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K so a few months ago, there was this thing between me and this guy at school. He lead me on and and I initiated some as well. So when he made further plans if we could go on a date and stuff, i of course said yes. But then
when it came closer to the date, a few days before it he cancelled and bailed on me and said that he just couldn't go through with it at the moment cause he still had feelings for this girl that he never went out with. So of course I felt hurt and disappointed , but eventually I moved on and didnt give a crap about him. But then today, he came up to me after weeks of not talking to each other and asked if we could talk. He said that he did a lot of thinking and that he wanted to give us a try again and said that he was really sorry of what happened.
So then he asked if we could go on a date, and of course me not wanting to say no and disappoint him I said yes... It was a spur of the moment kind of thing . So now here after a few hours of thinking I just don't have a good feeling about it.. Like now I just keep doubting that I may not have that same strong feelings for him as before ... Help !
P.s that girl never liked him back in the first place and he supposedly told me that that girl now has a boyfriend and that he and her are now on good terms and are friends
Dates can only help you further you relationship, hangout and have fun. Get to know one another and in no time at all your heart will help you understand just how exactly you feel about him. Over thinking and analyzing can kill the "romance" when you start playing the "what if game," and create different scenarios that will confuse you and give you a reason to push away. If he's ready and willing to give it a go, then what's the harm. Take it slow, no rush. The fact that the other girl is on good terms with him, is just another reason for you to go ahead; She's not interested, it's free game.
Sorry I was late on replying
- Eli
I'm afard to have my first period at school HELP!
What should I do ?
I will be inbrssed if I have it at school and it bleeds throo my pants HELP ME PLE.AS
You have nothing to worry, your first period is usually light spotting, not a massive waterfall. Relax and just be prepared at all timed, just in case. Ease your mind keep an extra pair of undergarments and pants in your backpack/locker.
Also have pads/tampons with you at all times.
Not a big deal.
So i just pierced my lip with snakebites. And my left one is slightly down from my right. And out a lil. I have very high swelling and it tends to hurt and bleed when I take my ring out. I use spiral lip rings for this. I have had studs in And i talked to my family for hours and they didn't notice it was crooked until I asked them. so my question is. What should I do? Repierce it? And how can I make th swelling go down?
14/F
I know..I'm young. .-.
Number one...I speak from experience, don't pierce holes into your body if you haven't a clue or good depth perception. The mirror lies! Anyways, don't take it out & be putting it back in don't even touch it with your bare fingers. Use a qtip to clean it, keep it in until swelling goes down, if you remove the piercing it can trap bacteria inside & cause a terrible infection. Plus the crookedness could be from swelling, in any case do salt water soaks 3 times a day to suck out any & all nasty gunk leaking from your lip piercing. It should be 1/3 of a tablespoon of sea salt (or table salt) to every 1/2 cup of water. This will sooth any pain, help swelling come down & drain of puss & or blood. After about maybe a week or so you can choose to whether to keep it in or take it out & redo it.
I had double spider bites left & right done by myself as well, one of the left ones was lower but with time your piercing tend to migrate, a perfectly straight symmetrical piercing can even heal crooked do to facial quirks / expressions people do. So it's not uncommon to see crooked piercings especially with how many people do them themselves, lol. So I wouldn't worry about it, plus if your family didn't really notice it until you actually stood still & had them look at it, then chances are no one else will.
Soooo, there you have it. I don't condone anyone especially under 18 with no piercing experience to punch holes in them selves, but if they do at least be sterile about it! Anyways enjoy your piercings, I enjoy mine; all 17 of them! ;)
Hi Sophie,
I received your wonderful email and I replied but I have not heard from you!
Did you receive my email?
Jordan
jordan2011@mail.com
Please reply to my email
Jordan
Yes I did I will reply to you, later tonight!! Please be patient! (:
Well last night, I just had gotten to the very end of my menstrual cycle, where the blood is very very light and it is mostly just residue. I was feeling turned on all day, so I decided to have sex. I was a bit skeptical at first, but I knew my period was ending after five days of being on it. My boyfriend did not ejaculate because we were being safe and used a condom as well. Even though we practiced safe sex, I am a bit worried. I woke up and I felt blood again, so I put in a tampon and felt kind of scared. I feel a little stupid, but I am trying not to get stressed out. I'm pretty sure I won't get any sign of pregnancy, but I'd like to be reassured...
