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i have been though alot and have helped many people, so if you want any help or advice :)
i am here to help you.
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i like my ex, no point hidding it; were great mates always hang out and text and stuff. but hes so touchy and domanating that its hard for other guys to talk to me without him interupting. what should i do i want him close but just to calm down and see sense that im single. im a shy person so is there away around it that i dont need to be so direct. (link)
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well you could ask if he likes you in a way
as he would not pretect you from other guys if he did not like you back, and if you like him and it seems he likes you, then try your best to find out why he does these things, how you go about that can depend,
but make sure you try your best to talk to him and if your good mates at least you already talk to each other and things, just act like your asking a normal casual question :)
hope this helps :)
good luck
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Hello 14 f PLEASE ANSWER SOON...its really important nd i dont have much time :/
Well tomorrow I might be seeing my ex, and this ex made me miserable a traumatizing experience for me. Now he's always at my towns city pool every day in the summer..im going there with my cousins, my aunt and my grandmother. Every time I go, with my best friend or anyone I get so nervous and sick to my stomach because I have bad memories there. How should I face him, because I really despise this guy, he doesn't like me much..so I don't know what to do..sense my boy friend won't be with me. My friend says to show off what he's missing. hahah >.> Seriously though what should i do? please reply soon..i only have today.. (link)
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well i think that if you really dont like him and he does not like you, then you have to fight though the sickness and things and realise that he is not with you any more and he will never really be a part of your life again really,
you have as much right to be there as he does,
so just ignore him
if you like pretend he does not exist :)
and forget the past really and move on with the future :)and forget all about him pretend you never met him :)
hope this help
good luck :)
just be happy and have fun with your friends :)
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I was with a guy for 2 years and it didnt work out because 3 months into our relationship someone told him i cheated on him. we tried to make it work but in the end it didnt work out. i know my so called "cheating" wasnt the only problem but we had other problems couples do thanks to him thinking i cheated. i couldnt tell him that i didnt cheat because the people who told him i cheated were all in on it. i had no evidence to prove i was right and so much behind me that i figured to just act like i did and see what happens. dumb idea. we should have just broken up and left it at that but we both didnt. for 2 years i let him believe i cheated. the girl now messaged me apologizing for the rumor she started. i have her apology in an email so i know i can prove that i didnt cheat now. but my ex and i have been broken up for 4 months now, should i tell him the truth or not. he just turned 22, im 20. (link)
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well if you still like him
or want to prove that you were right
then why not, if you have still been in some sort of contact or plan to be with him againt hen you should go for it what have you got to lose,
even if he turns round and does not care, then thats his loss and and you have nothing to lose only things to gain :) x
hope this helps
good luck
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Okay so it all started about a year and a half ago! I had just gotten suspended from school for the rest of the year because of fighting. My friend Mariah had ran from her group home and I joined her. After our first night on the run, we were introduced to a couple people, one of them being the boy I would fall in love with, Jason! I can replay the first moment I seen him with perfection, as if it just happened. Here came this loud, adorable boy in his dickies! It was an instant attraction! That night me and mariah stayed at his house and me and him stayed up all night.(justkissing) Did I mention we were EXTREMELY drunk?! Well the next day when I woke up laying next to him, I pretended like that night never happened, even though I had major hickies. He tried so many times to talk to me and until I was again drunk that night I blew him off! Then once I was drunk we were more 2gether, it was crazy! THEN this guy we call "blackboy" came and I found him extremely attractive, and considering how drunk I was I was completely open about that feeling! That night I had sex with him in jasons room! Long story short:: next day Jason was pissed at me but then we talked ALOT and made up and I had sex with him that night, and the next day I left and didnt see him again for a while!!!!! ......About A Month Later..... So i was no longer on the run and my birthday was coming up. And without saying I wanted to see him I was determined to make sure I spent my birthday with him, and I did. That night is the best mmemory of my life, and the night I fell in love!(July10th2009♥). We did not have sex that night but we went on a super long walk together, and spent an AMAZING night 2gether>>WITHOUT SEX!! ..The next day i went home!! .....2WeeksLater.... So I was going to hang out with my friend mario and his homeboys and we were gonna drink! well I got drunk and had sex with 2boys that night! they were cousins, and Jasons good friends, and he showed up the next day. He freaked out on me then left, and about an hour later came back and wanted 2 "talk" and spend the day with me.We had sex that night. If i went on in detail about it would take me a century to write about it BUT our relationship mainly consisted of me sleeping with his friend, him cheating on girlfriends with me, fighting, sex, alot of great memories, and in the end him hating me!!
