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So I met this boy he is really cute. And he likes me but his friend is cute to. And he has this friend that is a girl but she is mad if he speaks to me. Both the boys are cute. Pleas help? One is Franco and the other is Francois. + both likes me !! (link)
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If they both like you then talk to them, who cares what their girl friend thinks. If she was really their friend, she would want their happiness so do not put any mind to her because she probably likes one or maybe both of the guys or is jealous that maybe if the guys like some other girl, their friendship would diminish.
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If you are friends with someone who takes the time to call you on the phone, check on you everday, and is just so interested in your life and the way it's going; is it a strong friendship or is it a loveship. Now, I've been friends with this person for a long time. He's so sweet. I tell him I love him and he always tells me he loves me. About a year ago we went through a very rough situation and I honestly didn't think we would be friends anymore. We would always walk by each other without speaking and we made a vow to never go back to that place. So, as of right now we talk every other day when I'm not busy with school etc, and honestly our relationship has grown a lot stronger. He opens up to me in ways that he doesn't even do to other people around him, and it is the exact same way with me. I can share anything with him because he takes the time to listen and understand where I'm coming from. We've never dated and we're currently just best friends. But, it seems as if it could be turning into something else. (link)
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Why don't you ask him? I think that maybe your friendship is turning into something else, but it can also be a strong friendship. Your friendship is definitely what you would call real and I can see that you are the best of friends. I think that you should ask him because that it is the only way for you to be focused on that and have doubts instead of assuming things. I still think your friendship is such a sweet relationship.
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so i like this guy alot. but his best friend likes me and ive told him that i dont like him i like someone else. and today was really cold and i asked the guy i like if i could wear his jacket and he said "well i would give it to you but jason would get pissed at me." he said sorry then walked away with his jacket :( i think he might like me a little and i want him know that i like him..but i think hes scared of hurting his best friends feelings..what do i do?! (link)
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You have to explain to your crush's friend why you do not like him and you would like to be his friend. Your happiness is in jeopardy and your crush may never know that you like him. Also, I think you should be friends with your crush, but never lead him on. Remember you do not want them to break their beautiful friendship because of you. Be friendly, but do not be flirtatious. Who knows? You may like your crush's friend if you were to hang out with him. Just try to be patient and be both of their friends.
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I'm wanting buy my boyfriend some presents for Christmas this year. But he's so hard to shop for! I was thinking I could buy some but maybe make a few too? I need some ideas though! Anything will be appreciated. Thanks! (link)
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Well, it depends what does he like? You can buy him a t-shirt or you can make something with your picture on it or make something with a picture of both of you to show him that he means a lot to you.
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heres the long story semi short. I used to work with this guy that I spoke to but we were never exactly close, and I had transfered to a different store and never got to say bye to him, he was asking around on what happened to me and everyone told him I had school, anyways, he had came to my store to drop something off and was surprised to see me. we exchanged numbers and spoke, we hung out, kissed, bought me food and visited me on my breaks on his night off and what not.. he gave me mixed signals and the whole bit.. we then had a blow out and stopped talking last January. I had moved across country 2 weeks later, and was gone until August. In March is when we had our birthday's and I didn't want to tell him happy birthday on his exact day so I waited a week later and texted him "hey", I got no response and the next week was my birthday and he texted me on the exact day and said "u back?" and I went "huh?" and got no response back.. I came home, and a week of being home I was having a car issue and I needed a quick answer so he was the first one I thought of..so I texted him.. with no absolute intentions of being friends again. but he is a car freak so it kind of worked. haha..anyways, he started talking to me again, and I told him that I had no intentions on being friends again. He found it a tad painful..and we kinda talked about the whole situation.. things started falling back to how they used to be..and he was all flirty with me.. calling me and texting me when I didn't. Everyone around me knew I was confused on what I wanted..and wasn't sure if I wanted to be friends with him or not, and he was going through some major stuff.. and I tried to stick by him while dealing with my stuff and adjusting to being home after being on my own for 7 months.. and well I purposely pushed him away last week...and we blew up into a whole big fight again..and he tried to hurt me by calling me a slut and a dumb bitch and another 4 letter word that I won't repeat (but you can guess what word it was). and in the process I just laughed during the whole fight through text message because he was finding a way to hurt me when he knew I wasn't any of these words that he was calling me..