This is just to reassure you and help you understand why you started to bleed a bit again.
When you're at the "ending period" of your period, where it's just light cycling, and you masturbate or have sex the muscles inside you including those that surround the uterine walls that carry the thin tissue of blood buildup contract. Thus "squeezing" out more blood/old eggs, for new ones. So that is the reason for sometimes your period, "coming back" or starting again, even though you thought it was over. Anyways keep practicing safe sex ans take care.
well i need a fast way to get rid or cold sores fast and easy. i need a home remedy.
Please help!
Mix a good bit of baking soda with a bit of water into a fine paste, apply over affected area and bandage if you'd like. This will drain the blister, flattening it and forming a scab. Don't pick it to prevent scarring. There you go!
Im an 18 year old female and a nympho. The other day I was really horny and my boyfriend was at work so I decided for some reason to look up lesbian porn and old men and young women porn to masturbate to. I'm not attracted to either,girls or older men. Later that night he asked to use my phone and let him,which was probably a mistake. He went to google and it showed the list of things I looked up such as lesbian porn and old men porn. I knew he saw it because it wasnt the last thing i looked up and when he saw it in the google window he clicked on it and left it on that site.The rest of the night it was awkward and then he started talking to me like nothing happened but I knew he saw it so I couldn't help but be quiet. Lastnight he texted me and asked why I was so quiet and I said because of what you saw..obviously. I don't know what to say or why I did it. I feel fucked up in the head for doing it and more the old men porn. Now he wants a few days for space to think. I'm fine with that but I feel like he just found out the biggest secret about me and I don't want him weirded out. Idk what to do or what to think. I love my boyfriend 100% and I don't want this ruin anything. I'm not a lesbian,never will be,I'm not attracted to older men..I just don't know why I looked up what I did..? Answers on all of this please
It's normal for people to be attracted to things that are "out of the ordinary," especially with such taboo topics like porn. It's a very perfectly healthy and normal thing to look up. Curiosity is responsible for such things, it's ok too. Don't feel abnormal or mentally unbalanced just because you found the thrill out of watching some girl on girl action or some oldermen getting into it. When it becomes an obsession, then that's when things should be looked after. Your best bet would be to allow the space your boyfriend wants and then after you when you're ready and comfortable you can try to explain things for him. Evenso, you shouldn't have to be guilty or forced to explain. But if you don't quite know what to say you can just tell him, it was a one time thing you were just curious. Then you can try to be more discreet about it and clean your history as well disable the Google auto fill/ recent search tool.
Well hope I helped.
Need advice
I just turned 22 years old very devoted Muslim girl. I am married with a wonderful husband. He works in IT and I am a stay at home mom who is on the internet much too often. I am pregnant now :) I was raised in Jordan. We went to a very good school and Quran school. I learned to memorize most of the Quran at a young age. This is the first time I am opening up about this and REALLY need your advice/
My parents sent me to this Quran boarding school for girls for 3 months out of the year every year since I was very little (I was the only one accepted out of my family. my brothers and sisters leaned from the Mosque). I learned a lot. You see I lost my father when I was young (12 years) and the man who headed and taught the school and his wife where very helpful in helping me heal in ways no one ever did!! I loved my father, he was the greatest man I ever knew. I have 2 brothersand 1 sister all younger than me.