Now here's my dilema! I put myself in rehab for three months FOR HIM! I cant deal with him hating me. We havent talked in almost 4months. Ive been working so hard to turn my life around for him. AND today I find out he's going to be doing 6 to 8 years jail time for being a look out for a shooting. I LOVE HIM!! My anxiety litterally is hurting me! Please dont give me advice on how, "I dont know what love is" or "What we had wasnt love" or "how to get over him" I NEED advice on how I can work things out with him if i write him or I need to know hotline numbers to talk to someone about this kind of thing.
When you give me advice just consider that i am an EXTREMELY determined girl who is in love and not even slightly considering giving up!!!
YES our relationship was unhealthy BUT there was real feeling there I felt it! and i know he felt it too, because he was so good at showing it!
I love this Boy and I refuse to give up!!
so please Ive heard enough negativity about this from other people! Im looking to people on this website to help me!! I know it sounds wierd and may make know sense but all the times I messed up WERE things that happened when i was drunk and i know thats no excuse at all! but as hard as it is to believe, at the begining of each of those days my plans were based on him! hoping if I hung out with his friends he would show up and I would see him! But I am a very complicated and strive for emotianal attention, and so when all those guys went for it with me it was extremely hard for me to say no, so I just give in!! I have made alot of mistakes in my life! but losing him is the one I regret most! (link)
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well, the main thing that you can do to work things out with him is talk about what happened again, as in the past it looks like you guys talking have solved alot of problems try not drinking as much when your with friends, even though that may seem hard sometimes and it really seems that you love this guy so dont let him go to jail with out saying anything, try talking to him anyway you can,
and tell him that you went though rehab for him, tell him that he means the world to him and if you really want him promice him you wont do it again or something, and apologise make sure that he knows that what happened was a mistake you were drunk and your sorry and that you only want him, :) if he does go in jail then find out where he is staying and you will be able to vist him and talk to him and i am sure that if he goes to jail he would love to see someone from the outside especialy you, as you guys love each other, you have just had some bad times you know,
everyone has them
hope this helps
good luck :)
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Ok, I'm 17/f and my ex is 17/m.
Let's just start off by saying that this was my first serious relationship. I loved (and still currently love) this guy to death. I lost my virginity to him... and basically thought we were going to be together forever... I know, that's really naive of a 17 year old, but it SEEMED that way. It really did. For the most part, our 7 month relationship was amazing. I mean, it had its little bumps along the way, but every relationship has those. Just before our 7 month anniversary, things started going downhill. My boyfriend became majorly depressed due to family issues and pulled away from me. I tried everything I could, but I just felt him slipping away... In a way, I think I made it worse. The last day of school, he broke up with me (over a text) because "he just stopped loving me." I know, that seems incredibly jerky and you're probably asking yourself "why would she want him back?" Well, see, that wasn't really him. It was the depression. It took over his life and changed him. But, I know that deep down he's still the guy I fell in love with. So, here's the thing... I want him back... So so so so much. We haven't talked or seen each other at all in the 3 weeks we've been broken up. This is quite a stretch when you've communicated with somebody nearly every day for almost 7 months. I feel like I should be a little more secure now... But I'm not. It feels wrong and it feels like it shouldn't have happened. I just miss him so much... Not just being in a relationship with him, just him in general. Everything reminds me of him. It's hard to even walk around my own house because everything I see sparks memories. I lay in bed at night, thinking of writing him letters asking to get back together... I dream about him a lot... I just can't see myself with any other guy. I try, but I can't. I'm heartbroken. I know that I'm obsessing and that I should be trying to move on, but I can't tell myself anything to make it stop. I love him more than anything in the entire world.
So, here are my questions:
Should I try to get him back? If so, how? I'm afraid I'll get my heart broken again...
Or
Should I get over him? I don't know how I'm going to do that... What do you recommend?
I know that I sound crazy, or like something Ke$ha would write about...
But I love him.
Please ease my mind.
