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I am a 13 year old who whacks off once every week. My record for going longest without masterbating was about a month. The question is how come every time I whack off my cum is a transparent white? U try different techniques but I always get the same orgasm and I never feel the cum rising up to my head
Am I still cumming pre cum? (link)
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Normal. Relax.
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Hi. For summer 2015 I really really want to do a 1 week full day session of gymnastics. I'm tired of not being active. My parents would love for me to do it, but the problem is cost. I'm only 12… it's $375. I have $0. Any advice? I come from a really poor family… (link)
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You know, jumping from not being active to a full week of gymnastics might not be such a great idea, unless the week is specifically for people like yourself.
You do not actually need money to start becoming active, and money won't magically fix it.
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Hello I'm 13 years old and I have been through a fake relationship 2 years ago and it effects my courage and feelings today. There are many girls that went to my school and are going to my high school that I could have asked but I'm afraid. I think ill either be turned down or dumped. I am not a bad guy but my ex brought the bad out of me. We were friends for 6 months and I was already obsessed with her. Me and her always wrote notes to each other and we flirted alot. Then I gathered my courage before Christmas break and asks her out on the notes and she said yes. After that she never hugged me or touched me. Then she came to me a week later saying that my so call friend named chance said our relationship isn't real and I said why do you believe what he says and she cried and walks away. I talked shit to chance even though he was a football player and I confronted him. He said what she said he said. Then they went to see a movie with the school and I stayed back at school.and people came back telling me chance as holding her hand and I was pissed. I went to MacKenzie in 3rd hour the next day and dumped her and she said I already dumped you when I held chance's hand. That set me off. I said you were never worth my time you worthless bitch and walked away as the bell rang. She cried for the rest of the afternoon. A year later I find her on facebook and I decided to say hi and start as friends and she cussed me out and I don't respond.i look at her page and find her kissing like 50 different boys in sexual positions bit not doing anything but kissing. So I call her a slut and she cried again. She even put me on blast about our old relationship. I'm afraid of asking til this day for that very reason. She also said she'll get her boyfriend who I a wrestler on me if she sees me again.please help.
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So you got burned by a crazy b*tch who likes to set guys against one another for amusement.
Chance was your friend? Bros b4 hoes, little dude. You should never have talked shit to him just on the say-so of this girl.
It sounds like she was Chance's g/f and was just keeping you on the side. Probably a few other guys too. They do that - they like to keep options open. You became a problem with her primary relationship at the time, so she shut you down. End of story. This wasn't a problem for her because, like I said, she was keeping a few other guys just like you on the string in case Chance the footballer dumped her. Hell - 50 different boys doesn't tell you everything you need to know?
Why did she cry the rest of the afternoon? Because girls like drama. She was having a great old time, turning on the waterworks. It's just this thing she likes to do.
You were right when you said that she was never worth your time. Stalking her on facebook was stupid. Don't do it again. Damn right she'll sic her wrestler b/f on you and he will pound your face to jelly.
You don't need help. What you need is to never speak to or deal with this insane person ever again.
PS: and stop jerking off over her (gee, how did I know you were doing that?).
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I hate putting this under love life. But I wasn't sure what else to do.
