Well, I promise you that you are not the only girl in the world that isn't ready for committed romantic relationships until YOU are just ready.

Fact is, you've had offers, and you must be a pretty level minded young woman because you didn't take them just because you feel like "you have to have a boyfriend no matter what". And that's a good thing.

Your still very young regardless of what you may feel like at 19 (for instance I still feel young most times and I'm twice your age)! When the time is right..when the right guy comes along you will know it, in fact, you won't be able to stop thinking about him! And because your already 19, the chances are MUCH MUCH higher that the relationship will NOT end up "silly" nor will you end up in a disastrous "heartbreak" or "playing head games". Not to say that you won't ever experience heartbreak, we all do at one time or another, but the fact that you are committed to finding the right guy shows that you will likely have more success and your relationship will be much more worthwhile. You have a good head on your shoulders.

I once knew a woman that was saving her virginity for marriage, she had few to no relationships until she finally met the right guy for her! She didn't marry until she was like 30 years old! BUT she was exuberantly happy, and didn't have nearly as many problems with her relationship as I've had with those that I have had (Can't help it I'm a hopeless romantic *sigh*- which is odd because I find soap operas corny *shrug*).

Anyway, you said you prayed for the "right guy" and The Creator will answer..always does...so that you will get the "right guy" and not the "wrong one"! And that takes time..so don't worry, your just fine!

In the meantime, just concentrate on being the best YOU that you can be. I have a feeling your going to have a very rewarding career, and will excel much faster than most of "us"! So that when you do find the right guy for you, you will be ready, and armed with a great amount of independence that will allow you to be even more choosy (and not end up with a loser) when the guys are literally falling at your feet!

Hugs,
Jasmine

Thanks for the compliment..I remember how tough (and still is but in different ways *sighs*) ..anyway how tough being a teenager was. Especially when it feels like you can't talk to anyone for fear of rejection or judgment! Fact is, I enjoy helping others out!

Okay on to your question:

I think waiting until he asks you out is a bad idea..start now:
I think that you should find out how she would react by approaching her with it in a casual way. When you and your BFF are hanging out, and you feel like you two are having a friendly connection/conversation (maybe she might even mention boys, who she likes, who likes you etc): Now is the time to say, something casually, like, "you know, I've been thinking..ya know, your brother's kinda cute. I hope you don't mind me saying that, but your my best friend and I don't ever, ever want to hide anything from you."

This way, you aren't too far "down the rabbit's hole" with her brother before you break the news to her. I believe that would make her much more upset.

At this point you will find out exactly how she feels about you and her brother going out..and we can go from there..*smile*

Good luck and Blessings!
Jasmine

WARNING VERY GRAPHIC!!

If I had to guess, you likely didn't relax yourself enough before you tried it.

I don't know exactly what you did, but I suspect that you were rushing yourself.

Just as if you were to have sexual relations with a guy, you need to help yourself become aroused before it will be enjoyable. Also, many females become blocked because they are convinced that this is "naughty" or "something unnatural"..when in fact, it is COMPLETELY natural, and a good way to practice safe sex!!

{warning graphic explanation coming}
Begin by closing your eyes, and then by lightly stroking on the outside of your underwear, it's best if you keep your eyes closed (in my experience), and relax as much as possible.(I prefer to cover up that way I don't feel like I'm some sort of porn star on display-even though no one is there to look: but that is up to you) Don't let yourself get caught up in thinking that you won't enjoy it, or it is "unnatural" in any way!

As you relax more and more..move your finger closer to your nude skin..at this point you may want to remove your panties, or maybe you won't- whatever is more comfortable to YOU.

Tease yourself..don't rush it.

Rub your fingers along the outside edges and let yourself enjoy what you are doing. Stroking your vagina from back to front, with your entire hand on the outside, also helps you to relax and enjoy more.

As you feel your body begin to react, start to rub lightly on your clitoris- (this is the very top of your vaginal area and the type of orgasm that most women experience- you may want to go in slow circles).

You may just enjoy doing this..if you feel like you want to go further..slowly move your fingers down to your vagina and, again rub on the outside but lower down. (again circles sometimes feel good). This is the point, if you haven't already enjoyed yourself, that you would SLOWLY insert your finger, a very little bit at a time, you may even want to move your hips in rhythm just as if you were having actual intercourse.