5 days later (yesterday).. he texts me "hi" and I go "can i help you?" and hes all "oh sorry" and im like "?" and hes all "its tj", and im all 'why are u talking to me?" and i got no response.. and hour later i asked him again.. and he said it wasn't him that said it, and i asked him why is my number still in his phone (though clearly my number was in his phone while i was gone and we didnt speak for 7 months), and he never responded and finally he said that i was an asshole and that he never wanted me and that he had a girl and i just didn't get it.. and i snapped back that he had kissed me after he told me "friends dont kiss", and he told me to eff off.. and again I never got the reason of why does he still have my number..and well decided not to respond back to him..
On monday I had decided to change my number to get away from him and my ex.. (and ironically this dude texts me the next morning when it wasn't him?) anyways, my new number goes into affect the 27th because I had submitted applications for new jobs so I can't change my number just yet..my friend and I were discussing how it would be a good idea 2 days before my number changes to text him and tell him my last piece on how I really thought of him as a brother more than anything, I'm going to take 2 weeks to really think about what to say before I say it.. but do you think I should go with it and speak my last piece and then have my number change, then we have no accidental calls or texts anymore and we have no form of contact unless one of us has to go to the other store for something? and what do you think I should say? by the way he's 32 and i'm 21.. (link)
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This is a deep story which I can relate to very little. Sometimes for us girls it is hard to understand guys and vice versa because possibly it is part of life. Things happen for a reason and the worst thing is that communication fails in a friendship or relationship. Let me quickly summarize my experience with a guy and then you can make a decision an then I can help you. Last year, I was attending a college class and there was a guy whom I did not know and until he talked to me we became friends. I had no intention of talking to him before because he seemed like a jerk and a showoff. Again, you can't judge a book by its cover. We became friends and shared some things that were not very personal, but I began to have feeling for him because he was so different from all the other guys I have ever known. On the last day of class, I gave him something and left and then he catches up to me and asked me why I gave him a keychain? I responded because I wanted him to have it. Then later that day, I was walking towards the exit until I saw him and he handed me a a yellow rose and I knew that although he said that he gave me a rose as a friend, the rose meant something else. We talked one day and it got very awkward because I told him that I liked someone because I thought I did. I think I said that because I felt like I did like someone else and I also wanted to know if he would actually say something about that. After that day, I went to Mexico for vacation and everything became awkward. Our conversation would be pure arguments or just very short. I felt like our conversation was useless and I felt like my heart broken because I still liked him. Even when I liked other guys I couldn't stop thinking about him. I decided to stop talking to him because not only would our conversation be awkward, but I feel like something so sweet and beautiful should be kept as a memory and we should move on. I apologized to him for being the way I was to him. I told him everything I felt for him and deleted him from my contacts. For you, I think you should speak your last pieceand then have your number changed so that you start a new beginning and move on. Being tied to the past would just make you suffer and people do not deserve to suffer. I think you should tell him what you feel and explain to him the good moments and the bad moments that you have had with him. Explain your concerns and your disappointments about him. Tell him what you thought of him and what you thought your future with him was going to be like. Everything that you ever wanted to know or have kept inside of you just say it because it feels good at the end. Just love yourself and for now, just take a while to analyze the situation and understand it. I wish you the best of luck!
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ugh its been about 4 years now that i've liked a guy. i haven't gotten over him not even once. i've tried but it doesn't work. everyone tells me to get over him, but i just can't i don't wanna get over him. i've never talked to him, and i don't think i will ever have the courage or strength to... he is a huge star player on his football team. and he is well known all over my school. i can't just tell him how i feel, but i want to. he's know for 4 years that i've liked him. oh btw i'm a sophomore in high school and he's a junior. anyways if i talk to him i know he would tell his friends. i put myself down because of him, and tell myself i'm not good enough for him. he's kinda a bad kid, well that's what i've heard. he smokes and all that crap, but he's not obsessed with it. and i'm all innocent, i've never done any of those things. i just wish i could be with someone like him. i've wanted him for so long, and i don't wanna go on for the rest of high school waiting for him to talk to me. cause i know that's never going to happen. he's so much popular than me and he looks at me a lot.. i figured that means something, right? and i am not a stalker, k? a lot of people think i am because i talk about him all the time, but that's not a stalker. i am just head over heels for this kid. so please just give any advice that you can to help me get through this, thanks. (link)
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You are not a stalker, but you are a little obssesed with him. I definitely know how it feels to be obsessed with a guy, but most of time, being obsessed with a guy is bad because it has bad consequences. Just put yourself in his shoes, imagine you were him and he was you. How would you feel if a guy secretly liked you and talks about you and all he thinks about is you an you do not even like him? We can't always have what we want. The crush that I use to have before was an enormous crush that I used to think about and I was his friend too and I thought I could never forget him. Until I realized that all I wanted was for him to be happy. That is the best love that one can give. You should not put yourself down because you are just as capable as being important as him. First, you should never put yourself down or a guy instead have some confidence in yourself because guys really look at that. I mean, not a super cocky high-self esteem, but definitely appreciate yourself. Who cares if he does not like you if he not the only guy in this world? There are probably a few other guys who interested in you that you do not know about. It does not hurt to talk to your crush and maybe be acquaintances because what you feel may be lust or infatuation and maybe you will open your eyes and see that he may or may not be the guy for you. I think you want him to look to at you a lot or he wants to make sure that the feeling that you have for him is true. Again, you have to talk to him because it would take such a long time for him to talk to him and just get to know him to see if your feelings are right. Remember to act normal; be yourself and that he is not the only guy in the world because there are other nice guys who would love you the way you are.