But Abu, the school mater, that trained me—he and I were very close, even sexually in that school. It sounds strange but we kept it secret. He was a very kind man who really knew how to teach well –whatever. His wife was the one who gave me birth control pills to save my family and myself the shame. She said she did it for other girls to. I am very grateful to her for being a mentor and confidant. We kept our sexual relationship till until my family moved to the UK. But this is a shameful thing in my past I don’t talk to people about it but now I have to because it is killing me inside. If my parents found out I would be dead DEAD. I learned ALOT about my body and sex and i am grateful to have learned these things from Abu. it was an amazing sexual experiuence over all. When I got married I lied to my husband like many of the girls I know to say I was a virgin. Otherwise I would never get married. The strange thing is that it has not bothered me or haunted me like I hear on Oprah and others who had these experiences. I do not have ill feelings toward this man and his wife. They are people I still respect because of how ethical and kind they have treated my family through out the years. They paid for all my education and my brothers and sisters as well. They provided meals for us when my mother did not have enough, etc. When we see them as a family we just pretend this stuff never happened. I never bring it up and he or his wife never do. . I asked around if anyone else had my experience and no one would talk about it. It is a very shameful thing for a Muslim Arab girl to talk about these things!! But my aunt, who is about my age, opened up to me and told me she had similar experiences with this man. She is also married now with three children and wants to leave the past in the past. She begged me not to tell anyone about him and to just leave things as they are since we both went through it and we turned out “OK”.
Her daughter, Cameron, my niece she is now in Jordan with my family and they are sending her to the same school to learn the Quran. Abu is still teaching there. My sister said it is best to not talk about it and let her experiernece life and sex and everything else like we did. My friends tell me to expose this man. It would be devastating to our family to bring this news out about what he did with me and the other girls because of the shame factor. I would never bring that kind of shame on him, my family or my religion. I respect him. Am I weird and crazy?? But I don’t know what to do because now Cameron is there and my family did not think twice about sending her to that school because it has such a good reputation. My American friends tell me to make my sister take Cameron out of that school as soon as yestersay. I feel so mistrable because of what they tell me I am wicked. But my experience was good over all at that school. But they make me feel horrible!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am depressed about this. I really want Cameron to learn from this very good school and Abu, but I don’t know what to do!! Please help me from going crazy…I don’t know what to do..i need help to think about this.
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Well, I can't really give much advice on what you should do. Since that's up to you, personally I think life will take it's coarse on it's own. So if you calling Abu out about what he has done, will make you feel just as terrible and depressed as you already say you are, then I don't see the point in adding a feeling of disgrace as well. Here in America, and most other countries I'm aware of (central/south america, I'm hispanic.) Will see Abu's action as rape, because he is a adult having sexual relations with "children." But if many girls have gone through this and not spoken up, including you then I'm not sure what to say. I would simply advice you to form a good relationship with your niece and constantly remind her that, "if there is anything at all she wants/needs to talk about or is confused/having problems with, that she can talk to you." That way you can atleast have a chance of knowing if the same happens to your niece. If it does and she tells you, what ever you decide to do is up to you.
I will tell you personally, if something a person does has hurt me or caused me any bit of stress/depression/problem, even if it was from years ago. I have noticed I always tell them about it, later on. And when I do, I feel better about it simply because I get to hear why they did it in the first place. I'm not telling you to go and talk to Abu, because it seems it would be awkward and maybe even rude/out of line? I'm not sure. But I am telling you that, the most important thing in my point of view is, making sure you're as happy and stress free as you can be. So if you decide not to tell anyone else about this and it continues to bother you than I suggest writing about it. Just to get out the feelings that pester you. That's what I do when I can't bring myself to talk about something with people.
With that all said, I hope this was remotely helpful in anyway. So luck to you.
why does fingering hurt so bad to me?
If you are a virgin and or are not used to vaginal penetration of any kind be it penis, finger or "other," than it's pretty normal for it to hurt. If your not "lubed/turned on" it will hurt a bit.
I'm female and 16, 5ft 10, 128kg. I'm vegetarian (if that changes anything.)
I never eat breakfast, an average lunch during school days would be a pita bread with cheese and a cup of tea or a yogurt, flapjack and bottle of water. Dinner varies, some things I tend to have are - always vegetables, potatoes, baked beans, egg, wheat free pasta, vegetable soups etc.
I exercise - Zumba classes ever Monday and swimming on Thursdays and Sundays.
