My name is Linda and I'm 16 years old. I consider myself pretty smart and nice (although a little werid) and I'll be glad to answer any questions about anything.
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Peace!
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E-mail: lindamccargo@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: Virginia
Occupation: IB High School Student
Age: 16
Member Since: February 17, 2008
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my grandma, in her 70s, who recently has not been feeling very well, have been getting itchy lumps appearing on her body, mostly on her arms and legs. they're itchy like chicken pox, but they disappear after a while and some back again sometime later after a meal. could this condition be caused by a food she may be eating? we're a chinese family so we eat lots of rice and chinese food in general. i understand that many there may not be many doctors out here, but anyone who has any suggestions or things like that, please share, because we cant get professional help until tuesday because of the easter holiday. thank you in advance:) (link)
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My dear friend,
It could be eczema or dermatitis, a simple condition that can be solved with a medicated moisturizing lotion. However I'm not a doctor and your grandmother should see a dermatologist to confirm the diagnosis.
-Linda
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my bf and my ex are good friends and when we are hanging out together and hes there he always talks about things that happened when we were together and stuff and he tries to make my bf think that me and him did stuff and its weird..and like my best friend..and my exs gf was there and when she left is when he started talking about all this..whats going on? (link)
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My dear friend,
Your current boyfriend is trying to make your exboyfriend jealous and/or is trying to show off to his friends that he has a girlfriend who puts out (if thats the kind of thing he's talking about). Your exboyfriend's girlfriend left because she was angry and uncomfortable that her boyfriend was getting jealous of his exgirlfriend. No wonder she left! Try to fix this mess by knowing who's a real friend and who's using you to get back at another. If you need more help with this, I'm always here.
-Linda
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Im a soccer player and i sweat alot on and off the the feild. like when im at school i sweat alot. i also sweat lot on my back, my legs, and the inside of my thighs. and its becomeing a problem because i can wear some colors that show sweat stains. and people are starting to think im emo cause i wear alot of black now. Iv tryed sports deorderant and the sweat-protection. and nothing works. any help? (link)
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My dear friend,
My advice is shower in the morning when you wake up, at night before you go to bed, and after every practice and game. If that doesn't work, see a doctor about medicated deodorant because you could have extra sweat glands. The black may also be worsening the problem so wear brighter colors (if of course you want to and you feel comfortable).
I hope that helps.
-Linda
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Recently, my boyfriend and I have been having a lot of trouble in our relationship. Things came to a head and after a painful couple of days of arguments, we talked everything over and made the decision to stay together while making a few changes.
This all happened about a week ago and since then we've been trying to get back to normal and being natural around each other but things still feel weird. I feel slightly awkward around him and being sweet to each other/saying 'I love you' seems a lot more staged than it was before.
I know that this is to be expected after such a big argument but does anyone have any advice as to how we can regain more normality between us and start to feel more comfortable again? (link)
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My dear friend,
I think you're a little afraid of him, and you don't feel you can trust him, or that he's really sorry for the arguments. I think you should talk to him about how you feel (he might feel the same way) and maybe take a break from each other for a while.
-Linda
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15/f
i need some hair ideas. i've had the same hair forever, like the same cut. i have medium, lenght but past my shoulders hair and side bangs. i don't know what to do with it. it seems like all there is, is side bangs you know?
i'd say i have an oval shaped face.
across the forehead bangs didn't really work for me.
even if it's a different style you can suggest?
i normally wear it straight because my hair doesn't hold curls well unfortuneately. i scrunch it sometimes but i'm sick of it. and i've tried going short but i really hated it and i'm trying to grow out my hair. i know i sound picky but i don't know what to do! anything you can suggest would be awesome, thanks =D (link)
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My dear friend,
Why don't you try crimping it, braiding it, or dying it? Also a pixie cut looks great with straight hair. But do what you want to do to change your look and don't let fear of change hold you back.
-Linda
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Hey all!
I'm 5'4, 145 lbs, but mostly muscle and boobs. I really want to lose some weight. I'm running track, so there is my exercise. About how many calories should I take in, and how many laps should I run at track to be burning more calories then what I;m taking in. THANKS! (link)
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My dear friend,
Counting calories, going on a juice diet, or starving yourself are three methods that never work. Try to get the normal 2000 Calories a day but don't obsess over it. Just try to eat healthy, and you'll be healthy.
-Linda
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I want to tone up before the summer months hit. Any good ideas?
I also want to lose some weight because I am overweight. Any good diet plans I can do. But I am in school for almost all day. I'm also working put 30 mins a day but I think I need
more excersies. (link)
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My dear friend,
Subscribe to Seventeen magazine. It's always full of good exercise and dieting ideas. But there are some things I can tell you about my dietary and exercise habits that keep me fit.