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Me and my ex boyfriend, Johnny, had the type of relationship that was really good when it was good but when it was bad it was really bad. I broke up with him one night after finding out that he stayed night after night at his ex girlfriend's house after telling me he doesn't talk to her. (She is crazy obsessed with him) After a month or so Johnny and I ended up becoming friends. We got really close, he would call me every night just to tell me he loves me and he would tell me all about his day. He transferred over to my school (small school, about 50 students, impossible to avoid anyone) the minute he saw me talking to my friend(male) he came up and mugged my friend until he left. I told Johnny that his actions were unnecessary and he said he didn't realize he was doing it. Later that night I was at church and Johnny called me, I ignored it because it would've been disrespectful to answer. I called him about an hour later when I got out and he accused me of being with other guys. We got into a big argument and during the argument I asked him why we did he even care since we're just friends. He said he's trying to mend our relationship. After that we were arguing on and off for the next 30 minutes or so. He said he doesn't want me talking, hugging, hanging out, or even looking at other guys. We got off the phone and he hasn't showed up at school since then (Wednesday) he got his phone disconnected so I haven't been able to talk to him. I found out that he's been at his ex girlfriends house since that night. i would ask my friends for advice but they don't like him at all so they would obviously say only negative things. All my guy friends said they're going to purposely talk to me in front of him just to make him mad. Should I wait it out and go with the flow or should I confront my ex about his "ex"? any opinions and extra advice will be very helpful because I am completely lost. Thanks in advance (link)
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Wow this is a long touchy story. I think that you should not confront him, but talk to him because communication is an important aspect of solving any type of issues. Why should he care what you do with your life if you two are not going out? He obviously does not want to see you happy because if he did he would only be a good friend and understand. Do not let your friend be involved in your situation because it would matters worse. Again, I think you should to talk to the guy about your feelings because the guy is being very stubborn. He has to understand and grow up because rejection is something that all of us go through to learn lessons in life and see our mistakes. The guy depends on the past and does not see the future which is very important. I want you to analyze the situation and see what he and you have done wrong. Point to him the wrong and right things that he has done because as a person we talk when we want to solve an issue, but we have to listen to the other side of the story which is the other person. I guess sometimes we tend to judge people without understanding the real reason behind the whole issue. I have a quote here which is "the reality of the other person is not in what he reveals to you, but in what he cannot reveal to you. Therefore, if you would understand him, listen not to what he says but rather what he does not say." The quote is self-explanatory and I want to wish you the best of luck.
