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Hey! =) People tell me I give really good advice, so yeah, just ask me anything, as long as its a serious question, and I'll do my best to help you out. Um, I play piano, sing, dance, run track, and paint so if you have a question on one of those topics I'd definetly be able to answer it =). I mostly listen alternative or rock music but I like all kinds of music for the most part. The Used, Something Corporate, Brand New, Jack's Mannequin, Taking Back Sunday, Incubus, Matchbook Romance, Bayside, Bright Eyes, Hidden In Plain View, Dashboard Confessional, American Hi-Fi, Straylight Run, My Chemical Romance, The Academy Is, The Beatles Red Hot Chili Peppers, 30 Seconds to Mars, and Rooney are freaking awesome bands =).If you have a question about song lyrics,(for example "I know song lyrics but I don't know what the song is") I recommend you go to letssingit.com =).
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So, I have been best friends with these two girls for a long time. They were never friends with eachother though. Now this year, they did softball together and they got really tight. I'm not jealous of it because they're my best friends, but they way they've been presenting it has gotten really annoying. They always talk about things they've done together that I wasn't involved in and they just brag about it. Sometimes they don't even tell me what they are talking about so when I ask them, they ignore me. Then Sarah (friend #1) started to talk about me behind my back about how I'm so shy and I never go to parties. Lately, it's been getting me so mad that I feel like not being friends with them because they just seem so fake to me. They were never like that though until they were friends with eachother. There's only one friend I have who I just started hanging out with this year who I can talk to about this. She can relate to everything so she's becoming one of my really good friends. I have other friends too, it's just that Ashley (friend #2) and Sarah seemed to be my best best friends and we plan to be friends forever, but now I feel like she doesn't even like me. I don't really know what kind of advice to ask for, but I just need some help on how to deal with this.
I don't really want to stop being friends with them though, so that's the only problem. Ashley is barely a problem, but when she's with Sarah, she starts to act differently. Sarah just makes me mad at almost everything she says and does. She like, a whore too. I don't know. Please help. Thankksss!
I've had "friends" like these before, and like you, they were ignoring me and trying to make me feel bad. I think that almost every girl goes through these kinds of "friendships" in their life; it happens to more people than you think. But you know what? You're not doing anything wrong; girls are just mean sometimes for the hell of it. If you don't like hanging out with Ashley and Sarah when they're together, just plan time to hang out with them separately. If the three of you are hanging out together and they are being annoying, don't let them know that it upsets you. Now, this girl that you've started hanging out with this year sounds like a good friend; maybe you should start hanging out with her more and become better friends with her. I'm not saying you should stop hanging out with your other friends completely, but maybe some time spent with other people would be good for you. I know it's easier said than done, but try not to let Ashley and Sarah make you upset, they're just being mean. Just start hanging out with other people and hopefully they'll realize that they should treat you better. If not, then you're better off without them. Good luck. =)
Ok well I'm going out on a date tonight. Its my first "real" date and we're going out to dinner. I know this kid fairly well and were pretty comfortable with each other, but we talk so much we kind of ran out of things to talk about. I really don't want this to be akward without anything to talk about, so any ideas?
Also, I know this is weird, but I HATE eating in front of people, especially someone I like. I don't know why, but I'm nervous about it. Again, I know this is strange, but I can't help it.
Well, you could talk to him about politics, what's going on in the world, and where you stand on certain issues. It's a good converstation starter; it's a good way to learn more about each other and show him that you know things, lol. But don't start arguing and getting angry with each other if you have political differences, though, haha.
Ask him what his favorite bands are, what his favorite song is, what he wants to do once he gets to college, etc.
If you really have nothing to talk about, just say something funny and random. Like, "did you know that Denzel Washington has a perfectly symmetrical face?" Yeah, weird, I know, but I say it alot when there are awkward silences and it actually brings up some interesting conversation, haha.
Since you're friends with this kid, you'll probably have more to talk about than you thought you would. Good luck. =)
Please, if you could: list the most optimistic song you know.