My friend always tells me I'm far too skinny and don't eat enough. I use to be practically anorexic about two years back.
I said I couldn't finish the pasta dish I had at hers one time (it was wheat pasta which I'm not use to eating; I don't eat it at home as my mom is allergic to wheat.) and she had a massive go at me saying it's because my stomach has shrunk because I don't eat enough.
Should I eat more, or was she just over reacting?
You sound like you're in pretty good shape, being thin is just a plus. If you're not experiencing any fatigue or you're not always sick all the time, your hands or feet aren't always cold or if your nails don't break easily, I'm sure you're in good health. If you're very thin it's probably because your frame is of the ectomorphic type. If any of the type above apply you may be a bit weak in your immune system do to lack of nutrition. Otherwise you should be fine, to me it just sounds like she's either over reacting out of jealousy or out of worry. So if it concerns you, make an appointment with your physician for a general check up.
-Acid reflex can be a serious problem considering you were partially anorexic two years ago, I would opt for that doctors appointment. Better to be safe than sorry. plus frequent vomiting even in small amounts can be a serious problem, especially since you don't eat much. It could be do to liver disease or even gastritis (which is common for people that don't eat much or not regularly.)
Is it okay if you don't remove make up before you wash your face with a cleanser? Thanks in advance for all answers
I usually remove my makeup with a cleanser/facial scrub, then finish with an astringent. My skin is fine, since your cleanser does just that, "cleanse" it should be fine. But if you feel the need to, you can clean your make up off with those make up remover pads first. But in my opinion it's unnecessary.
Hey Im 16 and a senior in highschool. I met this guy in an interschool competition. He's the same age but is a senior in some other school. We started talking after the competition and became good friends. We have gone out on three dates till now. And yeah, we have kissed each other and made out a little. We cannot resist each other at all. And hence the makeouts were a mutual desicion. I am falling for him. But the problem is that even though he says he is falling for me, he keeps on telling me he cannot date me cause he's a bad guy and he cares for me too too much to hurt me. He says he is not one of those dateable guys who will love their girl completely and he might find a new girl and dump me.That would hurt me and he doesnt want to do that! He hasnt had a past record of cheating or anything it's just that he tells me he wants to be sure before he asks a girl out that he will be completely loyal to her and not flirt around with other girls. He also liked this girl a year back and he says he feels guilty that he got over her and fell for me! But when we meet we actually act like we are dating, cause he gets me stuff, he tells me he loves me, we hold hands. we actually act like a couple in love. we also talk all the time. I dont know what to do. Because I really want to be with him. But cant figure out how to make him ask me out? and if he is really a bad guy? HELP.
Well you're both still young and since he's not taking things seriously I suggest you don't either unless you want to get hurt. Now this doesn't necessarily mean hes a bad guy, just means hes unsure of what he wants at the moment. Thus hes clearly not ready for a commitment, so I suggest not to rush into things so you two can actually fall in love, if you ever do and hes certain he loves you then good. But make sure not to expect too much from a guy that refers himself as a "badboy." Good luck.
i had this huge pimple on my chin and i did the worst thing possible. i popped it. now the scab has healed and fallen off...i have a gross ugly brown spot where the scab was :( ive had this scar thing for around three weeks and it will NOT go away. how do i make it go away and less noticeable?
Buy bio oil in 3 weeks it will be completely gone.
My name is Naomi....I need an emo name most of my friends call me NayNay but it sounds too girly...
Wow...lol.
Well anyway, take your pick.
Related to your name that sound like it:
Nemo. Neko. Omi. Nami. Ami. Neenee.
Unrelated to name but are common "emo" nicknames:
Cringe. Bones. Skew. Skeez. (for hyper people) Kat. (common for girls) Raven. (like a black crow) Jetta. (like a black car lol) Rin. Rose. Dolly. Skitz. (hyper and cat lovers) Sloth. (6thdeadlysin or lazy people) Star. Cloud. Sky. (blueeyes usually)
Nicknnames are usually given to you for a reason...like to all of my friends I'm known as Stilts. Because I'm really tall, 6'2" to be exact. So it would help if you think about interesting things that stand out about you.
