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I am a 27 year old female from Scotland. I have a lot of life experience and will do my best to answer any questions you have honestly.
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Aww thanks so much !
Well i like this boy right and he likes me too and he tells me his gonna ask me out just not at the moment he said this like last week and he still hasn't asked me out do you know if he his or isnt he ? Thanks so much
Ok, here goes, this guy does like you although I feel that he is receiving a bit of pressure from some of his peers to start dating etc but he is not quite ready - there seems to be one guy in particular who teases him a lot - this guy is an idiot and should be avoided - he is a bit unstable and will get a lot of people into trouble.
I get the feeling that you think this guy likes one of your friends???? I don't think so although he does enjoy her company. He thinks she is funny and that is about it so start being a little nicer to her (which is your true nature).
Anyway, I do think that he will ask you out although I don't see this being for around another 4 months or so. He needs to see that you are a real friend first if that makes any sence. I know that 4 months will seem like forever to you but what you need to realise that this time will lay the foundation of a happy relationship. Just try to chill out a bit and trust that it will happen when the time is right and he is ready.
I hope this has been of help and I would really appreciate some feedback on what I have said as this will help me.
Take care!
ok this is quite worrying, some may find this humorous. i have a lump on the shaft of my penis...it's purple and is long, about 1cm its doesn;t hurt and is soft, it can be seen when the foreskin is pulled back, any idea what it is? im too embarrased to go to the doctor.
And can you get cancer on the shaft of the penis??
I will give it to you straight - it is highly unlikely that anyone on this site will be able to give you a 100% accurate assessment of your problem and tell you that everything is fine.
It's tough to deal with embarrassment however, dealing with a red face is surely better than leaving a problem like this - all you will do is worry about it.
I am sure it will turn out to be nothing other than a glan.
I would suggest that you get yourself to the doctor, especially if you have had unprotected sexual relations.
About a month or two ago I made a promise to God that I would not masturbate until I turned 14. Several months ago, probably like 3 or 4 maybe 5, I turned 13. But, I broke that promise. And I know it's really bad to do that, and I'm a Catholic! But the really bad thing is, that I keep telling God I won't do it again, but I do! Sometimes when I cross my legs my clitoris throbs and it feels good, does that count? A part of me feels like he forgives me, partly because it was the time of my period when you're in heat, but part of me feels like he won't forgive me and I don't deserve to go to Heaven. I feel like I've broken my promise, God never breaks a promise and I feel unworthy. I talk to God a lot, I pray a lot, and praise him a lot. But sometimes I'm not nice to others like I should be. Like lying, or making fun of someone and not apologizing, although most of the time I do, yet I do it again! I truly, truly, truly need help to keep my promise and stay un-horny. Will I go to hell for this? Will he forgive me? I feel so scared, I want to go to Heaven! I worship God with all my heart, I really do. And I believe in Jesus and his commandments and in the beatitudes. But one night a while back, I wanted to sort of have my own way of getting an immediate answer with him. Years ago, I bought a statue of Jesus from Canada and the hands broke off accidentally. So I took one hand and fell alseep with it in my hand and asked him to have me wake up with it on the right side of my bed if the answer was "Yes, you will go to Heaven." and it go to the left side if the answer was no. It landed on the left side underneath me! I'm scared. I've done this before, and I asked him if I would meet my sisters in Heaven (I never met them) and it landed on the right side. Is this kind of witch craft or something? Well I'm really scared, so please answer this question!
Honey masturbating is not wrong - you are young and exploring your body.
I am not catholic however I have a friend who is a Reverend and I once asked her if masturbating was a sin and whether or not ALL sins were forgiven.
She told me that all sins are forgiven if you are truly sorry (which I believe that you are).
She also told me that many a bad thing had been done in the name of Religion (for example the Crusades where thousands of people were killed or the Spanish Inquisition where many innocent people were executed as heretics) and pointed out that in those instances that the commandment "thou shalt not kill" had been broken over and over (I am sure that you will understand that if you are Catholic this is a very very important commandement to keep) however, she said that even though a commandment had been broken those who were truly sorry were forgiven and accpeted into heaven.
I really hope that this gives you some peace of mind.
i know what believe in but i dont know if there is a religion for that.
i believe in a higher being of some sort, but i dont exactly know what it is.
i do and always have believed in reincarnation, that when you die, your soul lives on until it has reached peace with the earth.
i believe the body should remain clean and nothing unnatural should go in it. like that's why i dont believe in taking most medicines.
i believe that everything happens for a rason, whether it be good or bad.
i pray sometimes, i just dont know exactly what i pray to.
does this sound like a religion you practice or know of?
what do you believe in?
