Hey evryone! My name's Stefana and I love giving advice and helping people!!! You can just ask me any question you have about love, friendships, and family problems...and I'll do my best to give you the best advice I can!!!!!!
So ask away!...
E-mail: stefana3@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Ontario, Canada
Occupation: Student
Age: 17
Member Since: August 10, 2007
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My 16th birthday is coming up in July and I want to have a fairly BIG party. The problem is I'm on a fairly low budget. My parents will spend as much as I request almost, but I don't want to run them dry. I live near New Orleans. Any ideas? (link)
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Well my sweet 16's on Feb. 16th! So that's REALLY soon! :D
and wat I'm doing is inviting my close friends and renting a limo and going to a dance! I'm excited!!!
but if you don't wanna do that, you could always go for the old fashioned sleepover...or I'm not sure what else...It took me 6 months to figure out my birthday plan!
Well good luck with your birthday!
:)
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ii really like this boy :( (link)
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Well if you really love him and don't think you'd be able to just move on then I think that you could try telling him how you really feel by saying that you really like him and that he should give you a chance(if you haven't already tried that), but if you have and he rejected you or if when you do try this and he still rejects you then I'm really sorry, but there's not much more you can do. Some things just aren't ment to be and I know it hurts, but I'm sure you'll find someone else soon enough and he'll love you probably even more than you love him! :)
Anyway, I hope things work out between you and that guy, but if they don't...don't go getting all depressed! Just keep your head up and stay positive and you'll find the right guy for you! :)
*Good Luck!*
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latley i have been feeling like the world is out to get me. i feel like this is the worst year of my life. and ill tell you why. the boyfriend of almost a year broke up with in the beginning of the school year b.c well he said he doesnt know. so thats great then like a week after that i find a new guy from our school and hes just wikid hott and being upset as i was i made out with him. and the ex thought i didnt love him so he didnt ask me to be his girlfriend again. then the hott guy i hooked up with is flirting with other girls and my parents hate him and are arguing with me about him so i just forgot about him was hurt that another guy hurt me but w.e....then my ipod got taken away by some teacher i got it back with out getting a detention or iss or phone call home so it was all good but made me nervous as hell. through the year i have made new friends they are known as the popular girls and when im with them i dont know who i am im not acting like my old self i miss me i dont even know me any more. then a couple weeks lata a teacher for some stupid reason thougt i lied to her so she called my parents so they grounded me until febuary 11 now if thats not pissing me off enought they are always yelling at me to do this whats wrong blah blah blah and yesterday we got the report card and fisrt semester i had social and i almost failed and it was the only class that i was doing horrible in i tried my hardest to do good but apparently not i could of done better my dad says so now im not alowed to do sports get a job go out nothing. from what he says so im stuck froever my mom messages me on facebook and i dont know if she says im grounded or wat but but she had the topic of the message GROUNDED and the message saying report card? what the hell. so thats just great. and my mom is having all these secrets and i dont want to hear them idont know what they are about but they are worrying me. so im just sick of it and you know its been the worst year ever when someone says to you "wow you are having a bad year". i try to be happy putting a stupid facke ass smile on when really i just want to scream for help i dont know what to do my gpa for school needs to be over a 80 to get a phone and rite now its a 74 and its pissing me off to no limit im trying hard i have 80s and above in all classes except fucking social nd social is over with but i have a feeling if i dont have like a 90 in all classes now that the grade average is going to keep me the same and that means no phone. which scuks i need something good to happen im sick of this i want to cry all the time. and my dads always like wheres the smile whats wrong but if i tell him hell just get mad and ground me some more wich is o so fabulous they are yelling at me for stupid shit and grounding me like i just murderd a cat and left it in the middle of the living room for all to see. i have a problem and i dont know if its something i can control but i dont like the way im living i just want it all to stop but one thing comes to another and its all coming down on me like bricks. what do i do. plz help i cant do this ne more. :[ i need to be my laughing old self again where is she.? (link)
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Whoa, I also used to be like really depressed before and everything, but I helped myself become happy again! The trick to it all is just to always think positively and be optimistic. I know it sounds like no use, but if you just focus on your studies and forget about the boys or whatever then your parents will be proud of you and you'll be happy again! Just never give up and you can get through this! You could try talking to your parents and explaining how you feel. I'm sure they'll understand! It doesn't hurt to try after all...and remember there's always some1 out there who has a WAY worse life then you. So just relax, breath, and take each day as it comes to u...step by step(roll with the punches)lol...you will get better...and here's another cliche for you, 'when there's a will, there's a way', but it's SO true!