If you find that you enjoy one movement more than the other, free yourself to move back and forth- remember this is YOUR BODY, and you can do to it as you please, you can enjoy it as you please!

Eventually you should be desire to insert your finger further (doesn't mean you have to put it all the way in, just do what you enjoy doing)...curve your finger upwards (palm up) and you can "tickle" yourself a little, by making a small "come here" movement with your finger.

If you find that you enjoy self-gratification, the "come here" movement will eventually find your g-spot. You'll know when you find it-it's actually "raised" a little. (and the least likely, but most gratifying, kind of orgasm a woman has).

now go practice safe sex! *smile*,
Jasmine

Post Edit:

Most all women achieve orgasm by way of stimulating their clitoris rather than with their g-spot (which is why most guys are always trying to find it -teehee- the elusive g-spot!). Honestly, I didn't find my own g-spot till my early thirties! So, most women find that to stimulate their clitoris (like I said, in circles or slowly stroking) while also fingering themselves brings them the most pleasure!

Well, it sounds like you would rather just break this off.

Avoiding him at this point will probably hurt his feelings, and may even cause' him to be mean to you later on (don't want any nasty gossip going around).

So maybe the best thing to do is to remind him that you BOTH agreed that you weren't ready for anything serious.

If he says, "ok, we won't" and then continues to be serious..then you will need to be a bit more firm, but kind. If he continues to attempt to try to make the relationship serious: Just kept reminding him, each time a little more firmer, that you two had a pact, that you are really NOT ready to commit to anything like that, that you like him a lot and enjoy "hanging out", but your just NOT ready for anything like that right now, (not ready for a commitment, and/or think it's better for you both to remain single).

If he just stops talking to you because of this, it will likely mean that he got hurt (not your fault). If that happens tell him that you weren't trying to hurt him, and that you value his friendship and don't want to lose something that valuable, just because your not ready to commit.

If the kids at school ask about it, just tell them that it just isn't working out between you two the way BOTH OF YOU thought it might- that you prefer to be friends, that way you BOTH can leave your options open right now. Use the words "both of you" that way he is much less likely to be hurt or "embarrassed" by what you say to others.

Hope this helps, if you need to, you can contact me again!
Jasmine

Yep, guys love it when you rub their thighs, especially their inner thigh (just like you)..and the most sensitive place on their arms is below the elbow on the inside. Sounds like your very sensual, I bet your guy loves it!

Most women (and even men) assume that the genital area is the only erogenous zone that arouses a male...that is only because they haven't taken the time to slowly explore the guy into a fit of passion!

And yes, that is one of his erogenous zones.

Believe it or not..his nipples are very sensitive too, just as sensitive as yours are! Also, his belly button!

.. and below his belly button, along the tops of his jeans..rub your fingers (or uhum if you are at that part of the relationship, your tongue) lightly across and s.l.o.w.l.y.. from one side to the other, just outside, it will drive him crazy. *giggle*

I like to start kissing my guys mouth, with my hands running up and down lightly along his sides, his back and through his hair, and ALWAYS going slowly..I usually begin at his ear..then down and around his neck (where I sometimes enjoy marking him *wink*), down his chest, to his nipples, then trace the line down his stomach, until I reach the top of his jeans and go from one side to the other. *giggle*..he loves it. Of course, after that he can get extremely impatient about what he wants next..but, IMO, if your having intercourse- or even if your waiting, the exploring part leads up to much MUCH more passionate sex when that time comes along! *ahh passion my favorite!*

If you take your time, (and as a guy if you will just wait a darn minute and let your girl do this *lol*)..you can start with your hands from the less erogenous zones and work your way around to the most sensitive areas, all the while kissing him on the mouth and neck.. it will have his every nerve ending responding..and then no matter where you touch him, he won't hardly be able to breathe, you may even have him trembling before it's over with!

Have fun and remember stay safe! *wrap that rascal if you go all the way!*
Jasmine

OH, and if there is anyone that needs tips on "how to" correctly put on a condom just message me. It's better to be safe than sorry!!

Fraternities (boys) are much crazier than Sororities (girls). Just like in life, females, even at college, tend to be a lot more relaxed and understanding.

In fact, sororities are more likely to have you do some sort of "helpful work" for the 'house' (ie. cleaning duty, etc) or campus (volunteer work), rather than stupid useless things like run around naked or drinking until you choke to death.

