I'M SO SORRY BUT I'M GOING TO STOP FOR A WHILE. IT'S TOO MUCH FOR ME KEEPING UP WITH IT. :( GOOD LUCK WITH EVERYTHING. THANKS FOR THE POSTS.
APOLOGIES AGAIN,
HELP4YOU. :)
Gender: Female
Age: 15
Member Since: September 24, 2006
Answers: 54
Last Update: December 3, 2006
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this guy asked me to dance at a school dance but i like him more then in a friend way but i dont know if he feels the same? what should i do. ive known this kid since 6th grade and im scared it would ruin like our friendship but i like him alotttt. (link)
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-Love Problems,
Go to the dance. Hang out with him and get to know him better. See how he reacts to you and find out if he has any feelings for you. It's tricky when close friends become more than that. If you do wind up going out, and things start to become awkward, end it, and tell him that you liked beign closer when you were friends, he'll probably want the same thing.
Let me know how things work out,
-HERE4YOU.
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my friend said at a football gam that the kid i like is ugly and at this dance later on she said he was cute and they danced what should i do should i ask him out? (link)
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-Hey,
You should get to know him first and see if you really like him, but not just by looks. And how does she feel about him, because that was wrong of her to dance with him if she knows you like him. But anyway, start talking and hanging out and if you really like him, then i'd say go for it.
Let me know,
-HERE4YOU.
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hi,
im a normal teenager but i dont know what is wrong with me. I always get depressed and i never feel good about myself. I think im fat and im not pretty and it is killing me inside. sometimes all i want to do is crawl under a rock. i cry sometimes but i dont know what to do. do you think can help? what should i do?
-also this kid likes me and i think that i might like him too but i dont know how i really feel. There is also someone else who has a thing for me too hes really nice and cute and i told him i want to try things with the toher kid first to see how things are. The first kid we talk alot but we dont really talk in person alot but we hung out like twice. Im not one of those girls who just hooksup with every guy you kno? so basically i want to know if im doing the right thing too?
-thanks totally confused (link)
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-Totally Confused,
Just as you said, you are a normal teenager. Everyone has hormones and feels insecure about yourself. Don't worry it will get better. I know you don't like the feeling but there's not much that you can do except for being optimistic and looking at the positives in life and ignore the bad.
See if you can hold out a conversation and hang out with kid#1 before going out with him. If you can't, then it's not going to be a good relationship. If you really start to like him and you guys are becoming closer, than it'll be a better relationship. You gotta basically follow what you feel.
Hope I was helpful,
-HERE4YOU.
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What are some good Halloween costumes? 13/f
I want to make my own but I have money to buy stuff to make it.
Thanks. (link)
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-Hey,
Many girls at this age, when I was at school, wore basically wings, antennaes, and a shirt. Basically they were all fairies or butterflies. You can also do a group activity, that's always fun. If you want to get creative, you can make yourself a bag of jelly beans (put plastic over yourself and stuff with balloons). Disney princesses are a classic, although there comes a time where you might be too old so if you are being a princess, don't be too detailed. You can also be a plain and simple hippie or disco diva.
Hope it goes well,
-HERE4YOU.
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thankss, i tried talking to him today on the internet and we were talking like old times and i still feel that feeling in my stomach. the one that makes me feel good and bad at the same time. he is just really hard to like figure out like idont know if i should suck it up and just be friends with him or..date him. ehh. thanks again though.
signed,
miss uh oh. (link)
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-Miss Uh Oh,
I'm glad it's going well. I'm sure as time goes on and you guys will become closer, you'll become more sure of what you want to do about it.
You're welcome :),
-HERE4YOU.
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my brother and i were in car accident recently and i was driving and totaled my brand new escalade. my brother told the police and our parents that he was the one driving so i wouldnt get in trouble since i had only had my licnese for a few months and he has had his for about 6 years. i feel horrible about the whole thing. should i tell my parents the truth or just let it be?
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-Hello,
This is a difficult situation. I know you feel scared about telling your parents but it is the right thing to do. I mean you can hide it but the guilt will build up inside you and the longer you wait, the worse it will be. You won't be able to focus on anything else really. If you do decide to tell you parents, I would have them sit down and with your brother too. He's a good kid, but he might also be in trouble to for lying.
What's the worse that can happen? Whatever it is, it's not ever going to be as bad if you both got hurt in the accident.. think of it that way.
I'm sorry about what happened,
Let me know how it goes,
-HERE4YOU.