Kahlil Gibran
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Hi I'm Charlotte and I'm 14. I like this boy and we talk in class but yesterday my friend told me he does weed along with lots of other boys in my year. I totally believe my friend cos hes never lied to me but i still cant believe it. Should I carry on flirting with this guy and not do anything about it and ignore it or give up and stop liking him? I dont know what to do? (link)
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Dear Charlotte,
That is a tough decision because you are either going to trust your friend or with your instincts. I think you should still like him if he is nice to you and is a cool person to tallk to. If you like him and he is a total jerk then you should not like him because you want to like someone that can appreciate you and love you for who are. Your friend told you that he does weed, but can you actually trust him? I think you shoul see your crush doing weed with your own eyes. You should see it for yourself. I am not saying never trust your friend, but in this situation, how do you know your friend is jealous of your crush or if he has a small crush on you? If your friend does like you then he would make up things so that you would not like the other guy. Again, you should see the guy doing weed for yourself. If your crush ever offers you weed, then say no thank you. Your situation reminds me of when I used to like a guy when I was 15 and he was cute, but he was not the best guy in the world. I had a guy friend who told me that my crush smoked, got drunk often and just told me negative things about him. Before, I really liked him and I talked and flirted with him, and I thought he was so cool and smelled unbelievably good. Until I saw him in one of my classes sleeping, being lazy and the day that he aske me out I said no, and then later on, he told some friends that he can get any girl he wants. What he said actually hurted, but I was nit going to die for him. I moved on. I only want you to open up your eyes and your mind and listen to your heart and do not listen to others because only you can come up with a decision. If you have any questions, please feel free to e-mail me and I wish you the best of luck.
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hay, my name is sally and theirs this boy hes really cute he stares and looks at me all the time i don't no if he likes me or not i want him but i don't no if he wants me so my question is how do i get him and make him like me back and also notice me i could really need your adive!. ;)
sinserly,
sally
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Dear Sally,
That is a beautiful story that you wrote because it reminds me of when a guy had a crush on me and did the exact thing to me. The guy stared at me and he was cute and he was actually the one who talked to me and I felt the same way as you did like I did not know if he liked me or not. As for you, I think he does have a crush you or may be is attracted to you which are two separate things. Attracted as in he finds you pretty and crush is that he likes you although he doesn't know you well; whatever he knows about you he likes. I do not recommend you to ask him if he likes you or not because things are going to get awkward and you would not like the result of that. There is no way to get him to like you because he probably does, but you should take the chance to introduce yourself and talk to him because that would make you two become friends which was what I did with the guy that kept staring at me. It is possible that the boy is shy and is intimidated by you like if he talks to you and says something stupid then you might not like him. Trust me he already notices you, but he wants you to notice him so try to talk to him and please update me on what happened with the guy. I wish you the best of luck and I hope that the guy is a good guy with a big heart because all of us deserve to be loved.
Sincerely,
Junie Bazinet
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well i like this guy and we talk sometimes but i don't know if he likes me what should i do (link)
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I think that if you like a guy and you two talk to each other then that is a good sign because maybe you can become friends with him. I know exactly how you feel about liking a guy and then you talk to him and you feel like you have butterflies in your stomach and you blush. It feels good to like someone and just the feeling of having a crush feels awesome. I do not recommend for you to ask him if he likes you because things can get sort of awkward, but I do insist that you get to know him and be friends. Possibly your friendship may blossom and something might happen. Be patient and see if you actually like the guy because sometimes girls fall for a guy who they think are "out of this world" and unfortunately are not. Be careful and I hope he likes you and good luck!
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I am a 15 year old girl, and I really want cat. I have been wanting one for years, and I know I can take care of it. This isn't just a want, or a phase. We recently adopted a rabbit, but he either ran away or was taken by a raccoon (through no fault of my own), I realized it would actually be possible to get a cat.
I have a ferret currently, and I think she is lonely, since our other one died about a year ago of cancer. I have read and it seems like ferrets and cats get along really well. I also just want to experience feline companionship. Everybody in my family except for my little sister and I have lived with a cat or cats, and they all say they are amazing animals, and it's a delight to live with them.
My father has cat allergies, however I have read in many places and apparently there has also been a test done, proving that Abyssinian and Siberian cats are hypoallergenic (meaning, they produce fewer allergens). Some people are giving their Siberian cat away, and their personality also seems so nice.
My father's allergies are not severe, and nobody has asthma, and my father was allergic to our bunny, but managed. Also, my mom wanted to foster two rabbits, and my dad said no, not because of allergies, because "they poop all over the place," which is very true, and he stated that he would actually prefer to have a kitten or cat instead of a bunny.
Since I am home schooled, I will be home all day, and I have a large family, so the cat will never be truly alone. I have read about cat care and everything. My mom's reasons for not wanting a cat are as follows:
-We have already had a pet (ferret), so I don't need any more long term pets
-It's a lot of responsibility
-Where will I find the time to care for it when I'm in university (a fair point, but I will not be moving out-tips for this are welcome)
-Dad's allergies (a problem I have solved)
-It may also be money (She hasn't mentioned it, though), but I have a $20 allowance, which will cover the food. My grandmother, who lives with us, would be willing to contribute, too, and the cat I'm looking at is already spayed, and I have read Siberians rarely get diseases domestic and other breeds get (but I can get a job to pay for emergencies).
