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why do i get like this around someone i DONT like?
ok so theres this guy. i DO NOT like him as more than a friend. well he is really tickleish if you poke him in the side. so when i found out i did nothing but poke him constantly. hes not6 mad or anyhting he is my friend so he and i both thiught it was funny. well anyway he plans on "getting me back" because i am also very tickleish. when i walk with him to english he makes me so nervous. i start uncontrollably shaking and almost about to cry. i dont want to be like this and i dont know why i do get like this.
1)why do i get like this?
2)what can i do to stop doing this?
HELP PLEASE! ITS FUNNY BUT EMBARRASSING!
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Yeah (agreeing with Holly), it sounds to me like you are worrying/having anxiety of what he might do at anytime-
By the way, sounds like you two have a lot of fun hanging out!
In addition to relaxation/anxiety techniques ( clearing your head, slowly breathing into your nose, and blowing slowly out of your mouth a few times) you could talk to him about this fear without saying that it IS a fear.
I don't know how close you are to him but you could say something like, "Hey pokey-man! (then laugh - And while smiling, say) I know you owe me for poking on you, but I'd rather not worry about when or how your going to get back at me (or I'm way TOO ticklish and really don't want you to poke me)- it's making me uncomfortable (or on edge) around you, and I really like hanging out with you! So, instead of exacting your revenge, how bout' I buy your lunch (hang out, or whatever is appropriate between you and him)".
Then maybe you can laugh, and say, "but if I do "such and such (buy lunch etc)" I still have poking privileges, K? (more laughing and smiling). Read his body language if you can, maybe you can even throw in a "little poke" after you say it! It would be like "sealing the deal".
I knew this guy in high school, I wasn't attracted to him, but he was a friend of mine and he blushed SO very easily that I would say out of nowhere, "Hey 'R', Why are you blushing?" and then he would turn beet red for no reason whatsoever - his ears would EVEN turn red! He would start shuffling his feet and say, "Now stop it" (while he was smiling). He never tried to "get back at me" though.
I imagine that your friend is merely saying that because he probably likes you a lot! He may not even plan on doing anything to get back at you. Most guys I know that say, "I'm gonna get you for that!" usually are saying it in a flirty manner and don't really mean it.
Hope this helps!
Jasmine
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thats pretty strange..haha it sounds like you might have some sort of anti-social poking complex. or maybe your so subconciously worried about being poked and jumping/laughing/screaming in front of everyone thats in the hallway you start to cry. like an anxiety attack.. when that happens just try to clear your head, breathe deep, and focus on something happy. or drink some water. anything calming ya know? hope i helped :) -ali 16/f
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