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ah im confused
ok so me and this one guy have known each other for about four years. up until the beginning of this month we had been talking every single fday pretty much. we had a good friendship going on.
he has told me plenty of times that he wants to take the relationship up a step, but i tell him i dont want that.
lately we have been fighting a lot and bascially he has told me he wants nothing to do with me anymore. everytime i texted him or called him he is very short worded with me. he even said that i was pretty much gone from his memory.
the thing is, about 2-3 times a week he will randomly text me.
i dont know what to think of it, bc he said he wants nothing to do with me, but then he turns around and starts talking. [btw the conversation doesnt last as long as it used to, but its still something]
i tell myself that maybe he really does still have feelings for me. i dont think its fair that he knows that he can come back to me any time he wants and ill always be there with open arms, bc i really care about him as a friend. but whenever i try to work things out, he gets his way by making a rude comment.
what should i do?
should i just never be the first one to text him and always let him text me?
he already knows ive put in effort to make it work, he knows that i want to be friends so theres no need to remind him anymore.
could he possibly realize that he misses me in his life?
sorry this is so long but id apreciate all the help i can get.
thank you!
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what a prick.
you sound like a nice girl and probably dont need him in your life. but thats not what you wanna hear, is it?
well, i think hes just upset because you dont like him in that way. all boys get like that, two of my friends got like that and got really upset when i didnt like them back. one even went as far as to blackmail my current boyfriend.
anyways. what i would do is start to avoid him. eventually, if he really cares about you, he'll try to call you and get ahold of you. but if that doesnt work, im sorry.
maybe you should tell him that his behavior towards you is getting really annoying and hurtful.
he really doesnt deserve a friend like you. and if i were you, i'd do the avoiding thing? and if it doesnt work, i'd just let it go. if he keeps saying hes gonna talk to you he obviously still cares and doesnt wanna lose you. but you need to get him alone and tell him what you just said up there.
i reaaally hope it works out for you. :) take care.
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Don't worry about the length of the post silly! I'd rather you give us all the information. You said that he wants to take the relationship to the next place but you don't, correct? Maybe it's just hard for him to be around you knowing his feelings are stronger friendship. As long as you know that he wants to be friends, don't contact him unless he contacts you. He has to find his own way to get over this. I don't think for a second that it's because he doesn't want you in his life, I think he may just be scared because he wants you in a way you don't want him. Give him time to heal in his way. He'll come back around, I'm sure of it =)
Good luck and let me know how it works out!
<3 Leslie
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Eek! Sour grapes!
It sounds like he is hurt and is lashing out in anger because he wants more from you than you should give.
I do hate head games..because, it seems that he does miss you and probably cares much more about you than you know, but is trying to pressure you into a more romantic relationship by being mean, and then cutting you off at times.
I would just continue to be friends with him, but at the same time, DO NOT let him say cruel things to you without addressing it. When he says something mean, be sure to let him know that, while you value your friendship with him, you will not continue to be his friend if he continues to be cruel! And follow through with what you say, if he continues to be cruel, shut him out of your life for a little bit..let him know that you "mean what you say, and that you say what you mean."
Hope this helps!
Jasmine
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