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see every day im home alone for about 10-11 hours and i get really bored have any ideas on how to make the time really fly i rate good!!!
PaRtY!!! Or have your boyfriend come over for some serious alone time or a group of friends! Other stuff by yourself:
internet- chatting, giving advice
excerising
dancing/listening to loudd music
watching tons of movies
eating and cooking lots of food
clean? if thats your thing..
go hang out with other friends
swim? if you have a pool...
tan!
SLEEP! that sure makes time go by super quick...
HaVe FuN!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!!
are those like lacy stringy thong underwear any comfy?
Yeahh I think so, they dont bother me at all. I feel sexier in them even tho me and my bf are the only ones to ever see them... it make take a few days to get used to them, but yeah they're comfortable!!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!!
my bestfriend has a crush on this guy thats one year older then us and i think i like him too...b/c like every time im with him he turns me on somehow..i don't want to let my friend down but i don't think that boy even like my bff and i dun think he likes me ethier...wat do i do?
You should tell your friend you have feelings for the guy but you have not intentions of dating him if she doesnt want you to. If she introduced you to him and liked him first, then honestly you shouldnt be liking him but you cant help how you feel. Just see what happens and see who he likes, maybe if you start hanging out with his friends or other guys, you'll meet someone better. Good luck hun!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!
Hey, I REAALLLLYYYY need help! I'm 15/f and I've had the summer to decide between School activities OR dance company. I'm been doing jazz dance since I was 5. I did track last year and I loved it also. I really cant decide, and i have to figure it out QUICK because I have to sign up for something... these are the good and bad things I can think of for both of them:
DANCE: ive been doing it so long, I love it, performing company is AMAZING, they get to travel for competitions, it would take A LOT of dedication since i'm behind, theres no real garuntee I would get in (but theres a good chance), I would have to be dancing a minimum of 6 hours a week, even when I wanna quit id hafta put on a smile and deal
SCHOOL ACTIVITIES: i'd be doing track waterpolo eco club and dragon boat, id be getting really involved in school, lots of pics in yearbook, more chances for friends, ive never done waterpolo eco club OR dragon boat before so theres no garuntee i'd like it, i dont like my feet, I might not be good since I dont have any experience, when I did track I made a lot more friendships
I cant do both because there isnt enough time. My school also doesnt have a real dance team, it's like a drill type team and Im not into that.
PLEASE HELP ME! TELL ME WHAT YOU THINK I SHOULD DO! IF YOU HAVE ANY IMPUT ON POSITIVE AND NEGITIVE ASPECTS OF ONE THEN SAY IT!! I NEED HELP
thanks for reading!!
Do what you truly enjoy doing. Whats your passion, it sounds like dance is. Colleges are really going to like that you were so involved with school, joining all those clubs and being on the track teams looks great on applications. Your dancing doesnt show how much you could be to the school so they arent that interested in it...
Do what you love.
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!!
so it actually happened lol he felt under my undies tonight!
we went to like a 5 oclock movie so no one was really in there and sat in the far back... i wore the soffee shorts just like you said and within 15 mins of the movie, his hand was under them.. lol.. i told him all smooth to go under my thong already and he did lol
it was quite an experience and a night lol thnx soo much for all your help!
YaY!! Thats so exciting! Thanks for telling me, wow I feel like I accomplished alot =) hAhA!
CoNgRaTs & Good luck with your boy!!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!!
If YoU rAtE Me, CaN yOu LeAvE yOuR aDvICeNaToRs UsErNaMe?? PlEaSe!
^15, female^
iight...i was w/ my firend and we were hanging out w/ some dudes all weekend...i knew one of them for a while and i had jst met this other 2 dudes and i only knew this one guy *Sam* for bout 2days and i lost *it* to him...i mean there where no feelings no nothing...i mean i don't even care that he hasn't called me or anything...but i feel like it's wrong..and that it makes me look like a whore cuz i did that...but i mean when ppl ask me i'm like yeah i knew him for 2 yrs(but i really only knew him for 2days)...cuz i don't want anyone to think bad of me!...but i did tell myself that i'm not going to have sex till my next boyfriend that i'm serious bout...so does it make me seem like a whore that i lost it to some guy i hardly knew?..and is it tru that you can go to hell for have sex w/ someone you don't love?
I'm sorry you gave something as precious as your virginity to someone you didnt know... accidents and mistakes happen but dont dwell on it. Put it in the past and dont tell people about it. The only reason you go to Hell is if you dont ask Jesus to come into your heart, you should had tried to wait til a serious relationship or even marriage but just pray for forgiveness.
If someone asks you if youre a virgin, dont say yes or no. Just say what would you like to know? Just blow off the question unless they are a good friend. I wouldnt consider you a whore unless youve been sleeping around... Good luck!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR! *Rate me please!*
Hi i'm 14 years old. I'm going to be straight foward about this lol. Sometimes when I go to the bathroom there is a white liquid that appears in my underwear. What is it? And what does it mean? Thanks for your advice.