As far as I know, each college is a little different when it comes to where the pledges stay. Usually, the freshman pledges remain in their assigned dorm rooms until they are accepted into the "house".

Don't worry, you will love your college years! And I'm already proud of you because you've decided to go to one!

Hope I've helped!
Jasmine

It's normal during your teenage years to worry about your weight. As you say, others say your too skinny, so it's likely that you just have a distorted image of yourself right now! PLEASE don't diet, or do anything to your body that will harm you!

Keep in mind that those super models that we often see would be diagnosed by a doctor as being UNDERWEIGHT. In fact, the magazines show them as being beautiful but most guys would find their skeletal figure very unappealing in person! Not to mention most of them (and you would never hear anyone talking about this in a magazine!) have serious eating disorders! The media tries to tell us that being that skinny is beautiful..but most people KNOW that it isn't.

Like I said before, take a look at Marilyn Monroe. She was considered the most beautiful women of the decade! Yet, nowadays society/media would consider her "fat"! It's a shame that the media has lost touch with what a beautiful woman really is!

And don't even get me started on Barbie dolls: Did you know that her measurements are genetically impossible? If she were a real person her boobs would be disgustingly enormous, and you could wrap YOUR hands around her waist! She would look really deformed in real life!

Your just entering your teenage years, and still have LOTS of growing and changing to do. Now, it NOT the time to go on ANY diets (unless your weight is causing health problems-and in your case I KNOW that this is not so).

Sounds to me like you are perfect the way you are. AND you are very active, that's going to REALLY pay off in a few years when your waistline begins to slim up! (yep, it hasn't happened yet- but it will).

Again, be sure to eat healthy meals, your body will usually tell you what it needs! Trust it. And KNOW that you are a beautiful young girl..and that, as long as you don't develop any eating disorders, will continue to grow into an extremely smart and beautiful young woman!

Right now, you should eat what your body needs (including and especially meat/protein) because you will need it to grow even more beautiful!

Hugs,
Jasmine

Yes, you will be able to tell.

When you are pregnant your body produces a hormone called HCG. That is what pregnancy tests look for.

THIS IS IMPORTANT SO
Keep this in mind: Even after a miscarriage your body will oftentimes still show HCG/pregnancy, until your body, at it's OWN rate, disposes of all of it. So, don't assume (or let your mother assume either) that just because your test comes back positive that you are still pregnant. Like I said, many women still retain the HCG/pregnancy hormone after a miscarriage.

Be sure to talk to your physician about everything you've experienced, she'll likely want to do a pelvic exam, or have you return in a few days, to confirm if you have miscarried or not. (because the pregnancy test won't tell her all she needs to know- unless it comes up negative the first time).

If she finds that you miscarried, and suggests that you have a D & C, be sure to ask her about your options. It may be something that, if your body is doing it's job, isn't really necessary. If you don't have to have one, it may relieve your mother (and her being as upset with you) as it will prevent additional medical costs that may not be in her budget.

Even though things are really tough right now: I have a really good feeling that everything is going to turn out okay.

More BIG Hugs, Stay strong, and keep in touch,
Jasmine

Oh, trust me he's turned on..giggle

Did you know that guys have more pleasure points/erotic zones than girls do?

Yep, merely rubbing the inside of his forearm is much more pleasurable to him than it is to you!

Okay, down to business..

While kissing him run your hands through his hair. Down his chest..and around his back, if he's wearing a shirt grab handfuls of it, then tug him closer to you and move closer to him *this is fun for you too-grin*.

Another great pleasure point is his neck. Wanna drive him crazy?..start at the edge of his ear..while "breathing soft and warm"- put loving words into his ear: remember WARM..nibble on the "earring" part of it..then travel down that side of his neck for a bit, and then follow around as far around to the back of his neck as you can (the back of the neck is a VERY strong erotic zone!).

Your likely to cause him to become overly aroused with the advice your getting..lol...so please do tread carefully.

but..
Have Fun,
Jasmine

First, I'm sure your breasts are beautiful...but

It sounds as though you are REALLY, REALLY nervous about this, are you sure that *YOU* are ready to take this step? It should be a decision that you make, not just something because he wants it. If you want to have a lasting healthy sexual relationship with this guy- it may not be the right time (or place) for you.

I realize that many of us, being women, tend to be "pleasers" and want our significant other to be happy...BUT, I'm concerned that you aren't nearly ready because of the feelings you described.

