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Q: i think my friend is trying to make me jealous over stupid stuff. why would she do this? how do i just "brush it off"?

if you guys are true friends then you wouldnt be getting mad at each other for stupid things. and if she is a true friend then she wouldnt be trying to make you jealous she is suppose to be there for you.i hope that i wasnt being to harsh.

Q: I just got my iPod a few weeks ago and I can't find the instructions, but that's not my question.
When it's charging the battery, how do you know when it is? How do you know when it's done?

Any tips will be great too!

-THANKS

when it is charging it shows a battery and it says chargin on the screen also when it is done it says battery full on the screen

Q: There is a girl at school i like but she only thinks of me as a friend. what should i do?

you should be honest with her and tell her. she might want to date you even more since you have been friends.be sweet to her and flirt with her a little.

Q: I've been hearing a lot about 'PDA' lately, and I know it has something to do with like making out and hugging ect. in public. I was just wondering what PDA stood for. Thanks!

it just means public display of effection dont worry about feeling dumb when you hear that anserw because i just found out a couple of months ago

Q: So i noticed a couple weeks ago that i have alot of black heads on my chin. theyre not that noticible unless you are face to face with me. but i was wondering what are some cheap black head remover stuff that you can get at walmart or somewhere cheap? thanks.

you should use noxzema triple blackhead remover. so good luck. i hope that i helped. it worked for me and i had a lot of black heads.

Q: I'm aware that the new style is now 'skinny' jeans, but I think they are absolutely hideous. I refuse to wear them. My question is will I stick out in school this year? It seems like lots of people are switching to skinny jeans, and I'm sticking with my flares. Just tell me that truth, I need to know. Are flares still okay or is it all about skinny?

you shoudnt care about what is in style or not in style if you like the flare on your jeans then you like them. just because some people are switching from flare to skinny doesnt mean that you have to. anyways not everyone is going to like the new skinny so dont worry about fitting in or not. and also i agree with you the new skinny jeans are hideous.;)

Q: My BFF and I both like the same guy. I have known him since 2nd grade, and have gone out off and on since 5th, and my friend talks to him more than me, but has only known him since 6th grade. We both really want to go out with him, but are too shy to ask him out. Should one of us let the other have him, or should we forget about him and move on? We don't want it to ruin our friendship.

okay well a friendship is more valuable than a guy. your friend will be there when you need her and if you both like the same guy then forget him. your friendship is way more important than he is. Anyways if one of you gets to have him then the other one will end up being jealous and it will conclude to a rocky friendship

Q: ok so theres this guy Jesse. I went out with him in january and we broke up but since then he's always been there for me and told me when guys were using me and still cared about me for so long. in march/april we got back "together" but didnt like officially go out, because i ruined it by ditching him for another guy. after that he was still nice to me and we have been friends, but lately we've been drifting apart and i guess the distance has mademe realize that he was one thing in my life that was always there, left unappreciated. i realized that i really love him deep in my heart, and i cant lose him. i really feel like hes not the same anymore, he doesnt seem to care like he used to. i really hate myself for letting this happen and ive tried so hard to fix it. i sent him a page long letter that really showed how muchi cared and he just doesnt seem the same. i really miss him so much and i need advice.

yeah i remember this girl named bertha had done something like that.well this guy jesse is probably really hurt and you messed up. everyone makes mistakes. if its not the same then just be friends for now and show him how sorry you are and how you will change

Q: so my hair is super curly and frizzy.
i straighten it most days beacuse i dont want/like to wear it how it naturally curls. i think it looks bad. i have about shoulder length light brown hair.

my question is how do i get my hair to be wavy. like pretty waves. not super tight curls, but not straihgt. in between.

steps would be much apprciated.

okay i also have that problem to.what usually works for my hair to have nice loose and wavy curls is to do my hair in tight braids right after i take a showerand wash my hair of course. good luck amd i hope it also works for you. =)

Q: I'm 13. I have a MAJOR crush. But, according to my friends, he's not just a crush anymore. Well, I really like him. When I got ahold of his email, we started chatting online all the time. Finally some of my friends dilivered his message. He liked me too. One day while we were chatting he asked me out to the movies. I couldn't believe that I wasn't able to go. Anyways, now, according to my friends, he's my officail boyfriend. That the part I'm not so sure about. I mean, a boyfreind when you're only 13? I feel too young for that... Is he my officail boyfriend or am I really too young for that kind of thing?

honestly it depends on you. If yoat you fell that you are not ready to have a boyfriend than ask if you can just be friends. Or you can have him as a boyfriend but dont take things to any serious matters.
good luck,
jaime

Q: does anybody have advice on how to get rid of undereye circles without using $100 products if u know what i mean? I already use concealer.i really need help i cant stand looking in the mirror and seeing a racoon looking back @ me LOL.