The only one I like from those that I would personally call a friend by, that had your name would be Omi. Its short sounds cute and weird.
Naomi = Na "omi"
Hope I helped.
Halloween is around the corner and I decided to be a Gothic Ballerina. I'm straighting my curly hair coloring it and styling it and everything. Halloween is my favorite holiday if all time. So the makeup is important to me too.
I've googled Gothic ballerina makeup already but the only colors I get are purple and black and silver. It doesn't compliment my outfit at all.
I have a black and red tutu with gold ribbons attached. I'm also wearing a black crop top corset that zip up in the front.
I'm not sure wether I should pair them up with stockings or fishnets. And then what shoes should I wear? Heeled boots perhaps??
My main objective is the makeup though what should I use specifics are always welcome. .
Also if possible please add what I could possibly use to cover my shoulders I the weather but keep it in theme. !!
Thanks!!
16/f
Well you can simply follow the tutorials of make up but use different colors you know. So I'd say do a type of black smokey eye. Try perhaps some face powder as well for a paler look. I'd go with fishnets, stockings might clash with the tutu and make it look like two much. Fishnets are simple and gorgeous! Shoes....well ballerinas don't wear boots. Obviously. But since you're a "goth" one I guess you can wear boots. But I think a more themed idea would be some black flats with studs or chains on them. Or some that match your tutu. You should also wear a cute gothic hair accessory! To cover your shoulder get a black shall. It's like one of those silky scarves you see fancy rich women wear to balls. lol. Dancers use them in performances as well, so it's very much still in theme. Hope I helped and have fun!
i have developed some itchy sores around my genital area..... but i have only been sexually active once... im not sure what it is....
Go to the doctor as soon as possible, it could be a number of things. A simple allergic reaction to the latex condom or lubrication, to a more serious and complicated std. So your best bet is to get checked out by a doctor. Just like pregnancy, it also takes only one time to contract an std.
Good luck.
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i am 18 years old,my girlfriend is 16... we have been together for 9 months now... on july 27th we decided to start having unprotected sex..since then we have had sex on Aug 4th,22nd,26th and now sept 5th and 6th ... she found out she was pergnant last month.. and she is in denials of keeping the baby ratherless telling her mom.. i love her soo much but i really won't like her to kill the baby.. even if its now forming... what should we do...
If you're emotionally, psychologically, physically and economically ready to bring another human being into the world then do. If you're unstable in any of these especially about the money part, then you might want to think and talk it over.
She's probably nervous, I mean think about it, apart from her body and hormones going into a frenzy of loops, it's pretty scary to be a 16 year old girl that's growing a tiny human inside.
So you should talk to her and her parents. See what they have to say, as well as yours. Now if you do decide to have your kid and money is scarce, there's quite a bit of help that can be provided by the state you live in, you'd have to call your local health clinic and they can provide help. Like Planned Parenthood. They would also help in a case you don't want to have a child, or keep it and such.
Most importantly your part as her boyfriend, are supposed to reassure her that you're BOTH in this TOGETHER! No matter what HER decision is. It' her body so mostly her decision.
Good luck.
I really need help finding a gradeuation dress!! My teacher is kinda stridc about what we waer. I am kinda short. What im looking for is pinks, yellows, purples, oranges, and whites. With starps and doesn`t show a lot. If you find anything with ruffles i`d be thankful. So yeah that is what im looking for. NO SHORT DRESSES ABOVE THE KNEES PLEASE AND IT WOULD HAVE TO LOOK LIKE SOMETHING A NUN WOULD APPROVE OF.
Try your local mall and it wouldn't hurt to work on your spelling as well.
I am from Ghana and 21 years of age
Shower regularly and buy baby wipes to carry with to clean well after using the bathroom. You should change your pad or tampons regularly to keep everything in tip top shape! Eating yogurt, helps fight yeast infections as well.
Good luck.