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im such a loner. lol.
i basically only had 2 friends a week ago. a guyfriend , Bob. and a girl whose a friend, jane. well jane and i go to the same school. bob doesnt go to our school and i usually went to his house every friday to watch movies and hang out. but he and i both really liked eachother. he had asked me out a few times and i turned him down each time. then he asked me out again last monday and we've been going out ever since. but i asked him if we could still be friends even if we are going out. he said yeah, but its not the same. i want it so badly to be the same. but thats impossible. hes always sitting so close and putting his arm around me and we kiss and stuff. and i know thats what your supposed to do with a bf, but i miss what we used to be. im happy with him, but im a changephobic. and that huge of a change for me? i cant take it. he was my best friend and now i only have one friend! can someone gimme some advice on how to either accept things and get used to it? or do you think i should do something else?
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Hun a boyfriend isnt just a boyfriend. hes suppost to be your best friend too. so tell him how you feel. dont just let it eat away at you. cause that could ruin your friendship. and you dont have to just accept things. if you dont like something, change it. maybe just talking to him will be all it takes.
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actually i think you should tell him exactly what you just said, if your afraid moving to fast will hurt your relationship then you need to tell him to cool it for a while, and you need to tell him why.
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Babe..NEVER just accept things. Not something like this. You need to look out for you. If he truly cares for you than he will still want to be your friend (although it may take him time to adjust to the change also). I have to tell you thought that it is hard to go from relationship back to friendship, so brace yourself. It's what you want so it won't be as hard for you as it will be for him. Either way you can't keep yourself in an unhappy, yes i said unhappy, relationship. I know you care for him and are happy with him per se, but you aren't happy with the current relationship (am i right?). Once you tell him you just want to be friends, you'll have to give him time to get through that before things can start to go back to the way they are. They'll probably never be exactly the same (there is that change you long for...even if it's not the right circumstance). Good luck and I hope that things go well for you. For your sake I hope that he realizes he'd rather have you as a friend than not at all.
<3 Leslie
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