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Feeling Up
okk so im considering letting my bf feel me up but i dont want him to touch my breasts without my bra on. first) to easy to have someone find out like his older brother walk in with me without a shirt and 2) im self consious about my breast soo my questions are
-i know he really wants to see me without a shirt on but with a bra (well he wants me without a bra on but i wont do that) but how is that possible without us getting found out??
-whenever i touch my breast myself it feels really weird and i dont like it at all it gives me a weird feeling in my stomach so i dont really want him too but i want to go further but idk my stomach just feels weird when i do almost like a little naseous.
-can a guy like feel up a girl with her bra on and how would he do that? cause if my shirt is on then he cant see my breasts and idk maybe he could unhook my bra but then what if i had to get up and go do something or someone came in? it would be obvious i wore no bra...unless i wore a cami? ok so ya what should i do about that too
thanks soo much! i will rate :]
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The first problem is that a man needs to answer the question...Luckily i am a man. Women are self conscious about EVERYTHING, im sure your breasts are fine. If you really like this guy and you want him to feel you up, then take off the damn bra. Its that simple.. you should have posted your age too, cause i don't know if this guy has ever seen breasts in person before so he would have no idea if they sucked which they probably don't. If you don't trust him enough to show him a part of your body then you might as well not have a bf, its gonna happen sooner or later, just accept it. Oh, and lock the door for safety, whats better? someone thinking u were doing stuff or someone KNOWING? Take my advice... -Dr.Drew
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First, I'm sure your breasts are beautiful...but
It sounds as though you are REALLY, REALLY nervous about this, are you sure that *YOU* are ready to take this step? It should be a decision that you make, not just something because he wants it. If you want to have a lasting healthy sexual relationship with this guy- it may not be the right time (or place) for you.
I realize that many of us, being women, tend to be "pleasers" and want our significant other to be happy...BUT, I'm concerned that you aren't nearly ready because of the feelings you described.
I could give you some advice on "how" to make this situation more comfortable..but I'm afraid that you just aren't comfortable with it AT ALL right now. Because you are already uncomfortable with this..the time and place is making it much worse.
Have you asked your boyfriend to wait until you are at least in a place where you feel safer?
This should be pleasing to YOU also, and it sounds like it's not going to be *frown*.
I remember that when I was young, I wanted the lights off (or in the dark) during my first experiences. It helped me enjoy them more and be much less subconscious. AND there was one time in my early sexual years that I was in a boys room making out, and his sister walked right in!!! I was NEVER so embarrassed! I think my entire body blushed...let's just say the "moment and passion" was completely lost! From that point on, I couldn't wait to get out of there, and, needless to say our relationship took a turn for the worse afterwards.
Please reconsider this right now. I say this because your sexual experimentations at this age should be pleasurable...if it isn't, then it may cause problems with you and he later; and it may cause you to develop unhealthy feelings attached to sex, sometimes permanently!
If you decide that this is REALLY what you want- just drop me a line in my inbox and I will add to and/or edit this post and advise you on how to do what your question asks.
Remember, there is no rush..pleasurable relations..in all it's forms should come naturally..and with fervor. The good memories, the ones that happen naturally are the very best!
Hugs,
Jasmine
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Post edit:
Okay, here goes..
When you go to his house wear a heavy, but a bit oversized shirt so that you don't have to wear a bra (or double up with an undershirt if your more comfy). If you cannot find a place that is more private, at least get into a position where you are say, leaning or laying back and he is on his side with his back facing the door, so he can block the view of anyone coming in. Tell him that it is more of a turn on for you if he just pulls your shirt up slowly, also this will give you time to yank your shirt down, so it will appear as if your just laying side by side if someone barges in.
It will be much more pleasurable to you if he goes slowly, kissing you first, and while still kissing you, he can begin stroking you on your sides and tummy and working his way, slowly to your breasts. Most guys tend to be a little rough until they know better, so as he's rubbing your sides and tummy tell him whether he is rubbing too fast or hard-- that way by the time he works his way to your breasts he is being gentle enough that you will enjoy it. Be sure to tell him squeezing them is not as enjoyable as lightly rubbing, and that if he does want to squeeze them that he should do it VERY gently. Let him know that your breasts are almost as sensitive as his scrotum, that way he realizes how gentle he should be.
If it gets out of hand, be sure to let him know your not ready, and if you decide that you are ready..stay safe and tell him, "no glove, no love"!
Hugs,
Jasmine
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okay. yeah i know i feel the same way with my boyfriend. i think you guys need to be somewhere where u know nobody will see you guys!! and if you wear like a big dark t-shirt you might not be able to tell you have no bra on. and last, make sure you feel comfortable doing it, if not tell him, just stick to kissing or making-out if you want, really its up to you
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