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okay well,
this is a typical teenage drama but i really am getting all sad about itt, okay so my ex from last year started talking to me this year again and im falling for him again, and i just recovered from the breakup last year, i really like him and all but i dont want him to treat me like dirt. what should i do..? (link)
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-Hey,
Yes, you're right this is typical. And a hard question to answer. It's difficult recovering from a break-up, but I kinda need to know more about your relationship. I would say if your nervous about dating again, become friends for a while and see how things go, if you really feel for him then try dating and once he starts getting out of line, tell him how you feel and maybe he will stop.
Write back,
-HERE4YOU.
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ok. so theres this boy. im not sure if i like him or not, or if were better off as just friends. we flirt all the tiem but i really dont know. hes really sweet, and when i talk to him online, its awesome. but then i person its not that great cuz hes not the best looking guy. what do i do? (link)
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-Hey,
There's an old phrase about "Don't Judge A Book By Its Cover". He sounds like an awesome guy and if really like him then I would say go for it. Who cares what people think, what you feel is what matters most. And if people are not okay with it then you're going to have to deal.
If you still don't want to go out with him, because I know it's hard to not have an attractive boyfriend, then I would say stop the flirting because you're playing with both your hearts and you'll wind up getting hurt.
Let me know how it goes,
-HERE4YOU.
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is coffee bad for stsining the teeth?..how does coffee satin the teeth? (link)
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-Hey,
If you drink too much excessive tea, iced tea, coffee, etc, you're teeth will probably change color just because of the combination of what it's made of. That's why brushing teeth is important. If you want, you can still drink coffee just brush better/longer, use a teeth whitening toothpaste and mouthwash, try the Crest white strips if you want to whiten them.
Hope I helped,
-HERE4YOU.
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Alright, in early December I'm having my 15th birthday party. I don't really want a theme for it, but what are some good ideas for it. Its going to be in my basement, and i have satellite tv, a pool table, a bar, and a dance floor, and there is probably going to be around...23 people there, both girls and guys. What I'm asking I guess is what are some good ideas for decorations, invitations (The design and sayings.. I don't want it to be corny by saying like "Your invited to ____'s B-day party!!) and just all around everything. I have a budget of $100 so it can't really be that expensive.
Thanks in advance. (link)
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-Hey,
Here's what I would do:
INIVITATIONS- personally, I wouldn't do invitations. I would probably just go online and tell people because as you get older not many people do invites. But if you do, I'd keep it short and sweet. Obviously the important things like your name, date, time, and address and you should be good. Oh and make it sound appealing but not like corny. Let them know there will be food/dancing if you want.
DECORATIONS- get solid colored plates, napkins and cups. Patterns are a little young. Same with balloons, just tie a few to like your staircase or a chair or something. I would say that's good. I think we're a bit old for a piñata ;).
MUSIC- now with this dance floor, do you have a stereo? Because then you can burn CDs of the latest songs, or plug in iPod speakers (if you have), or listen to the radio. If you have none of those, go to a CD place and buy a couple CDs and just keep playing them. "Now That's What I Call Music" actually has a good selection, but of course you can just stick with specific bands.
TV and the pool table is a big plus. Those are always enjoyable at parties. I would say maybe to rent a scary and a funny movie and see if anyone wants to watch either because everyone has a different opinion.
Happy birthday!
-HERE4YOU.
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Last night I had a horrible dream. In my dream, my boyfriend left me for my best friend. We got into a little argument, he broke up with me and started dating her. I was heartbroken. I couldn't sleep after I woke up. It is really bothering me. I like this guy so much and I don't want him leaving me for someone else especially my best friend. What could this dream mean if it means anything? (link)
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-Hey,
Don't worry. I'm sure it was just a silly, insignificant dream. Usually people dream about occurrences that happened that previous day. So maybe before you fell asleep, you had seen your boyfriend, best friend, and maybe you saw something of TV about a b/f and g/f breaking up and just applied it.
Also if you're worried about your boyfriend leaving, talk to him. Tell him how you feel about him and see if he truly feels the same. If he does, you have nothing to worry about :).
Don't worry,
-HERE4YOU
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heyy!! im just getting back at you... =] ...soo...me and danielle hung out all day today and yesterday. it felt good hanging out with her again. we had sooooo much fun =] (link)
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-HEY!