The first two reasons are the main ones, I believe.
My older sister and brothers also object, however my brother isn't an animal person, period. Though he will probably give it some attention, as he really did like our rabbit.
My sister wanted a kitten/cat so much, just a year ago, and I don't understand why she doesn't want one now. She still likes felines. She's almost 20, so it may have something to do with her possibly moving out in some years.
I am totally willing ad ready for this 15 -20 year commitment (the cat I want is 4 yrs so will probably be with us more like 15 yrs). I know it's a longterm commitment. If possible, I need to convince her before the people give their cat away, otherwise I will have to wait for a siberian/abyssinian to pop up again.
Thanks =) (link)
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I know how you feel because when I was younger I wanted a dog and instead I got two fishes and two parakeets. Although they are small pets that cannot be taken outside to walk and to play sports with, they are a part of nature and they are beautiful pets. I know you want a cat, but I think that you have to wait until you live by yourself so that you can take care if your cat. I want a dog to but it is a very big responsibility since my dad said he would not take care of it and my mom agreed as well. I would agree that having a pet is a big responsibility so I will try to raise money to get a dog. Don't worry about the cat that you wanted to buy because there will be other cats out there waiting to be taken care of and loved.
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ok im a 9th grader and i have gone out with thi guy off and on scienc 7th and we been through alot we wouldnt fight but everytime we would break up he would go out with people i dont like or people i thought were friends and all of them were useing him for something. with every realship i ethier faught them or was about to. and he AWLWAYS cheated on them with me saying he loved me i said to break up with them then he said he couldnt lose his bet.so we went on and ect. but now were in high school he got a girl from a diff school and last week he got caught steeling from lunch and got 3 days supended then got in a fight with his step dad bcuz of it and got moved to his dads and now i cant see or talk to him I DAY DREAM and write his name without n=knowing i love him so much i would do anything for him but now he is gone what should i do. my bff is like his bff and he tells her he misses me and i cry when i hear things bout him. im so confused what to do im just so in love with himm:( (link)
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I think that he does like you. But I do not understand why he can't be with you? By cheating on other girls and being acting tough will not get anywhere. I know that you like him if you keep thinking of him. The best thing to do is to talk to him because communication is the best solution to solve problems. Do not send your bff to talk to him, but YOU have to talk to him about what you feel for him and vice versa so you can fix your problems. There is no such things as perfect relationahi
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I am from India and in 9th grade and there's a guy in my class and i kinda like him. I want to know what he feals about me without giving him a hint that i like him.I want to built a relationship with him and want him to be crazy about me as i am about him and to do so i don't wanna flirt or do something wrong that will spoil my image in school.My image in school and in front of teachers is good and i don't wanna spoil it. It's India and rules are quite strict......
Please help if you can. (link)
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I really understand where you are coming from because when I was younger I have gone through the same situation. First, you can't force someone to like you because that would be going against someone's free will. Imagine if you were him and your crush was you, you would feel like you were in dark room without any light. You have to give him time and be patient so I recommend you to be his friend and jut be yourself. You may ask questions or answer questions in class and maybe he would notice him. The more friendly and nice you are to the guy, he would notice those little things about you. Make sure the guy is not a jerk and that he a sweet guy with a big heart. Do not be obsessed with him because the consequences are not good. Good luck!