I've been struggling with this thing since March. I am a 19 year old female, college student. This spring I went on spring break with friends in Florida. We went to a club with fake IDs and, yes, I'm a college student, I got pretty drunk. I've only blacked out three times in my entire life and I've been drinking since 16 and I'm almost twenty. The last night of spring break, in that club, I blacked out. Kind of. I can remember bits and pieces. I remember meeting a guy and dancing with him and that I thought he was cute. At some point I left with him. Which is completely unlike me. My friends were freaking out and so scared, they called me hundred times. I don't remember texting them this but I replied to their messages and calls with "I'm fine, meet you at home". The next thing I remember after leaving the club was vomiting violently in a toilet in either a house or a condo. It was horrible. I remember the guy picking me up off the floor. And I remember laying in a bed. I think I have flashes of having sex but I don't know if they're real. Before this night I had only had sex with one guy, my boyfriend of two years but we had recently broken up. I remember being in a car and walking up to the house where my friends and I were staying. I definitely remember this next part. I was laying on a table in the backyard of our house, behind some trees by the pool. I remember something inside me and it hurt. I don't know what it was.That's the last thing I remember. When I woke up the next morning my vagina was bleeding and sore and it hurt really bad. I knew I had had some kind of sexual intercourse. I just didn't remember if I wanted to. I felt so embarrassed and didn't tell my friends. I was so mad at myself for putting myself in that situation. and I hate that I can't remember if I told him no or fought him. im almost positive I wouldn't have willingly had sex with a guy I just met. I went to the doctor to get tested for STDs and pregnancy and I was okay. I didn't tell the nurse any details. But that night still eats at me. I haven't told anyone and I don't know what I would say. I don't think I can call it rape, but then why do I feel so violated? (link)
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Sigh. This guy's life is hosed because he had sex with a drunk college girl. She was probably climbing over him all night, but now its "Oh, I was drunk, I don't remember anything".
She will get some "advice" from the "counselling" center on campus, and they will go "Rape! Rape! Red-blooded release the hounds Rape! W00T!" and you know what? Under a lot of recent legislation this series of incident s *is* rape. Legally.
Guys - DO NOT have sex with drunk college girls. Doesn't matter if they are unzipping your jeans right there on the dance floor. Don't do it. This story happens *all the time*.
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Hi guys! I've been seeing this guy for about a month now. We both work at the same place and we both work alllllll the time, as he is a supervisor, he's been pulling 12-14 hour shifts lately. So when we can, we hang out. We consider ourselves dating, we've gone out on "formal dates" about five times and talk to each other at work when we get the chance, take our breaks together, that kind of thing.
He just met my mom last night. We both took our dogs to our local park and took a walk together. We met there, though, the park is right in the center of both of our houses so that made sense, so when we decided our dogs had enough, he walked me home and thats when he met my mom, then I drove him home. They talked a while, he let his dog off the leash and both of our dogs played while my mom got to know him and he was very comfortable around her. When I got home after dropping him off, my mom said she liked him a lot. He still has yet to meet my dad but if we keep going out, he will definitely do that soon. He's also friends with my brother since before we even started talking.
Anyway, the point of all that rambling is that on August 1st, my uncle and his new wife are having a house warming party. So all of my aunts and uncles, on my mom's side, and their kids and my uncle's new friends and neighbors and work friends are going to be there. I want to ask the guy I'm seeing to go with me. I want to acclimate him to my family. They'll like him, I know they will, but he's just a quiet guy and my mom's side of the family is very rambunctious and loud. I don't want to put pressure on him to say yes if I ask but I do want him to go with me. Plus my uncle lives an hour away so the drive for us will be nice just to be together and talk. I'm a little nervous to ask him because where we work, if we want off, we have to request it three weeks in advance because that's how far out they make the schedules the time. Three weeks in advance to August first would be some time next week.
So, with us going out on five dates (no kiss or anything like that yet, or even the official "boyfriend/ girlfriend" title, him meeting my mom, do you think it would be weird of me to ask him to a family party? If you were to put yourself in his shoes and be the guy I'm talking about in this question, would you be weirded out or would you be flattered that the girl you're seeing wants you to get to know her family?
I'm 20, he's 23.
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Tricky.
If the other friends there are either longtime friends of the family or friends *of the people whose house it is*, then it's probably not appropriate to bring just some dude along, but ok to bring a b/f.
Might be time to drop the hard word on this guy: "so, like, are you my b/f at this stage?" If you are not comfortable doing that, well, there's your answer.
If I was him, I'd be thinking "It's 2015, we are young adults, if we were boyfriend and girlfriend, that means we would be having sex.