Good Day Sunshine- The Beatles
Soar- Christina Aguilera
Here Come the Sun- The Beatles
...I know you didn't ask for 3 but these are all equally optimistic in my opinion lol. Have a nice day. =)
I just tried the Monster Energy drink yesterday and I loved it, so I asked my mom to get me it again today. She told me it's not a good idea to drink it. I thought it was harmless and I know it's not a good idea to drink it all at once in like 10 minutes.. but I want to know, what is bad about it? Are there any reasons not to drink it? What are your experiences with it? THANKS!
Your mom is right, it's better not to drink them. My friend used to drink energy drinks a lot and one day, she went temporarily blind and almost passed out (and no, she didn't drink an energy drink at once in 10 minutes or anything.) Also, if you drink more than a couple of them a day, you could have heart problems because they make your heart speed up. Plus, it has a ton of sugar in it. So yeah, lay off on the Monster. =)
i just started watching the show "scrubs" when i was on vacation in florida.. but i dont know what channel it is on where i live (long island, NY)
so if anyone lives here and knows what channel its on, it would be appreciated.. thanks.
Well new episodes are on at 9:00 on NBC on Thursdays... and repeats are on at 10:00 AM, 10:30 AM, 7:00 PM, and 7:30 PM on Comedy Central... and 6:30 PM and 10:30 PM on channel 9 (idk if channel 9 is the same for you because I don't live in NY) but anyways yeah. It's a great show... hope I helped lol.
I would like to go to new york city, in like march. My mom said she'd take me..but, shes never been there & doesn't know like the area well. Can anyone tell me what its like? We'd wanna go see like broadway plays, & go to china town, to get fake designer purses. & junk like that. Whats it like in NYC? & would we know like how to get around, even if we've never been there? What could I say to get my mom to let me go there? i wanna go realllly bad.
& if you've been there, what are some good places to go to.
Well let me just say that New York City is one of the greatest cities in the world. =) There's so much to do there, it's unbelieveable. I've been there a bunch of times and it's so much fun. It's understandable that your mom isn't that comfortable with going to NYC because it is a huge city with a ton of people and yes, sometimes it's easy to get lost. But, they always have maps of NYC no matter where you go in the city and you can go to kiosks and stuff to find out info. It really is suprisingly easy to go through Manhattan because all of the streets are numbered in order, one after the other, but you still might wanna find maps of NYC. There are plenty of ways to get around in NYC, like the subway, taxis, buses, and other stuff. (You might not want to drive your car through NYC because it's so crowded- it's much easier to put your car in a parking garage somewhere in the city or even to take a train to the city) I'd suggest that you go to Manhattan first, it's a borough of NYC and it's probably the best place to go if you want to see Broadway plays and shop, plus it's where a bunch of tourist attractions are. If you are in Manhattan, I suggest you do thins like go to Times Square and go to the Hard Rock Cafe to eat, go to Madame Tussaud's Wax Museum, take a walk in Central Park, tour the Empire State Building, take a sightseeing tour on one of those double-decker buses, etc. You said you wanted to go to Chinatown to buy purses... well Chinatown does have very good purses and awesome jewelry at good prices but just to warn you, Canal Street (the purse street) is incredibly crowded most of the time and because of that, it's kind of easy to get lost. So I recommend you stay around the Times Square area for your first trip to NYC. Oh yeah, and you should definetly try to see a Broadway play; Phantom of the Opera, Rent, Hairspray, Wicked, and Movin' Out are all excellent plays. Well have an awesome time in New York, I'm sure you'll have fun!
Oh yeah, and here are some websites that can help you. =)
www.nycvisit.com/
www.nyctourist.com/
www.nyc.com/
timessquare.com/
www.mta.info/nyct/maps/submap
www.timessquarebid.org/
www.ny.com/maps/
Bear with me; this is a several part question.
-Is it morally wrong to give advice about a situation you've never been in? For example, give sex advice if you've never had sex?
-Is it morally wrong to give advice you don't follow, even if the advice is sound? For example, an eating disordered person giving nutrition advice, or a couch potato giving exercise tips? What if this information is provided to correct erroneous information offered by another source?