Thanks so much xoxox
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well i think that if you really loved each other and had a great relationship then i think you should go back together, maybe start a little small talk, see if he is ok, dont presure him though, see if you can help him and tell him that your there for him if he wishes to talk, maybe tell him you miss him, and wondered if he realy stopped loving you, ect. basicaly talk to him.
try and help him though the depression, and be there for him, ask him if he wants to get back together and see how that goes, but if he does not want to get back together,
this may mean he needs some space but make sure you are ok with that and try and be friends maybe after he has got over this depression,(and you can help him get over it) you may go back to the way you were,
but if he does not want to be with you (like ever :( then you may have to try your best to get over him as hard as that may seem now, there will be others that maybe you will love more,
but dont give up with him just yet :) keep going everyone has there moments :) x
good luck
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so i've started to hang out with this one guy that i went out with a couple years ago . him and i are just friends, and everytime i see him i get alittle tingle.
butttttt, then there is my best friend who i've known for 3 yrs now. and he was my ex's best friend ( but now they're not because my best friend took my side over my ex's) but..everytime i see, think, look at this guy i get butterflies.
last night i hung out with my bestfriend ebfore he left for vacation (with a couple other people) and i had a great time! after i dropped him off, i drove away, and this song ( that whenever i hear it, i think of him) it came on! i couldn't believe it. but the thing is, i can't tell him how i feel, he has a thing with this other girl, who i always help it out with. he doesn't like to talk about emotions or feelings, etc. and i just dno't want to ruin anything ebtween us. i want to hang out with the other guy i mentioned first, but i have the strongest feeling in my gut telling me its only going to work out with my best friend. i've never had this strong of a feeling. its like all throughout my stomach and chest. it's like that whole area is full of something. idk, strange discription. hahah i need help. thanks! (link)
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yeah it may work with this best friend of yours but if you feel for your ex a little then its a little unfair of this other best mate that you think it will work out with, if you like your best mate then go for it, and you will still have you ex as a friend,and if it does not work with your best friend then you could always go back to being friends (as hard as that may be ) and with your ex,
just make sure that they like you (in that way) before doing anything as if you think they both like you then you have a choice and if they like another then you know where u stand.
try asking about other girls and if they instantly talk about another girl then they dont like you :)
hope this helps :)
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How can you tell if a guy likes you?
i know the basic "rules", but what if he doesn't like to show emotion and hates feelings? (link)
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if he is stone cold like and has like no emotion normally then, if when you come by if he lights up when you walk past, if you say hi does he say it back?? if not he may be shy,
when you walk past get a mate thats not walking with you at the time to see if he looks at you from a distance
if when you walk past or stand by him like close to him if he ducks his head down that may show shyness.
and look for when he does look at you if he does a circle with his eyes like his eyes go from your eyes to your mouth back to the eyes:)
and if he has his head straight up when you may talk to him (not tilted all the way)then this would hint that he likes you but people with no emotions are hard to read
good luck :D
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Okay, so I've known this guy for about a year and we became friends with the intentions of hooking up. A year later, we still talk ALL the time and we've hooked up one other time since then with the occasional sext. He moved about four hours away and I moved away to college so we are about 8 hours away so I don't see him often. My problem is I want to know if this is considered a booty call or not because he still chooses to talk to me. I know he talks to other girls and he has had sex with others over the course of the year and he could easily just be talking to them as often as with me...He hasn't been in a real long-term relationship so that's why I would assume it's just a booty call.
But, at the same time, we've talked about things other than sex before and he's randomly confided things he's upset about at the time or what's going on in his life in the course of a year, which is the same with me. We also do flirt a lot. And, last night, he told me was coming to visit home and I agreed to hang out with him and he replied, "Okay, it's a date" which he has never done before.
I just want to know what's going on inside his head because I don't understand the effort he puts into talking to me if I'm just a booty call. We are so far away, and we could easily not see each other again. We only do because of his occasional visit, which is so rare so I don't see the point in talking to me everyday.