I mean, you know that's what all your rellos will be assuming, right? If you drag him along to a party filled with people he doesn't know, where he will not be at his best (he's shy, right?), and you two are *not* having sex, than that means he is permanently friendzoned.
If you don't want to frendzone this guy, either don't ask (because things aren't that far along yet), or take it to the next level. If you know what I mean.
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... calling themselves black? It's offensive to the millions of people in the world who are truly 100% African. Yes, some of their ancestors didn't choose to come to the diaspora during the slave trade, but some of their ancestors did, and were European, Native American, Asian, etc. the average African American is roughly 20% white and yet they are the ones harping the most about being black. Most real Africans unite under their specific cultures before the generic racial label created by Europeans to justify the slave trade, "black". The one drop rule is nonsense. By that logic, everyone is black, as down the line, everyone descends from people from somewhere in south east Africa. Just because multiracial people are also discriminated doesn't mean that somehow erases their parts of their ancestry they don't find redeemable. Yes, some slaves were raped unfortunately, but rape is not a new human phenomenon. That ancestry isn't void just because it came about through rape. The whole thing is annoying cause it's all about convenience. Even president Obama says he's black, while at the same time, talking about his mixed race upbringing. Mixed race people act like its so hard to appreciate and represent more than one culture, and I don't understand it. Who is telling them they have to pick one, and they can't just identify as being mixed? In this increasingly global world, cultures are influenced by other cultures a lot more, not to mention the more genetic mixing that goes on. I think it's wrong for multiracial people to act as if they can uniformly speak of a "black" struggle without perspective from the many fully African Africans. I'm not against mixed race people FYI, I'm no bigot or racist. If anything, it seems bigoted to deny a part of your ancestry. People are great whatever they are, there's no need to obscure genetics, it only does more harm than good. (link)
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If the cops kill you in a chokehold, you think they care that genetically you are 20% white? Black is as black is *treated*.
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Regarding recent posts, I was wondering how the world's leading industrialised nations can be described as "pilfering rich Africa"? The joint IMF-World Bank Heavily Indebted Poor Countries (HIPC) Initiative lists 36 countries as of April 2015 who they are indeed helping in every way feasible to ease their debt-burden. 30 of them are African. Possibly someone can enlighten my 'ignorance'? (link)
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How are they "helping" these nations ease their debt burden?
By issuing more debt.
"Oh, you owe us a billion in interest? So sad! Here's another billion to help you pay that interest, oh and by the way you'll be paying interest on that, too.
PS: we only accept US dollars"
How are these nations supposed to get US dollars? They can't print 'em the way Uncle Sam does. Only way is to sell their minerals and oil. So in *real* terms, they are giving up actual, concrete minerals and oil in exchange for nothing, for greenbacks that the US prints at will, for numbers on a ledger somewhere.
That's how the scam works.
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It's shaved on the left, but I don't know want to do with the short hair on the other side. I was thinking about a perm but want else can I do to it??? Btw my hair is black (link)
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Google images. Try "shave side short hair style"
https://www.google.com.au/search?q=shave+side+short+hair+style&tbm=isch
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Ok. So if you saw my last question, I decided to try and raise money so I can go to gymnastics camp. I'm 12. So I run a business making and selling beautiful high quality bags. I do it with my friend. Except- I haven't sold any bags yet! I've been advertising and making great deals on Instagram for almost a year now, but no one buys!!! I really need this money. Please help! And also I'm not spending money on advertising. Thanks in advance. (link)
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Don't people usually sell this kind of stuff on Etsy? And don't overlook eBay.
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To me realisation is key, for instance once you realise if something is good or bad for you, you can make the decision on how to change it. Never take your self to seriously and my person big one - dont live in the past - the mind is a powerful thing, I believe, if you have the mindset, be positive you can do, achieve anything.
So they are a few that I've learnt while growing up, however, I want to know more, I don't quite no what to call them, but what things have got you through your life?
