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when i was 14 i went out with a guy who was 17. we lasted 4 months and i didn't really like him anymore so i broke up with him. that was two years ago but just lately i've been thinking of him and there's a lot of things that are reminding me of him. i don't want to get back together with him but i don't want to think about him. he has a girlfriend anyway. how can i get my mind off of him? (link)
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Focus on your friends or school activities etc.
MAybe you are thinking about him again cause you miss the friendship that you had? Maybe you just miss some of qualities about him and you are looking for that in someone else. Eventually you'll get over him. Time heals everything.
K
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Ok i dont know what to do bc i really like this guy and i have only told my really close friends but most of my really close friends are really close friends with him. But i want him to find out some how bc he is always like flirtin with me well he is like always sittin by me and talkin to me and flickin my bra straps and tickling me and stuff so i think that he might like me back. But all of my friends are laughin at me but he is really nice and he is kinda cute and like when im around him he just makes me smile. But i dont know how he will take it if i tell him so i dont know what to say but we always sit together and i have a couple of classes with him so it would be really obvious if i told him. But the biggest problem is that me and my friends are kinda preppy and he is a skater boy so i dont know how my friends will take it if i go out with him. But some of my friends have been like EWWW!!! and some have been like oh he is cute u should go for it and they all think that he would go out with me but i donk know. But we are always txtin each other so i dont know if that makes it obvious too or not so PLEASE PLEASE help me!!!!
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If you really like him ask him out. He is probably afraid of rejection from you. If you think that you are preppy and he's a skater boy than he probably thinks that he isn't good enough for you and you wouldn't want him. And everyone is different about looks and stuff. Some girls like JOhnny Depp, some don't. Get it ? So what, if you are " preppy" and he's skater boy..!! If he's flicking your bra strap and tickling you i think that he really likes you. Boys sometimes don't know how to say things. Maybe you could ask one of his friends if he likes you, then it will probably get back to him. Then maybe he'll ask you out. Hope that this helps.
K
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okay well i have kinda a big problem.
me and my boyfriend broke up like 2 weeks ago.
and my ex from before him is starting to come back and wants to be with me again.
but before in our relationship he was an ass and he did kinda treat me like shit and cheated on me. and alll my friendds hate him because of what he did to me.
but i lost my virginity to him last year, so i never really got over him completely.
and now hes back, and saying hes never got over me and hes always loved me and all this stuff
so my question is should i give him another chance?
or just kinda be with him for a couple weeks and see how he is?
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Did the guy that you just broke up with treat you better than the ex that's coming back around> ?
If so then keep upgrading to another better guy. You don't want to go on that ride again. Cheating, getting treated like shit, NO ! If you can't think of being without him and etc. Give this a try, write a list Pros about him on one side and Cons about him on the other. Which list is longer. if it's cons then say bye bye Mr. Cheater. If not you can maybe try to give him another chance, but just don't say that it's exclusive right away. Give yourself an out if things aren't going the way you want. #2 Write yourself a promise note ( i know that it's sounds stupid, but i have done this too and it helps ) Promise yourself in writing that if things keep going the way they were b4 then you have to lose him for your own good. I know that it is hard to get over an ex, a first love and the one that you lost your virginity to. But if things aren't right then you are only wasting your valuable teenage time. I hope that this has helped.
K
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so my friends have been telling me that this guy that i like will ask me out. and i've known that he's liked me for a while now. and we've gotten to get to knwo each other. so how do i say yes. i've never really said yes to anyone. do i just say...yes? sure? okay? i need help. :] (link)
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Say yes i want to go out with you. And if you already know that he likes you back it'll be a snap. He is probably really nervous about asking you. So if you can just say Yes to him, that will take a lot of pressure off of him.
