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How do I better my social skills?
I'm pretty shy and I have a fear that people are always judging me which makes it hard for me to approach new people and talk to them and make new friends.
Also its hard to show to a boy I have interest in him, when its so difficult for me to start a conversation with him or have small talk.
It seems like the only time I'm really social and talkative to people I don't really know is after I've had a few drinks.
So how do I over come my shyness and insecurities so I can meet new people and be comfortable around them?
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Just remember this, if you want something in life you have to do it yourself, so if you want to have better social skills, you have to be comfortable in your own skin. know that you are you and you can't be anyone else. so why go through life first of all un noticed..and second of all not being to say what you want to say cuz your shy? or not being able to show a guy that your inrested in him? Now this is just phsycological so once you get that down, now when your around other people, just be like you are with your friends. Hopefully this helps you. If not let me know :)
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Hi, there is only one way that you can talk to people. And that's to just do it. To get a boyfriend or just to talk, you've got to create the opportunity. In other words you've got to start a conversation, which I call creating the opportunity. Another way is to just wait around for people to talk to you, but it won't get you very far really. When your talking to someone remember these 3 tips:
1. Compliments
2. Open questions
3. Small talk
It is difficult, believe me, but the more you interact and socialize the less shy you become. The first move though is to say something like "hi, it's a nice day today isn't it?". It sounds to me as though you want a boyfriend. If you just wanted to be friendly then say a little hi and smile. Your young and have got everything to gain and little to lose. If your old enough you could go to a night club and chat men up there. The night club is a really good place to talk and you have lets say "high possibility" of talking to someone. Put it mathematically:
Confidence + Create opportunity = conversation
Thats all you've got to do. If it doesn't go the way you want the first time, then try again. You will meet someone one day and you will do anything you can to have him. If you want to flirt then just talk to a guy and smile alot and give him a wink. Another good way to show your interested is by tossing your hair back and really look interested and smile heaps. I'm sure you have a nice smile. Daniel.
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i am really shy to so i can relate but you shouldnt only open up to people when you drink.its going to be hard but dont be scared to go up to people they are not going to bite. you shouldnt care what they think if they like you then they like you if they dont then it is there loss.if you like a boy then first of all there are other ways to flirt like the eye flirt first look in his eyes then laugh and look off he will know that you are interested.dont be so insecure either the person who you are meeting is also insecure to and wondering what you are thinking of them.just remember everyone has their insecurities
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okay i think you should start small. make it a goal for yourself to meet maybe one or two people each day. its going to be hard and your going to feel a little akward but the best way to get better social skills is to socialize. start talking to people who you think might have something in common with you [clothes, music, books,ect.] to make it a little easier. once you can talk to random people it'll make it easier for you to approach a guy and start talking. try to at least make yourself seem more approachable smile [smile when you pass people in the halls, give a small wave] so when you want to talk to someone they dont remember you as that unfriendly kid they saw last week.
i hope i helped. =]
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