What do you tell your self when your at your lowest? Or just need that little push? (link)
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Main thing that's gotten me through life is knowing that I have made it this far.
I used to be a born-again christian. When I was in my early 30s, I worked out that it's all nonsense and that there is no God. Thinking about my future, I was frightened, I felt like I was walking a tightrope and always thought there was a net there to catch men, and suddenly found out that there is actually no net at all.
But then I noticed that, well, most people make it through life reasonably ok. Bad things happen, but mostly they don't. I wasn't any less able to navigate life than all of these millions of other people.
So maybe what got me through that stage was deciding that I wasn't so special, that the world isn't all about me. I'm just people, and that's ok.
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So I have a twin who doesn't really have any friends because she's super shy and quiet.
We go to different universities and recently it was our birthday.
A friend from my uni suggested me and her do something to celebrate our birthday like a nice meal out.
Only thing is my mum said I should bring my twin to the meal. However I know its harsh but I don't think I'll have as good a time since she's quiet.
Like we're 20 and its not my responsibility anymore for her to make friends is it? I've been doing so all my life-making friends then she tags along and I've had enough!
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Does your twin *want* to do this?
If not, then explain to your mom that you are bnoth 20 and you are not the same person and you choose to celebrate your b-day in different ways.
If so, well … that's trickier. She's going to a different university: she doesn't have friends there? I'm saying that you need to turn her down, but maybe it can be done gently. If not, well then you might have to be a bit harsh about it.
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I am 24 and my boyfriend turns 26 in July. He is weird about having kids. For example, when we seriously thought I was pregnant the only reason why he wanted me to have an abortion was because he didn't think that we were financially stable enough for a child.
After we found out that I wasn't, I asked him whether or not having a baby with me would be that bad, if he had a full-time job and could support all of us. He said, "No, not at all." Just before mother's day this year, he joked, "You might be celebrating mother's day this time next year." Other times, he says he's never having kids.
While having a baby is out of the question for us right now because we cannot financially afford one, I would love to have his baby one day. Probably sooner than later, after we are more financially able to support ourselves.
The problem is that my mother is not a particularly loving mother. She is the type who wants to be the center of attention. I never had a cut or bruise on me from her, but she did hit me, and do things that I swear were done to hurt me. Over the years she has made up lies in an attempt to alienate me from other members of my family. When I call her out on them, it's as though they actually happened, and she gets angry at me for telling her that they are lies. Every time she had to do something for me, it was a complaint, and she is unhappy that I am a full-time student who hasn't held a job in over a year.
He really had no example of a good father either. Up until he was 9 years old, his grandfather alive and he would play sports with him. That's one of the reasons why my boyfriend loves to watch baseball, football and basketball so much.
His biological father was a heroin addict, who left him when he was two years old. For the next few years, up until he was 15, when his dad finally passed away, he saw him four times in his life.
Can we still be good parents, without a good example? (link)
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"Can we still be good parents, without a good example?"
It doesn't matter. You have your heart set on having a baby, and that means that you are going to have one.
Do remember that babies are not babies for very long. What I suggest to you is that in your mental self-talk, you substitute the word "child" for "baby" every time you catch yourself doing it. Does this change your feelings towards the idea of having one? If it does, what does that mean?
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I've always known that my husband was a little jealous when we were dating. He didn't want me texting other men or flirting, I completely understand that. Those are also my limits. We have only been married for a little over six months, and the growing jealousy towards my mother is starting to make us fight very badly. I am an only child to my mother, and at first she was clingy, but that isn't the case anymore. I spend maybe one day out of the week going to town with her, maybe to eat, and other than that I talk to her maybe twice a day. She suffers with bad anxiety, so if I go out of town, I shoot her an "I made it alive mother" text, which is just another thing that annoys him that I do for my mother to ease her mind. She is my best friend and more like a sister to me than a mom and it really hurts me and puts me in a awkward place when he throws fits about me seeing her or talking to her. If I'm not working, I am always home when he gets home from work, If he wants me to cook, I cook.. I try to please him in every way but right when my phone rings and its my mom, there goes our entire night. He has also done this if I go out of town without him to see family. He will call me the entire time I am there, and the one time I don't answer, I'm ignoring him and have no time for him. I love this man so much and I don't want such a petty thing to ruin our relationship. Please offer any advice that may help (link)
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I'm interested in the third side of this triangle - the relationship between this man and his mother-in-law.