K
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ok i am kevin burkett i am 13 years old me and my gf have been going out for 1 year and a half.
she has these two friends and they are guys they both like her and recently she told me she liked one of them but she still loved me and it took me a while to get over it cause this is not the first serious thing that has happend. and i am trying to get them to stop talking she want stop i have asked her multible times and she want give them up. she said they are her friends and that that she is not going to stop talking to them.
do you think that it is wrong for me to try to get her to stop talking to them? (link)
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You can't choose someone's friends, first off. Second, one of the most important parts of a relationship is trust. Has she actually done anymore than talk with the other boys? If not then there should be no cause for alarm. Some girls, like myself, find it easier to relate with boys rather than girls. Even if she said that she liked one of the other boys, if she hasn't actually done anything then you have to trust her. On the other hand, if she has done something other than talk with them, maybe it is time to move on. Cause if that's the case it sounds like she doesn't respect your feelings and you'd be better off without her. you are young yet, there will be plenty other girls. And plenty other tougher situations to deal with. Pick your battles in a relationship, otherwise you'll be angry about everything.
K
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Okay this guy and I have a long history. We went out off/on for 8 months and finally broke up for good last February. The end of March I met another guy and we dated all summer. I would always see my ex and he would ask me to go back out with him, call me all the time and ask me how he could make me like him better than my current bf...all that kind of stuff. He found out that my current bf and I broke up in Aug and he started callin me and talking to me on yahoo and myspace. He was saying all the right things and I believed him. He came over to the house one night and we watched a movie. We kissed and he wanted to do more. The most we had ever done was kiss and I said no, because we aren't technically goin out. He knows Ive never done anything with a guy. Well, the whole week when he was talking to me on yahoo he would say that he wanted us to go back out, but he wasn't sure since I didn't "do stuff". Last weekend he came over for a couple of hours and then we went to the movie together. Things were fine when he was here. We watched tv and talked a lot. He kissed me and it really felt like old times. He kept on and on about wanting me to flash him, so I don't know why, but I did it. I wouldn't let him touch me, but then we started kissing again and he asked me to touch him through his pants. I did and we got caught up in the moment and he put my hand down his pants. This was the first time Ive ever done this with a guy. He put his hand in my pants but not underneath my underwear. That's all we did. After a while we went to the movie but he was different there. He wouldn't hardly talk to me and he hasn't called me since. Last night I was going to message him on myspace and he has changed his whole layout. Says he has a girlfriend. I am so hurt. Did I do wrong letting him talk me into what we did? Should I talk to him ever again if he gets in touch with me when he and this chick are done? I dont know what to do. He is my first love and I can't seem to forget him. (link)
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Ok to me this sounds like you are confused about this guy. Do you want him back now that you and this other guy from the summer are over? Or do you think that the guy from the summer treated you better and that this old b/f isn't for you anymore. Even though you may still have feeling for your ex b/f, he may not be right for you and you may be better off to move on without him. And this new MySpace layout thing, are you sure that you aren't mistaken that you are his g/f. Maybe he thinks that you are his g/f now that you did that stuff with him. ? Just a thought. Maybe it's just that this guy really is a jerk and wants nothing more that to get in your pants. It doesn't seem that way though since he's been calling and stuff for such a long time. Idk, you be the judge of that. I hope that this advice has helped.
K
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today at lunch my bf like hit himself in the head with a water bottle, and i, not wanting him to hit himself, took the bottle from him. then a few of our friends were saying hes whipped. and my bf didnt really oppose it. he was just like "hey that used to be you!!" to our friend cause thats what everyone said about his ex gf. i know i am so nice to my bf though he just does a lot of things that could get him hurt (usually a lot worse than a water bottle dont worry im not that ridiculous) and i have stopped him from doing these things as a way to show him i care (i have done this since way before we were going out) i didnt realize i was doing that. is it really that bad? hearing that and making that realization made me really upset. like since then i have been fighting back tears. and i avoided my bf for the rest of the day because im sad and i dont want him to ask why or wonder why im not talking. i had no idea i was doing anything wrong but now i see. help? (link)
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Dear He's whipped,
It doesn't actually sound to me like he is whipped. It sounds to me like he wants attention from you, or someone. Like he is doing things to hurt himself to see if you care enough to stop him. Is everything ok with him at home? Do you two spend enough quality time together ? These are questions that i'd ask myself. I hope that this advice has helped.
