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Any chance of getting pregnant by getting fingered? With the guy being fully clothed?
Sorry im just very parinoid with this stuff..DX (link)
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No chance
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15/f & my friend greg** is 15/m .
My friends dad beats him. And according to court his dad is allowed to give him "spankings" & there's no proof that he beats him. This may be hard to follow.
Gregs mom would take his father to court, so that he would never have to see his dad again. But Greg has been to rehab before & his father could use that against them in court.
I'm so scared my friend is gonna get seriously hurt. I'm talking to him right now on face book & he's telling me how his dad left him on the stairs bleeding and he couldn't move what so ever.
What if his dad takes it too far? I don't even know what to do. My mom would take Greg into our home in a heart beat, but him & his mom would get arrested for him running away.
WHAT DO I DO ? :'( (link)
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your friend Greg has to call 911 when he's being beat. It needs to be documented by police and the hospital. When it comes to your friend being in rehab that has nothing to do with child custody, that only matters if a parent was in and what it was for. The courts know that kids have many different ways of dealing with a divorce.
Keep talking to your friend and make sure that your friend is talking to an adult that can help like your mom or his mom. If he doesn't call 911 or police he can also tell his school, they will have to investigate it and report it.
I wish you and your friend the best.
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K so I'm 13, in 7th grade, (girl) and all my friends (girls) are like all prude, but I would like to grind and make out with people that I'm not dating but all my friends would judge me. We have parties all the time so there's a lot of grinding going on. I didn't grind at the last party because my parents were invited but in school today my friend and I were joking around and I ended up in front of him against the wall and he started grinding me without holding my waist and now everyone is making a huge deal out of it and calling me a slut and I feel horrible but I really want to do stuff like grind! Am I being a slut and should I feel bad??? (link)
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Ask yourself, was it ok that your friend started grinding on you in the hallway? You need to have boundaries of your personal space and your body. It is not ok to have a guy 'grind' on you at school. While it may all seem ok right now because its only grinding you are sending the message that you are willing to do what the boy wants. You starting to have the normal teen hormones but you need to learn that while it feels good it means so much more. You can take care of your needs when you are alone.
Its not being a prude by not grinding its about having self respect.
If it not something you would do in front of your parents then it really isn't something you should be doing when they aren't around.
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how do you tell someone who likes you, you like them but dont want a really big relationship as they are your best friend? i know its a kind of complicated question but if you could answer it thankyou sooo much...btw dont say 'just tell him you like him' cause i've tried that...its too hard... 13/f ^_^ (link)
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If you have tried and the person is basically ignoring what you are saying then you need to look at why you don't want a 'really big relationship'. If this person is your best friend and you enjoy spending time with them then you have already have a good base for a great relationship.
If things are starting to get weird because the other person wants more than you are going to put some distance between you and the other person, its the only way to get your point across without being really mean.
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Im 16. female. my friends have bfs. its killing me because i have been practically begging for one. im not desperate though, i mean i have standards and stuff. my friend calls me picky and i know i wont be able to find a perfect guy...but i dont want a perfect guy, just somone who is perfect for me. i just want one so bad. it seems like a juvenile problem i know, and i know i have plenty of years ahead of me for that but this yearning wont freaking stop! i want someone to love me and make me feel special. but there is no one around me that i want. so...i guess what im trying to ask is either how to get rid of this empty feeling i have and depression, or something. i dont really know. (ps. ive been asked out before. ha i kinda made it sound like no guys have ever liked me but they do. i just havent liked them back. (link)
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You are not alone in wanting to have someone in your life who is special and who is into you and you are into. However this will happen when you least expect it to happen.
You have to figure out what you don't like before you know what it is that you really like. I always thought I wanted someone who did what I do and was taller than me and was jock and not into hunting and fishing and all that. However I went out with the guy that I'm now married to. He isn't what I thought I was looking for but he is the perfect person for me.
So go out there and meet all sorts of guys to find what is your 'Mr Perfect'.......go have fun with your friends and don't settle for anything less that what you deserve.