1) Eat your high-calorie snacks in the morning. It's harder to burn them off at night.
2) Exercise five days a week for half an hour each time, but know when to give yourself some rest.
3) Exercise when you have the most energy, in the morning or at night, whatever works for you.
4) Love your body no matter what it looks like.
I hope that helps!
-Linda
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I just need some kind of advice or help, and I thank you in advance.
I guess you can say I'm a tad on the stressed side. I have school, and track, and three days a week I have driving school. I have a boyfriend whom I do not see all week because he has work and school and does not get home until 9, so after he gets home I talk to him until like 11 (which is ridiculous for me because I am usually in bed by 9:30.) I have no time to sleep because I have practice Saturday mornings and work Sunday mornings. I never have any time to my self and when I do it's only for like, 10 minutes. And now my boyfriend is having bad personal problems and I want to be there for him. I also need to squeeze in time for friends. I just don't know how to handle everything life is throwing at me. It's like it's throwing my lemons but my juicer won't work so I can't make the lemonade. Please help me, I just don't know what to do. (link)
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My dear friend,
It sounds like you certainly do have a lot to deal with. If you want time with your boyfriend or friends I can only suggest that you drop something for the time being. Ask for some time off from work or take a week off of practice for track. Try to do whatever it takes so you have a little more time to yourself. Also, make the things you have to do fun for yourself. Listen to music while you do homework or ask your boyfriend or friends to study with you. You'll have a social life and keep up your grades.
Peace be with you and know that I am always here if things get too hard to handle.
-Linda
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i want to get my cartilage pierced
1. does it hurt?
2. does anyone have some good earring ideas for it
thanks (link)
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My dear friend,
1) I've heard that it does hurt quite a bit, but only for a second.
2) Diamond studs or little gold hoops look nice in cartilage.
Good luck!
-Linda
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i really want a more emo hair cut i was wondering if any one had any ideas. i have really long brownish gold natural air right now but its kidna fried from straightening it and i want kinda sort.pictures would be nice. thanks :D (link)
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My dear friend,
Try a short cut where it hits just above your shoulders and covers up one half of your face. Dying the ends black, red, or white may add to your look too.
-Linda
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Well a couple of years ago on my old laptop, my brother installed something/some program, and it was a little creature, or whatever(I could change it) walking around on my desktop, and I could drag it anywhere, and so on.
Does anyone know what this thing is, and where I could download it?
I already asked my brother, but he said he didn't remember.
Thankss. (link)
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My dear friend,
Not sure, but it sounds like an office assistant from Microsoft Office. Try to install one of those.
-Linda
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What's the best way to get closer to someone? I've observed some people, and I noticed that they're really close to the people they hang out with, almost like family. Do I have to be more open with them, or more physical, or what? I feel like my friends don't really love me (in a frendship kind of way), they just like me. How do I get people to feel close to me? Thanks (link)
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My dear friend,
First of all, I'm sorry its taken me so long to reply. Internet connection problems.
Anyway, you answered your own question: be more open. It will help people see you as a person instead of just a classmate. However, it's a balancing act. Too much personal information at one time may scare people away. Also, ask people about themselves to show you are interested in expanding the relationship.
Hope that helps!
-Linda
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okay im 4'11" and im 14. im not getting much taller maybe an inch or so. im skinny except for my lrgs, like im not a twig, i have meat to my bones but it looks fine. my thighs arent wide when you look at them straight on (when im in shorts) but sideways they are really big like i play soccer so the back part of them are muscle but the front part is flab. it looks so bad cause i am really self concious and like i cant wear the jeans i want. i only have 2 pairs where they hide it and now with bathing suite season comming im really getting like nervous and i hate it. (link)
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My dear friend,
A little flab here and there is normal. To get rid of fat in this particular area, ride your bike a few times a week and do 20 leg-lifs a day. That should exercise it pretty well.
-Linda
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I have an aunt who is mentally disabled. She constantly needs someone to take care of her because she can't do anything on her own. She used to live with my grandfather, who took complete care of her. Now, my grandfather passed away, and everyone's wondering, who's going to be respinsible for her now? She has five older brothers and three older sisters (including my mom), so our family is very large. Anyway, now my uncles are litterally trying to push the responsibility on my mother. She's doing practically everything for her! But I know that my mother can't handle it because she can hardly take care of me and my two sisters. But for some reason, my uncles think that my mom is the best person out of EIGHT FREAKIN' PEOPLE to take care of my aunt (even though she's third to youngest.) What should we do now? We don't want to just say no because we might cause a big fight within the family. But at the same time,we have no choice. All my other uncles and aunts don't seem to be doing a thing for her. It's not fair. What should we do now? Thanks (link)
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My dear friend,
It is not a good idea for your aunt to move from place to place, so find the place thats best to suit her needs. If she doesn't feel comfortable with some one, or if she doesn't get the care she needs, than she shouldn't live there. If your mother is the woman for the job, it is an honor on her part. Try to help her out as best as you can, and try to get your aunts and uncles to visit your house so your mentally-disabled aunt can maintain relationships with them, and so your mother won't have to take care of her ALL the time. Hope that helps!