What kinds of things does your mom say about him?
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Hi for whoever answers this! Ok, so I looked all over the Internet and couldn't find an answer so i was hoping maybe one of you would know the answer. Ok, so I heard for women if they eat less than 1200 calories their body could go into starvation mode. I eat about half those calories, but I still eat plenty. I just eat things that are low in calories and don't overeat. If I start taking in more calories or even eat sugar, then I'll feel like I can't stop. Plus for me, these diets are addicting and I'm perfectly fine with that. I also work off about 130 calories at least each day so it's like my net is around 500 calories. If I eat more, I'll stretch my stomach out, and if I eat things in higher calories, then I'll get back to eating fatty foods, and I feel healthy foods will, well, keep me healthier. I have felt so much better since starting this diet, but I heard that these diets can burn out your metabolism. Will this happen if your still eating enough and have high metabolism foods (egg whites, coffee, green tea, grilled chicken, etc)? To be honest, I'm a little too worried to stop this diet because I always go on and off with this diet and every time I "take a break" from it, I can never seem to stop eat fatty foods and I get to where I don't want to exercise as much. So after hearing all of this, is this diet still ok for me since I eat enough and eat high metabolism foods? It's probably not gonna change the way I eat, I just really need to know. Thank you so much for your time! (link)
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You do not have a healthy relationship with food. Food is something that you eat so as to get on with the rest of your life. Making it your whole life is, well, a bit of a worry.
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is there any chance of hiv after getting blowjob by a gay ?
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It's very unlikely.
But you are the one who has to decide if "very unlikely" is good enough.
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I'm 24 and recently started dating this guy whose 28. We met playing a sport we both love and there was and instant attraction on both ends. We've gone on about 6 dates now and there is definitely sparks, we get along great, and we can talk for hours. He asked me to make things a little more serious and be his girlfriend and I agreed because I felt like it was really worth a shot. The date after he asked me to be his gf we watched a movie at his place and he asked me if I'd be mad if I knew his ex used to live with him. I lived with my ex so this question didn't even make me flinch. He then quickly told me his ex's mail still gets delivered there and there's a huge stack of her mail that he says he doesnt feel like giving to her. I thought it was just a really bad breakup and neither of them wanted to see each other so I didn't push. The next date we got a little physical and he called me by his exs name. He quickly apologized and said he's just been saying that name for three years and it just slipped out. He sounded guilty and asked if he should leave but I told him mistakes happen and we just ended up going to sleep after that. Just today we had a great date but something was nagging me so I looked up his Facebook and found myself on his ex's page. During their breakup not only was/is he keeping her mail but apparently he gave away her cats. This just made me worry. I know there are two sides to every story, I'm just afraid to ask. I really do like this guy but before I get too serious I would like to know what exactly is going on, and who I'm getting serious with. Should I ask him about his ex? If not what questions should I be asking? (link)
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Weird.
I was about to say "holding onto her mail is wrong", but why the hell hasn't she done a change of address with the post office?
I mean - is he still getting her mail and holding onto it, or is it just that he has a stack of her mail and doesn't know what to do with it?
The correct thing for him to do is to mark each item with "return to sender - not at this address" or however that is usually phrased where you live, and dump them back to the post office. If he knows her forwarding address, he should forward the mail there.
You're right - this is pretty strange. There's a good chance that his "ex" isn't necessarily permanently his ex.