This is assuming that the advice you give is valid, despite it being contradictory to your actions. I'm interested in seeing what people think.
Personally, I don't believe that advice that is contradictory to your own actions is morally wrong if someone is being benefited from it. For example, I'm sure that there are therapists out there who have many problems of their own, but they're still able to give really good advice that helps people. So, if the advice is truly helping another person, then it is, in fact, good advice, especially if the information is provided to correct bad advice, like you said. I mean, it would be better if the person giving the advice did actually follow their own, but I know that that's easier said than done because I've given advice before that I should follow, but don't.
In response to your first question, I don't think that it's morally wrong to give advice about something you've never experienced if you are giving good advice that can actually help someone. On the other hand, if you are giving false information to someone because you really have no idea what you're atalking about, then it's better not to answer the question. For example, it would be wrong to give false advice in an important situation, like if a girl was pregnant and she asked you for advice, even though you didn't really know what to answer, it would be better to refer her to someone who actually does know what to tell her because you never know; you could make something up, she could take your advice literally, and ultimately cause herself or someone else harm.
So that's just my opinion on the subject. It was a very interesting question, by the way, and I'm sure it will make a lot of people think. =)
Ok so my friends do these things they call bashings. It's where we sit in a circle and tell esch other what we don't like each other. I hate it i think it's ridiculous casue i feel like their trying to stream line me so i'm some form of perfect friend robot.
They say it's so we don't talk behind each others back. Whenever i say i think it's stupid and it hurts me they just say i'm so sensitive and can't handle critism.
What do you think is it a good idea or stupid?
What should i do?
Well a long time ago I was hanging out with some people and we decided to do "bashings." By the end of it, people were just flat out insulting each other and it was really stupid. When we did this, it didn't stop anyone from talking about people behind their backs; if anything, it made it worse. I really don't think that this improves friendships. I mean, it could be beneficial if you approach it differently and you and your friends agree to talk to each other when something is bothering you, but what's the point of just criticizing each other for the hell of it? Your friends aren't being fair for making you do these "bashings" and saying that you're being too sensitive. Just talk to them. Say what you posted on here; you don't like feeling like you have to be a perfect friend, you think it's stupid and it hurts you, and you don't enjoy doing it. If they are good friends, they'll understand.
Ok, to make this really short, I'm becoming the third wheel in my frienship. My best friend recently started dating one of our other guy friends. We used to all hang out, us a other people too, but now its just me, her and her boyfriend and I feel as though I'm becoming the third wheel. What can I do about this?
Oh my goodness I know exactly how you feel...everytime I hang out with my best friend and her boyfriend I feel so awkward and third-wheelish just sitting there when both of them say to each other "No, I love YOU more." Lol. Anyways, if you prefer hanging out with your best friend when it's not the three of you, just invite her to do stuff, just the two of you. Of course, it's best to actually tell her how you feel, but I know that's not the greatest advice because I'm in the exact same predicament as you and I don't want to talk to my best friend about it because I'm kind of afraid to hurt her feelings. =( But, I suggest you talk to her about it. Say something like "I miss us hanging out like we used to, we should definetly start hanging out like old times again." Just don't sound accusing or blame her boyfriend or whatever because I'm sure she's very happy with her boyfriend, like my friend is. =) I'm sure she'll understand; true best friends always want what's best for each other. Also, when the three of you hang out, you could ask your best friend/her boyfriend if you could invite a bunch of other people along as a big group, or maybe her boyfriend could invite one of his guy friends. Who knows; maybe you and his friends will end up going out and it would be like 2 best friend couples going out (awww, lol.) Hope I helpeddd. =)
I stumbled across this site by accident. I seriously doubt many of you have the qualifications to give real people proper advice. After reading some of your responses to people's inquiries i was quite astonished as to how teenagers find they are able to give quality advice and information to real people in need with such little life experience. If you ask me you are not in a place to give your "personal opinion" when people truly believe you are giving them the right answer simply because you claim "people think i give really good advice". (eg. i am still at a loss as to how a 17 year old girl thinks she can give advice to someone regarding conceiving a child) I know you try to come across as a "godsend" to poeple who are in some sort of personal crisis and need a fast easy answer but the truth is, in the cases where it really counts, there rarely is one; at least not from you.