On my part, I really care about him as a friend, and maybe more, but I really don't know if I see us in a relationship together. But that could easily change if he liked me. (link)
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well, if he liked you then yes he would stay in contact yeah, but maybe he sorta feels the same way as you, as in do you see your self in a relationship where you could barly see each other and you live so far apart that he could find someone else and if he has had sex with other girls then who knows he may like them,
maybe he wants you there to talk to if he has any problems?
but even if you do like him a little more than a mate you have to keep your options open for other people as well because thats what he is doing, he is a long way away, and it would be better to be with someone thats closer as long distant relationships are hard work.
hope this helps :)
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When i was young, people used to say i had hair of a horses tail because of how wavy and nice it was, and then i stopped taking care of it cause i didnt want my mom to hurt me anymore cause she used to comb my hair really hard so i never let her come near it anymore , and then i stopped taking care of it, and it became really curly. and knoty and ugly and w.e. and like a month ago from now, ive been taking alot of care of it lately. and i can tell that when i wet my hair, its still curly. but when it gets dry it becomes wavy and not frizzy anymore. i used the egg mask. and the mayonaise mask, and they worked like charms. im just wondering, my hair is becoming wavy when its dry now, does that mean my hair is becoming its natural self again? thank you. :) (link)
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i think it does, if it was wavy before then you stopped taking care of it and then now you are taking care of it then your hair should go back to how it was, lovely and wavy, :) x
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I am adopted with my sister to an American couple. At 17 yrs old, I rebelled and left home. So my parents disowned me totally and will not speak or pick up my calls for 7 yrs. I just recently came back home for my mother's funeral. I am not close to my father and want to so badly and do not know how to go about. I feel like a stranger, like I dont belong to my family. I turned cold hearted and its quite hard to even speak to my father. (link)
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ok well this is a tricky subject,
you could try and talk to him like small talk he may be upset as his wife just died, and he may need someone there,
try making small talk as i said just keep in contact ask how he is,ect. show him that you have grown up now and are no longer a kid and are easy going.
if he does not let you back into the family then thats just unfair and upsetting :(
but i hope it all works out for you,
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14/f
I really like this guy and I think he likes me too. I invited him to a party on behalf of my team. He couldnt come (he tried, but got lost and had to have his mom come find him) but he invited me to hang out the next day one on one. I said he should bring some friends and we could go to the beach. He seemed really excited, but the next day he said he couldn't go because he had to work. We haven't talked since then; he's been off work for two hours. What should I do? Forget about him, text him, wait for him? (link)
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i think you should text him.
and if you think he likes you he probably only wants to spend time with YOU i know it seems a little scary when you like someone to just be with them but thats what you have to do maybe he thinks your not that interested in him as you are only interested if he brings some mates as well.
so invite him round or arrange to meet up some place some time. just the two of you.
that will be a good hint that you like him. and then you can get closer.
and he may ask you out as maybe he wants to ask you out face to face and cant as theres mates around. so send a text and meet up with him and see how that goes :)
good luck
and if your sure he likes you ask him out!
theres no shame in that if he's a little shy
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I met this girl in February. Had a great time with her, we went out a couple of times, then school hit her and I didnt get to see her for months.
Last friday we went out and had a great times, but a part of me feels like perhaps I didnt give her enough attention. She was with her friends, so when I wasnt talking with her, I would talk with them.
Anyways, since Friday I have been struggling. I cant get my mind off of her and I dont know how to tell her I miss her. She lives 2 hours away, so I cant tell her face to face. I have no car here, so driving there is out of the question. I would love to surprise her, but I would end up just feeling weird, like a stalker.
I wanted to sned her a text, but I feel weird doing that, however other than facebook, its all I can do... I was going to send "I miss you so much. I dont know whats happened to me, but I cant stop thinking about you..."
She has told me a couple of times, she misses me. But I just cant let this feeling be held up inside, its torturing me... (link)
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well if you really miss her, and shes told you she miss's u, then whats the shame in saying how you feel.
most guys dont want to open up there feelings and say how they feel.
when really if i guy told me he missed me i would think its sweet, and would want to meet with him sooner
as if you miss her and you tell her this it will make her feel special. so just tell her how you feel
because not telling her how you feel is not working out for you is it. as you say its torturing you. so you can not tell her and carry on the same way or tell her make her happy and you happy sa its off your chest :)
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Uh, I want to try smoking weed. Just once, it's just something everybody wants to try, ya know? Maybe I'm alone in that but idk what to expect when I do try it. I know most people don't get high on their first time or they aren't as bad. Please tell me about you're first time? Thanks!
Don't say to not do it because I'm not going to try it once and become a huge pot head, I value things in my life and watching what has been happening to my brother's friends (which is whom I will probably try it with) I just want to do it once. once. once.