-Linda
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Okay, so I am 5'5 and I weight 175 pounds. I've got muscle...so I am not saying that I am fat at all. My prom is coming up on April 26th of this year. I was wondering if I walk every night....a mile...and since my calorie consumption averages about 1000 calories a day...would I be able to trim up about 15 pounds for my prom dress? It fits and everything..I just want to trim up a little bit. (link)
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My dear friend,
That sounds look a good plan, but don't forget variety. Include your arms, abs, and legs in your work-out circuit. That way you can trim up your whole body. But that sounds like a great idea; kudos on trying to lose weight the healthy way!
-Linda
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Ok so i'm 13/F. I am only 5"1 which is pretty short, and I'm not supposed to grow much taller than that, which is a real bummer. Anyways, My thighs are shaped strange. They aren't "chubby" or anything, they're like, "fit" in a "round" way... I'm a size 2/3 in jeans and they are thin, so don't think I have a low self confidence, but they curve outward. Like, the Muscle part curves outward. Is there anyway to make them less 'round'? Or maybe help them grow out? Thanks :).
[sorry if It's a little confusing....It's hard to explain...] (link)
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My dear friend,
I understand what you're describing, and from what you're saying, I think you have beautiful legs. If you want more muscular legs, ride your bike or go for a walk four times a week, but don't obsess over your legs. I'm sure I'm not the only one who thinks they're gorgeous.
-Linda
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15F
All of my friends have either thought about or had sex...and i don't know what choice to make.....cause most of my friends are having sex and i don't wanna b one out of the bunch that doesnt have sex....so please help me before i make a wrong descision.. (link)
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My dear friend,
The wrong decision is to follow the crowd.I take that back -- the wrong decision is doing what you feel isn't right. I hate to bring this up but, if all your friends jumped off a bridge, would you? You'll know when you're ready for sex, but only you. No one can tell you whether or not you're ready. Don't lose your virginity for the sake of being like your friends.
Need moral support being different? I'm your girl. Just message me, I'm here.
-Linda
P.S. Everyone your age thinks about sex. It's normal.
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I have an "8GB" 3rd G ipod nano, but on itunes it says it has 7.4 GB!
why does it have less memory than what the ipod says??
(ive asked a few of my firneds who also have ipods, and they have less memory then what it says!) (link)
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My dear friend,
It's not a big deal. Misprints happen all the time
-- or maybe it means that since you have already put songs on the Ipod, you have 7.4 GB left. Nothing to freak out about.
-Linda
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okay so i always get really itchy like when im trying to go to sleep.
NO i don't have bed bugs.
and like i can't get to sleep because of it. and it really gets me annoyed so like i'll scratch really hard and like i have a bruise on my arm from scratching and all kinds of little cuts on my ankle because of it.
what the hell is the matter with me?
like my skin does not feel "dry"
when i itch it it leaves like bumps/raised lines.
how can i get this to stop.
its driving me so crazy. (link)
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My dear friend,
I suggest seeing a dermatologist. It could be dermatitis or eczema, which can cause itchiness. Til then, don't take hot showers: take warm showers. Hot water dries your skin out. Actually, if you have the choice, take a bath instead of a shower because showers strip your skin of natural oils. Put lotion on every day, but not right after you've been itching. Try right after you bathe or shower. If you put it on right after you itch, your skin will just burn more.
-Linda
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23f
I have a bf. He moved out and went to work quite far away. I see him once a week and talk on the phone everyday.
I have a crush on this older man. He is not really my type but is so understanding. Im sure he knows. It cannot ever happen though because 1. i have a bf and 2. he is in a position of responsibility and cant 3. he isnt actually interested - actually i think its annoying him.
How can I forget this man? It is so hard to stay away from him. He is like a safe haven in a storm. (link)
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My dear friend,
Consider him just as that: a safe haven, a friend. However, keep up that give-and-take relationship by offering him the same: listen to his problems. Having a good friend close by is always beneficial. That's just my opinion but I hope it helps!
-Linda
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