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E-mail: Mommys_Love355@yahoo.com
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Location: New Jersey
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My best friend fucked my brother when i asked her not to. Do i have a right to be mad at her? Or am i over reacting? (link)
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You and your best friend will not always agree on everything. Sure you have the right to be upset with her because you did ask her not to, but think about it from her point of view, put yourself in her shoes for a second. Do you really think she did it to make you mad, or was she doing it because it's what she wanted, maybe she was just curious, And there is nothing better than satisfying your curiosity. I highly doubt if she wanted to hurt or upset you if your calling her your best friend. Sometimes people have to know for themselves, just hearing it from someone else is not enough.
Talk it out with your best friend. Tell her how you feel. Express your opinions in a positive manner. Arguing will not solve anything. Take your time to cool off and then approach your friend with the whole situation. Ask her why she still did it. Findout what was going through her mind.
Let me know how things workout.
(: Smilez Til Later :)
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Hi. OK, heres the deal ive know this guy since 5th grade and im now a freshman in high school. This guy is one of my brothers best friends. Now, me and this guy talk all the time over the computer and on the phone but when he comes over to hang with my brother he doesnt even say "Hi." Me and him FLIRT all the time on the computer but i seems like when hes around my brother hes actting different. I just cant seem to get the nerve to ask him if he likes me the way i like him. What should i do ? Should i just ask him i he likes me? Or should i just move on? (link)
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Well if you really like him you would ask him because you would want to take the next step with him. But from what i hear i think he doesn't talk to you the way he does around your brother is because he doesn't want your brother to findout about you two. Talk to your new boyfriend :) tell him how you feel. Let him know you want to be with him, and you don't want to have to hide your relationship from your brother. The best thing you can do is just open up right now, whether on the phone or the computer, but it would mean alot more if you did it in person.
Let me know how things workout for you and your husband.
(: Smilez Til Later :)
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i have this one friend and uhh. she gets me so mad. she doesnt even know this guy, and then she TELLS me to IM him, so i did, and then she tells me i'm messing everything up, and all i said was "Hey im mels friend" OH. and by the way, her name isnt even mel. she made this girl up. and pretends to be some girl named mel, and talks to them and everything. so she got all mad at me, and was like yelling at me. and i was like whats the big deal? you dont even know him. he doesnt even know you. & then so this kid is like yelling his head off at me, and shes like taking his side. and it was just rawrr really patheic.
what should i do? (link)
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Let you friend know how you feel.
1.Tell your friend to just be herself and stop lying. Lying doesn't get you anywhere in life. It's alot better and easier to just tell the truth because all she is going to do is just dig a whole, deeper and deeper, and eventually she's not going to be able to get out of it.
2.Leave her and that part of her life alone so should won't have any reason to get upset with you anymore.That's your best bet.
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15/f. Pardon me if this is long. But it's ruining my life.
Last year I was a really lonely and pathetic teenager. At 14, I had no friends I could trust, and all that revolved around my mind, was school and homework. And then I stumbled upon an online forum. There, I made lots of friends and became so much happier. I had gotten more social through the ways of the internet chatroom. The people there all shared my interests and were so nice and sweet to me. It was almost like a dream. I actually thought I was fitting in somewhere. Ever since, to this day, it has become an addiction. Particularly because of one guy. Let's call him "Vibrator". Vibrator is 3 and a half years older than me. That makes him...(well, you do the math, if I'm 15 1/2) And he lives in North America (as I do) He shares my music interests, hobbies and other things such as this. When he talks to me (and we have been talking online on MSN and AIM for a course of one year) he is always so sweet and sugary and amazing. I feel like I've known Vibrator forever. He always compliments me and tells me I'm pretty. It makes me feel amazing. But, I'm a bit paranoid, because I've only seen like ONE picture of him! And I'm always sending him pictures o.o And everything we discuss....personally..is always about me. So I feel as if...he wants to know about me, but never tells me about himself. Is he hiding something? I don't know what to do ! I'm so emotionally attached to him. And he flirts with other girls too, and then tells me later that he has no "sexual" feelings for me. He tells me that we should meet and he tells me he wants to. He manipulates and plays with my feelings. He really is ruining my life. I hate him, but at the same time I like him a lot. I don't know what to do. I really want to meet him. But I'm so unsure. It's becoming an obsession talking to him. And he gets mad very frequently...when he does, I cry. He upsets me a lot. But then he apologizes and plays with me...like that. I cry over him. I can't tell this to anyone. Not even my best friend, because I'm too embarrassed to admit that I like someone online.