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my boyfriend and i have had a terrible relationship. alot of jealously problems and non faithfullness. we still love eachother, the problem is sometimes i feel like im falling for someone else. the idea of something brand new seems so nice to me. but my boyfriends my best friend too, were somewhat attatched to eachother. when we seriously broke up at the beginning of summer, i met someone else. hes 21 but absoultely wrong for me. he does alot of drugs, doesnt have a job, and alot of other things. we hooked up alot but i could never be with him because i loved my ex. i feel like im just so more sexually attracted to the 21 year old. WHY DO I FEEL LIKE THIS. i dont want to like him but sometimes i miss his smile. my head says stay the hell away from this kid and my heart melts for him honestly. this sounds really lame but i was so depressed i went to a phychic. she told me between my boyfriend there is no more passion between us. i guess i sort of answered my own question. i just dont know what to do? i feel like sometimes i play a doubled role life where i keep calling him my boyfriend but my boy/ex whatever we are i'll hang out with him the next week hang out with the 21yr old. im only 18 should i have to decide right now? or do i keep things going the way they are... ive never been so stressed over this. (link)
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I think that you two love each other because you two get jealous of each other and that is normal to a certain extent. Probably unfaithful because maybe there is something that is missing that you seek in other people. It is good to like something new, but sometimes something new has consequences whether bad or good. If you were falling for another guy you have to analyze why you like that guy? Why are you attracted to him? Sexually? Physically? If you are not attracted to him in the three aspects e.g sexually, physically or emotionally then what you are feeling is lust or some crush that is going to go away. You are probably sexually attracted to the 21-year-old guy because he's older maybe more experienced, but does he actually value and cherish you as a person? If he doesn't then he is not a guy you want because you want a guy who loves you the way you are. I do not think you should listen to the psychic but listen to you heart. What do you want to do? Analyze your goals and the consequences. I think the best thing to do is to tell your ex and the 21 year old how you feel and that is the only way to make you feel less stressed and if the two guys are not worth it there will be other guys out there who would possibly make you happy. Maybe you have a guy friend or a guy that might be a stranger that might have a feeling for you.
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I'm 18, a freshman in college, and I know this is sort of dumb, but I needed some objective advice. About a month ago, I was chosen to be a part of my institute swim team. We went across country to represent the institute. This was the first time I've travelled without some sort of adult chaperoning. As a 'freshie', I didn't talk much to the other members, just to my immediate senior. And, more importantly, to the captain of the boys team, who was, more or less, an authority figure. He was nice to me, mostly because I'm a 'kid' who's never 'travelled alone'. And throughout the trip, I kept noticing all these things, like how funny he was and... well, you get the general idea. We were a small team, only about 16 people and thrown together a lot. So I learnt a lot about him, too. I'm sure he's a good person, but I'm also sure that if he ever finds out that I(quiet and boring) have a crush on him, he'd laugh. He's a senior, 21, sporty and cool. My friends got me to add him on facebook-not a big deal for most people, but a huge deal for me, cause I only add people I know well. They(my friends) say I should chat with him on there or something. I, on the other hand, just want to spy on him in basketball practice, but I'm too afraid he'll see me lurking and think there's something wrong with me. Is there something wrong with me? What should I do, talk to him or not? (link)
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It is very normal to feel like you have a crush on a guy who is older than you. I know I had a crush on a guy who was wa older than me and we were good friends at first because that is how a relationship starts. You shouldn't put yourself down and call yourself quiet and boring because I am sure you are not and if you view yourself as such a person then the guy you have a crush on would feel the same way. Try to feel confident about yourself and take the chance to talk to him because you do not know what could happen in the future. I do not think that you should talk to him on Facebook because the conversation would be awkward and you should talk to him face-to-face and just be friends with him. Find out what he likes and does not like and you will be surprised by what ou guys have in common. Just don't stalk him. Good luck!
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I am with a wonderful man whom I love very much. We are in a long-distance relationship but he is endlessly sweet, thoughtful, and loving to me. We talk every day on Skype. In most ways I feel I could not ask for a better man. But. He has been hurt by many women in the past, and he's told me many times about how for 20 years he put a wall around his heart and did not love anyone, nor allow anyone to love him, for fear of getting hurt again. He tells me that he was miserable before I came along. He also says that if I were ever to leave him, he would put the wall back up around his heart, would be miserable again, and would not even try to love anyone else for the rest of his life. (He is 50, so this is conceivable, and knowing him, I believe it might actually be true.) Although we are close and can talk about most anything, I would not marry him yet, because we just don't know each other well enough. I love him because he is a good soul and there is no one with a kinder heart, and don't plan to break up with him, but I still don't like feeling pressured to stay with this man forever or else always carry the guilt of breaking his heart and ruining his life. Is this normal, or am I being a jerk, or what? (link)
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This is a very romantic relationship, but you are facing a tough problem. I think that you should talk to him about what you feel about the relationship and about him. He should understand and should listen to what you have to say and if he does not then he does not care. Why should you carry the guilt of breaking his heart and ruining his heart? He is only a person and if he is making you feel pressured then you should really analyze the situation and think carefully before you make a decision. It is obvious that you care for him, but you should care for yourself and then care for him. You are not being a jerk because you are helping him and if he does not appreciate your support and still threatens to "put the wall back up around his heart, would be miserable again, and would not even try to love anyone else for the rest of his life" then he needs to analyze the situation and know what he wants in life. If he gets depressed about the past then you can't expect anything about the future. He has to live life to the fullest because mourning about past loves is pathetic. I think that he fears love and you are the only one that he can count on and does not want the feeling of rejection. That is part of life though rejection because it helps us grow as a person.
