's not the kind of guy that would use a girl like me like that because I know him really well and he treats me differently than other girls (in a good way)but for some reason I'm still worried that he's just gonna forget about me and go with another girl or something. What can I do to maybe prevent this from happening??? thankss!
If you think he MIGHT be a sleaze, chances are he really is.
Can enyone give me lists of diet foods? like these would be the only things that i eat for one month kind of foods, if you could that would be great!
Negative calorie foods are good. Not eating meat also eliminates a lot of fat.
Almost ANY fruit and veggie is negative calorie. Fruits and veggies are the way to go. Don't forget your protein though on a meatless diet! (Nuts, peanut butter, dairy, beans all have lots of protein)
Heres a list of negative calorie foods: http://www.fatfreekitchen.com/negative-calorie-foods.html
here it is short and sweet:
im a 15 year old girl. sophomore in high school.
ive never had a boyfriend..not because of my looks...because ive been in love with this one guy for over 2 years, but he has always had a girlfriend and he has a 1 year anniversary coming up next month. its taken time...but ive gotten over that after telling him i loved him and having him not giving a shit. so now ive had my eye on this one guy whos a junior...hes really cute...but a couple problems...he know who i am...but i have texted him annonimously droping hints and hell prob find out my name but he still wont know what i look like. so how do i get to know him (whos pretty popular). im shy and i dont do well with guys.
Just talk to him. Don't be shy-- guys think you're stuck up if you don't talk to many people. Just be friendly and see what happens.
One of my friends (who is married) was having a party and I was invited to go. Almost everyone that was invited is dating someone or married. I had been single for a long time, so I was thrilled when I was able to find a guy to take as my date.
I was really excited, but then my married friend got upset and told me I wasnt allowed to bring him!! Everyone else thought it was cool that I had a date. When I asked him why I couldnt bring him his excuse was that he didnt want any strangers in his houses. So I had to break the date. I've also seen him get jealous when I talk about dates I've been on, and when my ex bf was trying to get me back. I think this is odd behavior for someone who is married. Does anyone else agree, and have any insight to his behavior?
I think he probobly was jealous. Either that or just petty.
Be glad you broke up with someone like that, very glad.
Ok, so i was on spacefem and i was taking a quiz and it asked me if i like dark ppl or am i dark.
I was like wtf is dark? Also, when i was younger i used to watch teen titans and one of the TTs {Raven} was dark and the only difference that i spotted is that she meditates and dresses completely in purple. Can someone tell me what dark means, personalitywise?
Depressed and Pessimistic.
how do you spell accents, like what british people have and new yourk people
accent
this isn't really a big deal but im really nervous about it--
okay, so i go to a private school, and i have since 6th grade.(im in eighth now)And today we just got some serious news. Our school is also a church, and the church is moving to a different building next year. They pay for half of our school, and we're a poor school as it is, so we cant pay for it all on our own. So there's this school thats about 15 minutes away from my school, and its huge.Its really nice inside, and they have air conditioning (which we dont have) and its super nice there. But im so nervous because its a whole new school, new people, and im not so great at making friends. Im outgoing and hyper and stuff but my weakness is making friends, and im not really good friends with anyone in my class, so i really wanna make friends there. Im also scared that i'll get lost because its so big!please give me advice i rate all 5's!
Think of it as an opportunity. You'll start completely over! Don't be so nervous. Just be yourself and people will like you. Get involved in something, too, like Drama or something
I want to raise enough money to buy a nano iPod but many places you have to be 16 to work at. My friend told me that to work at McDonalds you can be 14(my current age) Does anyone know if this is true?
P.S-I know there food is the worst for you but I'm working there for the money.
Just want to say, good for you for wanting to work!
Some places do let 14 year olds work, but look into what paper work you need.
I'm 13, and there's this guy that I REALLY like. I told him, he doesn't like me back, but we're still friends. There's a dance in 3 hours, and I'm not sure whether I should ask him to slow dance. I mean, we slow danced last dance, and I'm afraid that I'll look like I'm desperately trying to "win" him when I'm not, especially considering the fact that he knows that I like him and that he does not like me back. Do you think I should, or would I just look like a loon? If not, could you give a good reason?
DO IT! =)
Just go for it. It's really not a big deal. It's just one dance-- it could lead to a relationship.
Screw what people would think. If you like him, make your move. Whats the hesitation? Just do it. You will be so proud of yourself if you do.
14/f
all my friends (that are girls) are prettier than me ! especially my bestfriend ! she is like perfecttt ! she has the perfect face, the perfect hair, she is a perfect cheerleader, and she has the perfect body
.. and me well im skinny so im not that big-chested .. and well my hair never comes out as good as hers and i have the worst smile.. like i got braces and my teeth are straight .. but their reallly big and my smile isnt a good smile.. ALL my friends have good smiles and are pretty and outgoing and the boys like them..
like i mean i dont think im UGLY .. but compared to them i feel like i am ..
i just need something to help me gain more self-confidence and stop me from being so self-conscious about the way i look and i want to be more outgoing like my friends
is it wierd that i'm jealous of my friends? what can i do so i wont be jealous anymore?
I have issues with looking younger than I am. I also am very skinny and scrawny.
What you have to realize is that you CAN'T change. You're stuck with you. Make yourself feel better by sprucing up your style and look a bit. Get a new hair-due. Do something different with yourself to make you feel pretty. Buy a new outfit, too. That always helps me.
Do what you can with what you have!