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I love her and she wants to kill our baby
i am 18 years old,my girlfriend is 16... we have been together for 9 months now... on july 27th we decided to start having unprotected sex..since then we have had sex on Aug 4th,22nd,26th and now sept 5th and 6th ... she found out she was pergnant last month.. and she is in denials of keeping the baby ratherless telling her mom.. i love her soo much but i really won't like her to kill the baby.. even if its now forming... what should we do...
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I don't believe God would like it... if she want give up the baby for adoption she can. but killing it not a good idea. it be like killing jesus when he was born with marry
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This is tough
Your girlfriend is a minor, She is also the one carrying the baby and she pretty much has say on what she wants to do with her body. As a father, You are limited to what you can really do as far as that choice goes. It sucks......but that is the way it goes.
If your girlfriend is over 4 months pregnant, The abortion clinic will not be able to proceed an abortion as the fetus is now full grown. You both are young, At 16 your girlfriend is not ready to raise a baby financially nor mentally. Having unprotected sex was a pretty fucked up thing to do on both of your behalves.
The only other thing I can suggest, Is adoption. You can try to talk to her about it and see if you both can come to that agreement but if she is firm on abortion then as a women carrying the child she has the right to say. Like I said previously, There is not much you can do if she chooses to go through with it. If she doesn't want the baby, Then you both should of been smart to use a condom. Babies take up all your time, In order to raise a baby the proper way you need a full time job that pays more than 9 dollars an hour and you should be smart enough to know the rest of it.
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You both have to sit and think of this. It is a huge choose to keep this baby. Do either of you have a job? How are you going to afford this baby? Are you to going to eventually live with each other is the baby going to stay with you or her If you guys live with your parents you need to talk to them either way you need to talk to them or else they arent going to trust either of you and think you both are two childish to even consider raising a child if you cant even tell you parents. now you and her both asked for this child. because of the fact you had unprotected sex. If you dont want the baby there are tons of families who cant have babies and would love the oppurtunity to raise your child.
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aw no :( talk to her about it and tell her how you feel about her and what you want with her. if she doesnt want the baby and has an abortion then it will help you in a way. if you have the baby then it will make life very hard for you and it will be hard working on your career while raising a child. also it might be a hard life for the baby having young parents. also a baby can ruin relationships and you dont want to lose her do you? it might be really hard as abortions are practically killing babies and im totally against them but if its her choice and she still wants to do it after talking about it to you then its for the best i guess. you can also see it though as a miracle from god and maybe you can convince her to keep the baby. if she still is in denial about keeping the baby then just remember that if you do love her like you say you do then let her choose as it is her body and she is the pregnant one. there is still the future and im sure you guys wil still be together when you are older. get your life on track with her first then have a baby.
hope i helped and didnt offend :)
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If you're emotionally, psychologically, physically and economically ready to bring another human being into the world then do. If you're unstable in any of these especially about the money part, then you might want to think and talk it over.
She's probably nervous, I mean think about it, apart from her body and hormones going into a frenzy of loops, it's pretty scary to be a 16 year old girl that's growing a tiny human inside.
So you should talk to her and her parents. See what they have to say, as well as yours. Now if you do decide to have your kid and money is scarce, there's quite a bit of help that can be provided by the state you live in, you'd have to call your local health clinic and they can provide help. Like Planned Parenthood. They would also help in a case you don't want to have a child, or keep it and such.
Most importantly your part as her boyfriend, are supposed to reassure her that you're BOTH in this TOGETHER! No matter what HER decision is. It' her body so mostly her decision.
Good luck.
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