Thanks! (link)
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ok well if you want to try it once then well who can stop you but u should know that tring these things only leads to addiction and you sometimes cant help it trust ik.
i know a person and smoking weed is no where near good for you and if you value life like you say you do then its not worth the risk just to TRY it
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Alright, my best guy friend since third grade, writes and plays songs on a guitar. Lately, we have been talking and he sent me a song without him singing. He knows I want to hear him sing and it turns out, he gave a cd of him singing to a girl he likes, he sings to other people, in front of his brother and everything. Yet, he didn't sing in front of me, it's weird. I'm never around him when he has his guitar or whatever but it's strange.. my mom said not to worry about it, he didn't sing in front of me because he's to nervous also meaning he still likes me, i look at it the other way, he doesn't like me and that's why he doesn't sing in front of me.. What do you think? (link)
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i think your mum is right in a way,
maybe your good friends and he will think that if he plays in front of you that you may not like his singing ect, and maybe make fun of him or something. guys are like that,
dont think that he does not like you, he probably does like you he probably just thinks that he is not that good.
he may play to others as they are family and he may be just trying to impress this other girl if she likes music and things,
you should not worry
if its really bothering you then talk to him.
tell him that you think its because he does not like you ect. and see what he says,
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Okay so I just purchased brand new Remy human hair extensions with the keratin/protein fusion nail-tip bonds on the end. I wasn't aware until after I bought them that you need the heating tool to put them in. So since it's such a hassle to buy one online and wait for it to come in, I was wondering if I could use something else instead of that particular tool. I know hair straighteners or curling irons are generally too hot, so what else could be used? Sorry if it's confusing, I don't really know how else to describe my dilemma. Thanks :) (link)
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the best thing to get is some clip in hair extenshions as i have some of them and you just clip them under the hair there much better as you can have short hair and long hair at any moment and once you get used to them you can take them in and out in like 5 mins, mine are real hair 2 mine look real as well.so if your looking for somethings thats qick and easy there the way to go. but other than than you can just wait to get that heating tool you need :)
or u could use straghtners if u put them to a lower temp
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So, my friend is having this party and it's a dress up party and you have to go as your favorite game character. Well, mine is Nikki from Pandemonium, but her outfit is REALLY ugly, so I was wondering if you could give me some ideas?
That'd be a huge help.
Thanks.
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you could go as another one of them out of Pandemonium if you wanted or if you can, :)
but most games can be off films like lego star wars lol so you may be able to go as a person off a film.
or go a mario ect, :)
zelda :)
hope this helps sorry if it does not :) x
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basicly theres this guy who used to like e and i rejected him, now i like him and now hes way outof my leage and we never talk.
how to get him to like me again? (its been a few years) (link)
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f he really liked youthenyou rejecting him would have hurt him.
but now a few years have past he may have moved on, or maybe not. when you like someone even if you do move on there will still be a soft spot for that person (you)
you need to look back and see what attracted him to you,
you need to make small talk, maybe talk a little on facebook or something,or say hi to him when he walks past ect. if he looks happy to see you and talks to you then he is interested, and he may always have that soft spot for you.
but if he does not like you then you must remeber not everyone loves everyone. and there will be others for you.
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OMG ! the guy i like that 3 years older tan mee , finally broke up with his gf . and he mgsed me on fb and hes like inally done with that relationship ! so do you guys think he likes me ?
and if he doesnt , how can i make him notice me in a good way ? (link)
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talk to him on facebook, what he said does seem to me that he likes u, :)
u could flirt with him if your not sure
but you should ask if he wants to meet up one of the days :)
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I tend to bottle up my feelings and keep things to myself, i tend to act like i dont care when i really do, and my peers would always tells me to "stay true to yourself" to me, what does that mean? (link)
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hi, i know what its like to bottle things up inside, its what some people feel is best or the right thing to do, but really its not, its un-healthy to bottle things up you should have at least one person that you can talk too,if you dont have anyone to talk too, you could right a journal this way your feelings are being let out, but you dont need to say anything to anyone if you dont want too.
being true to your self is about when you own the choices you make in your life. When you doubt yourself, others will doubt you. When you believe in yourself, in time, others will believe in you too.
basically be your true self! (be your self)let your self be free and dont worry what people think of you if something bothers you, say so.
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