In short - you basically believe in the same things as me and I would class myself as a Spritualist.
I think that all religions fundamentaly teach the same thing: be a good person; be good to one another; live a happy life.
I myself, do not feel the need to go to church, mosque etc to feel close to the being that I believe in however, if, as such you want to belong to a specific religion or faith you may need to research some of them thoroughly to find one which encompasses all of your beliefs. In all honesty, I think you have drawn on quite a few.
Sometimes, I predict things without knowing I predict them. For example, when i was walking into my tv room I was thinking about the movie karate kid and I did a karate kid kick (i'm strange) then when I got to the tv room a band was talking about the movie Karate Kid. I didnt even hear the tv before I got in. Or maybe i'm thinking "i like the name luke for a boy" and a mom nearby with her kids has a kid named luke and says "luke". This happens alot! Is it just a really big coincidence or might I be physcic or something?
Sounds to me like you may be intuitive however, if you are interested in psychic ability it may be an idea for you to research it more and perhaps, if you decide that you do have psychic ability to try and progress it.
I know that there are a lot of non-believers out there - some people just find it plain scary but let me explain - just because you are psychic does not mean that you can predict the future!!!
I am descendent from a line of mediums/psychics and am currently developing my skills however, it never has been and never will be my intention to profit from my gifts.
As for being on TV - who would want to be pestered by ever single person you met saying "tell me the lottery numbers" or "will I ever be rich".
Things like Tarot cards are meant to be used as a guide to your life and can let you know of influences which will come into your life but ultimately, every decision that you make in life will take you somewhere. It's all about choices!
What do you say to someone who you love dearly when a member of their family dies? I'm sorry doesn't help I know that, but I feel like all I'm doing is just being next to him, not really helping.
There is nothing that can be said to ease someones grief however, just being next to them CAN help immensely. Just to know that you are not alone and that there is someone ready and willing to listen or wipe away tears etc is sometimes all that is really needed.
I will say one thing though - when my Father died I found it frustrating that people didn't talk about their own lives or feel that they could share good news. It felt a bit like the world had stopped which in itself was much scarier in a way.
i need some help....anyone know of a protection spell against curses?
First of all, you need to believe in curses and be readily willing to accept them for them to be able to work.
When someone believes that they are cursed they send out negative vibes about themselves and then the Universe sends it back to them and bad things start to happen like sitting on your glasses and things.
Tell your boyfriend to start thinking positively about himself and his life and you do the same for him and I am sure that you will find that he is not cursed!
If you want to discuss this more, please feel free to email me.
Okay... well I'm not trying to get any religious views, or have anyone change my mind or anything like that... but I've always had a hard time figuring out what to believe in. I went to a Catholic school when I was younger [only cause it was right down my street though, haha] and neither of my parents are very religious... infact, they hardly are at all. But I never know what to believe. Like, I don't want to not believe in God... cause if there even is a "Hell" I don't want to go there and burn for all of eternity haha. Now, I don't really think there is [well I'm not even sure what to believe... there's so much I can learn about] but what if there is? I'll never know for sure. So basically, I'm just always worrying about things like that and I never know what to think =/ now don't like, try to call me stupid and naiive or anything, cause it's not my fault that there's 9857285 religons. Usually I just try to live my life being a good person... cause there's really no religon that looks donw upon that... That's what my mom always says anyway. "If there is a God or a whatever, as long as I spend my life being a good person, I'll be fine" So that's what I try to live by. [religon-wise]. What do you think?
I definitely agree with that....I guess in a way you can call me a spiritualist because I do believe that there is a being however many people call this being different things.
Your Mum is right as all religions, when stripped down to the fundamental message, are the same - be a good person, be good to one another and live a happy life.
I'm thirteen and I guess you could say i'm Catholic. My family goes to church every week, but I don't even feel good when I go. I feel like it's all a big lie, God and Jesus and Heaven and Hell. I mean, I think to myself, it seems kind of unreal that when you die you go to this wonderful place with God and if you don't follow all the exact rules of christianity, you go to hell with evil Satan. So you are telling me if I tell a little lie, or say "Oh my god" once, I have to burn in the depths of hell in my after life, if I don't go tell some priest all of my business and ask god to forgive me? Don't tell me that isn't true, because the 10 comandments say that. That brings me to hell. Out of the billions of people on earth, a fiery, hot place may not be scary to some. Maybe sitting in a white room with a set of rainbow blocks infront of you for eternity is hell, not being able to do anything else. But then, all of a sudden out of nowhere I get scared that that might be real, and all of a sudden I believe in god again. Can anyone help me out here? What should I believe in my situation. OH! And if you give me some quote from the bible to explain your answer, I swear I will ignore it because I can't stand that.