Hm, well, that's just YOUR opinion. You would find that a lot of people that ask questions on this website have been helped by columnists. I really have no idea why you're expecting psychologist advice from columnists because the majority of these columnists are teengaers. But, even so, these columnists are willing to create an advice account and take time out of their day to try to help people. Of course you wouldn't find the best advice for someone with a personal crisis or serious problem on here because only a psychologist can solve those kinds of serious problems. Oh yeah, and the word "advice" means that you're giving someone your own personal opinion. So if you don't like the advice, then ignore it. You don't have to try to insult people and waste time on this website; if you have a serious problem that cannot be answered on this website, then go see a therapist. And don't say all this crap about peoples` "personal opinions" because I think you proeved your own "personal opinion" by asking your question. Oh, and just because someone says "people think I give really good advice" and YOU don't think they do, then that's just YOUR opinion. As a matter of fact, my column says that, and yeah, I do think I give pretty good advice and people have actually told me that; I'm not making any false claims that I'm a psychologist or anything, even though I'm studying to become one.
So if you think you can give better advice, then why don't you go make an amazing column and give amazing adivce? Because obviously you think that you can do way better. :-)
My favorite type of music is alternative/soft rock. For example-Fountains of Wayne, Guster, hellogoodbye, Sugarcult, Coldplay, and stuff like Third Eye Blind.
Does any know any bands like these I may like? Thanks!
Jack's Mannequin, American Hi-Fi, Something Corporate, Waking Ashland, Acceptance, Bright Eyes, Spitalfield, The Spill Canvas, Terminal, Yesterday's Rising. =)
alright, well for christmas i've been thinking about what i want and what i want is some newer, better makeup.
i like playing around with colors that are kinda of bright and out there and'll catch attention. and i like to blend them with my outfits so they look really neat. like i like doing my makeup like this: ( a girl i found off of myspace, not me ) http://i9.tinypic.com/2iqj2f5.jpg
but see how like, boldish and what a pretty color that makeup looks like?
does anyone know where to purchase makeup colored like this, that won't be running all over my face, for a cheap price?
even if you don't know where to tell me to get brightish, bold makeup like that, can anyone just tell me where to get good-looking makeup that doesn't run all over my face and stays on for good amount of time?
thanks.
sorry if i sounded confusing, i kinda ramble, haha.
Yeah I love wearing bright makeup too and people always ask me where I get mine haha. I find really good, bright colors from Hottopic( it's really cheap, too; you can buy an eyeliner pencil there for $1.) Also try Sephora, M.A.C, Lancome, and Kohls(they have a really good line of bright colored makeup called Flirt.) You could also try a drugstore like C.V.S or Walgreen's, but I think you'd have better results with the other stores. Hope I helped! =)
hey um i was wondering i asked another person for advice and she said i am having this thing called "discharge" going on. its like a clear goo thing that comes out near your butt. but its soooooooo annoying and i really hate it and it has been going on for more than like almost half a year. and i was wondering if you know about it or if you know how it started or how i can get it to stop. because i have really fun things in my life and it just ruins them. and it sucks. but i am asking you because you have given great advice and you are sooooo awesome and good at it. : ] :D and i wanted to thank you so much. you help sooo many people out including me. :D so please if you have answers...i need them im desperate. thanxx so much :D
Well I'm glad I could help you, and thanks for complementing my advice. =) Anyways, every girl gets discharge. It's totally normal, so it's not unusual that you've been getting it for half a year. It could be a sign that you're going to get your first period soon, if you haven't gotten it already, because it's usually heaviest right before you get your period. If the discharge is really heavy, though, you can wear pantyliners. Pantyliners are sort of like pads, except they are really thin and are to be used if your period is light or if you have heavy discharge. You can buy pantyliners practically anywhere, including WalMart, CVS, Walgreens, etc. I don't think that you can really stop yourself from getting discharge, but if your discharge is so heavy that it's making you feel uncomfortable and getting in the way of fun activities, talk to your mom about it, or better yet, talk to your doctor. Hope I helped. =)
i really like this guy and he doesn't even kno im breathing!. i rele want to talk to him but im too shy. please help me!!
