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Q: I need some cheap, nice christmas presents to give my friends. either presents, or maybe making something? that i can hand out to them like on thursday/friday. im a 13 year old girl and all my gifts are to girls. and maybe some teachers.. all my teachers are girls except for 1 old dude, lol. thanks a lot for the help, i really dont know what to get them for xmas! its making me so anxious!!
make homemade chocolate covered pretzels (its so much fun) ... use white, milk, and dark chocolate and a variety of pretzels. (dont' use off brand chocolate...they dont come out as good.) even get some red and green sprinkles for on some. Put them in ziplocks and then into a small gift box. Makes a great gift almost anyone will enjoy!!! I have done it for years and not found oneperson who didn't like them!

Q: my boyfriend wants to have sex but i dont know if im ready what should i tell him
if your having doubts your not ready. Tell him you aren't ready and if he really loves you he will wait. If he pulls the "well if you loved me you'd do it" ... DUMP HIM! If he isn't going to respect your boundries...he isn't worth it. Tell him you love him and it isn't him...that its you. You aren't ready for sex, your waiting. Tell him you will let him know when you are ready and to be patient and understanding.

anything else, inbox me!

*JUELZ*

Q: whenever im with a bunch of friends i dont feeel girly at all because all the girls are like flirting and being crazy and stuff and i just feel awkward.
what should i do to just open up?
dress more girly and wear makeup and play with your hair. You will feel more girly. When you really feel girly the flirting will come naturally.

Q: 16 f.
I always get good grades. Last semester my GPA was a 1.67 & I'm a junior! In 9th n 10th grade I got 3.2, 3.5. I switched schools and my grades & learning got twisted! Did I really ruin my chances into getting into a good university? I'm so depressed! :-(
dont wig out. if you do good the rest of your high school time...your gpa should be fine. cuz universities will look more at your overall. or they will see that you slipped, but got back on track. it will be really hard to bring back up, you just have to work extra hard that is all. good luck

Q: so i found a vibrator in my moms stash of things. lol before i use it or even think of using it..would that be totally gross if i did..she doesnt have std's or i would too since i am her daughter..but should i or shouldn't i use it. thanks
i dont think you should use it. because just cause you dont have an std doesnt mean she doesn't. i mean she could have gotten one after you were born, and then if you use her vibrator...you would have it. im not saying she does im juss saying its possible.

your moms vibrator is such a personal thing. I think it would be gross if you used it. If you want something like that so bad, get your own. that way you dont have to worry about anything. Ask your mom to get you one...she would much rather get you one than buy you condoms i am pretty sure of that.

Just take your moms feelings into consideration if you did use it. i think you will make the right choice!!! good luck!

Q: In movies, when they have sex scenes, do the actors/actresses actually have sex with eachother? and do they use a condom or anything when doing it? How does that work?
usually they are not really having sex unless you physically see it. If they are under the blanket and you only see from, say, mid stomach up...they aren't even really naked. Usually real sex is left for pornos.

Q: ive had sex several times, but this last time i did it, i bleed.... what was the cause of that?
he might have been too rough on ya or maybe you did a different position that caused a slight tear or something...or maybe you werent wet enough or didnt use enough lube and got kind of rubbed raw in a tiny spot or something. it probably isnt anything to worry about

Q: i have a pink chi hair straightener and i know there is a way to curl it

ive tried it before with some videos on youtube but they dont help to much

if anyone could get me a step by step on how to do it thatd be great

or tell me from personal experiences

thank you!


btw if it matters i have really long hair
well i dont see how it is possible to get a nice curl out of something meant to make yourhair straight. But, you can get it to flip out the ends, just run it through your hair but at the end, slow down and roll it outward. takes some time to get the hang of.

Q: is locks of love a scam?
aboslutly not! I got to beauty school and we are one place that accepts donations to locks of love and wigs for kids. They really do make wigs for cancer patients. It is a great program and i am trying to grow my hair to donate.

Q: I was just wondering, when you give a guy a handjob..do you have to use like a lube? does it feel okay without it cause it seems like it wouldn't feel that good
i myself dont use lube when i give my man a handjob. if i were to do it everyday ... then i would want to so it doesnt rub him raw or hurt him. it really depends on preference. (here is a hint for a cheaper "lube" and i dont htink anyguy is gonna turn it down. give a small blow job to get saliva on his penis. it helps lubricate. when it gets dry, do it again :D)

Q: Well, my parents never flat out explain things... so I'm hoping you can help.