*Good Luck!*
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Im in this play at my school and opening night is coming up and I'm nervous! There is going to be alot of people watching and in my role, i have to tell the story to the auidence, like a narrator. Any advice to make the nervousness go away?
(14/f)
P.S My first play! Its called "Antigone". (link)
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Before you're about to go on, drink lots of water and eat a banana, don't ask..lol..it's suppose to help calm your nerves.
Now when you're speaking to the audience, try to look above their heads. Just look straight ahead so then it won't seem as scary.
Sorry, that's all I got...hope it helps!
*Good Luck!*
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Just recently I told my boyfriend how I truly
felt, that I wasn't as happy with our relationship like before and he said he felt the same way. Then he went on about how it feels like I don't care about him at school. Also he told me how it seems when I show up to his group in the morning he feels he can't act himself or I'll think he's "fudging weird" and just leave. Which is true because his
group of friends do embarrass me. They are loud, obnoxious, and weird. He can be sometimes too and I get really annoyed. We can't find a solution to our problem and I need help fast! Any ideas to what we should do? We've been dating for 2 months.
we're both juniors in high school. (link)
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Well I think you both should really try talking it out. He should be able to feel like he CAN be himself because it's horrible if a boyfriend and girlfriend can't be themselves around eachother!
Did you talk to him how his friends embarrass you? If not, you should! I'm sure he'll understand...
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How do yall have a website design? (link)
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Well I know that www.piczo.com is a website creating site. That's how I created my website!
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if you are not on birth control and you have sex with a guy wearing a condom what is the chance of getting pregnant? (link)
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Well if the condom didn't break then there's no chance of you being pregnant...
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well you know how if someone you know/you're having suicidal thoughts you should tell someone or call that hotline or whatever? well is it really that necessary? i myself on occasion have suicidal thoughts/feelings and if somebody did that to me i would honestly feel betrayed and i think it would be completely unnecessary. i'm not a doctor, so i guess i would not know for sure. but if i'm having or sometimes have thoughts about suicide is it really that big of a deal that needs immediate attention? like i don't think about it all the time only occasionally.. (link)
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Yah! It most definatly needs imediate attention!!!!!!
If you ignore it then things are just gonna get worse...so I suggest you get help...
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k so picture day is tommorow, and i have a zit right smack dab on my face, and its so noticable. HELP! (link)
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Try putting like lots of cover up on it or something...also before you go to bed, if you have some zit cream, you can try putting that on the zit to help the swelling go down. If you don't have any zit cream then toothpaste works too.
~Hope I helped!
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all right, so after he found out I liked him, it turned out he liked me too. but he doesn't TALK to me. and he hasn't looked at me all day. maybe it's cos he's shy, but isn't that pathetic? a little glance in the hallway isn't too scary, is it? augh.
whenever I smile at him, he looks the other way. but the other day, I glanced at him to see he was looking at me, and that was it.
basically, is it cos he's really shy or doesn't like me etc.? thanks! (link)
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Well I think that he does like you, but he's just shy. So you should try talking to him first and then hopefully he'll get more comfortable around you and then he'll be able to start some conversations too.
So good luck with that...I hope I helped!:)
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hey ; i'm 14 & i want to lose some weight; i'm about average weight so i'm not like skinnyish but i'm not overweight - i'm "just right." i want to lose a little weight though; nothing too drastic. i just want to drop some weight around my stomach/leg areas. does anybody have any foods i should avoid/eat or any good excercises i could do that don't take up too much time? my scedules pretty packed with sports & dance which i know helps you to lose weight but it doesn't seem to be doing anything. most gyms around where i live don't permit members under 18; but i'm looking into a spinning class. any help is greatly appreciated! (link)
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Excercise: Well, for the stomach you could try doing some crunches/sit ups. Start with 10 or 20/day and when it gets really easy than start doing more. As for the legs, you could do some thigh smoothers or squats...you could try running/jogging, but that helps you lose weight all over.
Food: Eat lots of fruits and vegetables...drink plenty of water. Avoid any saturated fats...
Ps. Sorry if this didn't help much, but that's all I can think of at the time.
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Yeah. So I'm over life if I don't get a boyfriend by the time I'm 16 because everyone I know got a boyfriend by the time they were 16. I want to find my true love. i want a guy to stay with me forever not just while we're having sex. Forever! So, am I ever going to find my true love??? or is this just not real. I really need to know.. (link)
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Well, right now I can tell you that one day you will definatly find your "one true love" because I believe that there is one in this world for everyone...but I can't tell you when that will happen because I'm not psychic..lol..if I were you, I just wouldn't worry too much about it because you know it will happen sooner or later and the more you wait and the more patient you are, the better it will work out for you because all those people that rush into relationships are less satisfied than the ones that wait!