I could give you some advice on "how" to make this situation more comfortable..but I'm afraid that you just aren't comfortable with it AT ALL right now. Because you are already uncomfortable with this..the time and place is making it much worse.

Have you asked your boyfriend to wait until you are at least in a place where you feel safer?

This should be pleasing to YOU also, and it sounds like it's not going to be *frown*.

I remember that when I was young, I wanted the lights off (or in the dark) during my first experiences. It helped me enjoy them more and be much less subconscious. AND there was one time in my early sexual years that I was in a boys room making out, and his sister walked right in!!! I was NEVER so embarrassed! I think my entire body blushed...let's just say the "moment and passion" was completely lost! From that point on, I couldn't wait to get out of there, and, needless to say our relationship took a turn for the worse afterwards.

Please reconsider this right now. I say this because your sexual experimentations at this age should be pleasurable...if it isn't, then it may cause problems with you and he later; and it may cause you to develop unhealthy feelings attached to sex, sometimes permanently!

If you decide that this is REALLY what you want- just drop me a line in my inbox and I will add to and/or edit this post and advise you on how to do what your question asks.

Remember, there is no rush..pleasurable relations..in all it's forms should come naturally..and with fervor. The good memories, the ones that happen naturally are the very best!

Hugs,
Jasmine
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Okay, here goes..

When you go to his house wear a heavy, but a bit oversized shirt so that you don't have to wear a bra (or double up with an undershirt if your more comfy). If you cannot find a place that is more private, at least get into a position where you are say, leaning or laying back and he is on his side with his back facing the door, so he can block the view of anyone coming in. Tell him that it is more of a turn on for you if he just pulls your shirt up slowly, also this will give you time to yank your shirt down, so it will appear as if your just laying side by side if someone barges in.

It will be much more pleasurable to you if he goes slowly, kissing you first, and while still kissing you, he can begin stroking you on your sides and tummy and working his way, slowly to your breasts. Most guys tend to be a little rough until they know better, so as he's rubbing your sides and tummy tell him whether he is rubbing too fast or hard-- that way by the time he works his way to your breasts he is being gentle enough that you will enjoy it. Be sure to tell him squeezing them is not as enjoyable as lightly rubbing, and that if he does want to squeeze them that he should do it VERY gently. Let him know that your breasts are almost as sensitive as his scrotum, that way he realizes how gentle he should be.

If it gets out of hand, be sure to let him know your not ready, and if you decide that you are ready..stay safe and tell him, "no glove, no love"!

Hugs,
Jasmine

Yes, as someone else said, you can buy them OTC at almost any drug store...and

Just to make sure we remain healthy:

The water pills will work to take off about 3-5 pounds. It's a "quick fix", but, everyone should keep in mind, it is a definitely a "TEMPORARY fix". It should not be used on a regular basis for weight loss (besides it doesn't work for very long before it begins backtracking and causing more water retention!).

More importantly, it can kill you, or cause serious irrevocable health problems- ones that show up later- if abused (the poster seems to already know this, but it doesn't hurt to add information for others that may stumble across this post).

http://www.something-fishy.org/dangers/methods.php

http://www.walgreens.com/library/contents.jsp?docid=002413&doctype=1 (see side effects)

I'm sure that anyone reading this- doesn't want to hear it-but...

There is ABSOLUTELY NO MIRACLE WEIGHT LOSS DRUG. The media is constantly barraging us with these "super pills" that, well, just don't work. Oh, they may work for awhile..and then stop, and/or they tend to cause serious health problems sooner or later (ie. Phen Phen killed so many people- so VERY many died of heart attacks just like with Ephedrin)!

Fact is, these "diet pill peddlers" are just after your money...because they know that you REALLY want to lose weight but don't want to wait, or don't have the time and/or energy and/or drive to do so. So they promise you a miracle just so you will buy their product...IMO, don't waste your time or money!

The only way to truly lose and keep off the weight, is to eat healthy and commit to a regular exercise routine. Think about it, what is the point of losing the weight if you don't tone up?

Without toning you likely will just end up with that extra skin that is, IMO, very unappealing- I would rather see a hefty woman than a skinny one with skin hanging off of her! Wouldn't you?

I would suggest using water pills only on "special occasions" where you haven't had the opportunity to lose the weight you desire by a certain *important date*, but are still eating right, taking vitamins, and exercising like you should.