First off - there is no definitive answer to your question. Ultimately you will decide what you really believe over the course of your life however, I do believe that there is something after we die. To explain my full beliefs here would take forever and sound more like I was preaching but if you want to ask me anything then feel free.
I have always believed that if you try to be a good person then that is what matters. Everyone in their life will "sin" however, I do not believe that it is essential to go to church and confess these sins to a priest or whoever. Is it right to say that only a select few can talk to God/Allah???? I think that if you know that you have done something wrong then you can ask the being that you believe in for forgiveness or tell them that you are sorry!!! I don't believe that God/Allah etc would turn his back on anyone.
I think that God is all around us and even in ourselves and free will makes us who we are.
If when you die you are truly sorry for anything that you may have done in your life then I think that will be good enough for God/Allah etc.
It doesn't matter which religion you follow, I believe that every religion teaches the same thing when stripped back to its fundamental message: be a good person, be good to one another and life a happy life and to say that if you have done just one bad thing in your life, like tell a little lie, that you will not be forgiven and go to hell is just cruel!
No religion should rule and keep followers by fear. Again, I am back to free will. It was given for a reason.
Does anyone know any free online physchic sites that are free.
Not so much a free psychic website but tarot.com may have some of the things you are looking for.
I am decendent from mediums/psychics and have been learning to read tarot cards so if there is anything that you think I may be able to help you with please feel free to email me - I will try to answer any question you have but cannot promise anything. I will not charge you for anything. Basically, I just need to practice - any feedback would be gratefully received should you decide to email me.
Take care!
ok so...i am completely out of ideas and frankly done trying to figure out my problem. There was a guy i dated about a year ago. We dated for a while and i really truly cared about him. We broke up after a huge misunderstanding. He was dating someone else like 2 weeks later. But we never stopped talking. He kept calling and telling me he still cared about me...We have been hanging out alot lately and he talks about us dating again but we still havent gotten back together. Any ideas on how i can move it along...or tell if he is even actually sincere about wanting to get back together?? Thanks so much!
If this guy is still dating this other girl and seeing you at the same time, it appears that he may just be stringing you along - perhaps in the hope of "having his cake and eating it".
You need to be direct with him and tell him that if he truly wants the both of you to start dating again then he has to let this other girl down gently and immeidately! If he tries to squirm his way out of it - run for the hills. He is playing you.
If he dumps this other girl I would advise you to take things slowly at first.
And just so you know - a woman's intuition is always right - you just need to learn how to listen to it.
Hope this helped.
I want to know if i'm a mean girlfriend. Some people tell me I am. But my boyfriend says im not. The other people tell me im mean because I hit my boyfriend all the time. But im only playing around when I do it. Sometimes I will call him a bitch and other names like gay. But like I said im only playing around. I really want to know if Im mean. Because I don't want to lose him. So am I a mean girlfriend?
Without seeing you two together it is kind of hard to say however, I am pretty certain that if the roles were reversed and he hit you and called you names all the time you would get pretty sick of it.
If you hit him in a playful way (without actually hurting him - this is often done as a way of showing affection) then he may not see this as a problem however if, when you hit him you do hurt him then it is safe to say that he will get fed up.
I suggest that you try to find other ways of showing your affection and let's be honest, the only way to find out if it bothers him is to ask him! That way when people see fit to pass judgement on your relationship you can tell them where to get off if he really isn't bothered by it.
Hi, I am a 22 year old Canadian pre-op FTM transman and I am confused about my feelings for a friend of mine.
This friend and I have been close for a long time and I find myself feeling romantically attracted to her and mostly physically attracted to her accept for one thing. I will explain my dilemma now.
She is also a transexual only she is a pre-op MTF(male to female) which means she hasn't had bottom surgery yet, making her penis a vagina. I consider myself a straight male in a female body and therefore am not attracted to penis'. She knows this and is ok with it, but I find myself unsure of what to do.
I am attracted to her emotionally, but not so much physically because of that.