K
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well my boyfriend is a very quiet person and so am i well not as quiet as him once a person starts talkin to me i cant shut up. but he dont talk that much so how can i get him to start conversations and keep talkin instead of one sylable answers? (link)
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Dear non-talkative,
You should give this guy some time to open up to you more, get a little more comfortable maybe. When he does start to open up a little more, then ask an open ended question. A question that makes him give a explanitive answer. Hope that this helps.
K
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well i just got a boyfriend to day and i instantly cheated on him but i dont know if its really cheatin cuz the only thing i did was feel on someone else's dick but i don that to this guy all the time....lie on a daily basis! so is it still considered cheating? (link)
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Dear Cheating,
Yes, feeling up on someone else who isn't your b/f is considered cheating. If you do something to another guy that you don't want your b/f doing to another girl than that is usually cheating. Tell your b/f what happened and if he forgives you, try not to do it again, otherwise you are only creating heartache for the both of you. Have you considered the fact that since you cheated on this guy that maybe he isn't the guy for you? Just a thought. hope that this helps.
K
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So me & my boyfriend have been together for like 5 & half months.I'm trying to figure out what to get him as a anniversary gift & I can't think of anything..so far for christmas & his birthday I gave him a necklace when we weren't even together as a gift when we were talking & I got him some shorts & a shirt from AE & flip flops.Now I have nothing else to get him.If anyone has any ideas what to get that would be appreciated.Thanks in advance :] (link)
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For an anniversary gift< when my husband and i had been dating 6 months, i went to a Things Remembered Store and got matching key chain puzzle pieces. Engraved on them was Love, Your name,and the other Love, His name. and we put the date on them of our 6 month anniversary ! We still carry them around 7 years later.
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Okay well me and my boyfriend have been going out for a month and everything is going really good.
but well we have been trying to kiss for the last week and well im ready for it and i told him i could kiss him but he said he wants to be the man...but evertime we are about to do it he backs off and we sit around joking about how we cant do it..
does it mean anything bad or....
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Dear does it mean anything,
No, it doesn't mean anything. A kiss is a very intimate thing and you want to get it right ! your b/f is probably scared that he won't get it right. So don't worry. My first b/f kissed me out of now where as i was getting on the bus and ran away ! now what the heck was that about ?
Anyway, a kiss is very special, so it means nothing bad, it'll happen. Good things come to those who wait.
K
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i have a boyfriend that im in love with! we've been together for a year and a half and in general he makes me happy but we do argue alot, thats just what we do and it doesnt bother me. but... theres this guy i just met, i cant believe it but he takes my breathe away everytime i see him. hes incredible, and i love everything about him(atleast from what i know about him). i really like him and i cant get him out of my head!!!!!! he makes me smile, and has the most sexiest dimples EVER!!!! i love my boyfriend but the fact that im thinking about even considereing being with another guy breaks my heart. and i dont know what to do!!!!!!!!!!! i try everything to get him out of my head! i'll sit there and think about how much i wanna spend the rest of my life with my boyfriend and ill convince myself that this other guy is just a silly infatuation and i forget about him. that is until i see him again and i totally forget i even have a boyfriend. im having a mental breakdown. please help!
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Dear another guy in my life,
Here are my thoughts, I was once in a situation like you are now. I chose to stay with the 2 year relationship i had going and not to go for the other guy. Even though my current b/f and i argued a lot and everything, i didn't like his friends etc. I stayed and i regret this desicion today, 10 years later. When you are in High School you try so hard to have grown up relationships and commitments and you are supposed to be experiencing a variety of things so that eventually you'll know what you want and who you are. Now this b/f of mine, we ended up dating for a little while longer and called it quits. I never got to date the other guy, then HS was over and i was in the real world floating around for a while.
This may not apply to you, you and your b/f may really love one another and maybe are meant for each other. Who knows? ! But you have been together for a while and you are still arguing a lot it sounds like. Arguing is a part of a relationship, but not everyday, not once a week.
You can choose to do what you will with this advice, so i hope that this helps.