What should I do? Please. :( Any piece of advice would be helpful. (link)
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Well seriosuly he sounds like the typical online older guy. Tells you want you want to hear, compliments you 24/7, makes you feel like your the only girl that matters, makes you feel like you love him because once you love someone and you think there the right person then they have you in there trap.( i don't say trap meaning that he is a sexual predator, but you can't be too sure. He is the exact description of one. Most sexual predators tell people that they have no sexual feelings for the other person so that would make them feel more comfortable, but all they really want is sex, and if he is pressuring you to come and see him then i would really make my next moves careful ones.) Once you have grown these uncurable feelings for anyone it's hard to disappoint them doing anything. You feel as if your obligated to not let him down. Which is natural for anyone who loves someone, but the question is does he love you back, does he feel the same way. From my opinion, no. He wouldn't be flirting with other girls if he really loved you. You would be his main focus and there would be no need for any other girls. And i can guarantee that when you two first started talking he wasn't getting mad or upset with you.
From putting everything together, his anger, his flirting, him only letting you see one picture of him, his compliments for you and his non-sexual feelings for you, and what i know about sexual predators i would say that you need to find out alot more about him before you even consider seeing him, be careful, take things slow, really think about if he is the right guy before you say you love him...you can do that by making a list of what you want in a boyfriend and well if he has everything you want then maybe he is the onef for you. Just be safe.
This subject is very important to me, and i would love if you could contact me with more information. You can write to my email, and i have a aim. I'm available 24/7 sweetheart.
(: Smilez til Later :)
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I recently saw a question here....it kind of resembles mine. about online relationships. I'm a 15 year old girl and my best friend (who is also a girl) is 18. I don't know WHAT THE HELL is going on in her mind. She's always depressed, and upset. Over and over. So what does she do? She gets herself an online boyfriend. They start talking. Sending e-mails on and off. And listening to each other talk through MSN voice clips. (This has been going on for a year). Whenever I question her about the reason for this..she always tells me "how can you say that? I love him!" In my mind, I'm thinking (how do you love him? you don't even KNOW him!) That doesn't worry me so much though. Because we live in a different country than him. What DOES worry me...is that she has seen only 2 pictures of him! And the pictures that she has seen, were blurry, and of really bad quality. I'm trying to knock some frikkin' sense into her. She's sending him all of these pictures of herself because he, very nicely, asks for them (I've talked to him before, he's a total FAKE nutcase). I can't stop her. She has plans to move in with him. how can you move in with a stranger ...of whom you only saw...2 horrible-quality pictures of? Maybe that's not even him! And she still has so much trust for him. I tried to sit down and talk to her. She won't listen. What should I do? I don't want her to ruin her life! Could this be a wanting of attention? Is she desperate? :( (link)
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Well i don't necessarily think she's ruining her life because she has an online boyfriend, but i do agree with you when you say this all could have been a wanting of attention. Actually i think at first it may have been. From what you have told me she's happy now because she has someone to show her love and affection, besides her family and friends. Most of the time that's how all online relationships start. People go online to be noticed, to be recognized, maybe even to be accpeted, to get that wanted feeling,to find someone who cares,someone who will understand you, someone to listen to you when no one else is around...etc. you have told me that she was depressed and upset all the time, and now that she has what she has been craving she satisfied.
The best advice i have for you is to just be there and look out for your friend. Share your feelings with her. Tell her that you don't get a comfortable feeling from that guy. But you also have to keep in the back of your mind you and your friend may not have the same taste in guys. What you find repulsive, your friend may find attractive.
Let me know how things workout.
(: Smilez Til Later :)
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Is it true that if you keep your bra on at night and it's a padded one they won't grow much because you didn't give them room to grow?? (link)
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Well from experience, no. But it is true that if you wear your bra all day and all night that they will sit better, but it's not something that you can just start at any time. You would have had to been doing it since you started growing.
(: Smilez Til Later :)
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i'm a 15 year old girl and i've recently had sex. i still care about the boy i did it with. in fact i think i love him. he's still there for me, all sex has done is make us closer than ever, but it's driving me nuts cause i can;t tell my mom. i want to, we used to be really close, and this is a huge thing, but she would be furious, and i don't think i'd ever see my boyfriend again and i couldn't live with that. what do i do? (link)
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Well, you say that you and your mother use to be really close, why aren't you still close?....