well basiclly you can put on cocoa butter every night before you go to bed and those dark circles will disappear.Hope that you like my advice.
your truely
Jaime

Q: Ok soo I like to swim, and when I do, I tend to go underwater a lot. I have blue eyes, that are sensitive to the chlorine though, so after a while, my eyes become very red. What can I do to prevent this, besides not going underwater as much? I put some Visine in after and stuff but it takes a while for the red to go away. Is there anything better? Thankss. :]

you can wear goggles even though they may be a little uncomfortable you end up not having red eyes and you will have your natural beautiful blue eyes

Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months and I'm afraid we are moving to fast. Sometimes I think I will be comfortable with doing something and then while its happening I don't feel comfortable with it any more. I'm not sure if it is okay to say "No" once you have already said "Yes" I mean am I allowed to change my mind? I would get really frustrated if I was the other person...and what should I say to him?

okay first of all you should be able to change your mind if you feel that you are unsure of you disicion. Its perfectly fine if you say no if he gets mad at the fact that you said no and is trying to pressure you then he does not really care about you. If he cares about you then he will respect the desicion that you have made.So ihpor that you have took my advice and thought it was good because it the best i can give.
good luck!

Q: I saw in a lot of the movies these days, I was just wondering...

If you have a sexual pleasure by using a vibrator, do you consider that as a virgin or no?

Also, do you have to have sex with a guy to lose your virginity?

okay when you loose your virginity you have to have intercourse with a person.it doesnt have to be with a guy it can be with a girl. if you have pleasure with a vibrater i guess you still can be considered a virgin
sincerly
Jaime

Q: Im 13 yrs old. and still havent got my first kiss =. i feel like eberyone else has & its really bothering me.& i want to get a boyfriend.

okay i can relate because i am 13 and still have not had my first boyfriend.people always say wait for a guy who really care and not some jerk.it kind of annoys me that people are always saying that but it is good advice. You should take that advice because you want your first kiss to be a great memory and to be meaningful

Q: okkay well i have this smell...you know down there..and i need help on how to make it not stink or anything..i dont have an std or anything it just smells..lol

yeahh sooo help me pwease

thanks!

okay if you have a smell down there then dont flip out this happens to a lot of people it might just be a yeast infection. you can easily get some medicine and you use it for about a week and it well the smell is gone.there are also little diorderints to make you smell good
sincerly jaime
good luck

Q: How do I better my social skills?
I'm pretty shy and I have a fear that people are always judging me which makes it hard for me to approach new people and talk to them and make new friends.
Also its hard to show to a boy I have interest in him, when its so difficult for me to start a conversation with him or have small talk.
It seems like the only time I'm really social and talkative to people I don't really know is after I've had a few drinks.
So how do I over come my shyness and insecurities so I can meet new people and be comfortable around them?

i am really shy to so i can relate but you shouldnt only open up to people when you drink.its going to be hard but dont be scared to go up to people they are not going to bite. you shouldnt care what they think if they like you then they like you if they dont then it is there loss.if you like a boy then first of all there are other ways to flirt like the eye flirt first look in his eyes then laugh and look off he will know that you are interested.dont be so insecure either the person who you are meeting is also insecure to and wondering what you are thinking of them.just remember everyone has their insecurities

Q: Does anybody know any websites where yu can upload your picture and choose hairstyles for that picture?
That are FREE?
any help is appreciated.
kk thanks

You can go on seventeen.com they have pretty cool hair styles that give you the picture and everything also they are so easy to do.So good luck.

Q: 13/f
okay well i want to get something done to my hair thats different because ryte now its just....normal its wavy and thick and long...and i hate it...so i was just wondering if any1 had any ideas that might look good?
thankss -rosemarie-

my hair is thesame way i got that from my El Salvadorian background. I understand you i always used to blow dry and straighted my hair then that just gave me dry strall like hair. So now i have to rejuvinate my hair. Now i realized that i should be thank full for my hair. At night i put it in braids so its not freezy but its shiny,healthy, and wavy. You should gort layers though it makes your hair thinner.

Q: i am not pregnant, but i havent had my period since february, and before then i didnt have it since september, whats wrong with meeee?! HELP

First of all how long has it been since you have got your very first period and i mean your very very first. you have probably had not been regulated so you might not have your piroid for a couple of months.I know that this can be kind of embarrasing but you should also talk to your parents thats what they are there for/to comfort you. So dont flip out.

bio

Hi, I'm Jaime and you can ask me anything because I have lots of anserws.Im 15 turning 16. I'm the first one that people come to if they need advice. So that's why I signed up for advicenators. I thought why should I only share my advice with my friends, but I should share it with everyone that I possibly can.:)