Also, if you take them you should supplement your diet with vitamins and lots of water (especially potassium- which oddly enough bananas are full of- but bananas are also VERY high in carbs which turn to sugar..which turns to weight gain..so a general vitamin supplement would suffice).

And, I'm sorry, but, I don't want anyone's health compromised: if you are trying to lose weight- you will really need to consider your salt intake. (To poster: at least consider cutting down, please? *smile*).

Eating lots of salt and taking water pills is like going to McDonald's ordering two Big Macs, two Large Fries and a "diet coke"..it's just useless, might as well buy Dr. Pepper (Did ya know that Dr. Pepper- and those like it- have the most sugar and carbs?).

Another thing that you can use besides chemical diuretics is natural herbal ones (but these too need to be monitored carefully).

http://herbalhealingguide.com/using_an_herbal_diuretic.php

For those of you out there trying to lose weight, and not just water weight, I would like to throw a few tips to you about the foods that may help you.

First, if you study about healthy foods, you won't have to go out and buy those expensive "lean cuisine" or join a "Jenny TV dinner meal club"!

It's much better to eat smaller portions several times a day than it is to eat three big meals.(helps to naturally "shrink" your stomach)

Always leave the table while your still hungry.

As women, when we are emotionally upset, we tend to resort to eating: try to find something else to do- like chew sugarless gum! In fact, keep it in your purse for those "cravings" or emotional times.

Also, a big meal before bedtime doesn't help at all, because you are not up and around to burn off those carbs! Best to eat your largest meal at breakfast time.

There are so many things that "seem" like they would be healthy food, yet are REALLY full of carbs which turns to sugar..which in turn becomes fat!!

As I mentioned before- bananas! Bananas are actually have the most carbs than any fruit! The healthiest fruit you can eat is strawberries..apples are good too. Another old saying that has lived through time for a reason: "An apple a day keeps the doctor away!"

See, when I was pregnant I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes and was shocked to learn how many things, that I once thought were healthy foods, actually contain carbs = fat! Milk is also one of them, and one would think milk is a good source of vitamins while losing weight! "You" can always switch to the 2% milk.

The obvious things: stay away from fried foods as much as possible. Baked foods are SO much better for losing weight (you can always add seasonings to tickle your taste buds!). Baked fish (or seafood) is the lowest in carbs. *yummy...baked tilapia with garlic and low carb butter!*

Soups and yogurt are great too! And you don't have to buy the expensive ones that brag about "weight loss/fat/carbs" either. All soups are low in the above! It's just a media twist to add the "low in carbs/fat junk" on the label.

Eat lots of veggies! Not only will they help you to lose weight, but they are healthy and will help your digestive system working correctly! Greens are nature's natural laxatives!...

Stay away from potatoes in any form or fashion..they are chock full of carbs whether they are fried and even when baked!!

Turkey contains much less fat than hamburger meat, you can substitute it in almost any meal that calls for hamburger.

Bread (in all forms: rolls etc) is very fattening! Stay away from it as much as possible!

If I think of more tips, I'll throw em' out here for those that may want them!

Hugs to all,
Jasmine

Yeah (agreeing with Holly), it sounds to me like you are worrying/having anxiety of what he might do at anytime-

By the way, sounds like you two have a lot of fun hanging out!

In addition to relaxation/anxiety techniques ( clearing your head, slowly breathing into your nose, and blowing slowly out of your mouth a few times) you could talk to him about this fear without saying that it IS a fear.

I don't know how close you are to him but you could say something like, "Hey pokey-man! (then laugh - And while smiling, say) I know you owe me for poking on you, but I'd rather not worry about when or how your going to get back at me (or I'm way TOO ticklish and really don't want you to poke me)- it's making me uncomfortable (or on edge) around you, and I really like hanging out with you! So, instead of exacting your revenge, how bout' I buy your lunch (hang out, or whatever is appropriate between you and him)".

Then maybe you can laugh, and say, "but if I do "such and such (buy lunch etc)" I still have poking privileges, K? (more laughing and smiling). Read his body language if you can, maybe you can even throw in a "little poke" after you say it! It would be like "sealing the deal".

I knew this guy in high school, I wasn't attracted to him, but he was a friend of mine and he blushed SO very easily that I would say out of nowhere, "Hey 'R', Why are you blushing?" and then he would turn beet red for no reason whatsoever - his ears would EVEN turn red! He would start shuffling his feet and say, "Now stop it" (while he was smiling). He never tried to "get back at me" though.