Aw, don't doubt yourself. You never know; he might notice you way more than you think he does and feel the same way about you; it happens alot, trust me lol. But the thing is, you'll never know if he feels the same way if you don't talk to him. If he's in one of your classes, just talk to him and try to be friends with him. Smile and be confident. If you're shy, it will be a whole lot harder to talk to him, but if you just try to start a conversation with him and not worry, you'll be fine. If he's mean or something, he doesn't deserve you anyway. So just talk to him, be friendly, and become friends with him first. Maybe get his screename or something. And remeber, it's better to take a chance and talk to him than not taking a chance and wondering what could have been. Good luck. =)
what's a good punk rock love song?
One Slowdance - Rufio
Hands Down - Dashboard Confessional
Letters to You - Finch
Promise - Matchbook Romance
Hey There Delilah - Plain White T's
As You Sleep- Something Corporate
She Paints Me Blue- Something Corporate
Sunsets and Carcrashes- The Spill Canvas
Best of Me- The Starting Line
I Am For You - Waking Ashland
Where is a good place to get really colorful eyeshadow
Hot Topic, Sephora, Kohls, M.A.C , and some other places I can't think of right now. You can even go to CVS or a drugstore that sells makeup and they usually sell cheap colorful eyeshadows there. But if you're looking for neon colors, I definetly suggest Hot Topic or M.A.C.
i need a new screename
anyone have any ideas?
song lyrics or a song title would be cool
like i got these ideas:
falsexpretense
yourguardianangel
damnxregret
anything with the word regret would be cool
anything about love
i dont really know
anything will be helpful
my current sn is
essentialromance
will rate=]
Hmm, well here are a few songs that look really cool as a screename.
xMakeDamnSure
forgetxmyxname
beautifulxDisaster
octoberskies
I am for you
InASweetDream
TheRunaway
xRuthless
DreamingAReality
MyFavoriteAccident
EmbraceTheRegretx
DrpaedInRegret
FallingxForxYou
And that's all I can think of at the moment. =)
ok. so im in the high school colorguard for the marching band. and we need these gloves. and they said i can purchase them at five below or at any sports store. but i have no idea what they are called. does anyone know what they are called?
The gloves you need are actually weight-lifting gloves. Sometimes they're called cardio gloves, too. So they're not specifically made for colorguard, but they work well lol. You can buy them practially anywhere, even WalMart. I know at WalMart they cost about $10, or at least the kind I buy are. But if you want to go to a sport's store, just ask for weightlifting gloves. The ones I have are made by Athletic Works and they've lasted me a really long time, so try that. =)
I've already tried looking it up on google, but I couldn't find it, so could someone please tell me the song by the Used that is purely piano. I think it was Bert McCraken just playing something randomly. If someone could tell me the name, it would be greatly appreciated.
The song is called "Sometimes I Just Go For It." It's on their CD/DVD called 'Maybe Memories'. And yes, Bert McCracken did just improvise it randomly one day, but it's an extremely sick-nasty song. =)
What are some tips so i can decorate my locker? Like places I can get certain things at? What do you have in yours that you think is cool/unique?
Any Ideas for mine? I already have a mirror =]
Thanks
You can get magnets and hang pictures, buy a whiteboard tp hang in your locker and have your friends sign it when they come to your locker, hang up posters of bands or singers that you like, put stickers in your locker,(as long as you can peel them off by the end of the year) put up pictures of your friends, put confetti in the bottom of your locker, put streamers in your locker, and pretty much do whatever you want. =) You can buy locker stuff at Walmart, JCPenney's, Filene's, Kohl's, and PBteen.