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ive never been in a relationship. i really dont count 2 weeks with a guy anything serious..and thats pretty much all ive had in my life. ive had some guys want to go out with me and there was this one in particular saying he would do anything and everything for me..yet i always seem to turn them down.
i dont know if its because im scared to be in a committed relationship, or what.
sometimes i think to myself that if it was really ment to happen, then somehow i would end up being with them..and since im always alone, i just havent found the right guy yet.
is that stupid to think?
since i can remember, i used to always write in my journal and pray to find that one guy who really loves me..but nineteen years later, it hasnt came true.
i dont really know what im trying to ask, i just am confused on why i have been alone all my life i guess.
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If your 10-16 just do it, dont over think it, it wont matter anyways. next time say your age. -Dr.Drew
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Well, I promise you that you are not the only girl in the world that isn't ready for committed romantic relationships until YOU are just ready.
Fact is, you've had offers, and you must be a pretty level minded young woman because you didn't take them just because you feel like "you have to have a boyfriend no matter what". And that's a good thing.
Your still very young regardless of what you may feel like at 19 (for instance I still feel young most times and I'm twice your age)! When the time is right..when the right guy comes along you will know it, in fact, you won't be able to stop thinking about him! And because your already 19, the chances are MUCH MUCH higher that the relationship will NOT end up "silly" nor will you end up in a disastrous "heartbreak" or "playing head games". Not to say that you won't ever experience heartbreak, we all do at one time or another, but the fact that you are committed to finding the right guy shows that you will likely have more success and your relationship will be much more worthwhile. You have a good head on your shoulders.
I once knew a woman that was saving her virginity for marriage, she had few to no relationships until she finally met the right guy for her! She didn't marry until she was like 30 years old! BUT she was exuberantly happy, and didn't have nearly as many problems with her relationship as I've had with those that I have had (Can't help it I'm a hopeless romantic *sigh*- which is odd because I find soap operas corny *shrug*).
Anyway, you said you prayed for the "right guy" and The Creator will answer..always does...so that you will get the "right guy" and not the "wrong one"! And that takes time..so don't worry, your just fine!
In the meantime, just concentrate on being the best YOU that you can be. I have a feeling your going to have a very rewarding career, and will excel much faster than most of "us"! So that when you do find the right guy for you, you will be ready, and armed with a great amount of independence that will allow you to be even more choosy (and not end up with a loser) when the guys are literally falling at your feet!
Hugs,
Jasmine
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you're like me.
you dont want to go out with guy after guy, you want to find the guy that you'll spend the rest of your life with. makes things a lot less complicated. and saves the drama.
when you meet the right guy, you'll know. ask God for guidance. he'll lead you along the way if you let him.
i hope it all works out. and if you have questions, im here. :)
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A little persepective here:
If you are nineteen, it hasn't even been rational for you to consider a serious rommantic relationship for more then the last five years, at most...
So you've been aware of the possibilty of dating for the last five years or so, and you likely have about 50 more years of life to live... (If you think single 80 year-olds don't date, you very misinformed.)
You hardly have enough experience or track record to declare yourself to be 'alone all your life'. Don't get trapped in that negative thinking and put yourself down like that.
You have chossen not to date thus far. You can change that choice whenever you want too!
I think the best thing you can do in your position right now is stop waiting for Mr. Perfect and starting dating the Mr. Intererestings and Mr. Intriguings. Although looking for the one guy who 'really loves you' is a good ideal, it is no reason not to enjoy the company of others and engage in some causal dating.
In fact! That casual dating is a great way to learn what love isn't.
Don't look at each guy you flirt with or are interested in as your possible soul mate, look at them as possibly good company and intriguing human beings.
If you really want something to happen, you can't just wait for the universe to provide it for you. You have to make is SUPER EASY for the universe to provide and that means taking risks and staying open to oppertunities.
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