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I shower daily and use soap down there. When I go the bathroom and I have bowel movements, I wipe very well and make sure everything is clean.
After I shower, even if I dont use the bathroom, an hour later my 'crack' will smell like feces, and so does my thong in that area. Its not like everyone can smell it around me, but Im sexually active and Im selfconscious about it. Anytime before my boyfriend and I get intimate I feel like I have to wash with soap and water back there.
Is this normal? What do I do?
Thanks! (link)
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I am not a doctor so I think that you should go see a doctor because you could have a problem. Maybe your doctor could prescribe you something that could be beneficial for you and not you prescribing something for yourself and harming your body.
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a couple of days ago, a friend of a friend sent me a message on facebook. I expected another inaporiate 'whats up ma?" or "hey you look good". Instead i got a shy greeting from Brian. Ive seen him around before though we've never held a conversation. Well sooon enough we started talking some more as friends and we say hi in person now.
i get butterflies everytime i see him..could this be atrraction..??
i havent felt this way in a whilr...
help?
16/f/junior 17/m/senior (link)
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I think that it might be an attraction because having butterflies in your stomach is just a beautiful way of feeling for someone. I think you should be friends with him and see what you guys have in common and see if you actually like him. You do not only want to be physically attracted to him and not care about his personality. You should hang out and try to see if your friendship could go somewhere. I know that I had an experience that I had a crush on an older guy and I had butterflies in my stomach, but it was infatuation that I had felt.Hope this helps!
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so there was this guy i liked for two years (freshman and sophomore year) and then i stopped liking him whenever he got a girlfriend junior year. we were friends before i started liking him. then he found out my feelings for him and avoided me completely. but starting last year after him and his girlfriend broke up, he stared to warm up a little more to me. giving me his number and even wished me happy birthday. at the beginning of my senior year i said i didn't want a boyfriend because i had no time to keep one because i was so busy and i said i was over my crush and just wanted a friendship with him. but now my crush came back all tan, really cute, and a new and improved muscular body and i can't help but ogle him. and now he's starting to be more of a friend to me like joking around with me and talking to me and i won't admit this to any of my friends but it's hard for me to not like him when our friendship is going back to the way it was freshman year. i missed my friendship with him whenever he avoided me and i'm happy to have it back but at the same time, i feel like i'm getting those feelings back for him and i don't want that because 1. i'm afraid that i won't give him the time he wants 2. he just thinks of me as a friend 3. i would actually want to tell him about my feelings for him and try to make it work but then he might go back to avoiding me and i really don't want that. what do i do about this? please help. what do i do about this situation with him i'm sorry this is so long but i really needed to say all of this. (link)
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You have to make sure that you actually have feelings for him and you also have to be sure that he likes you for who you are and not because of sex. You have to find out the reasons why he broke up with his past girlfriends and if he still talks bad about them. If he talks bad about them and imagine if you were one of his ex-girlfriends and if he was talking to some other girl about you then you could tell he is a jerk. Why would a guy avoid a girl if she has feelings for him? Maybe he liked you too or he felt unsure of what he felt for you and did not want the friendship go any further. I think that you should get to know him better because I have a feeling that this guy is probably not worth it. Why should you do all of the work if you like him? Let him sort of blossom and you have to sort of let him open up to you about what his feelings are for you. Also, look at the way his body language which is so important in knowing if a guy likes you or not.
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I've never dressed up for halloween in all my years of high school but I would like to. Other than short shorts, I'm pretty modest.No cat or police costume please because in all my years there have been way too many girls dressing as that.
I would love to look great but some that I looked up were like $70? SO expensive for something I wear once a year and can't really wear again next year!
Please list me some possible ideas or what you have been. (link)
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You could be so many things. You can make your own costume instead of buying one like being a doctor or nurse or lawyer or a teacher. To be a lawyer or a teacher you could wear a skirt and a blouse and high heels. I was always a witch and I do not think you want to be one. You can also be a doll with a skirt and nice shirt and some colorful legging with a wig and a lot of blush. I was a doll last year and this year I am going to be a carrot because I want to inspire others to eat vegetables especially kids. Yes, you can also wear something that can inspire others to take action.
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