I imagine that your friend is merely saying that because he probably likes you a lot! He may not even plan on doing anything to get back at you. Most guys I know that say, "I'm gonna get you for that!" usually are saying it in a flirty manner and don't really mean it.

Hope this helps!
Jasmine

As Amanda said..it is completely normal for one nipple/areola to be slightly larger than the other..In fact, it is this way in almost EVERY woman. Another fact, one arm is longer, one leg is longer, basically one side of your body is slightly bigger than the other!! You've discovered this because it's your breasts, but it's likely that no one else (unless you get in a very long term relationship with a guy that is into breasts *lol*) will even notice.

More importantly, at your age, your breasts (believe it or not) ARE still developing, so the difference may be more pronounced, but that is completely and absolutely NORMAL.

http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/breast_health.html

I remember me and my x (of many years) would make jokes about how my right breast is slightly larger..*heh*. It's really a perfect imperfection; one that is really not that noticeable AT ALL.

As a matter of fact, I knew a girl once that went to have her breasts enlarged..the cosmetic surgeon suggested putting more saline in the naturally smaller breast to completely even them out: AHHH! During surgery thy put the extra saline in the wrong breast and she ended up with one breast much larger than the other and was forced to go back into surgery!

As far as the discoloration goes, I can think of two things that might cause the different coloration:

1. Your body is still growing, maybe one breast just hasn't evolved to the stage the other has..

OR

2. It is much like a beauty mark- you just happened to have two different colors. (example: I've known people with two completely different colored eyes)

Has the coloring always been this way?

If you are bothered by the discoloration you could see your doctor just to ease your fears, but I imagine, especially at your age, that it is merely a dermatological issue.

If the discoloration bothers you even after you see a physician (and discover that it is merely a "beauty mark"), there are things you can do to change it (although, all in all, I don't think your partner(s)/boyfriends will care a fig).


But, I would suggest that you wait until your fully developed just to make sure you don't make things worse later:

Later: you can have the coloration changed by using tatooing *OOWW*

and, also, they sell permanent "tints" that you can use to change your breast color. (ppl usually buy these because they prefer not to have darker areolas).

Blessings!
Jasmine

This link may help, at least I really hope it does!:

HUD in Louisiana

http://www.hud.gov/local/index.cfm?state=la

Jasmine

Well..I've googled it, and searched poetry pages and it hasn't turned up..yet..so it COULD possibly be your creation!

If I find it I'll let you know..in any case: I like it. Very deep!

AND it gave me the opportunity to read some online poetry which I haven't done in awhile! Personally, I wouldn't say that I am a poetry "writer"..but there are times when the mood grabs me that I just am madly DRIVEN to WRITE one, and that is when I churn out a poem, it just doesn't happen very often. When I do, (and it's not too private) it usually ends up on "my" myspace...*grin*

Jasmine Moon

Well, if you feel that your health may be in danger in any way..then yes you should. If your bleeding is beginning to ease and the pain is lessening, personally, I would just let nature take it's course.

BUT, this is a personal decision that you should really make on your own. Being as young as you are, you may feel like this is something that you need to do- and that is perfectly fine.

If you do go, I can tell you that they will either tell you to go home and take it easy until you recover, or they may want you to have a D & C.: An outpatient procedure where they most times- put you under for couple of hours and "scrape" your uterus to ensure that no tissue is left behind. Sometimes, they may perform the procedure in the office while your fully awake (but numbed) depending on your doctor's decision.

YOU SHOULD DEFINETLY GO IF, like I said, your bleeding is still very heavy (it's been more than 3 days, if my calculations are right) and the pain is still the same (or worse), and/or your running a fever. Then, you should go to your lady doctor (or emergency room) right away.

AND, If it will ease your mind to see your doctor (if you are still worried about your health); then yes, by all means go, there is no sense in making yourself worry any more than you have been. Miscarriages are emotional enough, no need to add anymore worry to it!

AND, you don't have to make this your last question, like I said, I'm here if you have ANY questions- no matter what you decide to do! (I've experienced both D&C methods and I have miscarried without seeing my doctor, so I can relate to how your feeling!)

How are you holding up emotionally?

BIG HUGS,
Jasmine

So, he told you outright that he was using you, and then told other people the same thing?

And now he is asking you to take him back, right?