K
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Okay so my boyfriend and i have been pretty serious for about 8 months.. and we say i love you to each other and stuff like everyday... but im IN love with him... and when i ask if he is with me he says he loves me but he doesn't know if hes in love with me...
but to me there are two kinds of love.
loving someone like a good friend or family or something like that.
or being IN love with a girlfriend/boyfriend that you've been with for a while or known for a while.
and i don't know why he isn't... but lately when I've talked to him I wont say i love you back to him.. and i think he's getting the point.. because he knows that i love him... but he also knows that it hurts me.. but if you answer this don't say anything about me not saying it back.. i just want to know what you think because I'm really IN love with him. and he acts like he is with me.. but he wont say it...
as many answers as i could get would be great. (link)
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Dear Love...in love,
I agree that there are 2 different kinds of love. Ok so my thoughts are this...maybe he is in love you and knows how sacred the words, " I love you. " are and isn't sure that he wants to say them to you. He may care for you a lot, but maybe he isn't in love you like you are with him. I am not writing this to hurt your feelings, i am terriably sorry if i did.
Hope this helps
K
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i'll try not to make this too long. so there's this guy named joe, and he just got out of a relationship with this girl, they were together for about 5 or 6 months. (we r 15 by the way). anyway, he and this girl gave each other oral sex. recently, me and joe have been talking and flirting, and we like each other. i think his friends know that. well recently he became kind of popular. i'm in between popular and like...normal. anyway so he was grinding with me at this dance a few nights ago. online we have been having really intense talks about like, how far i would go with a guy and i said i wouldn't go past feeling up for a while. he said that that might eventually push us apart because he has such a high sex drive (this was like a week ago). anyway, he came to my house this weekend and we made out a lot and stuff. and it really seemed like he liked me, he would randomly come up and hug me really tight and just sort of nuzzle into my neck. well since then we haven't really been talking too much. online i will try to start conversation and he will just answer and say nothing else...and at school he has been flirting with other girls (but he's a really big flirt and we aren't official yet or anything). also, 2 nights ago he told my friend that he was going to ask me to our homecoming dance...but he hardly talks to me. should i ask him if he is still interested? i fell for him really, really hard and i'm so scared that if i ask if he's not interested, he will admit that that's true, and i'll lose him. what should i do? (link)
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Dear it happened too fast,
First of all you are saying that things happened too fast. 2nd if he REALLY liked you don't you think that he'd; A: Respect your desicion to wait to do anything past feeling each other up, B: He wouldn't flirt with other girls, and C: It sounds like you guys talk about nothing but sex and the like. I know that being 15 you want to fit in and have boys like you and stuff. But doing things like having oral sex and intercourse with someone that you really don't love and respect will... well let's say that i did all those things too quickly when i wasn't ready to. This guy pushed me into it, and in order for him to like me i had sex with him. I now regret that desicion even though it happened 10 years ago and i am married with a family. You have to listen to yourself, be yourself. If you he asks to the homecoming dance, great, but you may want to think about getting to know someone before you jump head first in. I remember what being a teen was all about and i hope that this advice will help you.
K
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I'm a tomboy and all the girls at my school wear the same types of clothes from the same types of stores. All the guys that I like went out with all of those girls. They liked me but wouldn't go out with me so I don't know if it's because of me being a tomboy or what. I mean I'm not a complete tomboy,I wear some of that stuff every now and then but not all the time,so I don't know if I should just be like those girls or what. Well,also I wasn't popular and they were,so maybe that's what it was. I know you're not supposed to change who you are but I don't know what to do. (link)
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Dear what do i do,
From personal experiences i have found that it is best to be yourself. If you find out who you are, trust me you are ahead of the game of life. I tried to be like all the other girls in my school and it worked i was exactly like them. However i wasn't very happy with myself being like them. We are all different for a reason, if everyone were the same then you'd already know your best friends to come and your husband to be. Variety is the spice of life. You are very special in your own way, i'm sure. You can dress a little like some of the other girls, but put your own spin on it. !! Remember, you can wear whatever clothes make you comfortable. Cause after all you make the clothes, the clothes don't make you !
K
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