That's great about you and Danielle! Keep at it. Glad it's working out. Don't worry too much about boys now, enjoy life with your friends. :)
Thanks for giving me an update,
-HERE4YOU
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i'm 14/f. me and these 3 girls are reallly close, but not as close as we used to be. and we call ourselfs whores and crap just because we do crap with guys. but this one girl, we can call her "L", hooked up with this kid "T", but he was high AND drunk. and she says she didnt have sex with him but she did. but everyone in my school hates her bc she did a ton of stuff with him and all these guys and she really is a hugeee slut. and a major biotch. me, "B" and "H" are kind of idk mad at her and just dont like her as much. but i know i dont like her as much bc she's a backstabber too. and everyone talks crap about her and i just kinda sit there. idk if i should stay friends with her bc it seems like NO ONE else is - plus shes irritating, a biatch, a slut, and a backstabber. (link)
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-In between,
It seems like the typical high school drama. People, especially girls, change from middle school to high school; even freshmen to sophomores as well. It seems like you really don't like her and I would say to not hang around her anymore because she's getting into trouble and if something big happens one day, you'll be guilty by association. If she is mean to you, B, and H, I would say she's not worth being a friend. I know it's hard to move on since you were all so close, but you'll be happier to leave the drama behind you and just not get involved.
Hope everything works out,
-HERE4YOU
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alright, i'm 14 years old, and a freshman. i play jv/varsity sports - basketball, soccer, and lacrosse. i stay active outside of school by running 2 miles almost daily, playing football with guys, or playing basketball games with friends. i also try very hard to eat right - i absolutely love fruits, salad, and i always drink water. but i just can't get to a normal skinny. i have "pudge" that's obviously visable. my mom's been saying "don't worry you'll thin out as you age." i was in 6th grade when she told me that. my sister is VERRRRRY skinny but she eats like a madman. it's hard in the hs because all those girls are perfect skinny. i don't want to be like anorexic skinny cause thats discusting. i dont know how to make this fat go away. i try really hard, but when i don't see results i tend to stop trying .. help? (link)
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-Hi,
I must say, this is a difficult situation. Well about your sister.. I have many people like that too. It's just their body composition so don't really compare yourself to her but it's just the way she was born and not how she treats her body. Even though you are not happy with your look, I gotta say, you should be so proud about how healthy you are. Alright so I am gonna try my best with this.
Did you grow yet? Because if you really didn't, then you will grow into the "pudge". If you did grow, you're probably getting your curves now and that's not really avoidable but staying in shape will help. I'm sorry but I don't know what else to say except to keep exercising the way you're doing. It may just be your body composition. But I know that you'd like a different look.
If you have the "pudge" in the stomach region, I'm guessing?, then try doing more ab exercises at night like crunches or leg lifts. That should flatten it out more.
Sorry I couldn't really help you better :(,
-HERE4YOU
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hi... i truely truely need help. im always depressed. i think its because of my BEST FRIEND in the whole world. she goes to an all girls school. i miss her sooooo much. she was my best friend ever. and i never have anyfriends to talk about everything with at school. i just totally miss her. and im always depressed. she would always make me laugh and make my day. just...now that she goes to a different school...im just LOST with out her. =[ i dont make friends that easily. but i have alot of friends. but none of them are close.. like danielle. [thats her name]...you will probably say..just move on ... but ITS SOOO HARD. im not sure how you would understand this problem.. but i just cant live with out her. ALSOOO.... im also always depressed cause my love life IS HORRIBLE. a few guys like me..but thats not the case..im friends with soo many guys. and they just only like me as a friend. im 12 years old. and female.
THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH. (link)
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-Hello,
First to start with your guy problem. It's not a problem and you really shouldn't have a love life at 12 years old. It's too young. Maybe not for you, but as I am sure you have learned in health or whatever boys mature much later in life. So 12 year old boys are still 9 years old at heart. If you get involved, they will probably break your heart or be immature around you. So I would say don't sweat it now and enjoy your middle school days. It's okay to have crushes and stuff and sure you can have boyfriends at that age.. I did, but I'm just telling you not to count on a long lasting happily ever after perfect movie boyfriend because that is not gonna happen for another few years. You should be lucky that a few guys like you. Any of them a possible boyfriend? If not, then become friendlier with the one you want so they can get to know you first.
Okay now with your friend. I know it must be tough without your best friend by your side at school. I'm not going to tell you to move on if you don't want to. You can still be close with Danielle. You guys, I'm sure can see each other all the time. Hang out on weekends, do homework together, etc etc. Just because she's not in your school does not cut her from your life. Now you told me you have a lot of friends and that's a good start. Instead of being mopy and upset in school, try to be friendlier and get closer to the other girls so at least you have someone to talk to in school.
Get back to me,
-HERE4YOU
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okay. i waxed it on monday. and..I can start to see it growing back a little.