This certainly is NO reason to give up on life! Imagine if everyone gave up on life when they couldn't find love at 16 years old!...Than that would be a sad thing and there will be many people dying.
I know that you're upset about this, but my advice to you is to just not worry and live life normally because the moment when you're not looking for love...that's when love will find you!:)
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Things have happened to me and everything sucks. People hate me and I feel like everyone else fits in and I really lack that. I don't know anymore but I've never been happy and its starting to make me want to end everything and not have to deal with guys that don't like me and girls that hate me and yeah guys that hate me. I really need help I think. (link)
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I went through exactly what you're going through! The trick is to always be positive...I know it can be hard sometimes, but you have to try. Never think that everyone hates you! Why do you assume that both guys and girls hate you??? I'm sure you didn't do anything mean to them..so why would they, just out of the blue, hate you? If you wanna get on everybody's good side...just be really friendly, smile, and give lots of compliments! Then, I'm sure people will like you because they'll see how nice you really are. Now, in order to be this friendly, you have to be a positive person...a optimist! You think you can do that?...I hope so!
*Good Luck*
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So, usually I'm used to answering these type of quetions. but, I guess I need your advice. because i'm not sure how to help myself.
[its not as long as it seems, i just skipped alot of lines, PLEASE i beg you, read]
14/f
You know how some people will say, 'there having a bad week' and they either tell you, how they got grounded, or got a F on a big test.
Well imagine this..
Imagine losing your whole group of friend, because they ditched you, for a huge graduation dance, when they were all going out to dinner together, and they didn't invite you, and you've been friends with all of them for atleast 4 or 5 years.
So, right now, your probably thinking.. that sucks. but its not the end of the world.
ok now imagine you just lost your best guy friend, who you were like madly inlove with, but a couple mistakes, mess up your friendship, and you were friends with him for 4 years. not friends actually, best friends. like the kinda guy you tell everything too.
now, your probably thinking, that sucks even more. but you can always make new friends.
OK. now imagine, your dog, your dog, not the family dog, your dog, dies. and gets hit by a car, early in the moring before you going to school.
now, i bet your saying wow now this really does suck for her.
BUT. wait theres more. now imagine, before ALL this happened, you talked about switching schools, just to one person, but they told everyone. So, now that the whole school knows, you decide you gotta go and switch. because if you don't, it will most likely just get worse at your school and people will call you a liar.
So, now your out of your comfort zone, your in a place, where things are way different.
this didnt all happen over a long period of time, it happened to me in a week. 1 week. how would you deal with it?
I'm asking for your advice. In the beginning of all this when it all happened, I covered up my sadness, I smiled and laughed, like I always normaly would. But, its starting to hit me now, hard. I'm not smiling too much, and i find myself losing track of my grades. I'm no longer focusing, and starting not to want to do normal activities. Since I took a class in depression, I know these are early signs of depression. I want to stop it before I get worse.
But, I do not, do not want to see a therapist. My mom would freak. And it would make me feel uncomfortable around my family. So, thats a total noway. I'm strong when it comes to things like this. I can make it, if I just know how to. But, as of right now I don't. I'm normaly a A and 2 Bs [rarely] student. My grades have dropped tremendosly.
I need your help. Your advice will mean a great deal to me. Please help me in any way possible.
thank you very much. (link)
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Wow! and I thought my life was bad..lol..I am so sorry that this happened to you! I think it's really not fair how your friends ditched you just for a stupid dance...they weren't real friends if they did that. Just try talking to someone in your family because you need to talk to someone! Just hang in there and things will get better soon. Always stay positive, but if you really feel like you need to cry..just cry it all out and you'll feel way better after. I am REALLY sorry about you losing your best guy friend and your dog dying...I know how you must feel. Maybe you could try writing out your feelings on paper, that always works for me or just relax, listen to music...that'll help you deal with the problems. I hope my advice helped!
*Good Luck!*:)
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Ok well when you're sad they say you should like tell someone and stuff but when i tell my best friends it seems liek it doens't matter much to them or they don't really feel any sympathy or they're not good at like cheering up.
And I can't jsut write all my feelings on this site and stuff you know, what can i do?
I feel so down and not even my best friends know how I'm feeling. And every part of my house is occupied so i can't even try to phone the kids help line thingy that I've always wondered what it's like.