We slept together once and it was ok. I was nervous so it didn't go as well as it could, but then I said that maybe we should hold off because I realized I wasn't into BDSM like she was, but I have that issue figured out. She is fine with that. We communicate everything before hand.
I don't want to keep changing my mind because I feel like I am using her, even though she keeps telling me I wouldn't be. I don't want to keep changing my mind, but I am unsure of how to persu my feelings.
Should I leave it at friendship? or should I keep trying more on an expiremental basis until we both know what we want? what I want?
I don't know.
Advice would be great!
Thank you.
-Nathan
My, my this is quite a predicament.
I think that perhaps you should share the fact that you find her penis a little bit of a problem.
I am assuming that as you are using the term pre-op for both of you that you will both be having realignment surgery at some point in the future.
I understand that it must be difficult for both of you to resist the temptation of having sex as you are both obviously very attracted to one another emotionally and are sharing this experience however, I would suggest that you both try to hold off on having sex until both of you have had surgery and can re-evaluate how you feel. It may be that you have already found your soulmate however, there is a small chance that you havn't and all this to-ing and fro-ing on whether or not to have sexual relations with one another could end up with both of you losing a very very very good and dear friend.
I hope this helped.
Take Care!
ok,they say the best advisors before going on a date are girls so i was wondering what to do on this particular date.First off,I need some tips on my appearance.I'm not saying i should transform or anything,but do you girls have any tips on how to give a better image.anyway,i'm 17,hawaiian/asian and here's the link
http://www.friendster.com/user.php?statpos=bc&uid=47042234
the pic with my black hair is the latest,so yeah...i'm free to any suggestions,either cutting my hair or other stuff.
p.s:I know every liking is individual so i'm not asking for a perfect image,just makeover tips for this date.thanks
I really like the photo with your hair long and striaghtened although, a shorter hair style may suit you. Other than that, make sure you have a nice long shower before hand (this will relax you) and smelling good is essential. Every woman loves a man that smells good. (Unless the male influences in your life have very good taste I wouldn't suggest borrowing their aftershave....lol).
Oh, and before I forget a nice pair of clean shoes - it is one of the first things that most women notice.
Apart from all that - just remember to be yourself - that's really the most important thing.
Good luck and have fun!
I love this boy we'll call him "L". Well I dated him off and on for a year. He meant a whole lot to me and still does. I'm 15, I'll be 16 soon, and he's 16, 17 soon. I've known L for over 2 years and we've always had a "thing" for each other. After we seriously broke up from our year relationship, I was devastated. We needed it though, and while I was away from him I gained a lot of self confidence. It seems like he did the opposite. He's started to go down hill. We didn't talk for 4 months, and we have just recently started talking again. I miss him so much, and I want to help him get his stuff back together. More than anything, I want him to pull himself back together, and I want to help because I want him to know I'm here for him. I can't tell him this cause I'm scared he'll be scared away. Lately, I've also had the urge to have sex with him. I don't know why cause I haven't done anything with him since we broke up, and I'm a virgin and so is he. I've always thought he would be my first, because he is the first guy I've ever felt this connection with. I know all the pros and cons, I've evaluated it thoroughly and I know it's probably more of a bad idea, but I can't help but want it. He seems kind of interested in me, because he'll call me first and come see me when I want him to. I just don't really know what to do. Please help mee!! Thank you!
First of all let me say that the advice below is excellent!
I think the most important thing for 'L' is to be his friend. Praise him for the good things he does and encourage him to try new things/meet new people.
Tell him that we learn by our mistakes and should never regret anything as every mistake/failure/success makes us the individuals we are.
Moving on to the urge that you have to have sex with him. It may be that as you have previously been in a realtionship with him that you feel it would be "safe" to enter into a physical relationship with him.
Unfortunately, going down this route could in fact be very wrong for both of you. It may exaccerbate his self confidence issues and/or leave you feeling used if he does become more confident and decide that he wants a relationship with someone else.
When the time is right you will meet the person to lose your virginity to. This is not a decision to be taken lightly (as I think you are already aware). You should wait until you are in a longterm, secure and happy relationship with someone who is ready to take this step with you.
From my experience, girls who have rushed in because of their urges now regret it. I waited until I was in a loving relationship (which on reflection ended around nine months later) however, I do not regret it.
Take your time and be 100% sure before you take this next step.
this is very embarrassing, but my boyfriend often teases me about having hair around my butt hole. is this normal? I'm a 17 year old girl and i was wondering if its normal or not. its not very hairy at all but there is a tiny amount of hair around it.. is that weird?