I dont know what threading is...could you mabey help me out on this one
sorry i dont know much
im only 13
thank you, you dont know how much your advice means to me (link)
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-Hey,
Listen, as I've said before, you can't stop hair from growing unless you take painful measures. If it bothers you that much, I would say to continue waxing it. DO NOT SHAVE! I don't remember if I told you to do that, but I realized that that is the worst thing to do because it grows back dark and hoarse. In 10th grade, my mom got something done call "electrolysis" and it's the closest thing to permanent lip hair removal, but not completely. You can still see it, but it's a lot better to begin with.
Hope all goes well,
-HERE4YOU
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who sings the song "Roc Ya Body"?? I know you hate these questions but i cant find any results on google =) (link)
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-Roc Ya Body,
"Roc ya body; mic check 1, 2.
'cause it ain't a party,
'til my crew run through"
----->that's by STAGGA LEE
"Rock ya body don't stop don't quit
Rock ya body move ya body like this
Rock ya body don't stop don't quit
Rock ya body move ya body like this"
----->that's by CHRISTINA MILIAN
"Don't be so quick to walk away
(Dance with me)
I wanna rock your body, please stay
(Dance with me)"
----->that's by JUSTIN TIMBERLAKE
"What'chu gon' do
when them dudes run up on you and
rock ya body body, catch somebody"
----->that's by FAT JOE
Hope one of them is what you were looking for.
-HERE4YOU
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tommorow i have plans to go this scary haunted house with one of my friends. all of my best friends are going to a haunted cornmaze tommorow and they asked me if i could come and i said i already had plans! but they are my best friends and it would be soooo much fun if i went to the cornmaze with them. im not really exited about going to the haunted house and im really dissapointed because i cant invite the girl to the cornmaze instead because she already went. but i cant miss out a night with my best friends because they will come back with a new batch of inside jokes and i want to be a part of it. i want to make up an excuse and tell my friend why i cant go to the haunted house but she'll find out i went to the cornmaze and will be pissed at me. i dont want to lose my friendship with her but i dont want to waste a night thinking about how much fun i would be having with my best friends at the cornmaze. should i go to the haunted house with my friend? or should i listen to what my heart wants to do (which is the cornmaze with my bestfriends)?? if i go to the cornmaze i need to make up a lie so i can cancel plans with my friend. what do i say to her??? i was thinking of telling her that my mom thinks its a waste since all you do is walk through the haunted house and your done in 8-10 minutes, but what if my friend doesnt buy it??!! or what if she wants to just go somewhere else instead... but i also dont want to betray her like that but i want to be with my bestfriends. i dont know what to do.. any ideas?? (link)
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-What do I do,
Number one, I don't think any type of lying is your best answer. Second, I think the best thing to do would be do invite your friend to the cornmaze. So what if she already went... she can go again. Unless she really doesn't hang out with your best friends then it could be a problem. I completely understand with worrying about the new jokes and stuff if you miss something. The right thing to do is to go with your friend since you did promise first but I would try, since you really don't want to go to the house, is invite her along. Tell her a bunch of kids are going tonight and maybe you could do the house another night... it is, after all, 3 weeks from Halloween, it should still be open. But I definitely would not lie because you would regret it in the end!
Hope everything works out,
-HERE4YOU
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continuuing on... [sorry..i had to go do homework.] i still think im fat thoe... [trying not to fight with you.]because i ALWAYS suck in my fat. thats why people say im skinny. but anyways... my aunt is a pedietrishian [how ever you spell it..haha] and she said im in the 50%-80% range....what shouldi still do? (link)
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-Losing More Weight,
If you still feel uncomfortable about your weight, then try to do something about it. On weekends, run around a the track or go outside and play tennis. And try to look out for those chocolates and sweets for snacks. Have some fruits or vegetables instead to fill your hunger in between meals. 50% is the perfect/average weight for the specific age so you're pretty good. Also, drink lots a water too, it's the healthiest drink around. But I did hear from my friend that she saw on a commercial that someone who has milk as their primary drink daily, they lose weight more efficiently. So if you want to try milk, the best is Skim milk but 2% is also very good. 1% is not that good and whole is very fattening.
PS - it's pediatrician, lol :),
Good luck!
-HERE4YOU
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I really like the guy, and i have for almost 2 years now. He is really sweet and funny, and hes just what im looking for. The thing is, im not as beautiful as all of my friends (the people he dates. For once i just want him to like me, what do i do??
Love,
Heartbroken... (link)
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-Heartbroken,
First off, don't say you're not pretty because EVERYONE is in their own way. Second, it's very hard to find a perfect guy and have him like you back. What I think you need to do is get close to him. Become his friend first so that he can get warmed up to you and see you for who you are. He won't even know how you feel if you don't talk/hang out with him. But just don't be like annoying or forceful in being too friendly and obnoxious, because that's a turn-off.
Hope it works out,
-HERE4YOU
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