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Whose Responsibility?
I have an aunt who is mentally disabled. She constantly needs someone to take care of her because she can't do anything on her own. She used to live with my grandfather, who took complete care of her. Now, my grandfather passed away, and everyone's wondering, who's going to be respinsible for her now? She has five older brothers and three older sisters (including my mom), so our family is very large. Anyway, now my uncles are litterally trying to push the responsibility on my mother. She's doing practically everything for her! But I know that my mother can't handle it because she can hardly take care of me and my two sisters. But for some reason, my uncles think that my mom is the best person out of EIGHT FREAKIN' PEOPLE to take care of my aunt (even though she's third to youngest.) What should we do now? We don't want to just say no because we might cause a big fight within the family. But at the same time,we have no choice. All my other uncles and aunts don't seem to be doing a thing for her. It's not fair. What should we do now? Thanks
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Well my grandma and grandma's friend's son is mentally disabled. They put him into a home where they are allowed to pick him up on weekends so you should look into this. Best of luck.
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I would say take care of her as much as possible, and get your whole family(meaning any siblings if you have) to help along. The more care from you guys she gets, the better she'll be. Im quite it would much better than sending her to a retirement home for senior citizens.
But when she passes away there maybe a possibility that the family will blame it on your mother. I'm not sure it would happen, but I'm giving a warning based on what I got from your explanation. And even if this doesn't happen, most her things should be willed to your part of the family for doing so much for her. Which, in turn, will allow you to keep all the sentimental belongings while the others have to rely on memories, unless you guys are feeling forgiving for getting the load thrown on you...
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My dear friend,
It is not a good idea for your aunt to move from place to place, so find the place thats best to suit her needs. If she doesn't feel comfortable with some one, or if she doesn't get the care she needs, than she shouldn't live there. If your mother is the woman for the job, it is an honor on her part. Try to help her out as best as you can, and try to get your aunts and uncles to visit your house so your mentally-disabled aunt can maintain relationships with them, and so your mother won't have to take care of her ALL the time. Hope that helps!
-Linda
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