Is there a site where you write all your feelings and people write stuff for you? I dunno I just feel so weak! I always need my spirit to be up and people to cheer me up. I'm sick of it! (link)
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OMG...I have the same problem! My friends also aren't good listeners! Do you have anyone else you can talk to??? Like a family member or good reletive...Also, when you feel sad, just cry it out..you'll feel way better after...or try writing out your feelings on paper. If you need anyone else to talk to, email me at stefana3@hotmail.com or you could ask me a question in my inbox...I hope my advice helped!:)
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what is a protestant? im a christian,whats the difrence? i know what catholic, muslim buddhism and all tht is but ive never heard of protestant until i saw it on my friends myspace.
thnx in advanced (link)
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All I know is that protestant is a type of christian...also a catholic is a type of christian too and there are many other kinds, like I'm an orthodox christian.
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ok, my hair is seriously, TOO LONG! It is down past my butt and i am getting tired of it. It was fun while it lasted but i need knew hair. Im still not quite sure what to do with it and my mom dont want it cut TOO short. But what should i do with it? Here is 2 pics of me, tell me what you think!
http://i206.photobucket.com/albums/bb231/xXBeecakeCutieXx/izandkk.jpg
http://i206.photobucket.com/albums/bb231/xXBeecakeCutieXx/mememe.jpg
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Well first of all, I love your hair..lol..secondly, you could try getting some side-swept bangs and cutting your hair just up to your boobs...that'll look good...hope I helped!:)
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i have constant suicide thoughts and know i must be checked into a hospital i went to crisiskids.com or whatev. and they didnt understand im seriously considering this. im 13 years old, female. i feel like im not wanted here, and no one even cares anymore. i constantly fight with my mother and father and sisters. how can i get the medical help i need before i seriosly kill myself. (link)
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There were many times where I was also considering suicide, when things got so bad and I'm 15, but this started when I was 13...so I know what you're going through, I can relate. It is the worst feeling to have like you're not wanted...don't ever think that you're not wanted or that no one cares anymore! Even though you always fight with your family, they will still love you and care about you no matter what! You have got to try talking to them...try to solve all the problems...tell them how you're feeling and that you need to go see a real psychologist and get some therapy...Hope I helped!
*Good Luck*
ps. If you still need to talk to someone, email me at stefana3@hotmail.com or you could ask me a question in my inbox and I'll be more than happy to help!:)
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I am 16/m/uk..
Me and my girlfriend have been gong out for around 15 months now..
Recently, things seem different on her behalf.. As in things have suddenly beomce different between us.. I know this might be strange but sometimes i like to be made feel special.. Throughout most of our relationship we've sort of had an issue with that n some of the time ive felt like ive put in more effort than her..
Recently she started hanging around with a group of guys which i dont pertiularly like but i respect the fact that they are friends and so i do not try and create a wedge between them..
We also like quite far apart.. and this can make it difficult at times to see eachother.. This means when she does go out (which is almost eveyday) it is with these guys..
I think some of this may be jelousy that she spends alot more time with them than she does me..
Its hard to explain really what i feel but just something inside tells me she doesnt feel like she used to.. Maybe its cos she is not showing me that she loves me enough.. i honestly dont know..
Recently she does things like not reply to my txts straight away because she is around these guys.. Whenever we are on the phone all she seems to tell me about is what she did with them that day and it bugs me..
I wanna find sum mutual ground but i dont know how..
I guess i just want her to make me feel special at times.. i just dont know how to go about doing it..
Appreciate any help
Thanks
Sanj.. (link)
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awww...you seam like a really nice guy...and you deserve a girlfriend who's way better than that! My advice to you is to dump her because it's not good for you to be with someone that doesn't give you the attention that you deserve! It seams like she's trying to tell you that she wants to break up with you, but she doesn't know how..so she's just hangin' out with those guys, hoping that you'll take the hint...I'm really sorry that she's like that, but if you really care about her, you should try talking to her. So than you can sort all this out...I hope my advice helped!
*Good Luck*:)
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next year all my freinds are going to do sports and I'm not. My best freind said it was going to be hard to keep our friendship going since I wasnt on a sports team. She also said i should meet new freinds ,but i dont want knew freinds I want my old ones. (link)
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You should still be friends even if they're doing sports and you're not! It doesn't matter...I think that, that was really mean of her to say that it's gonna be hard to keep the friendship going! Just try talking to your friends. Tell them that you still wanna be friends! Try doing some other activity, that you enjoy..if sports isn't your thing...maybe you'll even make new friends at whatever you decide to join!:D
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