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Lately I've been getting angry over nothing. It's getting really weird. Like tonight I said hi to someone I knew and they didn't say hi back so I kept walking and got really angry and I felt like stabbing or punching something. Even if I think abut something it will trigger anger all of a sudden and I'll feel like stabbing something.
What's going on with me?
How can I do anythiing about it?
Thanks
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Maybe give some free advice about: Mental health?
There is something big (that may not have even seemed big to you) in your life that has made you angry. Most likely rooted in your family life. To completely get rid of the angry feelings you will at one point have to address whatever this was that has made you so angry. But to treat the SYMPTOMS (like your example of getting angry over "nothing")
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* Take a "time out." Although it may seem cliche, counting to 10 before reacting, or leaving the situation altogether, really can defuse your temper.
* Do something physically exerting. Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially if you're about to erupt. Go for a brisk walk or a run, swim, lift weights or shoot baskets.
* Find ways to calm and soothe yourself. Practice deep-breathing exercises, visualize a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase to yourself, such as "take it easy." You can also listen to music, paint, journal or do yoga.
* Once you're calm, express your anger as soon as possible so that you aren't left stewing. If you simply can't express your anger in a controlled manner to the person who angered you, try talking to a family member, friend, counselor or another trusted person.
* Think carefully before you say anything so that you don't end up saying something you'll regret. Write a script and rehearse it so that you can stick to the issues.
* Work with the person who angered you to identify solutions to the situation.
* Use "I" statements when describing the problem to avoid criticizing or placing blame. For instance, say "I'm upset you didn't help with the housework this evening," instead of, "You should have helped with the housework." To do otherwise will likely upset the other person and escalate tensions.
* Don't hold a grudge. Forgive the other person. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want.
* Use humor to release tensions, such as imagining yourself or the other person in silly situations. Don't use sarcasm, though — it's just another form of unhealthy expression.
* Keep an anger log to identify the kinds of situations that set you off and to monitor your reactions.
* Practice relaxation skills. Learning skills to relax and de-stress can also help control your temper when it may flare up.
These may not all apply to you, but you get the idea. Just remember that a lot of times it is not worth it to blow up, because it just ends up damaging YOU quite literally (increased blood pressure, stress levels, headaches, etc.).
Hope this helped, and good luck.
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It could just be hormones, or it could be plenty of other things.
I'm bi polar, so i understand how those feelings feel.
If the feelings persist or they get worse, go to a local phsycatris and get tested for any type of mental illness.
If something comes up, you arent crazy, don't worry.
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Sometimes it doesn't have to be a death in the family or losing a loved one to some jerk...lol. Sometimes it's just life, maybe the way we live it,or maybe were not satisfied with it. First to help you (how i help my other friends) i would need to know what it is that's bothering you so we could find a solution to your anger problem, but as you already said your not sure what it is. Back to the whole fed up with life thing...maybe you need some time just to yourself. you know "you time". when everything is about you. My friends find that taking maybe a couple days away from everyone and everything is very helpful. Just relax, pamper yourself if need be. These next few days are all about you. But i would also recommend that you look into anger management. You feeling as if you want to stab something over a small situation is very serious, and the last thing i would want is you going to jail. But for the next few days take my advice and cool off buddy, let me know how things work out?...
(: *Smilez Til Later* :)
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Hey-
I've answered a question similar to this before.. so I'm going to copy and paste what I said, and hopefully it will help you:
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Well.. I am always irritable after I get home from school [its summer so it hasn't been that often].. and I figured out why. It is because I was having to get up at 6:00 in the morning every day [couldn't sleep in on weekends because I have church on Sundays and chores on Saturdays] and going to bed at midnight or later [y'know.. the time when you can go to Wendy's or Burger King and STILL get a meal? LOL!]. Well.. because of this.. I wasn't getting enough sleep.
Let's explore this thought. Have you been getting enough sleep? That is, have you been getting AT LEAST 8 hours, maybe 9? I know what you're thinking. Its summer! Of course I have! I've been sleeping in every day! Well yes, its summer.. and people our age [I'm assuming you're a teenager] tend to stay up, whether to be "cool" or because they have a TV show to watch or whatever. Going to bed at 1am, 2am, or 3am, or any time AFTER 11pm isn't the smartest thing to do. I read somewhere that your body actually does most of its recharging, I guess, between 11pm and 2am, and if you aren't asleep during most or all of that time.. you're going to be extremely tired the rest of that day. So.. if you're tired.. normal things that wouldn't cause you to be angry will be magnified times a million.. and they will easily piss you off. Like for me, if I'm really tired, and someone asks me to do something.. I get mad.
If that isn't the case, let's explore another possible factor: Stress. Are you stressed or worried about anything? Do you have something coming up that you don't want to do, but you have to do it? This happens to me a lot.. and it just causes me to be stressed out, and when I'm stressed, I'm much like how I am when I'm tired- I get pissed easily. If this is the case, that you are stressed, then just take things slowly and one at a time. Don't let simple things overwhelm you.
If that isn't the case... just try relaxing. If you feel that you're irritable and pissed off.. find a place to sit and calm down.. like your bedroom, somewhere outside, or any soothing place to be. As for your actions.. I know how you feel. I get really embarrassed that I acted a certain way, and I don't feel like I belong. After you are calm, go back to the people you "flipped" out on, and just apologize for what you did. You don't have to make up excuses.. just be completely honest.
Good luck.. and I actually took time to answer this, because I relate well to this situation, and I felt obliged to help you.
Hopefully that helps.. here is a search that might be able to help you:
--Jack
(15/m)
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