1. I know guys can be horny..can girls?

2. What does it mean for a girl to "get wet"?

3. Is it actually normal for guys to get horny? If so.. is it a daily thing, or only for someone/sometime special?

4. Hold old are most guys when they start getting wet dreams?

5. How common is masturbating? Do girls masturbate too?
1. I know guys can be horny..can girls?

~Yes. It may not be as visable but it happens when they want sex or something sexual.

2. What does it mean for a girl to "get wet"?

~When a girl gets turned on, her vagina lubricates itself, preparing for sex.

3. Is it actually normal for guys to get horny? If so.. is it a daily thing, or only for someone/sometime special?

~ It depends from guy to guy. i was told the average man thinks of sex ...i think it was every 30 seconds or something like that. guysget horny when they want sex. could be from seeing a girl they are attracted to, something random, a smell or a sensation, or a thought. there is no normal or regular time

4. Hold old are most guys when they start getting wet dreams?

~Puberty. about early teens - ish

5. How common is masturbating? Do girls masturbate too?

~Its very common. and girls do it too. slightly different, but we do it.

Q: I wonder who farts more girls or boys. Is there any research? Whats your opinion?
it depedns on the people. like i fart more than my boyfriend. it also depends on what people eat, and that kinds of stuff. usually, guys are more open about it while women are more likely to hide it. so i would say about equal honestly

Q: Hey, you said I can ask you for advice on hair but you needed to know if I had a curling iron, well I don't :(
hm that limits style ideas alot ... lol. mess around with bobby pins, you can buy 100 ofthem cheaper than a bottle of soda at the dollar stores! lol. just kind of play around with twisties in different directions. Play around with pining your hair in different ways. mess around with crimping different pieces and leaving others straight. with out a curling iron i am a little bit at a loss b/c i use a curling iron all the time. um, maybe borrow onefrom a friend or relative. Then try doing things like pulling your hair into a ponytail, curling it all, and pinning around in neat ways. Just play. Oh and add some glitter at the end for a cool effect. (hint: spray the hair with hairspray, but in the glitter, then spray with hairspray again ... the glitter will stay better!) hope this gives you some ideas :D

Q: Ok, well I'm looking for some cute hairstyles for a night out, except I have pretty ordinary hair. It's natural on top, and blonde underneath. I have two layers, and the longest layer goes about halfway down my boob, so I don't have short hair but it isn't that long either.

The only 'tools' I have is a hairdryer, straightener and crimper. I have a lot of hair ties, a few clips but I can get some more.

Even just some links would be nice, thanks a lot in advance :P
try doing twisties on the front half, to the top of your head. leave out your bangs or some in the front. crimp the back. if you can access a curling iron, curl the back. i have more ideas...send me one in my inbox if ya wanna know em cuz i need to know if you have access to a curling iron.

Juelz

Q: Do you know of any unique fast ways to make a lot of cash? Excluding prostitution. What can I do that will make me rich fast that's easy? keyword: easy
sell some stuff on ebay? or babysit. babysitting can be EASY depending on the kids.

Q: at which stores can i find really cute shoelaces? i dont need links or anything, just names of stores.
thanks so much!
HOT TOPIC!!!

they have cute ones. i bought a pair there before that were black with pink stars. they have loads of nifty shoelaces. they are only like 3-4 bucks a pair.

Q: I got my period on November 1st, it was like really really light. maybe just a splotch. Then on second day, i only had like hardly any. Then on third day, i had brown discharge, and some more came, but once again. a splotch. Then the fourth day, i dont think I had any. So my period lasted for 4 days. Now its erm. Nov. 28, im expecting it this week maybe. But it didnt come so far. Is this normal?
dont worry. your just starting. it will take years for your period to become regular. Right now i have had my period for 6 years and it still hasn't fully regulated. its much more predictable...but not 100%. don't worry unless the splotchyness goes on for an extended length of time.

Q: does "i can do two things at once ;)" soud sexual? and if it does what does it mean?
THANKS I'M LAME!
depends on what is the topic of conversation at the time

Q: i ripped off my tips
and now my nails are absaloutely destroyed.
not like i wasnt expectin that but i just need to know what to do to make em better

thanks
let them grow out. after a week or so they get a bit better

Q: my moms telling me if i dye my hair when im on my period it will fuck it up or whatever.. is that truee ?

&& alsoo. my hairs died black & im trying to dye just the top part of it like a dark/lightbrown if i usedlight ash blonde would it work ?
your period wont affect hair color.

as well as the going from black to brown/blonde...you have to bleach. straight up. i am in beauty school right now and i just did something similar. go to a salon for that kind of thing. it will be expensive and i can't guarantee your hair will be in good shape afterwords. good luck. any other hair questions let me know

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