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I am a female in my mid twenties. One of my best friends is dating my boss's ex boyfriend. My boss and her ex were together for at least 5 years, and they are still really good friends. My boss's ex knows me because I sometimes hang out with my best friend and him. I know that my boss knows her ex is dating someone new, but I do not know if my boss knows that I am a really good friend of this person. My gut tells me she probably has a good idea. I feel like I am being deceitful to my boss by not acknowledging the fact that my best friend is dating her ex. I am going to be working on a big project with my boss soon, and I am afraid it is going to feel like there is a giant elephant in the room when we work together. Should I talk to her about my friend's relationship with her ex or just keep my mouth shut? (link)
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Keep your mouth shut. Do not talk about your boss and her ex to anyone in the office. If you boss brings it up, be professional and say something along the lines of 'Oh I wasn't sure that was the same person' and don't tell her anything about the relationship that he is currently in with your friend. Its best to keep your personal life out of the office.
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hi im 14 yeears old and i hasve had my period for quite awhwile, when i was 13, i have been using tapons for almost the hole time when i was taking it out it hurt and i couldn't get it out i looked and theres like a piece of skin not liek a piece but its suppose to be there, the string got hooked around it and i had to untangle it to get it out, is that normal?? (link)
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you could be having pain because the tampon itself is a little too large or that you are tensing up when trying to take it out. Talk to your DR if this keeps being a problem
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I have an ex that im still crazy in love with.He obviously broke up with me..because he said he stopped liking me as much as he did in the beggining. We still talk and hangout ALL the time.Once in a while alone,but most of the time we are in a group. We get along so well still and always have fun times together.He even told me he hangs out with me more than some of his best friends and the same goes for me too. When we first broke up,he made a few attempts to hookup with me and made a small attempt a couple weeks ago.We sometimes fight though and then he gets mad at me and it usually results in him saying "im not your boyfriend anymore so stop acting like it!" so i feel as though he gets the vibe i still like him..yet whenever we go to parties,im usually flirting with lots of other guys,in front of his face. We never ever talk about eachothers hookups,or if we are talking to any other people,or anything about love interests etc. so thats good but I cant continue hanging out with him if we aren't dating.He's become routine in my group of friends and it's almost hard to avoid him all together.When we dated,we mixed our groups of friends into one big group and now we are all close so i dont know what to do! I was going to write him a letter about how i feel and tell him i can't talk to him anymore and maybe then he'll either realize what he had when im gone,or we will just separate and hopefully ill get over him.help! (link)
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sounds like you both don't know what to do now that you have stopped having a romantic relationship. It is possible for the two of you to be friends but it will take time and you need to basically get past the romantic part. Take some time for yourself and remove yourself from the group for a bit. Stop talking to him all the time about everything and doing everything together. You have other friends you can spend time with and talk to. Then see how things are.
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I have a problem. I'm 17 and ready to have sex. I WANT to have sex. I mean, I don't want to do it just to do it. I really WANT to. I'm completely ready. Problem- I don't have a boyfriend...agh! What do I do? (link)
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While I understand that you WANT to have sex, you should wait until you are in Love for your first time. Its something you can only do once and being with someone that you love and loves you back makes it so much more. With all the 'toys' out there, you can take care of your own needs until you find the right person.
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are you being fake if your being too nice to a person you dont like? lets say you dont want to talk to them but when the person starts talking to them you end up talking to the person you dont like because you are too nice to say "i dont want to talk to you" so you talk behind that person's back? (link)
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Be yourself, and if you don't want to talk to someone then don't. Follow the age old advice...if you don't have something nice to say don't say anything at all. If this person finds out you are talking behind their back it will make things worse.So yes it seems that you are being fake.
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ive been feeling so sad lately. im crying all the time. i feel ugly and like nobody wants me or loves me. i dont want to feel like this anymore. i want it all to stop. i want to give therapy a go but i dont know how to explain to mom i think i am. i looked up the symptoms of teenage depression and it's like it's describing me. it's scary. i just want to stop feeling like this. i just want to be happy. im 14/f if that helps at all (link)
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Be honest with your mom about how you are feeling. Make sure to tell her when you have her attention and not just drop it into conversation when she's driving or making dinner. Being depressed and having the feelings that you do have are real and you can get help with how to deal with them, but start by telling your mom. It may help you to write it down so that you make sure to tell her everything. You will find that once you tell her you will feel better because you aren't all alone dealing with this.
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