I think around those adolescence years, parents and teenagers disagree on alot of things. It's normal. Some parents are protective and that tends to make them worry. And some parents are over-protective, and they just worry all the time. Here's your part, you have to figure out which category your mother fits under. I'm not saying that if she's over-protective don't tell her because she'll freak, you would just have to go about the situation a little diffrently opposed to her being protective.
It really sounds like you want that special bond back with your mother. One thing i will never do is to tell someone to lie, as long as your not lying to her then i think it's okay that you keep it from her. But on the other hand, if you do tell her she would feel as if you trust her and being that this is a huge topic i think it would bring you two even closer together.
If she doesn't suspect that your doing anything then she may be surprised, and shocked, and possibly get upset. But if she does suspect that you have been having sex then she may handle the situation a little better because it's kind of like she already knew she just had no proof.
Another thing, no matter whether your mom is protective or over-protective, there going to ask have you used a condom. (I hope you did) I'm not saying that being pregnant at 15 is a bad thing, it's just something you shoudn't consider until you can provide for yourself and your baby.
Speaking from an experienced point of view (and yes i was pregnant at the age of 14) I think you should tell her that you have had sex, and whether or not you have been using protection.
Let me know how it goes.
(: *Smilez Til Later* :)
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Hello, I am a 22 year old FTM(female to male) transman seeking advice on operative status.
I am confused as to what constitutes what status I am in terms of the transexual operative system. I consider myself a man in gender identity, but I have not started medical transition, so I am still seen as a female on the outside.
I am unsure if I am even going to transition in my lifetime. I keep flip-flopping between yes and no.
So would that make me pre-op or non-op?
I haven't started transitioning in dress much seeing as clothes are expensive. I have a little socially, like my trans friends call me by my male name and refer to me as male. Unfortunately I have told many other friends but they don't refer to me as male no matter how many times I tell them.
Other then that I am still very much closeted and don't mention my identity much. I often find myself questioning if it's even worth me coming out if I planned not to transition? Could I still claim myself a man if I didn't transition? or would it be a waste?
It would be a struggle even if I did transition because it would be difficult for everyone around me including my family.
Very difficult to decide.
So do these things make me pre-op or non-op?
-Nathan
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So would that make me pre-op or non-op?...This is a question relying on opinion, and well whether your going to do it or not.
I often find myself questioning if it's even worth me coming out if I planned not to transition?...Of course, but only if your comfortable with yourself, if your satisfied with who you are and the people around you can't accept you then can they really call themselves your friends. And as far as family goes,they are supposed to be around forever, stick with you through thick and thin, love you no matter what.
Could I still claim myself a man if I didn't transition? or would it be a waste?...know you have heard this before, You are who you want to be and you can be anything. I have plenty of female friends that are lesbian that consider themeslves to be males, not only because they dress like one or have the sexual preference of a man but because that's who they really are inside.
Very difficult to decide...Ask your self,what is it that you really want, but also who you really want to be seen as. and then i you can answer this question....
Am i pre-op or non-op?...
Let me know if you need any help, i'll always be around nathan.
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Lately I've been getting angry over nothing. It's getting really weird. Like tonight I said hi to someone I knew and they didn't say hi back so I kept walking and got really angry and I felt like stabbing or punching something. Even if I think abut something it will trigger anger all of a sudden and I'll feel like stabbing something.
What's going on with me?
How can I do anythiing about it?
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Sometimes it doesn't have to be a death in the family or losing a loved one to some jerk...lol. Sometimes it's just life, maybe the way we live it,or maybe were not satisfied with it. First to help you (how i help my other friends) i would need to know what it is that's bothering you so we could find a solution to your anger problem, but as you already said your not sure what it is. Back to the whole fed up with life thing...maybe you need some time just to yourself. you know "you time". when everything is about you. My friends find that taking maybe a couple days away from everyone and everything is very helpful. Just relax, pamper yourself if need be. These next few days are all about you. But i would also recommend that you look into anger management. You feeling as if you want to stab something over a small situation is very serious, and the last thing i would want is you going to jail. But for the next few days take my advice and cool off buddy, let me know how things work out?...
(: *Smilez Til Later* :)
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