This is completely normal! Everyone has hair around this area. You can have this waxed but it is your personal preference.
Your boyfriend is being a little insensitive however I can assure you that it is highly unlikely you will never have as much hair around there as he does and perhaps you should point this out to him?????!!!!
I have big breast.
and im not sure if i have veins or stretch marks on them.
a) whast the differnce
b) how do i know what i have
c) how to i get rid!!!
I too have big breast and can tell you that usually, leading up to and during your period or when you are aroused you can see veins. These will be blue coloured and unfortunately there isn't really much you can do about them.
As for stretch marks, these are usually reddish/purple in colour and over time will fade to a silver(ish) colour.
There is no "cure" for stretch marks however, I have found that Bio-Oil really really helps with stretch marks and scars etc. It makes them fade quicker and sometimes reduces the size of them.
If you want to try and cover up stretch marks then a spray tan will usually do the trick. I wouldn't recommend sunbathing as this will just damage the skin and give it a bad appearance.
Hope this helps.
ok so im 15/f and im not what you would call fat, but im not what you would call skinny either. i weigh 120 pounds and i want to lose 15, and i kind of want abs. the problem is i have really bad asthma and i cant go running for 2 minutes without like hyperventelating(sp?). and running is supposed to keep you in shape, yet i can't seem to do that. well i was wondering if there was any plans that i could go on without having to pay or sign up for anything. because i have no clue on how to lose 15 pounds. people on tv losing weight, like made, make it look so easy, and i always wonder how. i just want to get in shape so i can feel good, not to starve myself. and i was wondering what are some really good exercises to build up abs, and arm and legs pretty much, so that i dont have as much fat on them. thanks for reading and hopefully you can help :]
Can I first of all say that 120 pounds is slim!!!!
Either way, if you want to exercise, become healthier and tone up, the best way for you to do this would be swimming. This exercises every muscle in your body and has in many cases improved the effects of asthma as you exercise the lungs as well and make them stronger.
I think that if you can manage to go swimming for 30 mins every day or an hour three times a week you will see results.
If you want to do this healthily without any negative effects for your body please bear in mind that there really is no quick fix. If you exercise/swim regularly it will take 12 weeks to really notice a big difference however when you do, 12 weeks will seem like they have flown by and your hard work will have paii off.
Hope this helps.
ok so i have a hugeee problem. i sort of have bags under my eyes. its not a puffiness from allergies or from sickness or anything, its just like there. it makes me feel really self concious because they are kinda of big. it makes me feel really old because i use old womans eye reguvinating stuff, and im only fifteen. i was wondering of any homeade or store bought products to use to make my eyes look better, other than cucumbers? and does the burts bees eye cream work? thanks in advance.
It is not too unusal for someone of your age to have puffiness around the eyes. You should make sure that you get enough sleep (at least 8-10 hours per night) and drink plenty of water. Depending on where you live and the humidity etc the amount will vary however a good rule is at least 3 litres a day.
Once you start doing this it will take a few weeks to see any results however I would also advise using an eye cream that has SPF in it to protect the delicate eye area from the sun (even in winter).
Clinique do a very good one and although it is more expensive than some other brands a little goes a long long way so it will last a lot longer. On that note, you don't need a lot of eye cream to see results - too much is just a waste.
http://www.clinique.com/templates/products/multiproduct.tmpl?CATEGORY_ID=CATEGORY4899&cm_sp=sidenavs-_-skincare-_-Eye%20Treatment
This link will take you to Clinique's website where you will find all of their eye creams.
Garnier also do some great eye creams (Stop in the orange tube and Nutrionist in the green tube).
http://www.garnier.com/index.aspx
This link will take you to Garnier's website.
Hope this helped.
15/f
when you shave down there lol
are you suppose to shave the top
OR
just by the opening of the vagina and around it?
what do most girls do
Don't use a razor down there! You can use it for your bikini line however most women end up with "razor rash".
My advice would be to either have it waxed (by a professional as if you don't know what you are doing you can end up very sore and bruised) or buy some hair removal cream (specifically for the bikin line area). Veet is a good one. This should not be used on the inside area of your vagina however is safe to use just about anywhere you want. Always read the instructions and don't leave it on too long.
As for what most girls do, well it's really up to you everyone is different. Some girls don't like to have anything at all whilst other just like a little "landing strip" at the top. It's entirely your decision and as it will grow back you can always try out a few different ways and see what suits you best.