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Okay , so i had sex with my boyfriend and we didnt use a condom , they say if you urinate
right after sex you may become pregnant is this true ? If so what do i do (link)
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No, this is nonsense. Urinating after sex *may* somewhat reduce your chance of getting a urinary tract infection, but this is nothing to do with getting pregnant or not. It's a different tube.
Maybe you will get pregnant. Maybe you won't. But one thing is for sure: if you *continue* to have unprotected sex without contraception, then sooner or later, you definitely will.
The important question is: what will you be doing to be sure you don't fall pregnant next time? (and the time after tat, and the time after that …?)
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hi this is siva from india,
i am 23 male, i jerking my dick from 9th standard . .. i mean from the age of 2006.. mostly i do it atleast a day and now jerking my dick atleast thrice in a week , sometimes when i make sex chat over phone with gf , i do it more thrice a day.. unable to stop this habit .. please tell how to stop this..
please give me suggestion do i get any disease regarding this ... something like STD ?
please tell me do i get health problem ,does it make any challenge in giving baby in future, does it make any difference in my kids health issue....
Can i continue this ?? or wht ?
tell some food items to maintain this ?
should i reduce jerking ?
if so Why ?
does it make a any problem ?
if so then how to reduce it ?
plsss plsss
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Only three times a week?
"Can i continue this ?? or wht ?" - yup. Semen is like spit, your body just produces the stuff.
"does it make a any problem ?" - some people think it makes you less masculine long term, reduces your drive to chase women to get "the real thing". Meh.
"if so then how to reduce it ?" - you reduce it by reducing it. This question is like people who want to lose weight and they ask "but *how* can I eat less?"
If you really want to reduce it, then it's the same as dealing with any other bad habit. There's plenty of advice out there, google "how to stop bad habits".
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My bf has been coughing up blood lately. It only happened for a day. He also said he had bloody stool. I was really worried about him but his stubborn self wouldn't go see a doctor. His cousin is a doctor, however, and she said that it is stress related. (I know he has been under a lot in the past quite lately and he also doesn't eat nor sleep well) All these symptoms lasted a day but he said he's had it happen to him in the past before but it never lasted or turned into something serious. I just want to know if anyone knows anyone else that this happened to and what did they do about it? Did it get more serious? (link)
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So, not only does he have blood in his stool, but he has had it for years?
Jesus.
Dude could have cancer or something. I mean - ok, maybe it's an ulcer. Then again, maybe it isn't. And ulcers that last for years are probably pretty serious.
Ignoring it won't make it go away. The longer you leave it, the worse it is when you finally take care of business.
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hey i an from Limpopo.im in a new relationship.me n my bf we a naw datin for 1month n 3days.i love my bf so much n i try to make him happy but dat doesnt hide de fact dat my bf is still inlove wth his ex who has died.wen he need me i go n be wth him.on saturday it was his bdae n i made a suprise party for him n i invited his friends n ada gals.he was very happy n i was happy to see him happy.but dat dae at nyt he said i shuld not leave i shuld sleep ova n i did so.he started talking abt his ex who died n his ex was buried on saturday on his bdae.he told me dat he is over her n he dnt luv her anymore but his actions was telling me another story.he evn cried for his ex infront of me n didnt wt tu du or wat to say.my heart was heavy wen he was kissing me he suddenly stopped n he said he cant.yesterdae he removed de status on watsap he wrote abt me n write dat he love his ex n he change a profile pic n put his ex.i cried alone n my hurt was heavy realising dat im truly,madly n deeply inlove wth him.what do i have to do? (link)
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Ok, you say that his ex was buried on Saturday. Does this mean that his ex was actually buried on saturday, or that saturday was the anniversary of the day his ex was buried? I mean - if a man has been to a funeral two days ago, maybe you are expecting a little much?
Actually - it just doesn't matter. This guy is not ready to be in another relationship right now, and that's all that matters. You are madly in love with him? Pfft - get madly in love with someone else.
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