Hmm..and you said he almost made you cry when he did this?

Is he really begging you to take him back, and I mean, very sincerely? If he is telling the truth, and really does want to get back together then those same five people that heard that he was using you...should also have heard that he now realizes that he was horribly mistaken and wants you back!

IF he can go around "fluffing his rooster feathers" and telling people that he was 'just using you'..then he ought to be "man" enough to also do the opposite:

Lose his ego, and tell those same five people how much he really wants you back.

Sounds like he's playing a lot of games..and I do hate "head games"! 'Say what you mean, and mean what you say' is one of my main mottos.

Tell him that you will consider taking him back if he says in front of those same people (that he told that he was using you) that he really wants to be with you and to be together again. If he can't do that, and swallow his pride after hurting your feelings so very much (and embarrassing you in front of your mutual friends!) then you shouldn't take him back because he will likely just do what he did before, and cause you even more heartache.

So basically, tell him you'll take him back under the condition that your mutual friends KNOW that he made a mistake when he treated you that way, and if you two get back together, he won't be afraid to show you public affection (for example: he won't be afraid to hold hands around those same people!).

Hugs and don't let him walk on you!,
Jasmine Moon

ahhh..my mother left me with so many words of wisdom, here's another: "two's company, but three's a crowd".

I realize that you are doing this for Jenn's sake; and that you TRULY feel your doing this to help your friend...I have no doubt that your intentions are good.

BUT it REALLY is NOT your place to lecture him about what he should or should not do.

Jenn has some say in it because they date, but, honestly, you just don't have any AT ALL!

Your interference in their relationship is just making things worse! Why do you consider Jenn and Eric's relationship a "we": because IT most certainly is NOT.

Tread carefully, this kind of behavior can ruin friendships and/or get you in a baaaddd situation..remember about the "thin line between love and hate". I really wouldn't want you crossing over that line!..and Jenn most certainly does NOT need that!!

Also, it's not for you to decide what is best for Jenn and it's CERTAINLY not your place to decide what's best for Eric. I imagine that Eric resents you much more than you realize right now! You have no right to yell at him over his educational decisions.. (you should only yell, of course, if he hurts your friend physically or emotionally!).

You'll be lucky if when they get back together (which they most likely will)..that she will still be as close to you as she is now. (she'll likely stop sharing info about her and Eric's relationship with you, and she will have every right to do so).

It's high time that you step back and let them work out their issues on their own...but that doesn't mean that you can't be there for Jenn when she needs to talk to you or needs comfort.

Ever hear the expression, "kill the messenger"? Jenn is okay this time, but next time she may get angry at YOU!

Remember Jenn is your friend and you should be there when she needs your advice, but she doesn't need you to fight her battles! Don't pick up the battle gear unless Jenn specifically asks you to!

Hugs and Good Luck!
Jasmine Moon

Wow..yeah Thursday is pretty close so you may not get to your goal by then.

Your working your upper tummy by doing crunches, but it won't hurt to work your lower tummy too: while your in the upper crunch position..bring your right knee up and across (pointing to opposite shoulder/elbow) without lifting your back from the floor, hold it there, do the same on other side, and repeat as many times as necessary.

I don't like recommending this, but since you are only trying to lose a small amount..buy some water pills for this one time use, and take them around Tuesday night, they will take 2-5 pounds off of you almost immediately (be sure to follow the directions exactly - you don't want to be in the hospital for dehydration!). This water weight won't stay off, of course, it's merely a temporary solution for Thursday, keep up your exercise and diet routine anyway, because that will be permanent!

AND don't forget to strut your stuff!

Jasmine Moon

In actuality, your breasts are generally the first place you gain or lose! BUT, if you need to exercise, don't let that stop you- as you lose or gain, your body conforms at a pretty even rate. (Unless you are only toning one area, not recommended) Women tend to have the most trouble in the thigh, butt and {oops correction} tummy areas..

I'm a 36 year old mom who has too much life experience. I realize that, no matter your age, life throws some crazy curve balls at you when you least expect it. I know in my heart that absolutely no one is perfect..and we all make wrong decisions at one time or another; and sometimes we just need someone to help us out without being judgmental! Furthermore, I think that the only stupid question is the one that you don't ask...knowledge is power.

One of my favorite sayings:
"If you live in a glass house, don't throw stones."

Well folks, we ALL live in glass houses at one time or another!

Never say never,
Jasmine

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