The white stuff is called vaginal discharge and its completely normal. If you havent started your period or even if you had, it means its going to come soon. The best thing to do to prevent it from smelling or feeling kind of wet down there is to buy pantiliners. The best kind are Kotex Light Days that smell like Lavendeor Aloe. DONT use tampons to absorb the discharge, you could get a disease. Tampons are meant for your period, not for this. If it bothers you, put baby powder in your underwear. It absorbs the wetness, which could lead to a yeast infection :-/ Good luck!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!
awhile ago me and my now exboyfriend got in a really big fight. ends up that, that night he took my "best friend" to a hotel with 3 other guys and just her. they ended up having sex. both of them deny it whenever i ask, but i know for a fact it happened. its been over and done with but i still have so much hate for my friend, and for the guy too. i dont know what to do.. or who i should be more mad at. i know i should let it go bc it happened a while ago.. but i cant help thinking about how much they both screwed me over.
It takes a longg time to forgive someone when they completely screw you over but you should try to forgive them. Tell your ex-boyfriend and friend that you forgive them for what they did, but you dont want to be friends with them anymore. My ex-best friend was always touching my boyfriend and she invited him places without me, I was so mad and we stopped being friends. A few weeks ago, I told her that I forgave her for what she did and how she screwed me into the ground, but we arent friends. We talk every now and then but sometimes I get these rushes of anger where I hate her for what she did to me. It's completly natural to be mad and not let it go, its a really big deal, but God wants us to forgive others no matter what they did and try to move on... Good luck hun!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!
very good ideas!! ur the bestest lol
ill def do the sofee shorts idea.. he likes when i wear em cuz i usually wear a thong with them... so i can definitely get him going with that.. lol ;)
will it hurt to be fingered?? or does it just feel like pressure down there? lol i read in a magazine that there are spots down there that feel really good... is that true? if he finds a good spot, should i tell him???
The first time I was fingered it was like exactly what you said, pressure. But sometimes it burns and I have no idea why and if it hurts at all, you have to tell him! I think just start with 1 finger for now then you can work to 2 fingers. Before he fingers you, if he just rubs around then he'll find some spots that feel pretty damn good! *giggles!* Just experiment and have him rub around to find those hot spots! Good luck!!
LoVe,
HeaThEr!!
I'm really glad I can help you, I feel like finally my sexual activities are worth something more than pleasure hahaha!!! =)
hAvE fUnNn!!
me and this dude has been going on and off for about two years and i love him too death he's my everything. But theres a problem he does stuff that i really dont like, hes not cheating or w/e hes just doing something i think he shouldnt be doing, he says he loves me but right now he has to do what he has to do, since hes been doing that i really dont get to see him as often as i used to, so i feel really bad about this but i cheated on him and i have NEVER done that and i am afraid hes going to find out and then the two years of emotions will be gone, this dude is everything to me and he is the only one that has that special place in my heart and always be the one for me but what if he finds out? :'(
I'm sorry you cheated on him but why would you do that if this guy is your everything and you love him so much? That doesnt make very much sense... I honestly think if you tell your boyfriend, he'll want to end the relationship but if you feel like you should, then be completely honest with him! Tell him everything and why you did it.. hopefully you were drunk! Good luck with your boyfriend!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!
i'm 12 and i started my 1st period june 15. i heard u were supposed to get it every 28 days and i'm about a week late if that's the case! could i be pregnant, i mean i havn't had sex, but could i be? plz help!
Of course you CANT get pregnant, thats insane! When you first start your period, you can go weeks or even months without getting it again! Its quite strange! Your cycle is very irregular for the first year. Congrats on starting your period!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!
thnx for replying! its nice being able to talk to sumone about this stuff... my friends are always so uptight about these things!
our only like alone time is at the movies.. besides that, we're like in public at the mall or hanging out with friends.. our parents are both weird with having us together in our bedrooms so we just always go to the movies..
i do want him to feel me there, u know? lol should i wear a skirt so its easier? i thought about mayeb going to see a movie that has been out for awhile so that the place is empty... what do u think?
thnx~~! ~jackie
I think going to an empty movie theater is a great idea! When me and my boyfriend know we arent going to watch the movie, we chose the old ones that we have already seen! We always go to the top, dark corners too for even more privacy!
Now, what shall you wear? Skirts and shorts are the easiest and Sofee soft shorts are in fact the easiest! Dont wear jeans, they are too hard to move around in.
If you arent exactly sure how to start or be positioned, you have come to the right person! Ususally, I like when my bf sits normally and I put my back to his legs and lay out. He just sticks his hand in the top of my pants (usually unbuttoned) and we go from there. Just find a position you like that works for you.
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!!
hii, thanx for the reply!
how can i like ask him or hint to him that i want him to do more than just keep his hand there during the movie or wherever? i'm comfortable with doing whatever but im just nervous, u know
thnx! ~jackie
Oh man the first time I got fingered I was veryyy nervous and its completely natural, especially if its your first time. If you really want him to do it, then put his hand in your pants but if you arent sure if he wants to or knows how, then talk to him about it. Be like "hey, if you wanna finger me or put your hand in my pants, you can." Be calm and dont seem nervous when you tell him cause then you'll seem like a pro ;) *Giggles*
Good luck sweets! Tell me how it goes! I really wanna know!!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!!
I met this boy at the beginning of the summer, but we liked eachother the first time we talked. After hanging out a couple times, we started going out. He isn't a virgin + supposedly got a girl pregnant awhile ago. He never pressures me or anything. I know I won't do unless I'm totally ready + totally in love. I'm starting to actually love this boy! I'm just scared I won't measure up to some of his old gfs + that I want to take things slow. He says he really loves me + that I'm different from all his old gfs and he likes + respects that. Should I stay with him?
Awww! YeAh! You should definitly stay with him especially if he is very respectful and he loves you!! You dont need to worry about measuring up to his past girlfriends because obviously he thinks your different and wont pressure you into sex like the other girls. But once he starts asking for sex and you arent ready, thats when you should have second thoughts on this guy. No girl should be pressured by their boyfriends or someone who loves them, its just not right! Good luck with your boy!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!
my 14th birthdays cuming ^ soon sum1 gimmie sum good ideas for a b-day party... its november 16th. thanks in advance!!
Hey! This year I had my birthday at Jillians in the Groove Shack! It's like a dance club that me and 2 friends rented out... It was a blast! If you have a teen club around, have it there! Or you and your friends can go out to eat and see a movie, go bowling, or if you have some cool places downtown, go have a night on the town. If you have a pool, have a swimming party or have it at a amusement park! Have a GrEaT birthday party!! Good luck hun!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!! *Rate me please!!*
whenever me and my bf are at the movies, he always puts his hand on my thigh. By the middle of the movie, he has it like practically between my legs lol
ive never been felt there & all he does is like keep his hand there.. no rubbing or anything like that..
it really drives me crazy in like a good way but i dont know what to do about it cuz like we're in the movies and stuff... what do u think?
jackie, 14
Hey Jackie! Well, the movies are dark and pretty much no one can see. You should let him just keep his hand there but if it makes you uncomfortable at all then move his hand and if it makes you want more, than maybe ask him to finger you? I'm not sure what exactly you and your boyfriend do but thats the next step if you havent yet...
Having his hand on your legs or between them isnt that big of a deal but remember dont let him do it if it makes your uncomfortable... Good luck sweetie!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!
Alright, I've been inlove once before. I try my hardest to move on. I know that I'm not still "inlove", but those feelings will always remain. Every time I like someone, when they offically ask me out, I start to run and stop liking them? When I actually have hard feelings for someone and I could see myself not wanting to break up with them, things always go wrong. Once I even told someone not to ask me out I didn't like him anymore and I LOVED EVERYTHING ABOUT HIM!!!! Now I watch one of my bestfriends have him, and him and I could have been dating for over a year by now. What do I do? Why do I run or things get destroyed?
Your first loves are never forgotten, no matter how hard you try, you cant ever stop loving him. Its hard having other boyfriends when you know you could have been with your first love and its definitly hard watching him care about someone else. Eventually, you will meet someone new and start loving him but before that comes, I think you will always have feelings for that guy. Maybe right now you arent ready for a serious relationship, just have fun and flirt with other guys and go out! Good luck sweetie!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!
Should i let my friend come up my shirt..? hes always like bringing my boobs up.. were not goin out but we flirt a rly lot.. Hes always hinting.. He really wants to.. Shuld i let him!? plz help i have no idea wut to do
(( im 13 ))
Dont do anything you dont to or feel uncomfortable with! Dont let him pressure you either, if he really wants to and you dont, then dont! They are YOUR boobs and its your decesion.. Good luck!!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!
volleyball tryouts are this week and im really scared i wont make it. I think about it non-stop and it gets me even more nervous and upset.
How do i stop this!?!
HELP
Have confidence!! If you believe in yourself and know you are a great volleyball player, the coaches will recognize that! Practice, practice, practice! Try your hardest and if you dont make it, you know you did well. Good luck at tryouts!!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!!
There is this guy that i had met online. We have been talking for quite a while now and we both like each other a lot. One day we want to meet each other, but I'm not quite sure if it's safe to do so. But like I said we like each other a lot and we love talking to each other.
If you do decide to meet this guy, make sure you take a friend and your parents know exactly where you are and at what time you'll be there. You always want to be on the safe side when meeting someone you dont know in person. People can always pretend to be other people so be prepared for anything! Good luck sweetie!!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!!